ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

For 29 years, I believed that girls didn't use deodorant. ;_;

>>18060436
We fart too.

When fucking I sweat like a priest on trial. I end up dripping all over the girl to the extent that she basically has my scent afterwards.

Are some girls bothered by the sweat?

>>18060445
Unless he drips on me or something, no.

To muh femanons: do driving and working matter as much to you as cooking and cleaning seems insulting to expect from women?

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>>18060445
Maybe a bandana helps.

>>18060470
I work, clean, cook and drive. I expect my partner to do the same. I don't think that being a functioning adult is much to expect from a person.

>>18060445
Yes. I don't like it. I had this one night stand that was completely slippery wet and it was disgusting.
I had a boyfriend that once dripped on me while he was on top and it was offputting. Even more so when we had to sleep in the wet patches he had left. Sorry.

>>18060470
Not sure I understand the question, I guess it comes from a "I can't ask my woman to cook and clean anymore so why do girls care about the driving and working" stuff?

Why do girls in small towns go on an on about how they would never date a dude their small town. It's not a fucking tribe where you know every fuckin' dude, the average girl should be able to find a dude in her age range who she's reasonably compatible with in a small town with a population of 20.000 people.

Is getting a boyfriend from out of town some kind of escapist fantasy where you find someone who couldn't possibly know about your past or something because he isn't from your small town?

>>18060492
Because if you marry someone from a big town you can move out of you shitty small town without much effort.

>>18060498
That certainly makes sense, but I'm currently in my fourth year in high school (I'm 19) and I keep hearing this from high school girls, and I'm pretty sure that they aren't looking for someone with whom they will be compatible for the rest of their lives, just a normal romantic relationship between teens/young adults.

>>18060507
Also, It's the population is low but It's a touristy place in europe, not some shit small town in Iowa.

>>18060492
>some kind of escapist fantasy
you know, i'm starting to think that this is literally it
or maybe it's some sort of female archetype, I don't know. But most girls don't dream of going steady asap with someone from a small village.

>>18060470
Not sure of exactly what you are asking, but I like working and driving way more than I like cleaning. But I absolutely love cooking and pretty much consider it a hobby.


In regards to relationship stuff, as long as my bf helps a bit, I don't mind doing most of the cleaning. I usually fold and hang up his laundry but he puts it in the washer and dryer. I clean his dishes, but he takes out the trash, helps me move furniture for vacuuming and other things that involve heavy lifting.

>>18060492
Well, if you look at how small towns are depicted in media, they are seen as boring, no one ever leaves, etc.

I am not entirely sure of that exact mindset because I grew up in a city, but having known many single females in their early 20s, they want the excitement of dating someone new and experiencing something new. My friends refuse to date anyone from our high school or who lives in our city.

I don't get it. I've been dating someone I have known since I was 14. It's still exciting and it's nice to have things in common (i.e. where we grew up, school and college, and etc.)

>>18060540
Why can't people realize that being compatible with someone is more important and, in fact harder to attain that getting your stupid fucking fantasy mate.

Girlfriend told me she had weekend off a few weeks ago. Told her last week to let's do something Saturday, Ok sure!.

Bring it up Thursday to reconfirm. Oh no, I can't, I forgot my relatives birthday was rescheduled to that day. What about Sunday? Oh (her girl friend) invited me over for dinner blah blah

What bothers me is that this is turning into a common occurrence. Friends are taking a priority while she says we don't much.. Well why the fuck don't you invite me along? Am I supposed to invite myself? It seemed like you didn't want to go!

Only when she feels like she can lose me she unfucks herself, especially when other women start taking interest in me

Is this a case of bad communication? Getting comfortable? Just wants a partner so she's not lonely?

>>18060403
My Gf feels kinda like depressed, I asked her if it was something in particular but she said she doesn't know... What can I do to make her feel better? She is always very happy although her family doesn't give a crap about her. I believe it's her family causing this but still I'm not sure. Would the femanons help me please?

>>18060561

>cuddle
>naked

>>18060561
No one but your girls knows whats inside her head, famalam. Also, girls don't have some special vagina power insight into each others psyche.

If your girls is depressed, or even suicidal, there is definitely a clear reason for this that she knows, but won't tell you. Unless she has some kind of manic depression / bipolar disorder or whatever.

>>18060561
Can't know what it is until she talks about it.

I'd say something along the lines of, "I wish you were feeling better. I'm here for you if you ever need to talk about it."

You can translate that into however you speak to her. Most important thing is to let her know she is supported. I wouldn't press for answers, but let her know you're available when she is ready. Be affectionate, caring, do things she likes, help take the load off her, don't take it personally if she's in a bad mood around you.

>>18060488
If you don't like it then maybe you could the work yourself, instead of just lying there while the guy is pumping you like a dog.

>>18060492
its because what if it ends? you are totally fucked because you can coincidentally meet him in your home town and people talk a lot there too. its just off-putting thinking about dating someone in a small town

>>18060594
This is a pretty legitimate concern, but it seems like an arbitrary reason to refuse to date someone

>>18060606
is there someone who wouldnt date you for that reason?
might be an excuse

>>18060552
Probably the last option.

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since there isn't a short question thread...
>friend is getting it on with a girl at a bar
>girl likes me too much
>girl is up to threesome, so is friend
>finally realizes fantasy about double teaming a cute girl
>too drunk, dick wont get hard
>just pass out while the two are having sex
kill me

For both genders (just looking for more input)


Why would I have a gut feeling that it will work out with a girl, even if all seems to be going against it?

>>18060679
Wishful thinking is a bitch.

>>18060686
Wouldn't wishful thinking need to be conscious? Consciously I know it probably isn't working. But my gut says other wise.

I suppose it can be possible for there to be something my gut is picking up on?
Or it may be looking at the big picture instead of focusing on smaller details?

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I've had a LDR that was working really well, for the past 2 years. She was madly in love with me, and so was i. She was talking about loving me forever, mariage, all that shit. She's still in highschool but was supposed to come study in my city next year (i'm older than her). Everything seemed to be fine.
I went to her house for Christmas and she seemed genuinely happy with me.
The past 2 month has been pure nightmares. Exam have been really hard on me so I couldn't speak to her as much as i wanted. The she started being distant. I had to go to the hospital for 2 weeks, and she didn't talk to me at all during this period. It was fucking painful, i needed her you know?
After a few days, she calls me saying she wants to end it all, the usual shit. Says she fell in love with someone else. She keeps talking to me, but I feel like another dumb cunt to her.
She's coming to my city in a few days. I don't really know what to do, I love her, I truly do. But it seems so hopeless. I want to be with her. I also want to beat her senseless. What do ?

I dont want to make my own thread for this.

I havent talked to a girl at school since last semester and I just started seeing her in the halls again when our classes lined up. I liked her and as far as I can tell she liked me (smiling, playing with her hair, laughing) did I fuck up by not asking her out? We've said hi and she still does that stuff with me but as far as I can see no one else (not stalker). But I dont know if she even remembers my name. Would I be wrong to ask her out right away or should I try and start over with an introduction and all that? Or should I just shove off because I didnt make a move?

My sister just informed me and my gf that her friend, an underage girl I'm tutoring is having a huge crush on me. It started with one weekend, sister and her friend asked me a math problem, then afterwards we set aside one evening every week to talk about math and problem solving, I'm guiding her through Polya and Engel's book. The bright young girl is making very nice progress while my sister quit pretty much after our first session.
My gf said it's not even my job and I should stop doing this, but mentoring this girl really changed me. I'm in grad school and I absolutely hate teaching, but for some reason it makes me very happy to watch this girl grow and her thoughts become more sophisticated as a result of my work (and her work). She got pretty far from where we started and I would always tell her not to forget to hang out with friends her age, play volleyball with my sister and not to think about math all the time and it is very important to be able to stop her mind and relax when she got stuck on a problem. And she is able to balance everything! being active socially and being fairly good at math for her age. I am very proud of her. If I'm being honest I actually look forward to our study session and since gf couldn't care less about math, teaching this girl actually relieved me of stress and it allowed me to look at elementary mathematics through the eyes of a young girl, a very interesting experience.
Would my gf (or girls, in general) understand this perspective if I express my reluctance to stop? to show that we are completely innocent I even told my gf she could stay in the room and watch us. But after 30 minutes she left, just because me and the girl sometimes joke and laugh about silly math related stuffs?

Girls and guys

I just fapped 2 minutes ago and I feel so fucking angry with myself right now. I feel as if I just ruined my entire fucking day by fapping. I fucking hate doing it, but stupid natural instinct makes it hard not to. I'm so fucking angry

Anyone else ever feel like this?

>>18060759
whenever I fap a lot, I start to get creeping thoughts of being lesser, flawed, worse etc. than other people, since I can't even get laid, the most natural thing humans do after breathing. If I keep at nofap 4-5 days, then shoot a load I never feel like I get trapped inside a self-beating mind.

>>18060779

I'm pissed because when I fap, it gives me this mental fog, I have an important course I have to attend in 2 FUCKING HOURS. Now, I'm not going to be able to fucking focus and learn.

fuck this shit, FUCK

>>18060785
I know that mental fog very well.

>>18060740
Is the girl a minor?


I think your girlfriend might be a little jealous. If that girl didn't have a stupid crush on you, do you think your gf would be okay with it?

I work with kids too and sometimes the boys develop crushes on me but I just remain really professional, but still joke with them to make the material interesting. My bf jokes about boys liking me and I joke to bf like "Mr. Steal Yo Girl gave me a valentine today." and stuff, but it's never to the point where anything is negative or bf doesn't want me to do my job.


I think you are doing a good thing. I think the girl having a crush on you is typical. The only time you'd really have to call it quits is if the girl you tutor crosses a line. Like asking for your personal phone number or your personal time, if she is mean to your gf, etc. Even then, that is something to talk about to the girl. Like saying, "I am your math tutor, our relationship is not like this. I am aware of your crush, but you cannot treat me like this. I won't be able to tutor you, if you do not keep your behavior under control."


I think it's weird that your girlfriend would even think something along the lines of that.

>>18060791

I fucking wish I didn't have a sex drive. This shit only makes my life harder. Gah I'm fucking upset right now

>>18060793

Thank you!

She's 16.
She already has my phone number, maybe she asked my sister I am not sure. Sometimes she texts me to talk about school related stuffs, like some class is boring and she jokes about it, once she did send me a pic of her in PE shorts (saying she hates it) but I did not reply to that so she stopped. I did not think about it or mention it at all and our study session proceeded as usual.

