ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

At our highschool reunion, this random hottie said she had a crush on me since gradeschool (Idk if she's mistaking me for someone else but I have absolutely no idea who she is). So now I have her phone number, what's the quickest way to have sex with her. Prefer date ideas that will lead to sex, time constraint is one week.

>>18064060
>netflix and chill?

>>18064060
Offer her a ride... on your dick!

If both parties have a mutual liking to each other and admit that, do they get turned on?
Also to guys and girls: how many dates to be in an actual relationship? Thoughts on kissing on the first date? How long should dates be?

>>18064175
Dates should be at least one hour, but can go on for several, especially if you're both enjoying yourselves.

I'm a good looking 25 year old guy, but I've got super bad stretch marks. Was depressed as a high schooler and had my own money from a part time job, so I regularly ate my high school feelings in the form of whatever fast food I felt like, got pretty bad.

As an adult I've changed all that and in the past 5 years I've gotten really fit, thanks in part to the army, but I've still got stretch marks on my abdomen, now thanks to lifting, my arms and chest as well. Think of your skinniest girl friend, what her stretch marks look like after her first few kids, mine are worse.

2 part question: what goes through a girls mind when she sees a guy who looks really good clothed but then oops, he's scarred to hell and back; 2nd part, what's that surgery called, abdomino-something? Anyone have success with that?

>>18064052
Can guys really have sex with women without any feelings at all? And keep having sex with the same woman without having any kind of emotion towards her?

>>18064266
I personally can't.

>>18064266
depends on whether he's fucking someone else, whether he's having a crush on someone else, etc.

>>18064266
Well, having sex continuously with the same person and not developing feeling is difficult. But if it's a one time thing, sure.

>>18064266
Some guys can, but they're a minority,

>>18064266
some can, some cannot. same for women.

maybe im just autistic and nobody told me growing up, but here it goes.

I go to a commercial gym and at the front desk they have to scan your key thing each time. You can't just walk in. When I go in I don't have head phones on and I say thank you to the person working there.

When I leave I always have headphones in, because Im still kind of in the zone and enjoying my music. This girl working at the front desk must have been saying good bye to me each time. So today my music wasn't too loud and she said something like I say goodbye to you every time...that's the only part of it I could hear. I kept walking because not something I was trying to confront.

Does this girl think Im an asshole or something? You clearly don't need to say goodbye to me if I have headphones on and I know the people who run the gym so her boss' were not working on a Sunday. Sometimes I see the people who run the gym at the front desk, but they never scan keys or really interactive if you are just walking in.

I think the people who have been working at my gym kind of hate me, since I don't talk to anyone. I just say hi and do my workout in an hour or so and leave. Im busy with work and school, so I only go to the gym to stay healthy and stress relief. Im not super good looking and fit, much better looking men at the gym than me.

Females: do you actually care about cars? I've met some female gear heads at the track but that's one thing.

Does a car add to your opinion of a guy? I've heard guys argue endlessly one way or the other

>>18064052
You forgot one extra detail,OP:

>>monogamy is hopeless and dead lol
>fuck off.

There's been a trilbyposter that's been passing bunk for a few days now. Just a heads up.

>>18064332
If she doesn't think, she should.

>>18064333
I don't care abut types of cars and shit. Whether or not you own a car depends on where you live. I do think that being able to drive is important because you never know when you'll need it, but actually owning a car may or may not be necessary

>>18064346
yeah but Im not being an asshole. There is no need for people to say goodbye to me, more so when they have headphones on. It is a gym like 80% of the people have them on.


I kind of feel bad if she and others think Im an asshole. I just never heard any of the other people who work there say that to me.

So I asked a girl who I have mutual friends with to formal (im in college). She said yes even though we have only talked in person once. We texted for a bit but she did not respond, I assume she was busy.

Our formal is in another state and we will spend the entire weekend together. What can I do to not make it awkward for her/back out the last second? I want to try and hangout with her sometime but do not know how to really initiate it. She is distant friends with some of my best buds but I just want it to be a good experience for all of us. I hope she just didn't say yes to be nice.

>>18064266
>>18064285
I fuck the same the prostitute over and over again, because she is so hot. For me, sex and porn are more about the girl being hot than anything else. Like, I can fap to the silliest, cringest porn if the girl being fucked is my favorite pornstar. Am I broken?

>>18064332
Why do you care? It is not like you will get expulsed of the gym for this. Do you want to fuck her?

>>18064333
It has been proven many times that nice cars only attract other males, it's good if you are gay. Unless it is a Lamborghini and you want gold diggers.

>>18064359
Why would you ask a girl you barely know to something which means you'll have to spend a whole weekend together? And for a 'first date', no less

>>18064266
I wish I could develop Feelings for Girls I sleep with on the regular tbqh. Or anyone for that matter. I just drop them after a while, because I don't feel it. I guess I am an asshole for leading them on but I can't stop giving this love shit a try and I Need me some intimacy once in a while.

>>18064360
So there's really no difference between a carefully restored 80s Japanese turbo machine and a 3k Honda civic?

I believe it, but I'm still mad. Wtf women

>>18064358
I think wearing headphones outside is a really odd behaviour, why would you shut yourself out? The moment you end your lifting it should be over. Forget about other people you sheep.

>>18064369
Did you get lost on your way to Fb, Chad?

>>18064371
Girls who care about types of cars will care, just like guys who care about cars will care

>>18064332
Chill dude. She could have been just saying it as a joke to not make it awkward since she said bye and got no response.

There are tons of people who go to the gym everyday and want to there workout and get out. You are no exception, there is no reason they hate YOU specifically. This is just a mild case of anxiety.

Next time if you hear her say bye just smile and say bye back. No harm done, and if she was mad, its just a girl.

>>18064060
I am assuming you two already have a flirty pretense. If you think she actually wants to straight up fuck (unlikely) then text her pushing for a meet up. i.e.: "Hey girl, was good seeing you ;) <flirty message>". Otherwise, if she just thought you were cute go for a date. Just be like, "Hey this is anon, want to grab a bite and catch up some more?"

>>18064225
This is a response from a guy: I know several body builder guys who have those stretch marks bad. They own it though, and they fucking slay like unreal. Do not try and sweat it too much. I have them pretty bad on my arms and I have two girls tell me they like them. I personally don't and think they were just trying to be nice, but if you have a girl at that point it will not make much of a difference. Like 80% of girls have them on their ass anyways, so they are not too judgmental usually.

>>18064359
This is me btw, if I helped you please return the favor :3

>>18064366
She was cute and my friends told me she was nice. Its not like we are the only ones there if it doesnt work between us. I am going with like 60 friends and their dates. If this was a problem why would she say yes?

>>18064375
This isn't /r9k/ my friend.

>>18064377
The best advice I can give is, if you don't want it to be awkward, don't let it be awkward.

You don't know each other so you're obviously going to be getting to know each other for a few days, my way is to always just pretend I've known a new person for years, while getting to know them, if that makes sense.

>>18064383
If there's going to be so many people there, what's the issue? If it gets awkward and uncomfortable, go and talk to one of the other 58 people there. If she barely knows you, she'd probably rather hang out with someone else anyway

>>18064360
>It has been proven many times that nice cars only attract other males
Sorce? Not OP, but IIRC studies that directly poll women for their opinion usually find that women say cars don't matter, but studies that look at actual behavior find otherwise. For exapmple Gad Saad discusses studies where women rated men more attractive and thought they were taller when they had a nicer car. They rated men lower and predicted their height to be shorter when they had a junkier/less fancy car.

Men, on the other hand, would say the men were of shorter height when they had a nicer car.

>>18064374
I explained why I was still wearing headphones. Im not following what others do, simply stating it's a common practice.

>>18064360
I care because I care what others think about me. Just like I wear deodorant because I know if I smelled bad others would think badly about me too. Do I want to fuck her? well she's way out of my league, not that im intimidated by an attractive person. I just know where I stand.

>>18064175
>how many dates to be in an actual relationship?
It really depends. I usually don't decide if I want to commit or not till at least a month of dating (assuming we just met), so 8-10 dates.

>Thoughts on kissing on the first date?
Generally yes, if the date was great. Otherwise, no, but there probably won't be a 2nd date.

>How long should dates be?
3-4 hours.

>>18064333
no couldnt care less about a guys car

How much of an age gap do people find acceptable when dating? I'm 29 and I was wondering whether it would be weird to date 21-year old girl who's still in college? Or should I stick to going out with girls that are +/- 5 or 3 years my age?

>>18064543
The rule of thumb is "half your age +7".

>>18064543
Depends on your age. At 29, I'd say 21 is too young for you. You'll probably get sick of her really quickly.

>>18064549

Thanks, that's what I was looking for.

>>18064554

I agree, I actually have an easier time connecting with girls older than me, but I've been out of the game for so long I've lost sight of basic etiquette for these things and I don't want to hurt someone inadvertently.

>>18064543
The smaller the age gap, the better

Is it always beta as fuck to "like" something a girl posts on facebook, or a photo that includes her that someone else posted?
I mean if she's someone you are interested in.

>>18064582

I feel that's only the case if you have no other rl (or online) interactions. Are you doing it just to get her attention, or do you genuinely like what she is posting?

>>18064582
If you're asking that, whether or not liking photos is beta is the least of your problems

>>18064593
you have to go back
>>18064589
Well I guess I am trying to get or keep her attention. We do interact irl. And I guess I almost never genuinely like anything on facebook

If Im already semi-fit with about 10% body fat, will getting in better shape make me more appealing to females? Thus far I get no attention from them.

>>18064630
Do you, you know, approach them?

Girls: what are some things you want to try in the bedroom that guys shy away from?

