Sup guys, femanon here. Something weird has been happening to

People still masturbate to porn, even though they are in a relationship or married. You are still going to find others physically attractive, this is because there is no such thing as a perfect match, so many guys will be attractive to one woman. If you love your boyfriend, just ignore it and don't act on it. You are having dreams because you are making yourself obsess over this. Just forget about it.

I'm just worried because I haven't had the dreams about him before, but last week every day pretty much I had a dirty dream about him. It makes conversations relatively awkward..

My female friend had an exact thing with my male friend. She told us, to the whole group and we all had a nice laugh. We still tease her about it sometimes, so I guess you shouldn't tell this to anyone. Anyway, dreams are dreams. I sometimes dream how I suck my own cock for some reason and I am a straight guy.

>>18063201

When you say you have sexual dreams about him do you mean at night sleeping or do you fantasize about him while masturbating etc?

>>18063425
I sleep, i don't actually do anything on purpose. Therefore it seems so strange to me.

This is why you shouldn't have male friends.

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>>18063489
I've had something similar when I was having troubles with my ex, I started having sexual dreams about one of her friends. The thing is I had never given this friend a second glance, she was already in a relationship with a friend of mine as well. The dream was really vivid which caused some sexual feelings to stir up as it felt like a memory. I put it down to the medication I was taking at the time though, but also the disconnectedness I was feeling in the relationship at the time.

So, are you having problems with your relationship - or anything like I described? Otherwise, I have no idea.

>>18063201
I assume you are a young adult with a normal sex drive and because your SO is away and still have desires you transfer them to the male you are in constant real life contact with. If your bf was with you and you guys physical it wouldn't happen.

>>18063201
You're not fucking. You're not seeing your boyfriend. You spend a lot of time around another guy.
It is normal to grow some level of sexual attraction towards another person.
Spend less time with your friend, spend more time on skype with your boyfriend. Have phone sex, masturbate thinking about him.

>>18063201
>we are on student exchange together
so you didn't know this guy till you traveled for school? How is he your best friend? Sounds like you paired off with a hot guy and calling it a friend but he is your surrogate bf and you his surrogate gf. I bet he has thought about fucking you too. You guys will never make it till summer.

>>18063201
uh no I don't have sexual dreams about my male best friend. But female best friend th

>>18063201

It's normal, it means nothing unless you want it to mean something. If you can't control yourself around this person then steer clear until you can otherwise you can dump your ldr boyfriend and pursue this guy instead, it's really up to you, you shouldn't need a dream to "mean" something to make a decision.

>>18063615
I suppose I'm not seeing my boyfriend... It's a very cold relationship too.

>>18063668
Yeah problem here is that my boyfriend is constantly too busy to call me, keeps on turning it down when I want to call him so we call about once a week or less for an hour...

>>18063674
We have known each other for 3 years. 5 others from my course in home university are here with us too. There are two other girls and one more guy (complete stoner may I add). I share all classes with him pretty much so we are convinced to spend a lot of time together.

>>18063683
I just found it very strange, as in do I like him and I don't know since I have such dreams? He is attractive, I have to admit, but he has a gf and I have a bf...

>>18063674
Also I forgot to add, all four of them live together and I live alone with three other girls. It's not like we planned it out. We were mere classmates before but now all five of us grew closer because we are all in the same situation. I hope it clarifies.

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>>18063777
>I suppose I'm not seeing my boyfriend... It's a very cold relationship too.
Not surprising, you should deal with that.

>>18063798
There isn't much to be done tho desu because even when I went home for Christmas I was there for three weeks and I only saw him for three days because he didn't want to meet up, even on new year's. He won't visit (even if I offer to cover the flights for him) and he hates calling. So what potentially can be done? I feel like I depleted every option, he just refuses.

>>18063798
whoa she's actually pretty now.

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>>18063811
You kinda sound like you are in my ex's position when I was her boyfriend. I would suggest ending your relationship if he's not truly committed to it like she did with me. It sounds as though he's drifted and is keeping you around because he hasn't finally got the nerve to end it for some reason (emotionally unprepared, still having second thoughts, etc.) Truth is, he will, unless this is just a phase (I doubt it is). I don't know enough about your circumstance to give a catered opinion, but this is what I am gauging from what you have told me - although you may not like it.