Afaik she doesn't talk to my gf much, aside from the usual greeting.

>I think it's weird that your girlfriend would even think something along the lines of that.
Right? she's been cranky lately.

Are you a teacher? do you have a favorite student? like the one you think that you (and not other teachers) really made a difference in their life?

Girls

Would you date a guy that doesn't have any real hobbies?

any femanons have tips on how my gf can be more dominate? She likes giving me prostate orgasm but what can she do when my dick is in her?

>>18060832
>Sometimes she texts me to talk about school related stuffs, like some class is boring and she jokes about it
I would say not to respond to those things either. While it's meaningless to you, it's not meaningless to her. Keep things strictly about tutoring and math and don't respond to anything else.


I'm an aide for children with learning disabilities like ADD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia. I'm currently working on my degree and credentials. Almost ready to start out as a sub!

I do feel like I made a difference. For kids with ADD, I really had to try and teach out of the box to keep them interested, so I did come off as both a friend and a teacher. It's a really hard balance to maintain.

I did have a couple of favorites. I would work with a small group of two 12 year old boys who barely knew how to read. One had ADHD and he was just all over the place. He was challenging and very self defeating when it came to reading. So encouraging him was my main goal. He was paired with this very sweet boy with dyslexia. This boy had a lot of anxiety towards school. He'd confide in me that he'd get so nervous coming to school that he puked every morning. They were just such a pleasure to work with and when I saw their test scores go up I was so proud of them and felt like I really influenced them in some way. So I understand your attachment to this girl.

>>18060861
What you do is very noble, and sometimes it can be a thankless job, but I hope you always succeed like you did. When I had the choice of being an co-instructor with my prof or stay in research I totally picked the latter because teaching a whole class is a pain to me, a lot of energy and preparation time is required. But mentoring one student is totally different. It's easier and much more fulfilling.
Thanks for the insights. Now I have to make my gf understand this.

>>18060403
do you guys thinks it's worth getting invested in someone that lives 3 hours away but goes to the same school and is also graduating next year

I don't think this deserves its own thread:

How do I overcome the anxiety when talking to girls that I want to fuck? For example I stopped using Tinder because I got really fucking anxious about it and ended up deleting it. Then I got a dose of shame for being so useless in the dating scene.

>>18060844
yeah, we can be boring together.

>>18060949
benis in vagina is never boring XDD

>>18060706
Just fucking dump her, I was in a situation like this a month ago, my friend has been away for a year and his girlfriend is in the same city with me, last month I found out that she fell in love with a different guy and they confessed love to each other, and from where I am the thing that is best is to just dump her unfaithful ass and move on with your life and studies, might be hard but that's the right thing to do.

>>18060844
what does even count as a hobby?

>>18060844
What's a 'real' hobby?

>>18061036
Anything not video games and spebding time browsing the internet

Girls or guys

What's the protocol for if a girl stops messaging you on Tinder? It's been a couple of days and I'm wondering what I should message her is anything to gauge if she's still interested.

>>18061128
I would message once, and if she doesn't respond, just forget about it.

>>18061128
how many times have you messaged her without her replying?

How do you know you're in love? I'm afraid movies, TV, etc. may have built the idea and standard up too much.

>>18060969
>>18061036
What I mostly do in my free time is consume entertainment (such as internet, tv shows, movies, music, video games, porn, etc) if that gives you an idea

>>18061136
Ok thanks

>>18061140
Just once. It was late and I waited a while between messages. Also my last message was a little awkward and didn't give her much to work off of.

Ok question for Girls. My whole life I've been hit with things like "All men want is sex", and various other societal sayings that suppress my sexuality for feeling it's wrong. But in suppressing it and acting as a friend first I just end up as a friend. I don't check girls out cause it's rude, I don't make moves etc. I'm not sexual, because society essentially also slut shamed me. So in the age of fuckboiz, men are dogs, all men want is sex, etc:

Women are you offended by men checking you out, pursuing you sexually, and basically expressing their sexuality?

Girls, what do you find more attractive? Blonde hair vs dark hair?

>>18061301
It's normal to want sex, what those sayings mean is being used ONLY for sex when they want a relationship. For example, trying to have a boyfriend, but they don't care about affection only sex. Or getting ridiculous "flirting" like dick pics.

Normal flirting and checking out is totally normal and you shouldn't be ashamed of it.

were you raised by a single mother btw?

How occasionally i should text a girl to make her interested in me but to not make she think that i'm a psycho?

We've met on a college party, we hooked up, i didn't except that she'll text me at night but she did it and i'm start to feeling that she really likes me. Should i propose a next date? If yes, when?

>>18061357
>expecting a good relationship coming from a hookup

lmao one of you morons will cheat on the other within a month

>>18061351
Yeah. I was raised by a single mother.
>Guys not caring about affection only sex.
It's ironic because I don't really care about sex, and would much rather affection from girls, but they rarely give it unless it's a sexual relationship. I'd rather give affection that sex as well.

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Women: How would you react if I fb messaged you even if we don't talk asking to go on a date, for example a botanical garden (i'm lonely and I wanna go ;_;) I'm also pretty handsome but obviously still scared of coming across as 'creepy'. desu I just want to have some social interaction

>>18061357
does she seem like a fuckboy magnet?
if so text her constantly she's used to it

if not you can space it out to every couple days

Why do I have a sudden urge to text her?

>>18060445
Ive only had one boyfriend and Ive never had sex, but the thought of his sweat turns me on
I would like to see him hot and sweaty and I think Id enjoy feeling both of our sweaty bodies against each other

Its probably an individual thing
Even a turn on for some

>>18060470
I dont find it insulting at all for a man to have standards that include being able to cook and clean

>>18060445
Some are, I'm not. I find it really hot.

>>18060561
I was depressed from 8 years old onward

My boyfriend made my life so much better it isnt even funny but I still feel depressed sometimes and I doubt that aspect of me is ever going to truly go away

You should not assume something specific is wrong, sometimes people are just that sort of people and will be depressed at times

>>18060561
If her homelife is making her sad, give her a little break from it. Take her to your place to hang out.

>>18061327
dark hair

>>18061554
Sorry, I meant "do you think she's texting a lot of guys"
Just go for it, you have a good chance with her and nothing to lose.

>>18061367
This is why i found strange that she text me after the party, for me that was just a good time together with some kisses but if she really likes me, i'm a very lonely guy [spoiler]almost depressive, according to my doctor[/spoiler] and a female company 'll just gonna add to my life. I just don't want to screw things up like every time.

>>18061399
She doesn't look like a model but is pretty enough for my standards.

>>18061327
Blond

>>18060793
I wouldnt tell the girl youre aware of her crush unless something happened that needed to stop
Right now their relationship is fine as it is and that would be needlessly making her feel pain/shame/etc and could even diminish her love for the math if she has to associate with those negative feelings of doing something wrong/being rejected

Yea guy's girlfriend needs to trust him and have faith in him

>>18060844
I am right now

>>18061565
>i realize that i don't know how to spoiler anymore

>>18061564
She's new at the college, she knows a few girls from her class and a gay dude who introduced us to each other (she's almost so shy than me). At least, on the party, i was the only one that she gives her phone.

>>18061327
Depends on the guy but blonde catches my eye more

depends on the girl whether she likes blonde or dark more
Keep your natural hair color, it isnt at all important

>>18061301
I am not at all offended, I actually find it extremely flattering and get a real kick out of it - validation is nice and boosts my ego

Im also awkward as fuck so I dont know how to respond and will usually brush it off or go "o-okay" but it always makes me happy when someone has found me attractive

>>18061392
Single mothers give very poor insight into females, because they are not health or well adjusted females themselves 99% of the time

The exception to this is if they literally had their husband die in a car crash/war/etc

Even if he was the one who walked out, shes the one who picked that guy and had his kid

>>18061398
I wouldnt feel comfortable about it unless I at least talked to you occasionally, even if just a few times a month

>>18061392
>Yeah. I was raised by a single mother.
That explains everything

>>18060403
Ive been in a LDR with someone online for almost 2 years now. This is also the first relationship Ive ever been in
We wont be able to see each other for an additional two years

Thoughts and advice on how to make this as successful as possible?

Men what would you want from your girlfriend in this sort of relationship? How can I better be a partner to him while a 1000 miles away?

>>18061652
>We wont be able to see each other for an additional two years
jesus fucking christ. did trump kick you out or something?

obviously talk all the time, maybe send nudes or talk dirty if you're comfortable doing so, send each other presents? idk
if it's lasted this long you're obviously doing something right, you don't need to change anything

27m, lost my virginity a few months ago, been in a short term relationship but it didn't work out.

After my last relationship failed I decided I need to gain more experience and just date for a while to see what I want. However, I'm having a problem understanding how to navigate the realms of dating without hurting anyone's feelings.

- What is the proper etiquette when I know I didn't like the girl enough after the first date? I always say thank you for the date, but I just don't really contact them afterwards. Ghosting seems a bit mean, but telling someone "thanks, but I don't want to see you again" seems even worse.
- If I do like the girl and want to continue seeing her, when is it ok to have sex with her? I find often that I would like to sleep with someone, perhaps even see them for a while, but don't see a chance for long term relationship. Sleeping with them seems like a mean and manipulative thing and I don't want to use anyone. How do I make sure we're on the same page?
-If I do have sex with someone is it ok to get physical with other people? Should I tell that to my potential sexual partners?
-If at some point I do find someone I would like to settle down for what is the proper way to end those other relationships?

tldr, need a guide to casual relationships without being a dick. I just want to have some fun and get more experience without making promises I can't keep.

I have nothing to ask, I just think you're all fucking nuts and I'm glad I'm still a virgin and never had a serious relationship. I'll take being lonely any day over dealing with your stupid games. I've made it my goal to lead on as many of you as I can before I inevitably start flaking out on them just as they think there's a chance.

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>>18061652
>long distance relationship
Why do people do this shit.

>>18061652

Nothing is ever 100% certain but statistics are not in your favor.

>>18061351
>>18061622
I guess I'm kind of looking for the truth, evidence that says hey, your fears of expressing sexuality (obvs not creepily) are exaggerated. I just kind of want to be able to give myself permission.
>>18061614
Thanks

>>18061685
Alright cool. But they will move on, people don't care as much as you might think.

Unless it's ultimate level betas, they'll care. So have at them.

>>18061652
>How can I better be a partner to him while a 1000 miles away?

You can't.