>>18064332
Dude, she was just making a joke. She's probably fond of you

>>18064632
No, Im on the verge of finishing college and going to get a good job in STEM field. Working my ass off for this job.

I figured if I got a good job and was fit/above average looking girls would approach me. Im not big on rejection and if I could eliminate that and the work of approaching seems the best route. Im not Tom Cruise looking, but Im at least above average in the looks department since I take care of myself. Although I could do a little more health wise.

>>18064642
>No
Well there's your fucking problem, you moron. You want something, you go and get it. Do you expect everything else in life to come to you as well?

>>18064630
How about your face?

>>18064646
>Do you expect everything else in life to come to you as well?
only certain things. Like the job I want, isn't going to come to me. It requires technical skill and projects in that field.

I assume if I was attractive, educated, and good job women would come to me. I don't expect a fucking model lol, but not a 400lb land whale either. Something in between.

On the Flip side, if I wasn't attractive, not educated/had a bad job then I will have to do the approaching.

>>18064660
>I assume if I was attractive, educated, and good job women would come to me.
That's where you're wrong.

>>18064653
it's above average, I have a really defined jaw.

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>>18064660
>I assume if I was attractive, educated, and good job women would come to me
For such a highly educated person, you sure are stupid.

>>18064633
>Going down
Just shitting, but seriously I've had some horrible luck getting dudes who find oral disgusting.
Real answer: Rape fantasy.
I mean, for obvious reasons. Typically if/when I ever get the nerve to tell a guy about it, it's only because we've been dating for a long ass time.
I told 2 past boyfriends about it, the one said he wasn't comfortable with it because he loved me enough he didn't even want to pretend like he was doing something like that to me. The other was kind of open minded, but had some serious issues with it. He was willing to go more "dom like" I suppose, but he still was rather uncomfortable continuing whenever I said shit like "No dont, stop". Even though he knew it was fake.

Rando's obviously are going to be very wary of that shit, because without really knowing a person well enough, I can see how it can be easy to accidentally slip from the fantasy, into reality. Plus, I know a lot of dudes are already wary of false rape claims with random lays, so that probably would be putting far too much trust into a stranger.

>>18064630
If you aren't fat, then working on your personality will get you further with the ladies than working any more on your bod.

>>18064678
Yeah the false claims thing has hit guys hard everywhere for that kind of thing. I've actually known a few guys hit with it which fucking sucks. So it's become sort of a total write off for guys ever taking part in that fantasy, I'd never do it after all I've seen and heard.

>>18064678
Can any female conceptualize why the rape thing is so unilateral among women?

I've been with A LOT of women, and without fail, the rape fantasy is paramount. Every time. After a few tries with a few partners I've gotten "good" at acting the part, but I still hate it.

I'm not a pussy, I just don't like slapping, hitting, degrading and "raping" someone I'm supposed to love. Light/heavy dom I get. I mean I do it, I put up with the act for my partner, but still, women, please understand that a normal dude isn't going to want to have psycho sex every damn night, if at all.

But still: why?

>>18064543
Personally, I only go +4 or -2 at the moment, maximum. Preferably though I stay within my age to 2 years older though.
I'm 22, so I can't go too much younger less I start getting into illegal territory. Since the early 20's is kind of a rapid whorl wind of development and change, I'm a little cautious of dating someone who's significantly older than me. They're just not gonna have much in common with me, or not be as flexible as me.

There's no universal guideline to this though, except legality. If they're 18+ and you like them and they like you, why not. Age doesn't really matter that much.

But again, you should keep in mind development and such. You're at an age where you're starting to get everything in place. You're gonna have stability at some point here, if you're doing it right. A college student is anything but stable. They're gonna move around, change their opinions, change their likes and dislikes, all on the turn of a hat man. That 21 year old you fell in love with might end up being a completely different person by 23.

>>18064333
Nah, so long as he has one that's relatively reliable, I could not care less what kind it is or how new it is really. I just don't want to be the chauffeur of the relationship, because I played that role before and it kinda sucked.

>>18064692
I read a few studies some time ago on the subject and also have had my own personal experiences (yep, every girlfriend I've had has had the fantasy too). Most of the time it's because they were raped or had some kind similar of traumatic sexual experience and enjoyed it, but hate themselves for enjoying it, but want to experience it again both for enjoyment and because it's a way to rewrite it if it's with someone they love.

The other is that it goes back to when we were in the cave days where women were subs and men were dominant and would just take what they wanted. That still remains in the mindset of people today since it was more or less bred into us over a long period of time.

Curiously I also know a lot of feminists are into it, even the really hateful types that despise men are into it. So I suppose that plays even more into how it's deeply seeded in peoples minds.

>>18064692
I can't really say for anyone else really.
For me personally, it stemmed from the fact I was sexually assaulted as a young kid, and therefore for the longest time that was the only experience or knowledge I had about sex. When I started to grow up and learn more about it, I had to warp my brain around the fact that the sex I had known was wrong. Perhaps it was a coping mechanism, I knew what had happened was to some degree traumatic so in order to cope with that I tricked my brain into thinking it was a good thing, I liked it, etc. But idk about that. I never felt it really fucked me up all that much.

As for everyone else, the best guess I have is thinking about it from a biological standpoint. We're animals after all, so behaving in that animalistic way might be tripping some sort of trigger? Or it could just be the taboo aspect.
I think it really comes from the somewhat universal desire to be dominated. Many women would rather play a submissive role to some degree in sex than be a dominatrix or something, I'd say. So, rape fantasy kind of plays into that in an ultimate form.

Regardless, it's not like it's my only kink. Though I will say nearly all my kinks do come from the underlying theme of "I'm submissive as fuck"
I never expect anyone I'm with to do something they're uncomfortable with. And vice versa, I will never do something I'm uncomfortable with either, no matter how much I love my partner and how much he loves it.

Plus, I also enjoy the sweet, romantic, loving sex just as much.

>>18064707
Ah, beat me to it. Basically everything I just posted lol

>>18064691
Yeah, as I said I totally get it. Which is why I never really bother to share that kink with a rando, know it's not gonna go anywhere anyway.
Plus I'm not sure I would want to do that with just any stranger anyway, because there is a lot of trust being placed both ways. Better to save these sorts of things for a relationship.

>>18064662
So what would I have to do to get normal women to come after me?
>>18064672
How so? This isn't the 1800's I dont need to ask a girls father if I could date his daughter. My assumption is wrong? If im focusing on the wrong things to get girls, please point me in the direction. I didn't get an education and in shape for girls, I kind of just saw it as a bonus. If this isn't how it's done, aware me.

>>18064714
It's odd that there's such a disconnect between the sexes. For my part, like I say, I hate having "rape" sex. Some guys must love it, who knows.

There have been times where I'd fake an orgasm (ezpz with condom on) after I knew my partner had gotten off, just so I could drop the act.

>>18064725
>So what would I have to do to get normal women to come after me?
Women aren't going to approach you. If you want women, you need to approach them.

>>18064726
Hmm, well good communication is always key to good sex mate. If you aren't into it, don't do it. Tell them you aren't comfortable with it, I'd say most mature ladies will understand.
Like I said, I got shot down by 2 guys with this kink, but it's not like we broke up because of it. It's not the only kink I have, it's not the only sex I enjoy.
It's much easier to do when you're with someone seriously. One of those guys I shot down one of his kinks as well. I didn't feel comfortable with it, so when he told me about it I just told him I didn't want to do it. No big deal, he understood, we just focused on some of our shared kinks instead.

>>18064716
Oh well. Still, it's just how things are. I understand that taboo about it all but at the same time I think it's an understandable fantasy considering it's pretty much just a piece of primal stuff left over in us.

>>18064719
I think it took my current gf about two years to tell me about it. I had hints and assumptions about it since she's pretty submissive but she never flat out told me till some time later. We've tried it a little but it has usually made me pretty uncomfortable so we haven't done it since.

>>18064726
I've faked too once she got off, I just couldn't get off from it. I also softened quite a bit throughout since I felt pretty uncomfortable too.

>>18064736
Hah yeah, at least you gave it a try. I think that says plenty personally, even if it doesn't work out.

Its hard to bring up though because, I mean, it is kind of a red flag. Especially if it is born from a previous assault. That's baggage most people don't want to/can't deal with, which I understand completely.

>>18064731

Can I just come out and say how fucking dumb this is? Human relationships are not chess, why should the first player be pre-determined by sex?

>>18064740
Well hers is a previous baggage one like yours which just added to my discomfort with the whole thing.
I know she wants to try again soon but idk, it's like my libido just flat lines since I feel some strange guilt about it or something. But that's just me, I'm sure there are guys around that might be more comfortable with it but for the most part I think most guys aren't.

We meet it sort of halfway these days with some medium dom stuff and integrating other kinks like lingerie and such. I suppose you could try that with your boyfriend?

>>18064749
It's not that so much as it is, if you want something you have to do it yourself.

You get women coming to you obviously, just not the ones you want. If you want women you find attractive, you have to make the effort.

Somebody has to make the first move. If you aren't going to do it, you cant sit here and bitch about waiting around. You're choosing to wait.

>>18064692
Along with the other things already mentioned, I think it's important to include that it's a way for a woman to be dominated and ravaged while still maintaining her innocence, if that makes sense. She can completely let go and have the man take all of the responsibility and do all of the work, while she is absolved of any "guilt" for what is happening or for any pleasure she's feeling.

It's quite attractive to be literally "objectified" because of this.