>>18063777
oh, I get it. You would likely bounce to him but not sure this guy friend would bounce on his gf. You're in a mess then. Have you talked to the friend about his relationship and is he happy and have you told him you are not really getting anything out of your relationship? You guys might be ready for a hook up.

>Despite being in a serious relationship (currently ldr until summer)

You were never serious.

>>18063894
that's the best she could get kek

It's okay to have weird dreams. I had one with my mom, one with my sis, two with a cousin and two with her sis.
I even had one with a friend we made gay jokes, it's what it is, just a dream.

>>18063875
We never talk about our relationships, but he knows my boyfriend and I know his girlfriend. I dont think a hook up would be a good idea in any sense, on either mine or his behalf. I would never think of him as something more than a friend, so it kind of creeps me out that I dream such things.

>>18063903
Life is brutal lads.

>>18063201
unless you learn to do lucid dreaming and get good at it, you can't control your dreams
you don't need to worry about it, your brain is doing stuff it needs to do and you're just along for the ride

Dreams don't really mean anything. I think most people have had a dream where things have gotten sexual with somebody they wouldn't want to get sexual with. Dreams don't make sense and contain lots of things that would never happen in real life.

The fact that you're thinking about it and worrying about it, however, means that it's more likely to show up repeatedly. The more you obsess over a dream, the more likely that dream and related dreams will occur, because the dream is in your thought processes during the day and thereby likely to be revisited at night. If you stop worrying, it will go away.

However, it seems like your current relationship isn't fulfilling, and that should be addressed. The best you can do is communicate and try to fix it. But if your bf won't communicate and meet you halfway, then things aren't going to get better. It sounds like you've already tried.

>>18063419
>and I am a straight guy
uhuh

Well I am aware that dreams are a creation of the subconscious and shouldn't mean anything but like... It's really fucking wierd. I never had such dreams about anyone else. I try not to give it any particular meaning, I just wonder if it's normal. It creeps me out.

>>18064236
yes its normal. everyone gave the same answer, stop asking. i see dragons in my dream. it doesnt mean shit.

it sounds like you haven't been very intimate with your bf lately? maybe when you work that out you'll stop having lewd thoughts about your friend

>>18063201
Talk to your male friend about your sexual fantasies about him. Make sure that it is in an intimate relaxed Setting where nobody else could get the wrong idea. Also you should both be drunk or high on molly or something to get around the awkwardness of the Topic. Makes sure that you describe your desires in Detail to him so you can figure out together what to do about that sticky Situation. God Speed You OP

>>18064303
Don't do this OP. I did with my best male friend after having sex dreams and we had sex.

>>18064306
That's probably a lie Op. I did this with my best buddie and now we are cool together because we talked it out over a glass of wine.

>>18064312
Not a lie. I will say I'm not sorry we slept together. I just suggested OP not say anything to the guy because it is intimate and in my situation took our friendship to a different level since we had never really talked about sex with each other, other people but not each other. I also had just broken up with my bf.

>>18064325
Holy fuck! You know my "Suggestion" was just some over the top bad bait right? I wanted to give horrible advice to get some (you)s. But you actually took it seriously. Not what I expected but interesting nontheless. At least you didn't cheat

>>18064350
Well you got me but I hope it's something that may help OP. Maybe

LDR suck for the same reason: lack of physical contact. Because of this there is suspicion when someone doesn't answer the phone where's not on the computer at a certain time. Paranoia starts rising up and distrust happens. Physical contact needs to happen in order for a relationship to prosper.

That dude you dreamed about is in a LDR too. Ask him how his is going. From there you can assess whether to take things further FWB style.

>>18065169
The distance definitely is killing a lot of whatever affection we had for each other.
Physical closeness is something I look for but obviously not getting. I do suffer sexual frustration very often but won't cheat on my bf, that's not right.