Does Tindr really require phone verification? I don't want that shit having my phone number

Girls, what does it mean when a girl pretends to find something I said funny?

There is this girl at college that I only share a class with, that does this mild laugh every once in a while that I say something "funny" (I don´t even try to be funny, I am just used to be a little snarky because all the males in my family are like that), even when it is totally lames stuff like "I bet the sun will freeze the day our teacher isn´t late", and so on.

I know the stock response to this is "maybe she likes you", but I doubt is that, I am not attractive by any means (my face is average as fuck I am overweight) and she is very attractive, but I don´t know, I actually like her but I was not going to try anything because I always thought she is way out of my league, but this situation makes consider things.

What do you think?

>>18061652
Move. If you're willing to stay for 2 years in a miserable relationship, then the hurdles of moving should be nothing in comparison.

>>18061717

Autism.

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I made a date with a girl on Tinder for this Tuesday on Thursday night and we haven't chatted since. Should I message her to see how her weekend is going or wait until Tuesday and just confirm we're still on?

>>18061685
Sadly, I feel the same.

I have pretty much no experience with dating, what relationships I've had I basically stumbled into with friends. In other words, I have no idea when to go for the kiss etc. How much is stuff like that going to nail me in the ass, because I've heard women will interpret shit like that as a sign of disinterest.

Hey adv, I was wondering what your opinion was on the relationship that this girl and I have.

We share the same class together and on the second day, we ended up having a 20+ minute conversation from nothing. Eventually, I aded her on Facebook then she added me on instagram where she and i exchanged memes for a week or two while we still talked during class. One day, I asked her what her favorite song was on instagram, then we ended up talking for nearly 5 hours until 4 in the morning on some deeper subjects. The next day we made plans to get food after class. We did so, and as normal, conversation was really lively and we were making each other laugh. Then the next day, I said that we should get food at midnight and she agreed. She came right from work and we talked till one in the morning. People say that this sounds like a romantic thing but I can't tell the difference between this relationship and a friend. Should I? I'm really interested and confused and would like to hear other people's opinions on the matter.

>>18061738

Radio silence till Tuesday my friend. And Tuesday you don't confirm you're still on, you just let her know when you're on your way. She already agreed to going out, why would you need to confirm it? It just shows you're not very confident.
If she texts you before then text her back but keep it brief.

>>18061717
Maybe she just likes snarky remarks.

>>18061746
it sounds romantic but there's no way to be sure unless you ask her

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>>18060735
Y'know, I cant really tell u what to do, 'cos that's matter of your character and all that shit, but if I was in your shoes I would not wait for anyone else to catch her interest. I have made that fail twice and since then I am convinced that it's always better to tell someone your feelings, even to be turned down, than to regret not doing it.

So my advice is:

YOU WERE MADE TO
GO OUT AND GET HEEEEEER

>>18060935
Real question is:
Why would it NOT be worth it?

I mean, you just need to evaluate your need for relationship with that person. If it is anything close to, idk, serious crush to you, then i think it is worth it.

>>18061141
There is no simple answer and I think it depends on your understanding of love. Every person can feel and understand it differently. So you just need to discover what being in love means to you.

Also, dont be fooled by desire/crush. Y'know, when you have this specific feeling about someone/something. That's just very intense, but ephemeral excitation.

>>18061680

Forgot to mention. I met up with a girl for lunch, she's 19 and I'm 27. I matched with her on Tinder and I kind of did it on a whim, because I just want to get out there. But we hit it off and spent most of the day together talking.

She suggested we watch a movie next time and I would like to have sex with her or at least kiss her and fool around a bit, but I would like to keep it strictly casual. Is it a good idea? If so, how do I make sure we're on the same page?

I often find that I'm so worried about hurting someone that I never end up making a move.

>>18061828
Unfortunately I cant advise you on your whole problem

BUT

I can tell you one, very important thing:
Don't let her think you want serious relationship unless you really, really, want it.

If you woo her and then tell her you treat it casually, she will propably feel very, very bad, maybe even exploited.

What I would do is, I would talk to her openly and honestly about my attitude, without worrying about anything.

But that's me.

SO, my advice is: whatever you do, please, dont make her feel like it is meant to be something bigger.

>>18061721
>cant

Do you know what the word means?

>qt lab partner touched my arm when I made a self-deprecating joke

What does it mean?

>>18061880
You have nice, soft arm.

Srsly, if it is only unusual interaction this person had with you, and if it is not extremely shy type then it propably does not mean nothin.

Which does not mean you can't be interested in that person, anon, dont get me wrong.

>>18061840

Thanks. It's a tricky situation.
I never dated before in my life. I was always focused on my studies, career and forced to move due to work. I didn't like the idea, of short term relationships so I didn't pursue anyone.
But I realized that lifestyle made me extremely lonely so I had to change it.
I met a girl on Tinder, slept with her on the first date and really really liked her. I thought I wanted something more serious, but the longer we were together the more I realized I was too afraid to commit to someone. I felt like I had to make up for the years I lost and I ended the relationship because I just couldn't commit emotionally to her. I really like her, but she deserves someone who can give her what she needs.

Since then, I wanted to discover what I look for in women and get my dating fears out of my system. Going on dates is fun and innocent. But as soon as I start getting the desire to have sex with them I get really confused over what is the right thing to do.

With this girl my feelings are as follows. I do like her, I do enjoy her company, we have lots in common and I feel attracted to her. But I do not know if I would like to be in a relationship with her.

If things start to get physical, I plan to tell her, that I'm not looking for anything serious. But is it ok to kiss her first? I don't even know if she's that into me sexually, so telling her I'm not looking for anything serious seems a bit arrogant and awkward.

I have no idea if what I say makes any sense. I've realized I'm not ready for a long term relationship, but I'm too inexperienced to know how to have casual relationships.

>>18061893

And forgot to mention. All the women I went on dates with have been younger than me. I do not chose younger women to prey on them (or at least that's what I believe), but rather I feel the experience gap with women my age would be too great. Even younger women I've met seemed much more experienced sexually than myself.

>>18061754
Is there a way to ask without it causing awkwardness between us?

>>18061893
Welp, it's time that my personal insecurities and lack of experience causes lack of good advice.

BUT

I can at least tell you what I would do.

I would talk to her. Like, before any closer interaction could happen. I would talk with full honesty - in the way that maes man talk passionate and loud. I would throw all my feelings away, I would open myself.

That way, altho you risk with, well, not getting laid, you gain comfort of being sure about your own righteousness, and avoid breaking a young heart, Also: honesty is key to freedom. Freedom brings passion. Passion is goddamned sexy.

I hope what I wrote makes sense.

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Weird question here for girls, but I swear it's not bait, it's just me being contemplative:

I appreciate you gals being here, but everything I've heard via my social media makes me question why you're here in the first place? Seriously, like why? Why on a website that's so male-centric and "misogynist." All my Facebook Liberal friends would make a case of this website erasing femininity by insisting that no one let on that they're a girl here. By having board culture dictate that anons spam "Tits or gtfo" or "L O N D O N" every time you let on you're a girl, you're devaluing/demeaning/buzz-wording yourselves. Doesn't that get tiring? Doesn't having to hide your sex and play along with the "claim your waifus" or ogling/objectifying sexy chicks make you feel unwelcome/unwanted? Why do you not go to more accepting sites (you know the ones I'm talking about)? I know there is an objective appeal to the anonymity, the natural flow of conversation, the unpretentious aura of it all, but I can't help but wonder if it gets grating for women, or if any of you really, truly love immersing yourself in this morasses. Do you ever feel out of place here? How have you coped with this? What keeps bringing you back, as opposed to the more "female friendly" websites? Does there literally have to be something "off" with you to enjoy hanging around here?

>>18061901
Say you heard she was interested in you
It sounds like you're good friends so it's not like she's going to hate you for asking

>>18061912
Male anon here, but I just wanted to point out, it depends on board and time of posting.

>>18061910

Thank you Anon, I think you are right. If I sense any physical interest on her part I will just tell her how I feel about relationship s point blank. Not getting laid is something I can deal with. I will just jerk myself off like I did for the most part of my adult life. At least I will do so with my conscience clean.

>>18061912
It depends on the board and if gender is even relevant on that board. The shitty ones like /fa/ and such of course go full L O N D O N but I've found /adv/ to be more accepting.

Most of the time there's no reason to announce your gender anyway.

>>18061853

You "can't" or you "won't"? What's stopping you exactly? Are you serving a sentence?

My point is that if you're willing to risk your sanity for two years you might as well risk everything else that's stopping you right now.

>>18061916
It's complicated because we only met like, 3-4 weeks ago, and we have no mutual friends so I don't know how it would work with asking her that way.

>>18061929
I wish you both good luck. :)

>>18061938
Nobody announces gender because the assumption is that "there are no girls on the internet" ie. Everyone here is male. Is that something that bothers you, or is such "male domination" so omnipresent that you don't even notice it?

(Jesus christ, this is REALLY white knighty, but I'm on a roll, so fukkit.)

>>18061958
But if everyone, for all intents and purposes, is treated like the same gender, then why do genders matter at all?

>>18061746
She's interested. Most people will tell their friends to fuck off and let them sleep at midnight and not stay up til 4am.

>>18061958
>Nobody announces gender because the assumption is that "there are no girls on the internet"
No, it's because gender usually doesn't matter. I mean if it's gender specific yes like "is this a game girls like" which menas its fine to announce your gender but if it was "is this a good game" and you reply "im a girl and-" then no. I see a lot of girls doing that around here and I don't get it. I just assume they must be dumb attention whores because it doesn't matter.

>>18061973
If it doesn't matter, then how do girls feel about all the, say, "waifu" threads or "hot vidya cheracters" threads. That's the sort of shit my liberal facebook friends would castigate 4chan over, and accuse the girls who put up with it of "abetting sexism/objectification." I want to know if such male-pandering makes the girls here feel uncomfortable/unwanted, because I'm sure that's what my FB friends would say, and honestly, as white-knight as it is for me to say this, I'd hate to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

Anonymous 02/19/17(Sun)12:03:41 No.18062001 ▶
don't know if this is the best place to post this but whatever

>matched with girl a week ago
>sparsely talk for a few days
>talk for like 2-3 hours and exchange nudes on snapchat one night (says she wants me to take her to dinner)
>she doesn't reply the next day
>talk again the next day and night (finally ask her on a date, she says she's free a couple of days next week) and snapchat again. she seemed fairly keen for me too.
>text her last night. she replied twice but that's it
>I also use flamite (tinder) on PC which says when they were last online and she's been online since then, probably talking to other guys but ignoring my texts

normally I don't really care but this is really the first girl out of the hundreds i've spoken to on tinder that I actually have genuine interest in for something besides a hook up

how can I fix this?