>>18064359
Can any girl add to this? Would you say yes to a guy just to be nice? Im not bad looking, its just a big committment to ask of someone and that makes me nervous that she may be nervous lol

>>18064633
Snowballing

>>18064750
Hm, oh no I'm single right now. Have been for many many years. Dating is kind of impossible at the stage I'm at in life anyway. College is about hook ups and sex, nothing serious. Can barely even find dudes I'm interested enough in to talk to around where I live, let alone any that are A, also interested in me, and B, wanting something serious.
I've been in college for 4 years now. Met 1 dude I was attracted to enough to possibly date, but he wasn't looking for anything serious. Not that I haven't been continuously looking either. Name a method of meeting people, and I've tried it. I've just got too high of standards I suppose.

Anyway, I'm always perfectly fine with the idea of meeting half way. I think that's just normal, compromise is a part of life. Not everything can go your way, so I think it's totally fair to tell your girl "Hey listen, I can't do this I don't feel right about it. Here's what I can do though,"

>>18064749
I didn't say anything about gender roles here at all. What part of
>You want something, you go and get it.
is so hard to understand? That applies to both men and women.

>>18064760
It sounds like she said yes in a 'my friends are going with dates and I don't want to go without a date but I want to go and dress up and hang out with them so I'm going to say yes to this guy' sort of situation.

>>18064756
> while she is absolved of any "guilt" for what is happening or for any pleasure she's feeling.
Oh yeah, how could I forget this!
The "slut shaming" aspect of female sexuality is a huge drive in this, myself included. It's why I let the dude take the lead on everything. Because then I can at least rid myself of the "guilt" after sex of thinking "Well it wasn't /me/ doing it, it was him"
Not that I'm going to cry rape or anything, its all just to reassure myself that I'm not "dirty" or "tainted" like some would want to call me for daring to enjoy sex. Even though I know damn well deep down no decent person is gonna fault me for having sex with a boyfriend whom I'm in love with.

>>18064771
So just for more context, this is a formal for my fraternity so if I didnt ask her she wouldnt be going otherwise. Also the people in it our distant friends I think. Not sure if that changes your answer but thanks

>>18064762
College guys are probably the most cautious of all for that fantasy. But dating is tough then anyway, so not much can be done.

I don't mind compromise really. She's enjoying and I'm enjoying it so it's all good.

>>18064582
I get mad when a guy who openly says he's interested in me doesn't like my posts on social media.
It tells me that he doesn't like me for things that I say, that he only likes my body.
These are the men I toss in the trash.

>>18064780
Yeah, I've just accepted I'm not gonna be able to find anyone until post college, or my 30's. It's a shit lonely existence really, but what can I do. I'm still keeping my eye out but have zero faith anything will happen. Just don't meet enough people in my small ass town.

>>18064783
This one dude in particular, I would post something and he would immediately message me trying to start a conversation about it. But you're not going to like the post itself? God damn OK I see how it is. You want me privately with no one else knowing, huh?

>>18064783
For me, I only "Like" things I actually like.

Cool car? Like
Friend's wedding? Like
Nephew graduated? Like
Cool technology? Like
Favorite celebrity? Probably like
Friend posts art I like? Like
Someone has an interesting picture taken from a vacation or something? Like
Meaningful or insightful status? Like
Generic filtered bedroom selfie #45 with quote from screamo band? SCROLL

Why would that make you write a guy off?

Is there any particular way to meet tall girls?

>>18064783
>>18064794
This here is why I don't use facebook anymore. You're way too sensitive.

>>18064779
Well are her friends going? If they are, then she probably wants to tag along and said yes because you asked.

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>>18064783
>>18064794
thats reading just a little too hard into things i think

>>18064798
Look up

>>18064783
This is ridiculous.
If you're serious about this then YOU have a problem and need to change your point of view

>>18064798
Go to the Netherlands

>>18064359
Go on a date with her first

>>18064807
>be dutch and get to visit home country for first time since being a kid
>know it has the average tallest people in the entire world
>average male is at least 6' tall
>be only 5'10
>feel like a midget
>tfw godly dutch tall genes skipped a gen

>>18064810
It's not genetic, it's nutritional, you racist chode. Your parents don't love you.

>>18064813
>60 to 80 percent of the difference in height between individuals is determined by genetic factors, whereas 20 to 40 percent can be attributed to environmental effects, mainly nutrition

it plays a role sure but genetics are the majority that determine overall height

>>18064826
You leave here you dumb fuck. You're literally a cuck now.

>>18064826
if you stay with her you're a retard

>>18064826
why would you marry a girl who fucks black guys? Why would you get back together with one who cheated on you with a black guy?

I need so more info. before i can answer your question.

Question from a girl... what can my partner and I do to help me cum faster?

I take about 20 minutes of fucking after foreplay to cum. I have a hard time maintaining my "lady-boner" and dry up some times unless foreplay was amazing which isn't always the case...

To make it worse I can tell my bf gets bored or tired of fucking me after 10-15 minutes waiting for me to cum, which makes it take even longer because I'm self conscious.

Altogether it can take up to an hour and a half for me to reach orgasm with my partner. Weird because if I watch porn it can take 2-10 minutes for me to get turned on enough to climax. Why that is, I'm not sure...


Guys, what do you do to help your gf cum faster? Girls what makes you cum faster during sex?

Right now we are trying to incorporate dirty-talk to help me stay turned on but I am hoping for more advice.

>>18064826

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For the girls.

I just recently discovered so many things about beginning relationships. And I want you to tell me the wonderful things about it. I ask that you give me some advice.

I started with an OkC account where I laid all of me in one summary and filled my profile with vague but somewhat interesting info to get me started. I had a few photos to start with. I'm overweight but I'm more built than fat by far. I have a babyface, and I was worried maybe because of my looks people weren't interested in me.

I kept changing my account summary to so many things until I finally found something I was super okay with. I got some more decent looking pictures and changed my profile almost completely. I kept to the code of not giving all of my info right away and only laying a bit of it down to get me started so I can talk with people. I soon found out that if I was going to talk with people I needed to be the one doing the talking first. So I did and so far I have met a few girls who are really sweet but not as talkative. I've been able to extract some confidence from this and even some experience to lead me to the thought that if I wanted something truly meaningful I had to start smaller than I previously thought. I know becoming friends with someone is super important now before getting in a serious relationship. But there is this other girl who wants to jump right into it with me. She doesn't have a profile picture or any photos at all and liked me unlike every other girl I have been talking to. What would you say this is? a very likely catfish? Is liking someone more creepy and awkward if you haven't talked yet? I get the hang of it now but I want you to confirm with me what I ought to look out for at this point.

Does everyone get bored of relationships? Been dating current gf for a few years and its getting stale, sex is boring, she complains all the time and all we talk about is work now.

Whenever I go out I get loads of attention from good looking girls, and its makes me really dislike being in a relationship.

>>18064860
>Does everyone get bored of relationships?
No

>>18064847
Many women seem to enjoy rape fantasies :^)

I am a miserable shut in who just goes home after work and has no friends either. I'll be 27 this year and have never been intimate with anyone. Is it too late for me?

It isn't that I don't have an interest in these things, but I don't want to bother other people. Back when I had people I called friends I seriously wondered if they thought the same of me or if they just felt obligated to put up with me. Eventually email exchanges became once a month, then once every 3 months, then they stopped responding, so I took the unwritten hint and left them alone.

My co-workers all give me shit for not being into sports or HBO. One of them asked me for weeks about my hobbies and when I finally told him he ridiculed me and had a laugh with his friends in the office. Now I interact with them only as necessary to perform the duties of my job, but no more than that. I don't understand their pointless cruelty.

Question for girls, this might sound like a weird question, but, what do women think about men in general?

Allow me to explain, in the media is very common to see women talking about men in a very... unflattering manner, for example, refering to them as mindless drones that can be easly controlled by sex, or even refering to them as "the cause of all the evils in the world".

Yes, I am aware that what happens in fiction doesn´t necessary applies to reality, but even in real life it seems to me that women even they have individual men in theirs that they love, see men (as a group) in poor light, of course, I have also hear women saying good things about men as a group, but that´s very uncommon.

I hope I explained myself correctly.

If someone gags when you try to put your whole dick in their mouth does that mean you have a big dick?

>>18064888
well Im not into sports, but HBO does have some top tier tv shows. It's kind of odd to normal people you aren't into either.

and no it's not too late, but you have to change. Change not next week, but now.

>>18064908
no they just have a small throat.

>>18064897
I'd say I see men as a group overall more positively than negatively. Men are great.

Is it wrong to basically tell your partner "don't bring up stuff with me that's not worth fighting about"?

>>18064826
If this isn't bait, then you should leave you mindless cuck.

>>18064783
what if I don't have social media?

>>18064908
no
you try putting a 4" stick in your mouth and see what happens

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I have a beard similar to pic related, does it bother the girls during intimate moments?

question for guys, what are your feelings on having a family? do you like the idea of settling down and having a wife and kids, or would you rather stay uncommitted and not have the responsibilities of a family?

>>18064943
Family with the right girl is my dream. The only problem is, for my entire life all I see is people get together and then breakup. It didn't seem to matter to anyone how many kids there are, what the finances are like, how close families are, it always ends.

Many men share this problem. What's the point in trying, especially if you're getting intimate in the regular anyways?

From my point of view, even finding "the right" girl and having a happy 10 year relationship with her, having kids, whatever, it'll end and I'll just be back on the outs while she takes the kids or the house or whatever. I've seen it too many times, many men have, to even want to put myself out there like that.

Risks aren't outweighing the benefits at this point in my life. My advice would be, if you're in your early 20s for example, find a man 10+ years older than you, he will be ready to lay it all on the line for a possible family. Maybe it will work. In my experience, it won't, but that man may be more desperate and MAKE it work, you know?

>>18064943
soon to be college educated white male, I'd want a wife as my best friend. To share similar hobbies, love each other, and enjoy life. No kids ever.

>>18064943
Personally, I like the idea, for some reason I enjoy helping other people the grow and better themselves (even doing small things like helping a classmate to understand something), so having a wife and a child would be very satisfying to me.

However, I have decided to not have a family, ever, because I come from a very broken family, so I am almost sure that wouldn´t be a good father (my own father was very abusive phyiscally, I still have some scars from his beatings, and my mom never gave a fuck about it), I am scared of how many of my parents mistakes I would repeat (I heard my grandpa was the same), so I would rather let this line of terrible parenting die with me.

But that´s only my personal experience, had childhood being different, my answer would be "yes, I really want to have a family"

>>18064943
My one of my goals in life is to marry a nice girl and have 4 kids together

>>18064956
haha no I was just asking because it seems like most men think like you and are kind of opposed to marriage. I was just wondering what was the thinking behind that. I'm actually already married, for 5 years been together for 8. he's my same age we have two kids together and I'm pregnant with our third. I don't think we will ever brake up, neither of us see marriage the way most people do now a days. we make each other happy to begin with and get along really well. i don't think either of us would give up on our life together. I hate how people get married and deviced so easily now, especially if they have kids. it's like as soon as anything gets hard people just give up.

>>18064943
That's my main goal but I'm too much of a loser and I don't want to have kids without the means. In this day and age girls who want to be stay at home mom are pretty rare as well.

>>18064956
>but that man may be more desperate and MAKE it work, you know?
This sounds good, but divorce risk increases proportionally with the age gap of the couple

>>18064957
those are great qualities to want for a wife, and that's fine you don't want kids some people aren't cut out to be parents. >>18064969
you should not let having that kind of childhood stop you from having a happy and filling life. I had the same kid of things happen growing up and I'm still able to be a good parent to my kids. you have to recognize that what happened to you as a kid was wrong but it doesn't have to define the person you are now. you should talk to a therapist and it might help some.
>>18064975
ooo 4 now that's a nice thought. if you find someone who really make you happy then why not right. that's cool to see some guys still want bigger families. can I ask what your background is, like do you have a lot of siblings?

What would your actual response be if you were told that you were not asian enough for the guy you were interested in?

>>18064982
Not the anon you are quoting, but.

>I was just asking because it seems like most men think like you and are kind of opposed to marriage

One of the reasons it seems that way, is because it is scary for us.

Have you ever noticed how men often get more hurt than women after break ups? or how women have the upper hand in most divorce cases? those things get to you some way or another, there is too much to loose if things go wrong, and too many things that can go wrong.

I am not triyng to say "fucken bitches", ( I don´t blame anyone for this and it doesnt make me feel resentment towards women, society and biology just shaped things this way), I am just trying to explain how the world of commitment can be a very intimidating place for us.

Guys, how would you feel if you were set up on a date with a girl who, well, wasn't the prettiest? She was nice, not demanding or high maintenance and you got along with her, but she's just rather plain. (I'm not the girl in this scenario btw.)

>>18065005
I'm my case I'm not the handsomest guy either, so its fine, even better in way.

>>18065005
Something you need to understand is that the vast majority of men lower standards as far as looks go than women think we do (when we say otherwise is just to look macho), so what you may think is "plain" for men it may be cute.

>>18065021
Don't you worry, I understand that. As bad as I feel saying this, she's definitely not someone who would be considered cute. Plain is the nicest way of describing her.

>>18065005
It would really depend on how much of an impression you make on the first date. If you aren't my type or don't at least share a passion with me I will not hesitate to shoot you down for the second.

Cute cashier at the store only smiles and makes eye contact with me whenever I'm in her line. Am I being delusional or is she interested

>>18065025
You'd have to find her a guy on a lower tier than her, but then you'd be responsible for a low-tier couple. If you really care about her that much, couldn't you go gay for her?

>>18065035
First of all, I'm already in a good, long term relationship, and I think it's partly why she wants to get a boyfriend too. Secondly, no?

>>18065030
Don't hit on people doing their jobs you creep.

>>18065039
Then you'd have to find a person uglier than her or with similar interests and pray that they both have a recessive handsome gene that would spare their offspring from whatever horror created them.

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>>18065003
My exact response would probably be this picture.

>>18065025
If your major preocupation here is she getting hurt, unless the guy is a dick she will be fine, even if the guy is disinchanted with her he will most likely be nice enough to not make her feel sad.

>>18065044
She's not horrifyingly ugly, or even ugly at all, just not attractive.

>>18065048
Part of my concern is that the guy would be offended. As in, "you think SHE'S in my league?" or something of the like.

>>18064927
Probably, because your definitions of "not worth fighting about" is probably different, and you're basically shutting down any form of easy communication and basic resolution.
Some things can be annoying, not that huge a deal, but still need to be addressed. If you don't allow for those things to be addressed in more casual ways, you're basically saying to them
"Do not bring up things with me until they snowball out of control and you basically hate me for something that was minor and could have been easily talked through. Wait until it becomes a huge deal instead of just taking care of it immediately."

Its a recipe for break up imo.

>>18065052
So go for similar interests. Don't half-ass it like "you both like music", they need to actually have to have some kind of connection based on that.

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How do I make her orgasm with my small meat(6"/5")

>>18064908
Can be, can also not be. I've got a tiny ass mouth. Dentists hate me. I have to brush with a toddler sized tooth brush because adult sized ones do not fit in my mouth properly.
Basically all dicks are big enough for me to gag on, because you cannot get hardly anything in my mouth to begin with before you start hitting my throat.

>>18064847
Stop masturbating and watching porn

>>18065061
That is not small. Stop watching porn.

>>18065061
Touch her clit. Most women won't orgasm from just your dick anyway. If you aint touching the clit, you aint getting her off.

Also: Go down.

>>18065052
>Part of my concern is that the guy would be offended. As in, "you think SHE'S in my league?" or something of the like.

I personally feel that the best thing you can do is to be honest to him about the situation and tell him that this is more of doing a nice thing for her than for him, tell him that you have a friend that´s lonely and that you think it would be nice is if he goes on a date with him, and tehn proceed to tell him the good things about her, even if the guy is not excited about it he still might want to take the chance of going on a date with a girl.

But that´s just my opinion, the success of this tactic depends a lot on how the guy is.

If I copied the foreplay stroke for stroke from my favorite JAV, would that be a good basis from which to pleasure women, or am I going to have to watch many more of them and incorporate different actions because each woman has different buttons, or does the very slow JAV style of foreplay even work on non-japs?

>>18065081
You're gonna have to open your mouth and ask her what she likes.

Porn is acting mate. No more real than James Bond. 99% of orgasms in porn are fake, especially the japs.

Girls, how do you feel if you find out a guy has masturbated thinking about you?

I don´t mean situations like, a guy comes to you and tells you he did it (that would obviously freak anyone out)

I mean things like, know iit because you overheard a conversation about it, or because one of friends or relatives told you to bother him, or something like that.

Also, how does your opinion on the subject change depending of wheter the guy is a friend, someone you barely know or a complete stranger?

>>18065081
If you are going to use videos as a guide, at least watch amateur videos of real couples having sex for pleasure and not acted videos of actors having sex for money.

But in any case, as >>18065097 says, you would have to find it out from her, every woman likes different things.

>>18065098
Basically if it were anyone except a close boyfriend, it's gonna be hella creepy. But, the closer to stranger, the creepier it gets
That creep factor increases 10 fold considering I overheard him telling OTHER people about it.

>>18065098
Creepy, unless it's my boyfriend.

>>18064996
>can I ask what your background is, like do you have a lot of siblings?
I only have one older sister. The rest of my family is mostly 2 child households, with one or two 3 child ones mixed in. I could be the black sheep of the family

>>18065097
Even the debuts where they start by coming bukkake style into her hands because she wasn't quite ready to be filmed taking dick just yet? I mean she has acted in TV series and a movie or two and an AV that might as well have been an actual movie given the detail they put into the plot, characters, and setting, but if this video were completely staged, the Royal Shakespeare Company would love to have her if she knew more than 5 words of english.

>>18065104
>>18065107

Interesting, I was asking becuase I have a female friend that is a clever bitch and tricked me into admitting that I fap to her, rather being disturbed or upset she says she thinks it´s flattering and like a week ago she sent me a pic of herself in a bikini she just bought with the text "have fun with it", so wondered if this is a normal reaction or if she is just "teasing her friend the virgin"

Man, she is a good friend but she is a little cruel sometimes.

>>18064783
you are crazy

>>18065004
things aren't as much like that as people say tho. we I guess it's dependent on where you live when it comes to father's rights. my husband has full custody of his oldest child. the biological mother doesn't have any rights at all. all I can say is while some women are gold diggers and will take your kids not all women are like that. for example my dad was very abusive to my mother and me when I was a kid and my first bf was abusive too, but I didn't just give up on men and think they are all like that. my husband is very kind and even temperature and even if things didn't work out for us in the long run id never take his kids from him. you just need to find the right person who you can trust and build a life with. not every marriage ends badly.

>>18065146
I mean, in that case it's just flirting imo. What she was doing was the same concept as sending nudes.

Its when a dude says he faps to you without you ever doing anything "fappable" is super creepy. She's trying to be sexy for you.

>>18065149
I am aware of that, like I say I hold nothing agaisnt women, I am just saying that that kind of things can create some paranoia in men, and that creates the fear to commitment.

It´s also worth mentioning that many times when we men say that we don´t a family and just want to pump and dump, is just a bluff to look cool, other times we do want to get a family someday but want to act like degenerates while we are still young.