>>18062000
Heck no, that's just how it is. Have you seen some of the other boards on here? Some of the anime ones are all women and post those weird gay comics of guys (women like gay guys in porn, don't ask me to explain it). /tv/ also has it's share of threads like "most attractive male actors" so there isn't as much gender division on this as people think.

Facebook libs are worst than the political/social people on here since here is kind of all just shit that people don't take too serious (if at all) in real life but those facebook types are like that in real life. I've had my share of those types at parties, it's awful.

Is it a good idea to use insoles to look slightly taller? I'm 5'6" male.

>>18062024
Thanks for the reassurance, m80. I hope you're a girl and aren't some dude speaking out his ass.
If anyone else has other opinions, I'd love to hear 'em. I'll be drinking and lurking all night.

>>18062089
girls that freak out about waifu threads or whatever the fuck are the loud minority
even other feminist girls would call them extreme
most people are reasonable most of the time

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>>18062089
You seem to be working under the notion that the same women that bitch about erasing their identity are the same kind of people that go here. You bring up waifu threads, but christ I probably have half of /v/ hidden from the get go with the filters I have. You are not forced to "go along with it" as you said earlier, you can just ignore them easily. Obviously that's blasphemy to the kind of woman that wrings her hands about a safe space, but that's the norm for imageboards. If that's not the culture that appeals to you, you can honestly fuck off and everyone will be happier off for it including the offended party.

On top of that you mentioned how everyone assumes "there are no girls on the internet". You're half right there, but missed the reasoning. There is no reason to broadcast your gender 99% of the time, unless you're after attention. When my friend posted on /fit/ about getting vitamins she included the fact she was a woman, for a valid reason. The worst she got was a bit of LONDON spam which nobody should ever take seriously, followed by actual advice. You talk about erasure of the "female identity", when the whole point of this website is to be ANONYMOUS. Tripfags, broadcasting your gender for attention, etc all run counter to that.

Finally you seem to think women hate women being sexualized. They don't generally. Take a look at Bayonetta, the sexual character in high heels with legs for days. She was designed by a woman, who was upset when she found out people were making porn of her. Why? Not because she was in sexual situations, but because she was shown in a submissive role. Women also make a disproportionate amount of the hentai this imageboard loves to consume. Not to mention women definitely consume it too, and there are even threads on /h/ and /d/ where women talk about what shit they like.


t. man that has a few women friends that frequent this site

>>18061746
>I really enjoy time with you. Lets go on a date.

Make a plan based on what you know about her. Keep it simple but interesting.

>>18060679
ideas?

>>18062148
Won't the suggestion raise awkwardness if it isn't reciprocated?

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My best friend is a girl
We planned on a roadtrip tomorrow
I asked her "whats the plan?"
Left me seen
Dont wanna be a bother so i haven't called
Would i be a pest if i just call her and ask whats up?

Wondering about how our relationship can be seen.

Met this girl in class, we didn't speak much, but see seemed to stare occasionally and sit next to me randomly. Once or twice she kinda positioned her self to show off to me. We began talking, but I would always initiate it, and she would be receptive to the conversation and would keep it going. After a few weeks I asked her to get lunch (Wasn't worded as a date) we met up, along with another friend of hers, and just sat in the garden talking about shit. But on the last day of class, she seemed very cold and distant. We haven't spoken in person since (Been 9 months?) But we have been texting occasionally, and the conversations at shortest are an hour, but most are 6+hrs. We talk about most stuff except for emotional stuff. She also has been trying to motivate me to become an EMT like her.
But for some reason she shys away from getting together when I try. She would say stuff like "Definitely, but I'm Busy" or just won't respond to those messages

>>18062248
I mean, if it's that close to the "go date" and you still haven't made a set plan, I would assume it's not happening imo.
But yea, I'd say its ok to spam her a little bit, since if you are leaving you'd need time to get ready.
This sounds like it was probably something brought up casually that neither of you really bothered to flesh out though, so I'd just call once, if she doesn't answer, I'd assume you're not going.

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I feel like this is a unique situation so I need to clarify that I'm not using hyperbole.
> my boyfriend looks like a literal pervert/creep
> he's not, obviously, but he has poor sense of style, dark features, and he's really awkward in public
> since I've been with him, I've seen girls freeze up or look uncomfortable being in his presence, whether it's people in passing, or waitresses
> a woman snatched up her son at the grocery store and shot him a dirty look
> he can't do anything about being awkward, and I know he's not a creep, but I really need him to start dressing more sensibly
I just need to know if this is understandable and how can I bring it to him?

>>18062059
5'6 isnt too terrible to begin with, but what is an insole gonna do? Give you maybe a half an inch to an inch? I can't see it giving much more without just looking unnatural. It's not gonna do much for you anyway.
I'd go with the OP
>complexes are always a turn off
Own your height man, but if it'll make you feel better fine, give it a try. I think since you're asking, it'll probably just give you more anxiety.
Like, my dad started losing his hair mid 20's. He told me once he bought a toupee because he was insecure about the bald spot, but it didn't help him at all. Because he just went from stressing about the bald spot, to stressing about whether or not people would know he's wearing the toupee.

Sometimes, the cure is worse than the disease man. Just keep that in mind.

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>>18061912
I've been going on 4chan since I was 12 and it's one of the only sites I use. I love the anonymity and the contrarian/hateful culture precisely because it's a refreshing escape from all of the whining of "sexism" and "misogyny" like you've described. The "tits or GTFO" stuff is almost always justified because it's rarely necessary and just attention whoring to make it known you're a girl. For example, in know female-populated boards like /cgl/ or /adv/, you don't see it said there because being a girl there wouldn't draw off-topic attention.

I love sexy character and waifu threads and participate in them regularly.

>>18062276
Thanks for the advice and support, you're a bro.

If she is willing to drive 30 mins multiple times to do stuff with me is she at least a little bit interested?

>>18061912
Because in my experience, women are far more nasty to women than men.

I think it's all a matter of perspective. For example:
>erasing femininity by insisting that no one let on that they're a girl here.
>you're devaluing/demeaning/buzz-wording yourselves
I don't get that feeling at all really. I have a sense of humor, I understand the TITS OR GTFO shit is 90% of the time, just that. A joke. I never "hide" my sex on here. If me being a girl is relevant to the conversation, I never have any problem disclosing that information.
>or ogling/objectifying sexy chicks make you feel unwelcome/unwanted
Another difference in perspective, I do not see sexy women as "objectifying". Finding people attractive is a normal part of life. I'm not threatened by beautiful women, even more beautiful than me, so I have no issue with it all.
>you know the ones I'm talking about
What, you mean like tumblr? Who will doxx the shit out of you the second you make a "problematic uwu" statement? The ones who are foaming at the mouth, rabid teenagers with a god complex?
Yeah, no thanks. I'll put it to you this way, I even have a tumblr. I have felt more comfortable sharing personal information and pictures on 4chan than I ever have Tumblr. And it's not because I'm anon here. It's because 4chan is far less likely to be set off by the most mundane shit.

But all in all, the main reason I like 4chan so much, and not the "female friendly" websites, is because frankly, I do not think like a woman. I think more like a man. I have a man's sense of humor, I'm antifeminism and antisjw. I just plain do not get along with women much.

>>18062299
Yes. Most people would not take that much time out of their day just driving for someone they didn't give a shit about.
You're over thinking, stop that or you'll ruin it.

>>18062275
Buy him a couple of stylish pieces of clothing. Dressing well is like a drug and you just need to get him hooked.

To femanons
Is it true that girls have "backup guys" in case their current relationship fails or too old and alone?

>>18062275
Can you give some examples of how he dresses? It might be possible to find some styles that are similar to his look but of course don't look creepy.

If he's fedora though, there's no hope.

>>18061680
>proper etiquette
Personally, I think "ghosting" is the way to go. Because lets be real, there is no nice way of saying "Yeah I don't want to see you anymore". Maybe its cowardly, but idgaf the outcome is always the same. It's gonna be a little bruise to the ole ego to get rejected, but most sane rational people will get over it and move on. It's not that big a deal. You do whatever you want man. If you really feel guilty about the ghost, then maybe you just send a text or message saying something like "Hey, I had fun, but as I thought about it, I think we're after different things. Best of luck, sorry it didn't work out"
>How do I make sure we're on the same page?
You ask. Before a chick starts getting her clothes off, you always affirm your intentions. Just tell her "Before we go any further, I just want to know we're on the same page, I'm not seeing anything serious out of this". It's more casual than you think, I've had that conversation many many MANY times. As someone who doesn't do casual sex, yeah, it's kinda awkward to then just quit there and say goodbye, but it's much better than getting my hopes up.
Lots of people do flings though. You'll likely find her to be ok with it.
>If I do have sex with someone is it ok to get physical with other people?
This one can be subjective, I've never found a general consensus on it myself. If you have established that what you have is strictly casual, I believe it's only rational to assume that you're gonna be banging other people. You should have that assumption too. As for ever actually vocalizing this fact, or disclosing numbers, I'd say you don't need to unless asked. After all, it should be assumed anyway, if she wants more info, she should just ask.
(cont)

>>18062335
Shitty ones do

>>18061680
>>18062344
>If at some point I do find someone I would like to settle down for what is the proper way to end those other relationships?
Personally, I would think this would be happening before you even become official with someone. Like, the second you start to see potential with someone that you would want to be monogamous with, you should be cutting ties then. Because at least that will show the girl how serious you are. If a dude still had 3-4 other girls on the side while asking me to be his gf, I'd probably say no. Because I'd be like, if you really wanted me like that, you'd have dropped the other girls beforehand. You're holding on to them because if I say no you can just immediately jump back with them.
When you start to like someone, just tell the others "Hey I think I'm getting serious with this girl, so I don't want to continue our arrangement"
Then put your all into the one girl for a bit, date her seriously, then ask for the official title of boyfriend.

>>18061709
I don't think so, just facebook. At least, I never put in my phone number.

If they do, just download one of those "text free" apps and use that, its the phone number version of 10 minute mail basically. That's what I did for yik yak at least. Because I don't put my phone number on anything online. Lord knows I already get 400 telemarketer calls a day from some fucker selling my phone number. Don't trust facebook one second not to do the same.

>>18062335
Maybe the ones hot enough to actually pull multiple guys.
I cling onto dear life for any scrap of attention I get.

But no, most women are good people and aren't gonna do that bullshit. At least not past 15.

>>18062351
>>18062364
>I just noticed my shitty grammar
Anyways, thanks for the answers. I asked because some shit happened with a girl and a friend of mine said I was "the backup" guy

>>18062388
Friends probably just bitter and jaded to believe that's a thing. Don't read too much into it.

girls, how much do you think about the circumstances of how you met a guys? Do you care if you have a funny or romantic story of how you met a guy, or does it not matter to you at all?

>>18061398
Yeah, it would probably be weird. But then again, I also do not add people whom I've never talked with IRL before on facebook, and do not even read messages from people I'm not friends with, so this wouldn't even be a thing that could happen.

Go talk to her irl.

>>18062402
Well, I will say if I end up meeting my future husband on a fucking dating app, I am gonna feel a little embarrassed. Idk why, shits basically the only way people date anymore, but I still feel like it's kinda a pathetic way to meet people.

Otherwise, nah. I don't care if we met in some cool interesting circumstance, or if he was just the dude I worked with at Target when I was young or something.

>>18062401
Eh, maybe I should explain myself better
In the end I came to the conclusion that I was just a backup plan (I wasn't familiar with that term until my friend told me about it)
But I was wondering if that thing was common between girls, hence my initial question

>>18062256
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>>18062414
Thats just your shit self esteem man. If she was making advances on you, she was into you. If she just met someone else who was more compatible or desirable after meeting you, and then decided to focus her attention on them, that didn't make you a "back up" it meant she lost interest in you period.

If she's very clearly after another dude, but still stringing you along, then yeah, maybe she's one of those rare cunts that do weird cunty things, but if you could see that you should have just bailed. Most women do not do this shit though. They might be talking to a couple dudes at once initially, but she should be narrowing it down pretty fast.

Moral of the story is, if a chick is not putting her full attention on you, she aint worth it. Move on.

>>18062425
>If she was making advances on you, she was into you.
She was my best friend tho, lol
I bailed on that """"friendship"""" because I was just a plan B (she wouldn't make any advance on me and go out but lots of guys but also she would get mad when I went out with other girls)

>>18062438
Well I mean, if she was your friend, then she was not leading you on. She was just not interested in a romantic/sexual relationship with you. You were not her "second choice" because you were never a choice.

Though if she was actually mad when you went out with other girls, yeah that's weird. But idk, it's possible you were either misinterpreting her being "mad" or she was mad about some other aspect. Not so much that you were dating other girls and not her.

My gf has the mixed blessing of large breasts on a smallish frame at US size 32G. When we go to the mall and pass the lingerie on display she feels bad because nothing ever fits her. I'm aware of the issues that can arise when ordering online, but my Google Fu is weak and I can't find anything except porn and plus sized retailers which all start at a too large band of 36

My questions are (1) is there a lingerie site/distributor specifically for women with like proportions to her, and (2) where could she find a one-piece swimsuit that will provide proper coverage?

>>18062446
No matter the girl, she aways found flaws on them and she used to whine because "I wasn't paying enough attention to her", even tho I always texted her as soon as her messages arrived and I literally spent more time with her than with other girls (it was an almost daily thing). In fact, I cancelled plans with other people just for her while she did the opposite.
But I realized that I wasn't her bestfriend, I was more of a walking wallet and most of our "deep" conversations involved her talking about other guys.

>>18060403
Women, obviously nobody gives a fuck if you have a vibrator or a dildo, what would you think about a man who owns a masturbator? If you found one by accident while at his place for example.

>>18062474
Did she get pissy when you hung out with male friends too? Was she just needy?

Regardless, yeah sounds like she was a shitty friend. I still don't really see you being a "second choice" in this situation. I think you were just a friend she could dump her shit on.

My boyfriend and I argue every single time we talk. This has been going on for months. I feel that the relationship is very toxic for both of us. I don't know how to repair our communication.

Anyone ever been in this situation and how did it end? How can I fix it?

>>18062471
you might try nordstrom rack
euro brands make stuff in size 30x, 28x, etc but I've only ever been in the market for small band size + small cup size so ymmv but nordstrom rack seems to be one of the only major chain stores that carry tiny band sizes stateside
have you looked online?? i wouldn't touch buying apparel i can't try on first unless there's free shipping & free returns; budget-wise just something to keep in mind
if still no go, your/her options are pretty much learn to sew or order bespoke

>>18062483
masturbator no fucks given whatsoever
sex dolls are where it starts getting slightly creepy

>>18062486
Just with girls, she had no problem when I went out with my bros and she was kinda needy.
Anyways, I was told that some girls keep their plan B as friends of even bestfriends because "they need to keep an emotional bond with them to make things faster in case shtf or just to keep them hanging around"

Fuck all this talk about her is already taking a toll on me, so many years wasted

>>18062492
So I should hide my life size dolls and body pillows? Damn....
Thanks for the reply.

>>18062487
I wasn't personally in the situation, but a close friend of mine was. If you can see it's toxic yourself, I think you know what you need to do.

In her case, I believe he broke up with her when he had one of his fits and then he moved and they cut all contact. Since then, it took her like a year to get over him, but in her words "she finally feels like herself again."

As for how to fix it, should you? How bad is it?

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>>18062483
Eh, idk. It would be awkward to me I guess. I'm not gonna be like, bailing over it either though.

I suppose the difference between vibrators/dildos and fleshlights to me is that women typically have much more difficulty masturbating than men. It's socially normal for women to have these tools because we have more of a need for them, where as guys on average have no issues getting off with just their hands. It might feel better with a fleshlight, maybe, but if you could not cum without it most people would find that weird.

Whereas it's actually more common than you'd think for women to be unable to orgasm without toys.

That's just my musings on the social reasoning as to why fleshlights have more of a stigma than female oriented toys. Take that as you will.

Regardless, if I found one at my guys place, I'd probably just be embarrassed more than anything. I'd be embarrassed if he found my sex toys on accident though too. Idk. It would be weird to me imagining him using it, but it's not that big a deal.

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>>18060403
Do girls think I'm cute?

>>18062505
Yeah, well whatever. Point is rational, sane, and most importantly confident women do not do this shit.
Basically, any woman you'd even want to fuck in the first place, will not do this shit.
Sounds like shes hella insecure, so maybe she was stringing you along, still though, I just don't see any hard evidence you were EVER an option to her to begin with. You were always just "my good guy friend I can use as an emotional sponge".
The other reason she might have been uptight about you hanging out with other women/dating is because she knows damn well if you bag a gf, she's going to be pushed out of the picture, because most women are going to lay claim to their territory and make sure you don't get any more quality time together. Your hypothetical gf would essentially block her from using you like a sponge anymore.

In conclusion, I say good riddens to this chick, she sounds like she's 12 anyway. Don't sit here and think you were her "backup" though, because buddy, you were never going to be anything at all romantic with her. You were pretty firmly in the friendzone imo.

>>18062483
I love buying my guy toys. I got him his first one and he got me my first one. It's also better for guys than jacking off with their hand.

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That uh, was not the pic I wanted to post...

>>18062511
I really don't want it to end. He was my first and I have a lot of unresolved, debilitating issues associated with that. Both of us have serious problems affecting the relationship and when we fight it's usually just this explosive, shitflinging argument where nothing gets solved. It is so difficult to end it because of how strong the feelings are.

I guess I just want to know if there's any way to fix a relationship where communication is this difficult or if it's just best to end it. I don't know if it's normal for things to be this way.

>>18062519
What the fuck did you buy him? What could someone even buy a guy?

>>18062521
Eh, good taste anyway.

>>18062535
Ona holes, tenga eggs, pussy pockets, flesh lights? The things the OP was talking about.

>>18062518
I guess I should've mentioned this before but we dated for a week and yeah things got intimate.
But after re-reading everything you wrote and you're right after all.
I guess the only thing that matters now is he fact that I got out of that shitfest

>>18062523
OK, well you should say exactly that. Sit down with him and have an actual conversation. It's clearly an issue and needs to be resolved. If he cares. he should at least be able to do that. If after all is said and done, nothing gets resolved, I think you should actually just break up with him.

Arguments in a relationship are normal, but when they become what you described, it's a real issue. There isn't much sense in continuing a relationship in which no one is happy and the atmosphere is so volatile. I know it's hard to come to terms with, but if neither of you are happy in the relationship even in spite of what you may actually feel, what's the point?

But yeah, communication is key. A real, mature conversation about it is the only way you'll be able to move past this.

>>18062487
I was.

One relationship progressively got worse and we wasted years together and both came out with complexes.

My current one, we found common ground, spent time apart, went through some mutual struggle with outside problems and came out pretty tight.

I also travel for work so when I come home its honeymoon phase reactivate.

>>18062557
I'm sorry if my stance is coming off a bit aggressive. Full disclosure: I watched a very close friend be miserable for years because of her piece of shit boyfriend insulting her and disrespecting her every time they fought (which was often because he was a controlling asshole).

So I'll just leave you with this piece of advice. Take care of yourself. Don't make excuses for what he does and don't forget how bad things are when thinking about your relationship. Just because things were good before doesn't negate the fact that things are bad now. If it's bad, then maybe the relationship has run its course. Regardless, talk with him. In the end, though, do what's best for you.

>>18062487
couple years ago my parents went 5 whole friggin months without speaking to each other ("keeping up appearances" excepted) before one of them finally broke down and mentioned it to me and i played marriage counselor for them and showed then how to communicate effectively so they could fix it
mind you i didn't know wtf i was doing so if i can make a difference, anyone can lol
anyway stuff i learned that you might find helpful:
>both parties must be willing to actively engage in conflict resolution. this can take some convincing.
>familiarize yourself with the.....fuck i think it's called the 5 styles of communication or the 5 styles of affection or how you show affection....something like that, basic understanding of the principles that dude put forward though proved immensely helpful
>identify points of contention - anything causing strife - and determine where blocks in communication exist
>explain the perspective of each to the other
>work out solutions, be they clarification or compromise, and make note of things to keep in mind going forward
>if you need to fight shit out (it happens sometimes) let it roll, get it out and then get the fuck away from each other afterwards and take some time to cool down
good luck hun

>>18062508
it's not the best thing to lead with lol, that's all
understanding girls certainly do exist, don't get me wrong here. there's very very few things my bf could present to me that i'd recoil from for example. if he busted out a sex doll tomorrow i'd not blink (and probably try to play with it hahah) but we've been together for a few years. the familiarity has been well established. had he broken one out right off the bat, it may've made me reconsider things, or at the very least make me a bit wary of proceeding

>>18062515
+1000 points for the shirt alone so based just on that I'mma go with a solid yes

>>18062009
Bump

Help pls

>>18062009
>I also use flamite (tinder) on PC which says when they were last online
Dude thats creepy. You're using 3rd party apps to creep on girls?