>>18065146
Your friend is either an attentionwhore and any male attention is good attention, or she's into you

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>>18064854
>ask for advice
>get nothing

Today's my lucky day, boys.

>>18065153
>>18065164

>She's trying to be sexy for you
>or she's into you

Thats what I wanted to believe but it reallydoesnt make much sense because she is very attractive and social and I am just an average (at best) autist (not in the meme way, a diagnosed functional autist, althought she doesn´t know that) that has never even had a gf or kissed anyone (which she DOES knows).

Maybe I am just being insecure, maybe not, should I give it a shot?

>>18065172
>Keep questions short for more answers.

>>18065172
Eh, walls of text usually get skipped.

Skimming your post all I'll say is you never meet anyone who you havent gotten multiple pictures from to confirm they are who they say they are. Personally, I sometimes even ask for some sort of time stamp if suspicious. Snapchat is a good tool for that.

>>18065182
>Maybe I am just being insecure
You are. You'll never get anywhere with that attitude. Wallow in self hate, or take the plunge. Your pick.

>>18065065
but i only do that twice a week

>>18064854
Sounds like a catfish. Ask for a photo and reverse image search it. Or organise to meet up. If she dodges it then assume it's a fat old dude in his mom's basement and never message him again.

>>18065182
I'm a dashing at best autist and would definitely attempt at that friend if I had one, but I don't because I'm not in college.

Where do young adults meet and mingle in this day and age? Do they?

>>18064052
Hey people,

19 year old virgin girl here. It's a dumb question but how the hell can a penis fit when even putting one finger up my vagina is uncomfortable?

What if it doesn't fit and I can't have sex? Does that condition exist?

>>18065217
It does. I had it for over a year with my first(and still current) boyfriend.

Look up vaginismus. Its curable, but takes time, patience, and a very understanding and loving partner. Luckily mine is very supportive and with the help of a physical therapist who specialized in pelvic floor muscles, we were able to relax my vagina to the point where I can have painless sex about 50% of the time that we attempt it. Sometimes its too painful to go still, and sometimes theres some pain but its not enough to ruin the sex completely.

I don't know if you have vaginismus like I do, but its worth considering looking into it.

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>women desire guys with lots of cool hobbies and interests
>they're also typically basic bitches who spend all their time on social media, netflix, and slutting around
???????

>>18065217
Look up vaginismus. Also when you get horny, your vagina expands

>>18065229
Assuming that's even remotely true, what's your question?

^And what I meant to say is it took over a year before I knew what it was like to have him inside me without feeling pain.

Whatever you do, don't keep having sex if it hurts. That only makes the condition last longer because your body will associate penetration with stress/pain and create a feedback loop. You have to learn to relax and train your muscles to stop involuntarily clenching.

>>18065217
First that nothing, how many penises have you seen in real life? (Yes, you said you are a virgin, but seeing a penis is not the same as taking it in), average penises are not the weapons of mass destruction that you see in porn.

That being said, it could be vaginismus like >>18065227 says.

>>18065217
Get MDMA

>>18065227
>>18065230

Thanks, hopefully I don't have that.

I might lose my virginity soon and while I'm excited I'm also a bit scared

>>18065217
Personally, I'm a virgin too with the same exact problem, but I honestly think that's just how the first time is. You're nervous, don't know what to expect or what to do, most women won't be able to relax enough with all that mental stress for it to be real magical or good. 4chan is real quick to cram vaginismus down our throats, but I think this is just kinda normal.

I'm just gonna power through my first, whenever it comes, grit my teeth and take it. I know it'll only get better from there once I know what to expect and can relax.

>>18065227
>but takes time, patience, and a very understanding and loving partner
Things that are impossible to find in this day and age

>>18065247
Make sure he is respectful if you feel at all uncomfortable. That is very important that you feel mentally secure. Good luck have fun.

>>18065229
>r9k
Also see OP:
>>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>>18065247
Guy here, my advice is that if the sex starts to be painful, TELL HIM, we men are terrible at figuring out if a woman is moaning of pain or pleasure, so if you want it to stop, tell him, don´t worry about "pushing him away", if he is a good man he will understand and be willing to try again once you feel better.

>>18065249
>4chan is real quick to cram vaginismus down our throats, but I think this is just kinda normal.
Being nervous is normal. Being uncomfortable with a finger or a tampon up there is not. Yes, it could just be nerves, but it could just as easily be vaginismus. I feel like it's just 'accepted' that sex can be painful or uncomfortable for some women, when there's a legitimate condition that could explain a number of cases. Erring on the side of caution can't be a bad thing in this situation

>>18065250
I know what you mean... I used to feel like that. In fact I think the reason I have vaginismus is because of the mental problems I acquired from being raped, and treated in general like shit from guys who wouldn't take no for an answer or put pressure on me.

I got very lucky with my current boyfriend. He helped me overcome all of that and helped my body repair itself from trauma. Never letting him go. He's a saint to me.

>>18065258
I think dr.4chan is too quick to spam their diagnosis of vaginismus for any little problem.
Vaginismus is a horrible, practically incurable disease so rare that a lot of fucking gynecologists haven't even heard of it. It just simply aint that common. It's 99% more likely to just be nerves.

>>18065259
Not the person you are responding to, but I am sorry to hear that happened to you, good to know you got better.

I had a similar thing with my current gf, she was afraid of basically every man because of her rape trauma, it took me a lot of effort to get close to her and make her my gf, she still have some problems but she is getting a lot better.

I hope everything turns out right for you and your boyfriend.

>>18065259
Yeah you try dating today, if you aren't riding his dick 20 minutes after saying hello, you'll never hear from him again.
Hell, you'll never hear from him again after anyways, because dating and love just is not fucking real anymore.

>>18065249
I'm not trying to cram shit down her throat. She asked if a condition existed and I gave her an honest example of a very real condition that I went through.

If someone had told me my condition was "normal", I'd still be enduring pain.

To me you come off as very ignorant. Especially with this "grit my teeth and take it". Thats not what sex is about hunny.

To the girls, how should I introduce myself to a girl that I in only one class, my gym class, without looking like a creep? Usually I can go "How'd you do on XYZ" or "Man, that teacher is a dick" to get the ball rolling, but here I got nothing, as the gym teachers might as well be part of the walls.

>>18065267
>Vaginismus is a horrible, practically incurable disease so rare that a lot of fucking gynecologists haven't even heard of it. It just simply aint that common.
I hope you're able to back up that claim

>It's 99% more likely to just be nerves.
Sure, but there's that 1% chance that it is vaginismus. Like I said, it'd be better to err on the side of caution. It's like if you found a lump on your body, or a mole that wasn't there before. It could be cancerous or it could be benign, but it'd be best to have it checked out, don't you think?

>>18065274
The first is, if you're nervous about it.
As I said, if you're nervous about it, you'll never NOT be nervous until you just go through with it and realize you don't have to be. You get through the first, so the rest can be fun.

But by all means, lets see your medical license doctor. Everything must be vaginismus. It's not perfectly normal and natural to feel nervous about your first time, and it's not like the MAJORITY of women report discomfort on their first time, exactly BECAUSE of nerves.

>>18065271
Thanks, I know most men are not horrible rapey types. I think as long as you are supportive and she recognizes and appreciates that, things will turn out well for you too.

>>18065273
Well screw him anyways. There are still good men out there, they are just hard to find. But when you do find a good one, you also have to be ready for him. You have to be ready to trust someone again.

>>18065274
You sound kind of like a stupid bitch, no offense

>>18065249
If you're a virgin, you're not really in a position to know what losing your virginity feels like, are you?

>>18065282
>him
you mean them. Every dude I've ever met.

I don't even think they're bad people. This is just the new world order. Relationships and commitment are dead, hook ups and casual sex is the new thing. Nobody does this old outdated practice anymore. The world just evolved.

>>18065273
Seems to me that you have a bad opinion about men.

I don´t know what happened to you, so I am not going tobe a dick about it, but going through life like that is only going to give sadness, don´t be that persons, I am telling you this from heart, don´t close yourself.

>>18065287
Nope, but I was just saying I'm sick of all of 4chan telling me I have this crippling, debilitating, incurable disease because I go through something that is actually very common and normal. Didn't want the girl to get dragged down by this crap like I did.
It's normal for it to be like that. You don't have to have a fucking broken pussy because it hurts. That's just how it is for the first.

I want a relationship but I don't feel like I need any more friends right now. Am I doing it wrong? Is it wrong to want a relationship without being enthusiastic about making a new friend? What do?

>>18065299
Idk what to tell you dude, you can't really get into a relationship without making a friend first. At least, not a successful good relationship.
If you're skipping the friendship phase to rush straight into romance then you're gonna have a bad time.

>>18065297
But the fact is, it COULD be vaginismus. YOU don't know. Unless you're claiming that it's an imaginary condition, then you're just full of hot air.

>>18065297
>crippling, debilitating, incurable disease
Girl with vaginismus here again. You are ignorant and this is not a crippling disease. And its not incurable either. I don't have a medical license, but my physical therapist does. I also never said that the original poster had vaginismus. I only answered the question "is there a condition like this". So all you're really contributing to this discussion is your own anger and bitchiness toward practically nothing.

How the fuck do I make new friends? I remember in high school Making friends was as easy as just saying hi to the guy sitting next to you and working together for a bit but now that I'm an adult doing it seems so fucking difficult. Especially on dating sites. You can probably guess why I'm even on here already but what can I do to make new friends as an adult? personally, I would be down to make some new friends so I'm not a closed person but the feeling on making friends then and making friends now is extremely different to me for some reason.