Anyway, your mistake was ever thinking you'd get anything serious out of tinder. Move on.

>>18060679
Follo your gut feelin and kontact her directly

Don't want to create new thread so posting here:
>yesterday
>home alone, drinking (don't do this often)
>already pretty drunk, browsing old chats on Messenger with HS crush and feelin
>last time we chatted was almost two months ago
>accidentally hit that stupid "Like" button
>she responds with "?"
>freaked out, turn off phone and go to sleep
And now I'm here in the morning with hangover, trying to figure out how to handle this without looking like a creep (we still meet occassionally). How should I respond?

>>18062623
Nah I just used flamite so I can use tinder on PC and came across that feature by accident

I never did think that or wanted that until I started talking to her ;_;

>>18062665
Don't bring it up, and if she does, just say you were drunk.

>>18062666
Yeah, I would not creep on girls online status's. Most definitely never bring up you "knew they were online" or something.

>>18062689
Yeah of course not

Do you think telling her she's the first girl I've actually been interested in on tinder is endearing or creepy

>>18061407

because you're horny

>>18060403
girls, if a guy texted you asking you out and you never replied, should the guy try again or just never text you again?

>>18060759
I just become lazy after fapping.
Insta-gratiffication is not really helpful for your improvement as a person.

>>18060740
>being alone in the same room with a 16 yo girl
>a horny 16 yo girl who has a crush on you
>all giggly and joke around with her
unless you're gay there's no fucking way something won't happen eventually, your gf is right to be worried about this

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>>18062710
I always consider it as a rejection and don't bother with texting again. I just think it's fucking rude, though. I know it's not easy to say "I'm not all that interested, but thanks for the offer" but it's so goddamn rude just to put the guy in seenzone. One of these days I think I'll flip out on my next rejection while on the seenzone and ask what's so hard about rejecting properly without being a cowardly cunt who just leaves everything hanging for not bothering to reply.

>>18062710
What do you have to lose by giving it one more go?

>>18062722
>One of these days I think I'll flip out on my next rejection while on the seenzone and ask what's so hard about rejecting properly without being a cowardly cunt who just leaves everything hanging for not bothering to reply.
You know she won't reply to that, right? You know she'll take screenshots and send it to all her friends, right?

>>18062739
Sure, but at least I'd get it out of my system.

>>18060740
you are bonding with a younger girl through something your gf doesn't understand, of course she felt uncomfortable seeing that intimate connection between you two. Is this young girl something worth risking your relationship over? do you even care about your gf's feeling?

>>18062722
>>18062735

are you girls?
I hadn't talked with her in more than six months, we used to be coworkers until I was let go. A couple of days ago she texted me out of the blue explicitly asking how I was doing and what i was doing in my life, we exchange messages for about an hour and she ended with something like "well I'm glad you are doing fine, don't forget about us and keep working hard." I replied with "we could do something together, if you like to?" and then she never replied.
I think she was just trying to be nice and tell me about some job opportunities, but since i told her I was already talking in something else she just didn't tell me anything and cut the conversation short. But it just feel weird that after all this time she just thought of me randomly and decided to text me for no reason in particular?

>>18062745
I'm the second anon you replied to, and yes, I am a girl. Like I said: what do you have to lose? The worst she can do is say no.

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>>18062745
I'm the first anon and I'm a guy. Maybe I'm bitter or something, but I really fucking hate ghosting. I think it's common human decency to straight up say it and I respect those women far more that have rejected me by saying it out loud.

How do you go about pooping when with your gf/bf/wife etc. It seems almost taboo. Did you ever poop in their presence or would you always hold on from going to the bathroom when with them?

>>18062769
My boyfriend tells me he needs to poop and then he goes and poops. Do you seriously think you could get to the marriage stage without becoming comfortable about the fact that your bodies perform perfectly normal bodily functions or something?

>>18062769
I just go in whatever receptible is the furthest from them. Sometimes it's the sink, sometimes you just pop a squat outside in the driveway.

>>18062773
Idk some couples claim they can do it

>>18062787
This is a good answer

A girl I like has never been in a serious relationship just like me and we talk a lot but sometimes she acts a bit weird, almost rude at times, why?

Posting here since i cant make my own thread (mobile connection)

I'm pretty sure the land lord has been entering my room while I've been out and damaging things (that he owns, but their fairly old and dilapidated anyway) in an effort to claim the bond for new stuff.
Is there a way I can set up my laptop as a long term camera? I can't exactly buy something expensive since im a student and money is an issue.

>>18062896
How long is long term exactly?

>>18062908
4 months. but i can go through the data and clear it maybe every 3 days

>>18062910
A laptop is all you need really. Just get a program that can record and you're all set.

>>18062910
What operating system are you using?

didn't want to start a own thread on this and this seems like the only general question thread.

My gf of fifteen months and me had some problems the last couple months in our relationship. I'm not sure I can continue it, but still am giving it some time. Only she has said things like: You're the reason I want to live, would not know what to do without you. And really gave me the impression she would kill herself if I wasn't around. Could be she is just says it because she loves me and it just sweet to say, but I believe there is some truth in it.

If I decide to break up, how do I do it without having a death on my conscience or worrying about that shit?

>>18062925
w-widows..
I have about 500gb free, how long could i leave it running? it only really has to run for 10 hours a day while i'm at classes/studying

>>18062947
Alright, let me look up what I can find for you. Might be about 30-50 minutes as I need to make me some morning tea and have a cheeky wank so please be patient.

>>18062953
alright, t-thanks..

Is it awkward to ask a girl out if I only spoke to her once, and don't know her name? How would I go about doing that.

>>18062958
This looks alright.

http://www.ispyconnect.com/download.aspx#

Basically you go on google and type in

laptop camera monitoring software. After that you take each one individually and you look at the features they offer. Then you go on youtube and look the ones you selected up. See if you like the interface and what they do. If some costs money that's alright, I can tell you how to safely torrent and you'll have those too. Happy hunting!

How do I ask my gf to fuck my boipucci?

>>18062986
Talk to her again.
>"Hey, I don't think I introduced myself last time we talked. My name is anon"
>"I am anonette"
Talk some more.
>"I really need to go now. Would you like to grab a coffee sometimes and keep talking?"
Yes/No
Ask for her number, set a date, go out with her.

>>18060740
>teaching this girl actually relieved me of stress
>it makes me very happy to watch this girl grow
I hope none of this involves you cumming

>>18063012
Perfect, guess I'm over thinking it.

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How the fuck do I fuck stupid cunts from club/tinder/scenes, if I don't do drugs and don't drink?

Like, I am not a virgin, I have friends; I do know, that some girls find me attractive, yet it is so hard, all of these girls usually do the same activities as I do, they are very decent and not into occasional sex, so I have to show up as a successful person in our mutual field, then it's becoming way easier.

I just want a fucking ONS, just matched with an "artsy" girl with dreadlocks, her instagram is full of her trashy doodles of tits and dicks. It would have been so easy just to ask her about wine/420, if I did any of these, but I'll have to behave polite, caffees, exhibitions, spending time together, fuck it all.

So, bros? No alcohol or drugs.
Once again, if this does not stop 4chan - NO alcohol, NO drugs.
No whys, just answer, please.

Bro, girls don't do drugs or alcohol because they like it or are into it or the experiences and insight they give. Nah bro they do it cuz they think it's cool for guys. If you do anything else that's cool they'll emulate to that and pretend to enjoy that. Now older women might say that's not true and I'm full of shit but they're old and you don't want to fuck them anyway so fuck what they think.

>>18063029
>>18063021

>>18063021
Ask her to come over to eat something. Buy some pizza, watch a movie, halfway through the movie make out, then fuck.

>>18063029
Man, I know it right from the start, most girls are totally empty inside, except that does not make their body less sexy and these trash types of girls I'd like to fuck most are not interested in the activities I do, so our sole mutual connection would have been alcohol or weed.

>>18063038
Bro, just be rude and act like you have a big dick, it works

>>18063034
She would not come, that's for sure. I have baked (I can cook) a cool cake with such intentions, yet it is still there in the fridge.
Very few girls would spontaneously go to a guy you've just met on tinder, unless he's 10/10 model-tier (I am not).

>>18063040
Well, I'll try, but this is like 100% opposite my personality.

Also, want to hear girls here, what do they think of it.

>>18063043
Then go out for a coffee and meet her, spend some time with her, and then next time ask her to come over.

>>18063048
I have describe in the first message, that it is what I usually do. But most times it does not end with sex (at least with these types of girls).

>>18063047
>it's opposite of my personality
Then fucking deal with you bro. You want one night pussy and your personality says you're not built for one night pussy. Either over ride your personality for a little while or give up the one night pussy.

Also
>i want to hear girls here, what do they think of it
Who the fuck cares? Do you really think they have anything worthwhile to contribute?

How attractive is a young doctor (male)? I'm not becoming a doctor for status or attraction but curious of the actual pull that the 'status' has

>>18063069
They're busy all the time, mildly arrogant and extremely tired/stressed. It's the profession with the highest suicide rate.

>>18063076
>It's the profession with the highest suicide rate.
Actually that's dentists. However, your other points are correct. I know a few nurses and they hate the male doctors, they're incredibly arrogant apparently.

>>18063076
I'm pretty humble though so I don't imagine I'll be arrogant when I graduate

Is it a bad thing that I have this female flatmate and in the morning as she's preparing salad I sit down at the table with my laptop and browse through some porn and then she sits next to me and we just watch it without saying much (beside some exclamations), then we go to school. It's becoming this thing we do, and now she starts humming porn tune whenever she's preparing her breakfast.

>>18063084
I'm studying medicine myself, and I'd shoot in the face of 3/4 of the people studying with me.

>>18063087
You'll be.

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>>18063088
>humming porn tune

>>18060403
How do i approach a shy girl as a shy guy? Lets say the girl is attracted to the guy.
Can i even compliment a shy girl? How does shy+shy even work out?

>>18060740
>>18060926
>bf hates teaching
>still spends one night every week in a room with a teenage girl to "teach" her
>teenage girl has a crush on him

You are a red flag, I'd dump you so hard lol

>>18063115
it works better than shy+not shy

>>18063128
i mean shy+shy is a golden combo, but its kind of a paradox. if both are shy and cant put the step, how do they reach the relationship and if one does make a move, that person clearly isnt shy


(heil hitler)

>>18063143
You can be shy and still have a functional social life.

>>18063145
youre right, i am sorri i doubted you. i love you


(zyklon b)

I don't want any advice.
I am very horny right now, I had a raging erection just a second ago. I don't want to watch porn, I don't want to masturbate. I want you to come over here and take care of it. Use me like a boy toy.

>>18063174
manwhore

>>18063174
thats what sluts are for, get a couple around you and make one your slave, its easy i will write an comprehensive step by step tutorial on this soon :D
(helo?)

>>18063184

Yeah OK but can you do it soon? I have work tomorrow.

>>18063190
nigga wait a bit, i want to finish fapping :DDD

>>18062344
>>18062353

Thank you anon.That is great advice.

So far, if I didn't like them enough on the first date, I just ghosted them. There were times when I wanted to say something along the lines of "I had fun but I'm looking for something else". But even that seems to carry the underlying message of "I don't think you're good enough for me".
Of course, if I ever did have sex with someone or went on a couple of dates and felt like it wasn't what I was looking for then that would warrant some explanation.

Question to women.

Lately, I've been using Tinder exclusively to find dates. I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but I would like to meet some cool people and have sex from time to time.

Should I assume that women on Tinder are interested in casual sex? Whenever I meet up with someone, I'm always told that they're glad I was not like the other guys and that I actually tried to get to know them rather than offer sex/dates upfront.

Does that mean they're looking for a relationship? Or does that mean they are still open to something more casual?

Usually when I hear that I assume they're looking for a boyfriend, so after the date I thank them for the night and start looking elsewhere. But the same thing comes up over and over again.

>>18063273
>Should I assume that women on Tinder are interested in casual sex?
It's the whole point of the app.

>>18063279

That's true, but I see a ton of women who have "no ONS" or "not looking for sex" in their profile. I generally swipe left on them but I'm struggling to figure out what everyone else wants.

Maybe I have this weird preconception that only men want casual sex and all women want a boyfriend.

>>18063273
Nah, the thing is girls have a lot more to lose when they have NSA sex. It's still seen as much more negative for a woman to add another notch on her bedpost, but apart from that, more urgently: sex is often not as good for women, especially a first time with a stranger. Many young guys are so used to porn that they don't realize that women need real foreplay, not sucking on her tits for a minute, to properly enjoy sex. Giving head is much more normal for a girl in a casual setting than for a guy. And on top of that many women can only climax from a set routine, eg they got eaten out first or they get fingered all the while during, they do it in x position then y position and so on, so unless you want to buckle up and spill your manual awkwardly for a completely random person you just have to accept that it's not going to be the kind of sex you actually want.

This isn't talked about a lot because our cultures kind of glamorizes hook ups and many girls are eager to say that they don't like or want sex any less. For many, no doubt. But I have several friends just within my social clique who don't do casual sex anymore simply because it is never that good for them. They have to remind the guy all the time of established boundaries, or physically keep him from jamming it in right away, they never orgasm, at best they feel like they had okay sex with someone they don't know and at worst they feel used yet unfulfilled.

Sooo I am pretty sure that at least some of those women were open to casual sex to a more or lesser extent, but they needed more to warm them up to the idea of that than just a willing random guy. Besides, the more -baby you want some of this- macho texts a guy sends, the more she will fear that he's going to do the pornthing and be shit in bed.

If I were you I'd go on dates, show interest, but state on your profile that you are only looking for short term, reiterate it on dates. See if they like you enough to find that offer tempting.

>>18063290
I'm >>18063298 and wanted to specify that I did not mean to imply that women do not enjoy or want casual sex - just that the odds of actually finding the KIND of casual sex that they want is not that great.

This is another reason to prefer meeting with someone face to face. You see how it feels when they look at you or smile at you, you can tell a bit about your dynamic, eg if there's something really playful and energetic between the two of you that makes sex seem a whole lot more interesting.

Basically what I was trying to convey is that just the bare concept of a stranger dick isn't nearly as attractive to a woman even if just for practical reasons. They want casual sex (at least, many on Tinder will be open to it) with a guy they find cute, who fucks them like they want to get fucked. That's not exactly any guy who offers.

How do I ask my gf to fuck me with a strapon?
I don't have one yet.

I love women, even the most stereotypical bimbo. I've met very interesting women in my time and have formed a lot of nice relationships with women during my short life. I simply enjoy conversing with them. Well, you could just say I find people interesting in general and like talking to most people unless they obviously dislike/hate me. I'm kind of a social butterfly.

Problem is, almost all of them have been platonic, which sometimes leaves me wishing for more, but I can always just appreciate the friendship. Am I either blind to obvious hints, profess some incredible romance block or something else? Have you anonettes here had a similar guy in your social circle?

>>18063350
Start easy, with her fingering your ass. If she's comfortable with or even turned on by being dominant, stress the dominance aspect of this. If you fear it turns her off, stress that it's a whole other physical sensation for you and you want her to give it to you personally.

And be a bit casual about it, make it sound like just another fantasy. Makes things less awkward if she doesn't want to if she doesn't think you're hung up on it.

>>18063358
Yeah I had a friend like this. Told me he thought it was a waste of his time to talk to a man when he could've talked to a woman instead. He fucked most of his female friends, though.

He didn't have a token secret, he looked above average but not conventionally hot in any way, he just knew how to create these intimate moments and still make them tense and teasing enough to not let it divulge into crying on each other's shoulder. And he was upfront and unashamed about complimenting looks in a sincere way.

>>18063373
Forgot to ask what you think about people like him/me.

>>18063379
Not going to lie, it unnerved me a bit when I first realized that most of the friends he talked about were also sex partners of his. Seems like more potential drama than I'd like to engage in, although of course he was also excellent at avoiding that as well.

I don't particularly care, I mean fuck yeah, it's attractive if a man sincerely truly loves women. It is much rarer than you would believe if you go by their own admissions. It is still uncomfortably common for men who are perfectly normal and kind to look down on women in some shape or form, often without even realizing it consciously.

My only wary thought would be whether I wasn't meeting someone who just invested all his time in chasing sex and endured the female company for it, but that's pretty easy to tell when interacting. Be prepared that many women would feel threatened to date a guy with mostly female friends, though, you have to find the right fit there. And obviously it's much worse if some of those friends are former sex partners.

>>18063350
Very few women will respect and still be attracted to you after it happens, beware of what you wish for.

>>18063298
>>18063313

Thank you. I often assumed that if they weren't ready to jump into bed on the first date, that meant they simply weren't interested in casual sex and wanted a boyfriend.

Since I didn't want to be a dick and manipulate them into sex I would usually let them go. But perhaps I should go on a few dates before making any presumptions as to what they're looking for?

I'm a bit worried about putting "looking for short term" in my profile. Although it's definitely honest and I am mainly looking for casual relationships, I'm open to the idea of long term if I do find someone who blows my mind. So I don't want to limit my prospects at this stage.
Is it therefore ok, to explain that I'm looking for something casual as we get to know each other better? I do avoid girls who put "no ons" in their profiles.

As for sex itself, I'm not that experienced with it, which is one of the reasons why I wanted to get out and get more sexual partners.
I don't last very long, so with the girl I was dating before, I would usually eat her out and finger her till she came (or was close), before I went in.
I don't last longer than a few minutes max, so this way I didn't have to stress about it.
Is that a good way to satisfy most women? Or would they usually prefer a good dicking?

Do girls generally worry about being judged by other women when they decide whether or not to date someone?

>>18063406
Not necessarily, but you really are undermining your own set up if you don't want to come out and say you're looking for more casual things. I think for 95% of people it goes without saying that if they fall head over heels for someone, they will want to get together regardless of their prior stance on commitment. By keeping the entire option of relationships open you are setting yourself up for a lot of mismatched expectations just for the rare chance that one's a unicorn. And yeah, it's fine to express it in the conversations but you will get some annoyed girls and most importantly, I don't think you can typically already know whether someone is amazing from the first conversation so I don't see it as that significant a difference for you in terms of not scaring the best girls looking for LTR off.

A date that centers around dating is different from one that centers around sex. You don't go out of your way to ask about someone's education or parents if you're looking for a fling. Likewise, you go easier on the flirting and sexual innuendo if it's a date for a relationship. A lunch date is not a good idea if you're looking to fuck. Meet women at bars to drink or dance together. Let her feel you're attracted to her. When you're both loose and relaxed, start dropping bits about what you like in women sexually, ask what made her best sexual experience so great, or what fantasy she is willing to admit to you. Closely monitor her responses all the time. It is mostly a matter of knowing when to back off or strike a different tone if you can tell she's put off by something, or knowing when to amp it up if she's loving it.

Girls have different preferences but to give you an example of stuff that MOST women would love;
>make her feel like the woman, undress her yourself, touch her not roughly (trimmed nails please) but soft yet firm and feverishly, make her feel hot hot you find her

Post too long.

>>18063464
>whatever you are doing, never treat her like just a body, always keep making eye contact to exchange a quick smile and check whether she's not in pain or bored or uncomfortable
>if you ask for confirmation or make requests, phrase it in a smooth and more sexy way, so instead of asking if it hurts, ask her if it feels good, instead of asking if she wants you to eat her out, say you want to taste her, instead of asking her to go down on you, say you want to feel your lips all over you and so on
>do foreplay - making out, touching, grinding, fingering, oral if you want to, buttstuff, kissing and nibbling her neck, dirty talk, whatever - until she is thoroughly wet and you feel that her vagina is relaxed and opened up around the entrance, this takes five-twenty minutes depending on the woman and how excited she is beforehand
>you are likely not going to crack her secret code if she's the type to orgasm with difficulty from penetration, that's no problem, but try to finger her in addition or tell her to finger herself during if that's easier physically, gives her a better shot at least
>oral is not necessarily expected from everyone and you should not do it if you're not comfortable with it - but especially if you're hoping for a FWB thing it does gives you a better chance that she'll come back for more
>let her feel you enjoy the sex, don't fuck like a robot, sigh and curse if you don't dare to make other noises, tell her how good it feels
>keep connected to her during sex, pull her hair back out of her face, kiss her, ask her to tell you how it feels, don't zone out pounding away
>some cuddling after sex is mandatory, offer her a drink or something to eat, kiss her bye, if you want to be FWBs ask her to text you once she got home safe or offer to drop her off if she lives nearby
>if you want to initiate again, shoot her a sexy text saying you can't stop thinking about how you did x or y together

>>18063481
>and virtually all women love firm pressure on their hips, love handles and-or ass, or pressing them up against a wall while kissing, throwing them on the bed or carrying them etc

What you described yourself is a great way but not every woman likes oral or cums easily from it, just like with most sex acts. Some are too self-conscious about their pussy to relax or are not that sensitive to the softer sensations of a tongue.