>>18065297
You know that vaginismus is treatable, right? You're getting really pissed about something you haven't even informed yourself of properly

>>18065310
Could be, but if I've got a cough it could be the common cold, or fucking pneumonia. Statistically speaking, its far more likely to be the fucking cold.

Just like how statistically speaking the absolute rarity of vaginismus is incredibly unlikely to be the case here, since hardly anyone actually gets diagnosed with this bull shit.

The fact that everyone on here IMMEDIATELY started screaming vaginismus is retarded. Because the likelyhood of it being vaginismus is about the same as winning the damn lottery/

>>18065319
>What if it doesn't fit and I can't have sex? Does that condition exist?
Sweetie, learn to read.

>>18065297
No one said having vaginismus means your pussy is broken you idiot. And no one here is saying you have it. You just sound like a tight ass in general.

>>18065319
What part of 'but it's still possible' is so hard to understand?

Girls, say there's two guys, guy_1, and guy_2.

guy_1 is a 4/10
guy_2 is an 8/10

Is it possible for guy_1 to do something, and you would consider it creepy, on the other hand if guy_2 did it you wouldn't think it was creepy?

>>18065319
The reason people don't get diagnosed with it is because a lot of doctors are ignorant as you are and most people think pain during sex is "normal" when its not.

50% of the gynecologists I went to said I had vaginismus, while 50% of them said they never heard of the condition or that it didn't exist. My physical therapist who SPECIALIZES in pelvic floor muscles said it DOES exist and she helped me FIX IT.

>>18065319
No one was screaming, no one even said she had the condition, use reading comprehension you fucking dolt. Vaginismus isn't rare, its a misunderstood condition, its a very easy condition to contract, and tampons aren't supposed to hurt. Now with that said gtfo.

>>18065337
Creepy behaviour is creepy behavious. It doesn't matter who is doing it.

>>18065297
Calm down, I understand how you feel, I don´t have a pussy but I know how it feels to have this sense of "inadequacy" for something related to genitals (in my case it is having a small dick and phimosis), but I don´t think people here told you that with bad intentions, I understand you feel angry but there is no need to keep mad about it, maybe people were ignorant but they just wanted to help.

>>18065337
Nah, met some guy, pretty good looking, but he still creeped me out so much I had to call our date off

>>18065316
It is, basically incurable. Because it's mental. You cannot cure mental illnesses. You can only treat them. Some will take to treatment, most will not. Because "Treatment" is basically just willing yourself to not have it. Or the bullshit dilators that really solve nothing.

You're the one getting angry here. I'm just pointing out its fucking stupid to always jump immediately to the conclusion of the rare disease.
And that post wasn't inherently directed at you, so don't jump to conclusions and get mad.
>>18065323
You were telling her to look it up sweetie, because she obviously has it. God go jerk yourself off more.
Its not even worth bringing up because again, it's so rare. Understand how conversation works.
>>18065327
Thats what it sounds like when you tell people they have an incurable disease. They're broken. That's how I fucking felt for years while dr. 4chan screamed it at me all for experiencing something completely normal
>>18065333
Fine, it's possible you have cancer too kiddo. It's possible you're intersex. It's possible you have super AIDS.
Fucking everything is possible, what part of probability do you not understand? ITS UNLIKELY AS HELL. Therefore it's not even worth scaring her over and bringing up.
>>18065341
Well congrats for being the one in a million who was able to reverse it. Most will not.

And yes, sex can be painful. you're fucking cramming a tube into a tight hole. It makes fucking sense. It's ok for the first to hurt. That's just fucking life. Yall goddamn feminists wanna pretend like it's all sunshine and rainbows. Life hurts sometimes. get over it.

>>18065341
It is most fuckign definitley NOT easy to correct. Its a goddamn MENTAL ILLNESS. That's like saying depression is easy to correct you fucking dolt. It IS rare. It's rarely diagnosed, whatever bullshit excuses you give for that fact doesn't change it. It's hardly ever diagnosed, because its so fucking rare not all doctors have even heard of it.
Now with that said. gtfo.
>>18065347
Yeah and their bad advice ruined a good chunk of my life. I'd rather get mad and spare someone else from listening to the shittier version of web md. If nobody gets mad, nobody listens.

>>18065351
>Well congrats for being the one in a million who was able to reverse it. Most will not.
I'm not going to try and talk sense into this kid anymore but if anyone here is reading this, just know its bullshit and the only people who don't get cured are people who don't believe they can be cured.

The way you sound is like telling someone who is concerned about symptoms of depression that they don't have depression because they would be more likely to win the lottery. And that if they do have depression, they are broken and will never fix it. Thats how ignorant you sound.

im a total and complete pussy when it comes to girls, im a 23 year old 6/10 virgin that is afraid of rejection.
should i do a line of coke before approaching a random girl?
i cant do it when im sober

>>18065351
>all goddamn feminists wanna pretend like it's all sunshine and rainbows. Life hurts sometimes. get over it.
Well, I'm the one who was in pain for over a year because of it. That and enduring people tell me my condition didn't exist, and that sex would always hurt because my vagina was "too small to accommodate a penis". Doctors tried to tell me I was physically incapable of enjoying sex. And I proved them wrong. So fuck you. You don't know shit.

>>18065360
I am sorry you had that experience, I will admit that I was wrong at thinking you were exagerating, bu I see you are good person that just wanted to help somone not to suffer the same as you, my apologies.

The only thing I can tell you now is that I hope you are fine now, and if you are not, I hope you will be.

There's that girl, we used to talk at least once per week by text (we did study together since 2013 when i start on college and jump out of her class in 2014, since then we talk often by text) till the beggining of the past year when we start to talking to each other once per month till the day that (i feel that) she was a little cold when texting with me and was the last day we talk to each other.

Almost one year after our last conversation, i should say a hi to her for the sake of our friendship or its better to keep her on her own?

>>18065317
>get no help the first time
>new advice is to make it shorter
>do that
>still no help

I just wanted some advice. Guess I'll fuck off, though.

>asking for advice on how to make friends at 19.

I guess I might not have even been clear enough when posting it. Yeah, I'm 19 and most of my time from graduating high school to now has been just work experience to save up money for college I'll be attending in September. My biggest reason for wanting to meet some new girls is that I want to gain experience talking to them so when college rolls by I'm not a social retard. If I am able to get a girlfriend between now and then that's just a big plus.

>>18065365
No because depression is actually fucking diagnosed relatively often you moron.
What you're saying is that mental illness can be cured. You cant jsut say to a depressed person, YOUR DEPRESSION IS CURED.
Same way you can't tell a rare person with vaginismus "CONGRATS, YOUR MENTAL ILLNESS IS SUDDENLY GONE!
You have it for LIFE. Which is why I find it insensitive to fucking freely diagnose anyone with this incurable horrific disease for something that's so normal and common.

That;s how ignorant you sound, fucking believing you can just will mental illness away if you believe in yourself hard enough. It's a life long struggle.
>>18065376
And you dont think I was in quite a bit of emotional anguish being told over and over again I have this horrible incurable disease that would prevent me from ever having the one thing that brought me happiness? Telling me to just give up on my broken pussy because it will never work properly, unless I jump through these incredibly unsexy hoops to be ready for sex, or sit around in useless therapy to will it all away?
So fuck you, I proved YOU wrong. I'm not going to live like that anymore, I'm going to believe the truth that this is just all a fucking normal part of being a woman. It hurts the first time. That's just life. It's supposed to, there is nothing fucking wrong with me. I'm not ruined or broken. This is normal. You don't know shit.
>>18065379
As long as people stop spreading this vaginismus crap killing others self esteems and self worth, making them believe life isn't worth living because you have a debilitating disease, I'll be ok.

Whats with socially anxious girls in high school hanging out with people they hate.

Last year I hung out with this girl a lot because this chick that was her only friend went to study abroad for a year. She constantly roasted this chick, and said that she only hung out with her because she didn't want to be friendless when she started high school.

A year goes by and now she starts hanging out with the same chick. She still says awful shit about her, but allows her to monopolize her time because their friendship is comfy.

Why?

>>18065421
inb4 underage, turned 18 in 2016

>>18065421
Because high school is a shit time and teenagers are stupid.
In high school your appearance is the most important thing about you, and friendless losers are ripe for the bullying. And fucking women bully much harder than men.
She takes what she can get. Chances are, this chick is also putting her down so much to reinforce the idea she has in her head that nobody else will ever want to be her friend, so it's either this bitch or nobody.


She'll grow out of it. We all do.
I'd suggest you worry about yourself mate. Or if you actually give a fuck about this girl, go be a better friend.

>>18064543
Doesnt matter at all unless the gap is begin enough you have a real concern over you or them dying much earlier, or one of you going infertile


Im in a relationship with a guy 8 years my senior and nothing at all is strange except sometimes he makes references I wont get, and he'll explain, which I enjoy. He also sometimes says its interesting watching me go through the same sort of pattern he did. On the whole its brought up very little, we just fit incredibly well together.

>>18064646
Seems femanons do expect it to come to them, considering they refuse to approach men and wait for men to do all the work

>>18065475
That's because it's a social norm. If you carefully analyze your life, you will find that you too conform to senseless gender norms.

And before you call me a femicuck or something, there is nothing remotely ideological about this. This is like basic fucking sociology or something.

>Develop crush on a friend, originally started out as entirely platonic
>Don't say anything since she has a relationship
>They break up, I try to be supportive and don't want to appear as if I've just been her friend in an attempt to get laid
>She mistexts me, when she meant to text another friend about how well her date went etc.

It's not like I'm upset at her or anything, but shit still sucks especially since I'll still bump into her now and then since he run similar circles. What do you guys do in similar positions? Pretty sure saying anything would just make it worse.