If you really like to go down, I'd do it beforehand so you have the best chances of having her reach orgasm, or even two.

But honestly most of the issues I described come from guys not really understanding how women experience sex physically (no one would try to go in with a limp dick, either) paired up with trying to muscle through because they are nervous, or just wanting to do whatever they feel like after they managed to get her there. Not that they lack magical sex skills. It's more about a different mindset than about special talents.

>>18063427
a little yes. the opinion of my female friends is very important even though i think its stupid. Cant help it though

>>18063392
>My only wary thought would be whether I wasn't meeting someone who just invested all his time in chasing sex and endured the female company for it, but that's pretty easy to tell when interacting.

Which one was your guy friend? Because he sounds like the first.

>>18063392
>>18063373
Well I also have to point out that I don't particularly like having sex with my female friends since it can lead into drama, but I got into drama either way after I got into a slightly longer romantic relationship (for the first time also kek). One of the my most flirty female friends sent me a drunk text about how all this time she thought I was gay for not picking up her hints and that she's hurt now. I always figured that it's just the way she operates, since she's kind of a bimbo and loves dressing up "slutty". I played along with the flirting, which on my part was a clear cut mistake, because I ended up leading her on and never bothered to ask what she wants. I apologized to her after the relationship ended and we're on good terms now again.

I was just asking, because I do think I have hard time figuring out when the woman in question is interested in me romantically/intimately and when she just wants to stay as friends. Part of the reason why I enjoy women so much is because they still are kind of a mystery for me lol

>>18060445
I like it

>>18063513
Sex was undoubtedly important to him but it was never an issue that I didn't want to go there. He suggested it very covertly and implicitly and I implicitly shut down. Didn't come up again and we were friends for three years before growing apart so at least he wasn't singularly interested in sex...

OK, now that I'm aware of girls using deodorant, I want to know where they use it. Is it only on armpits? Do you use it on your feetsies too? (Aren't attractive girls immune to smelly feet?)

>>18063761
Back of the knee maybe?

>>18063761
armpits only is standard, yeah

no one is immune to smelly feets, guys are probably just more prone to it by virtue of us girls being lazy as fucking fuck by comparison as well as typically wearing a wider & moar varied range of shoes on a regular basis, like heels n shit vs the same one or two pairs of sneakers/dockers/whatever that the average dude wears every day

>semi related sidenote: putting your shoes in a plastic bag and chucking them in the freezer for a day or two gets the foot stank out because the bacteria responsible for the odor becomes kill

Have you ever had a crush on someone you're probably never going to meet?

>>18063800
I have crushes on people I've met before, haven't seen in years, and they have a steady boyfriend.
Does that count?

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>>18060403
I've finally gotten to a point where I'm confident that this girl i'm into likes me, but despite all the dates and other shit we've done together I think she wants me to be direct and confess to her before it gets any more serious.

What's a good way to go about this? I don't really know how i'd do it other than saying it in a heartfelt way, is this ever effective or will I just end up looking like a faggot?

so I met this nice girl in class. She's intelligent, very pretty in the face, nice body but
>sex on first date
Is this a red flag? would a girl who isn't a complete slut does this? I mean we're in advanced PDE class so it's pretty surprising she'd be a promiscuous girl that's all...

girlfriend of 6.5 months seems like she is about to break up with me. in the last month or so, things have been pretty stagnant (both of us are to blame for that) and getting boring. i tried my best for valentines day and got her flowers and chocolate and we walked by the water in our city. after, we say this rose petal dropping event and she wanted a picture, but i said not around all these people (it would have looked retarded). i asked her where she wanted to go out to eat, and she never gave me a response, then said she just didnt want to eat. shes been very irrationally upset all week and i dont know what to do.
then, last night i was at her house, just hanging out on her bed. somewhere down the line i had snapchat open and she was watching me, and she opened a snap i had from one of my friends who was a girl, been friends with her since freshman year of highschool. she asks how often i snap her, and i say oh maybe 2-3 times a day, but we never put text or anything just selfies. so, my gf goes into the conversation details and sees that i sent her 8 snaps yesterday (i honestly had no idea how many times i snapchatted her so it was an honest mistake). she immediately goes on her phone to text her friends about it, and doesnt say a word to me for 2 minutes. i try to get her to talk to me, not realizing how upset she was, and get nothing. she told me to just leave, so i did. trying to talk to her about it now

femanons, any help? is my relationship about to end?

>>18060403
What do you do when you're with a chick and you've not yet reached the point of finding common ground, but you run out of things to talk about?

I mean, let's be real about this one: people are different and different people have different interests. It doesn't really come down to you both having the same faivorite band or whatever. It comes down to time spent, feelings had through discussions and subtle gestures of affection, physical attraction and other activities.

I could take somebody to the movies and try to skip things like that, but this isn't the 80s and I'm not really a romantic person -- atleast not to run of the mill Jane. I really don't care about people like that because I do realize that there's very high chance of failure or exploitation. Being the cuck who wines, dines and at the end of the day masturbates isn't really my thing.
I've had some success with my strategy so far and offended people with it aswell.

But the problem I'm having is that I don't feel like most people I've met are giving me enough rope.

I think that in many cases I fail to keep the target's interest for extended periods of time. But at the same time I can't be the only one making all the noise and clowning around. I can't be guest star whom will be here for no more than 60 minutes and spends all his energy in being an ass. As an introvert 4channer I feel like whatever I'm already doing is a near superhuman feat.

So. How do you make the other person become more talkative? How do I get more out of the person I'm talking to?
In the past I've tried provoking but while that has given me more rope it has in many cases caused a borderline fight -- women tend to get idioticly pissy and anti-social if shit tested, as they have either no confidence or a massive ego.

>>18063834
say something like "i want to tell you how much i really like you and spending time with you" or some shit like that. you'll know when the time is right.

>>18063845
Do you really want to save this? Seriously, think about this. Doesn't sound like it's on a firm foundation. Maybe best to take a break? Just a thought...

>>18063867
i just cant justify throwing away that much time over something so stupid though. trying to smooth things out rn

>>18063861
Yeah, that was my plan. Just wanted to double check and make sure I'm not totally retarded in thinking that. Thanks anon.

Fellow guys, do you do anything to your eyebrows? I think I have ugly brows and I'm looking up ways to improve it.
Girls, do you notice men with ugly eyebrows?

Is it possible for girls to be a total sperg/autist beta around a guy because they have a crush on him. Because the way a 21 year old girl acts around me reminds me a lot of the way I acted when I was 14 or so and had a crush on some girl from school.

So yesterday I discovered that my best friend has feelings for my girlfriend? Should I not worry about it? He's good friends with her so I'm worried he'll pull something.

>>18063924
>Girls, do you notice men with ugly eyebrows?
Yep. I notice ugly brows on anyone.

But they don't have to look a specific way just make sure they're cleaned up and not wild, you know? Just pluck the stray hairs, trim the overgrown ones so it's pretty even and it'll be fine.

Also if you wanna try visiting a salon that'll wax them for you that's the simplest. Then you can just maintain them from then on. Just tell them you want them cleaned up a bit.

>>18063837
lol she's probably thirsty af and hasn't had a good fuck for awhile

>>18063931
If you're worried he's going to pull something, he isn't your best friend.

>>18063931
Interesting. I have feelings for a close friend's girlfriend. I would only try something if they officially break up. Idk why I'd do if she showed interest in me though, not that it's ever gonna happen, but I guess I'd probably reject it until they officially break up.

>>18063936
But won't I become a fag if I go to a salon? I don't know, I always think salons are just for women. Do they know how to do a male eyebrow there?

>>18063931
I've been in your friend's position a couple of times, but I never pulled anything, even after they broke up. It would've been too fucking awkward/weird

>>18063943
*what I'd do* not why

>>18063940
>>18063943
>>18063950
So I shouldn't worry about anything? She's a very amiable person so I'm sure there might be other guys that are into her too.

I miss my boyfriend

>>18063973
more fish in the sea, no one's unique or special, people get repeated, people are disposable

>>18063946
Do you want to have gross eyebrows or not? Ask the professionals. They work in salons.

Also you tell them what you want it to look like and they do it. Tell them just to follow your natural shape and tidy it up. Then if you don't think they did enough just tell them and they'll fix it up more. I do it all the time.

Also if you think a woman up in your face grooming you possibly pressing her tits into you if it's one of those things where they make you lay down is gonna make you a "fag" idk what to tell you bud

>>18063973
you've come to the right thread where it's 90% thirsty guys :)

>>18063967
Well I would say, trust your best friend, I assume he won't try anything unless he's a jerk, I mean as long as you two are together at least. Is he friends with her?
As for strangers, obs they will try stuff. I guess there it's just a matter of how much you trust in your gf not cheating on you.

>>18063977
He's not disposable

>>18063987
And 99% of them are undateable losers.

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>>18064031
>tfw in the 1%

>>18063845
> she immediately goes on her phone to text her friends about it, and doesnt say a word to me for 2 minutes

Your girlfriend sounds immature af. If a girl would rather whine to friends or on social media about fights instead of confronting her bf and talking it out, she's clearly not ready for a serious relationship.

Breaking up doesn't sound like a big loss to me. But if you really want to make this work, you're gonna have to make clear to her that your relationship can't work if she refuses to communicate with you in these situations.

>>18064035
Keep telling yourself that.

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So me and my gf both just made separate big summer plans but we've yet to nail down anything together.

We've been together for a good few months now so i feel like it should be cool to put forward a stay-cation holiday plan to her but when we spoke about it before she said we should 'leave it to nearer the time.' which made me feel a bit insecure.

I guess I'll just leave it until she next mentions it? We have other pre-summer long term plans so i'm not too worried for the relationship but this seemed like a weird response from her.. thoughts?