>>18065475
Yes, and? Complain about it all you want, that's how society is and you won't win if you don't play the game.

>>18065475
They aren't expecting you to do "all the work"
You're just ignoring the work they're putting in.

>>18064692
Who do you think had more children? The caveman that just fucked whatever woman he wanted whenever he felt like it?

Or the dude who waited until she was cool with it?

Who do you think survived better (and had more children) when the cave rapist came knocking?

The women who resisted and hated it, or the woman that accepted it or even enjoyed herself?

A better way to sum it up would be saying that female sexuality comes from putting up resistance, and being overwhelmed. Rape is just an extension of this. Its a test of strength and fitness of the male.

You can see this all across the animal kingdom. Female cheetahs will run away from the male for days and force him to chase her.

>>18064749
The biological sexes are incredibly different

I find it dumb too, I always straight up told guys I liked them as a kid and would flirt with them first.

Im also autistic, and Ive since read many men find this unattractive

It all boils down to basic biology

Females want males to prove their worth putting their investment into basically, they have a lot more risk for the reward, and basic instinct hasnt caught up with modern birth control

>>18065484
>>18065488
>social norms

Try biological norms. That shit runs even deeper. You won't find a people where the women are the more aggressive pursuers. Margaret Mead basically had to lie and make up her findings trying to disprove that this is a human universal.

>>18064897
Its very individual

There are seriously 0 qualities I would apply to all men

I used to generally consider men to be louder, thicker skinned, and more action-oriented.

But Ive seen men who are more female both body-wise and mentally than my little sister.

Fucking hormones in everything.

>>18064908
Get a ruler out you fag

>>18065475
The hard truth is that women don't HAVE to approach. If you aren't willing to approach them, some other guy is probably more than happy to.

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>>18064943
The ideal is for me to marry a girl who I truly get on with and love. I've made a decision not to have sex until marriage, since it seems to me that the marital relationship should be predicated on me and my future wife being best friends and loving in normal circumstances.

Then I'd have as large a family as I possibly could. 4+ kids, ideally. I was an only child with a very shitty mother, and I grew up lonely and without a good authority figure. I want my kids to have many siblings so they'll always have friends and a pair of parents who will set a positive example.

>>18065061
My vagina is 4 inches deep

Youre fine

>>18065544
hahaha, nice joke dude

>>18065098
If theyre attractive, thats fucking hot

If theyre unattractive, I feel grossed out but ultimately dont care

If theyre specifically telling me this shit then I need to drop that dude because I have a boyfriend

>>18065547
This is true, but one can also argue that PiV doesn't matter because the nerves in the vaginal canal are nothing compared to the clitoris.

The truth is, girls like to be penetrated by a sufficiently long and thick cock because the sensation of penetration feels better that way, and spouting off anatomical facts can't trump this.

>>18065544
>>18064983
>>18064975
There need to be more guys like this. Good luck anons. Make big, happy families!

Does anyone know any good conversation starters?

Wanting to talk to this girl, usually see her before class waiting in the hall, most of the time opposite me, on her phone. There's also a couple other kids also waiting, usually on their phone. I noticed her once or twice looking at me quickly.

I've spoken to her once or twice middle of last semester, I know her name/major, but I've not gotten the balls to talk to her since then.

>>18064943
I really like the idea of settling down with a wife and kids. The issue is finding the right girl to settle down with.

It feels like I'm forcing the relationship these days.

Things started feeling off when she and her girlfriends started hanging out together to watch that dumbass bachelor show. I know it's all chicken talk and I think they've told her otherwise

Do I bring it up and tell her that I feel like she doesn't want to see me as much anymore and do things with me? I don't want to sound too clingy but I also just want to know if she's not feeling it and not waste each other's time anymore

does tinder only show active users or is it just anyone in the area with an account?
i've gotten one match so far and i can't tell if it's just my shitty small town or if i'm unappealing to women

Also hoping for a stable marriage and children, mostly worried about saving up to get out of commiefornia where this is effectively impossible.

>been wiped out by divorce court twice
>collateral damage from other people's marriages
>still a virgin

Somebody else's ex-wife put 20+ people out of their income or their deposited money which was rightfully theirs. And she completely got away with it too.

>>18065583
Is this really a question for this thread, anon?

>>18065583
If your tinder is unactive for a certain period of time, tinder does temporarily close your account, at least until you log into it again.
So no, you aren't seeing any inactive users. You might have to increase your search radius.

>>18065596
thanks! i'll try messing around with the settings

>>18065591
i figured someone here would know, but yeah it was probably dumb to ask. sorry anon

I'm thinking of chatting up this cute middle school teacher. I'm a grad student and my building is right next to her school cafeteria so I usually go there to eat and last Friday as I saw her she smiled at me, but I just turned away since I thought she mistook me for someone else and her smile was so beautiful it made my heart melt, now I'm still thinking about her. Should I just sit next to her and ask for her phone number? I'm not her colleague, is that weird? In contrast, I'm sort of dating this flirtatious first year party girl and a total different creature than this qt teacher I fancy.

>>18064943
I'd very much like that. I think it could have something to do with the fact that my parents never separated.

>>18065611
Go for it brah

I feel like I should message someone and ask them to have a cup of coffee with me for the hell of it. We haven't seen each other for a few months, but they were pretty enthusiastic to see me the last time we saw. I just don't know how weird it would be if I out of the blue asked to have a cup of coffee.

I got pretty drunk last night and sent some snapchats to a coworker I'm into, and I can't recall what I sent. Would straight up asking what I sent be the best way to go about this?

>>18065722
You're overthinking this. Just ask.

>>18065759
Yeah, I guess, if you do want to know. Remember to apologize.

Only time I can talk to this girl (in specific) is when we leave the classroom. Best way for me to initiate conversation if I don't know what her name is?

>>18065819
>Hey, come to think of it, I still don't know your name.
Then go from there.

How inportant is response time on whatsapp important for signs of interest.

Been on two dates with a girl. She takes a while to respond. She usually took a while on tinder, but now on Whatsapp i know shes seen the message, but she still takes donekys ears to reply and only to questions instead of statements. Before the second date. I had to text her again after 5 days to remind her about our agreed second date (to which we both enjoyed and she seemed receptive to a third date), since she didn't reply.


Also does everyone date multiple people at once, how do you find the time?

So I've always talked to girls as people and am realizing I might come off a certain way, and want to know what they assume. Like I'm bisexual and gender doesn't mean anything to me, I can see that someone is my idea of attractive, but I don't actually get physically attracted to them until I know them. Like I wouldn't care to have sex with a stranger. I can't watch porn and be aroused.
Anyways, I never had this idea of girls and guys being different, anything that was gender related I just saw in terms of that person specifically. And I'm not sexually motivated talking to new people. But I don't think that's normal, and I think there's a presumption about me being a guy when I talk to a girl. I don't know what that is. Do girls just assume I'm hitting on them?

>>18065806
Yeah overthinking is my biggest caveat. Is it best to just bluntly go "Would you want to have a cup of coffee with me?"

>>18064052
How do I get over this feeling I am going to be alone for the rest of my life?

>>18066020
Do something about it.

>>18066024
Like what? I can't date

>>18066030
can you hunt?

>>18066054
Yes

Why do you ask

Never physically cheated on my girlfriend. I have however flirted, sexted, sent nudes to and received nudes from other girls online- nobody she knows, all foreign girls.

I've heard some people say this is only a little worse than watching porn, and I've heard some people say it's just as bad as physically cheating. I know it's a bad thing to do and I wouldn't want her to do the same to me, and I probably won't do it again, but I'm curious on how bad you guys consider it to be.

Is it bad enough to lose the relationship over? Is it bad enough to need to come clean to her and admitting it? Personally I don't think so, I don't think I'd judge her too harshly if the roles were reversed, even if I didn't like it.

Women, do you even like being approached?

What is your ideal way to boyfriend someone?

how do i tell this milf on my facebook that her new baby is cute if i havent talked to her in like two years

>>18066055
do you have a place in your house to keep a girl?

>>18066067
If he's attractive, it's great. But I am mostly approached by ugly men.

>>18066067
>Women, do you even like being approached?
Not by needy people. Especially not by needy people who haven't got their shit sorted out. Anyone at all coulda told you that.

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>>18066070
I'm too beta to pull a Josef Fritzl

>>18066068
Tell her "Congratulations on the baby! Haven't spoken to you in ages, but he/she's adorable. How's motherhood treating you?"

>>18066071
Ya hear that boys, if you're not in the top 10% you're fucked.

>>18066071
but you still put out right

>>18066077
>Anyone at all coulda told you that.
Just wait till she turns 30 lmao
Some of my friends are getting harassed on a regular basis by party trash

>>18066076
do i tell her thanks for contributing to overpopulation and fucking everyone over before or after the dick pic

>>18066087
>overpopulation
when will this meme die
shitskins are overpopulated, not humans

I'm always scared of getting my girlfriend pregnant, since 1. I don't want to be a father yet, 2. I don't think she's the woman I want to spend my life with.

What should I do in the worst case scenario I end up knocking her up?

>>18066091
What birth control methods do you use?

4 women out of 100 will become pregnant every year with perfect condom use. Put her on an IUD and there will be nothing to worry about.

>>18066091
>What should I do in the worst case scenario I end up knocking her up?
Be a responsible father to your children.

>>18066091
>What should I do in the worst case scenario I end up knocking her up?
Go abroad.

>>18066100
She's on the pil

>>18066058
if you're interacting with another person, it's cheating.

you should be honest with her. you say you wouldn't consider it a big deal if she did it to you, yet you're afraid to be truthful...because you know it's scummy, and not "not a big deal"

Femanons, is there a place you prefer/not to be approached by a guy?

>>18066105
Does she take it every day at the same time?

If yes, nothing to worry about. If she's a fuckup like the typical user, skipping pills, taking them late, you should worry and start using condoms as well.

>>18066109
Not while I'm working.
Not while I am with friends.
Not online.
Not when I am shopping.

If I think you're attractive, I'll let you know.

>>18066109
please don't approach women working customer service jobs like waitressing, because we're required to be nice to customers. you end up feeling trapped, like you can't reject him, or he'd complain to your manager, and if you accept it's unprofessional. i guess deep in a study session would also not be appreciated.

everywhere else is game. grocery store, on the bus, at the library if i'm just walking around.

>>18066089
when resources wars break out in first world countries or when first worlders realize their lifestyle is unsustainable and isnt justified by the 'we'll invent our problems away' meme

>>18066113
>I'll let you know.
how

>>18066109
at work.
at the hall way of the bathroom

>>18066113
bad bait, women never approach

>>18066117
she'll won't mind when a hot chad breaks all her rules lmao

>>18066117
I'll stand next to you and smile.

>>18066109
Everywhere if you're anything less than really hot.

>>18066121
why are women so fucking lazy

Alright, femanons, what are some places you wouldn't mind being approached by a guy?

Aside from bars and clubs obviously.

>>18066121
That's not letting me know, that's standing there like retard.

Men can't pick up on signals as much as you think they can.

>>18066115
Noted. I'm gonna hit on this qt girl working front desk of the a building next to my office see how she reacts. I don't really need to date her but there's like 30 minutes before the meeting with the profs during which I have no idea what to do, maybe I can ask her for a drink haha

>>18066126
It seems pretty obvious to me.

>>18066130
to you, not to the rest of the world. men and women smile at me all the time every day, do they all want me?

>>18066121
except when you're just being nice, right? piles of girls do that to me but they aren't interested

>>18066130
If you're interested in someone, you could at least put in a minimal amount of effort.

>>18066067
>Women, do you even like being approached?
Not really
>What is your ideal way to boyfriend someone?
Knowing each other for years and becoming best friends beforehand.

>>18066121
serious? this cute girl in my class did the same thing and I thought she has mental issues, that's all she does, look and smile.

Can't you like, open your mouth and say something
btw there's no way I'm gonna date the girl mentioned above, I never talked to her.

>>18066139
I walk up to them, don't I? Most guys seem to get the hint.

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>>18066121
What? People smile at me all the time. I've had girls stand next to me and smile at me but that doesn't mean they wanted to date me.

>>18066139
This too. Just standing and smiling is of such little effort that nobody could even notice.

>>18064052
Is it impossible to develop rapport with a chick through online only interaction after knowing her IRL for like six months?

>>18066142
do you tug their dick or something

>>18066140
>If a guy likes you he must hide it for years and be okay with just being friends or not even bother.

Jesus christ.

>>18066145
No, they just start talking to me.

>>18066148
I doubt she's ever actually done what she says.

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>>18066148
I KNOW holyshit
Is life like a sitcom to them? Ross and Rachel? Ted and Robin?

>>18066142
I'm confused by your actions on how this goes down.

You walk up to them and just smile and stand there?

Or they approach you and you just smile and stand there?

Either way, 0 people are going to take that as you're attracted to them.

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>>18066148
>>18066150
>>18066151
Hey it worked

>>18066152
there's some light tugging

>>18066152
Last guy I went on a date with I met at the store. I thought he was cute so I started browsing the crackers near him. He looked at me, so I smiled at him. He asked me some dumb questions about the crackers I was looking at and went from there. He asked for my number and we went out.

>>18066157
>He asked me some dumb questions
No you're dumb

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>>18066157
Sounds like he took the risk and just asked you out. Doesn't mean he knew you liked him.

>>18066157
>"Can I take a crack at your crack?"

did this happen before or after you tugged on his dick?

>>18066166
But it worked, didn't it?

>>18066167
Before. I love puns!

>>18066169
>But it worked, didn't it?
By pure dumb luck. I've had the same thing happen to me and I just smiled back and went about what I was doing. If someone is interested, they should actually say something, not just stand there with a goofy smile.

>>18066169
All that means is he put in all the effort and took a risk. You didn't do shit to signal to him you were actually interested. He didn't know until you said yes.

>>18066175
she might have a point
most women are grumpy, if one smiles at me i'm gonna think "hm maybe this one isn't a cunt"

>>18066121
>the guy looks at you, smiles and says "what?"

>>18066186
>most women are grumpy
Damn dude where are you seeing women? They're friendly as fuck here. They smile at everyone and always look pretty happy.

>>18066193
i live near seattle
i know literally two women who are nice and chipper


this place is such a fucking hellhole

>>18066195
Really? I thought Seattle was meant to be nice. Maybe I won't visit there after all.

>>18066199
please visit

everyone is polite on the surface but still fucked in the head

just never move here, biggest mistake of my life

>>18066195
Not the same anon but in a typical college campus, you'd see 10/10 blonde qts smiling at you as the norm. Yesterday I woke up at 2PM and went out to buy food, I wasn't looking particularly pleasant since I'm still half asleep and I walked past this girl in a cute dress who smiled and said heeey casually. That's an average day. Sometimes they even give you a light touch.

>>18066201
>everyone is polite on the surface but still fucked in the head
But that's the scariest kind.

>>18066203
well, full disclosure, i'm not very attractive and pretty intimidating

what you describe has never happened to me, and i've lived all over the country

Generally how does a woman feel when a guy asks them out? Even if they turn you down

>>18066233
empowered, va

>>18066233
Usually pretty great. Unless the guy is really super gross, it's nice to know you're valued.

Unfortunately I've been getting approached less and less as time goes on, guys are just meeker than I am used to and it sucks.

>>18066242
maybe you're just getting older, not that the guys are meeker kek

>>18066252
Maybe, but my attractiveness shouldn't affect their behavior when it doesn't involve me, right? It just seems that men are less masculine and rambunctious these days.

>>18064052
>tonight at work
>work retail
>have to climb up a ladder to put boxes up in shelves
>overhear two female coworkers making sexual jokes about watching me go up and down the ladder

I feel dirty, like a piece of meat. What should I do?

>>18066256
lol
here's a song to soothe your mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXcdYBh3hgg

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>>18066263
Does this mean it's time to stop having fun

>>18066268
no its time to tug on my dick

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>>18066273
toooouch it, dont be scared

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>>18066279

>>18066115

I'm a guy working a customer service job (albeit not a very demanding one) and I would have no issue if someone approached me during work hours. Being nice to customers and having a flirty flirty conversation are not mutually exclusive in my experience, unless it's a really busy day/I'm not in a good mood.

>>18066258
Similar kind of thin happened to me once on a cruise
>>Hey pretty boy come over here
>End up talking to a group of 4 girls, we all are pretty drunk
>>Go there and do a pirouette for us so we can see your physique
>Do the pirouette
>>Damn his ass is great
>>Wanna continue dancin for us in our suite?
>Decline the offer because I had a gf on the same cruise and I was going back to her after having a smoke

The only advice I can give you is that take it as a compliment and use it to boost your self-esteem.

I just had the weirdest night with a girl ever. Long story so bear with me.

We met on Tinder and hung out, on saturday. On Sunday, she proposed we watch movies at my place.

We went to my place and I couldn't quite figure out what she wanted. I asked her at one point what she was looking for and she said "she was not looking for sex and she wanted to meet friends", whereas I said "I was looking to meet people, but nothing serious". At that point things got really awkward and I just went silent. I thought she put me into friendzone and I was naive from the start.

But then she started leaning on me, first with a pillow, then on my arm, finally I moved my hand closer, grabbed her hand and kissed her.

We were making out like crazy and she kept biting me on the lip and tongue hard. But whenever I tried to put my hand on her breast she kept pushing it away.
This went on for a while, but whenever I thought she wasn't into it and I stopped, she'd lick my ear, start kissing my neck or caressing my arm. This went on for a while and eventually I became so horny and frustrated I pulled her hair, grabbed her breast and started kissing her neck. She was breathing really hard as I did it.

Then we stopped again and she just kept hugging me, resting her head or stroking my back. I asked her what's wrong and she said again that she's not looking for sex.

>>18066351

contd.

Regardless she stayed at my place and we slept in the same bed. She kept hugging me, we kept giving each other little kisses. I gave her some pajamas to wear, but when I came back from the toilet she was just in her panties. We kept spooning and my raging boner was touching her butt. She grabbed my hand and put her on her lips. I put my finger into her mouth and she started sucking on it. At that point I thought she gave me a go ahead so we started making out again, I was touching her all over, but at one point she bit me, looked really mad and pushed me away. I got confused again, said sorry and rolled over to another side of the bed.

She didn't hug me again for a while, but later in the morning she was acting like nothing happened. She was laughing at my jokes, acting all cute, kissing, hugging me and caressing my arms and back. She stayed for quite a while and before she left we made out once again, this time I started rubbing her through her pants and she breathed harder and didn't stop me. But as soon as I tried to undo the buttons, she slapped my hand again. I completely gave up at that point and she seemed kind of disappointed and quiet. But we were still hugging.

Before she left, we kissed a few times again and talked about meeting again sometime. She didn't seem that enthusiastic so I thought she was just being nice. I thought I fucked this all up, was too pushy and scared her off.

But after she left I texted her thanking her for the nice evening and we've been talking normally.

So can someone tell me what the fuck happened?
Part of me thinks she just wanted me to be to be really aggressive and fuck her like an animal, another part of me feels like I just committed sexual assault.