>26 KV >recently got a gf >been telling her I'm

>>18054410
you're 26. Gave no info on your GF

She won't. Look, if you cum soon then just tell her you were so amped because you care about her so much. Stop fucking worrying about it.

Dude 26? I just assume it is either religious or you fucked up one time and then it fucked everything else up.

So yes. You fucked up by not telling her you're a virgin. You can use this as an advantage if you two get serious.

>>18054410
You already fucked up by lying to her. If she's really interested in you for you then she's not going to care about virginity status. People overestimate how much partners care that they are a virgin, the reality is people care a lot more if you are a slut who has had a lot of partners because then there's a risk for disease

Just tell her the truth. Let her guide you through sex the first time if she wishes to do so. If the truth freaks her out then she's a spazz, don't waste time on a spazz

>>18054415
>You can use this as an advantage if you two get serious.
How do you mean?

>>18054420
If you two loved one another or to a degree you think you could use your own position to show how much.... Then being a virgin could help. You really need to stop adding labels. Just relax.

>>18054410
just let her do the work man, do your best to position yourself underneath her

if you really are a kissless virgin tho I don't think any amount of sex advice is going to help

literally just let her do all the work, be responsive and do what feels good

we're animals, more than that we're highly evolved mammals, having sex is literally instinctual so just go for it

porn doesn't help really,
I remember when I first had sex I had seen a ton of porn, but I still had to run my dick down the length of her vagina, top to bottom, to find the opening
in porn that shit is automatic

so that's my best advice, when youre about to stick it in, best way to find the hole is to press the underside of your dick onto the vagina and move it down with your hand until the tip catches the opening

It's basically the same as in porn. It's always a little awkward. Hardest part is getting it in there. After that you're pretty much good - just go ham and try to cum (or don't if you don't get tired)

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similar situation as OP

why is sex so fucking hard? why can't I just learn it online?

>>18054460
sex really is not hard. it's only difficult and awkward if you are trying too hard. if you just let things play out naturally (trust me, they will, no matter how autistic and nervous you are) then sex really isn't a big deal.

>>18054466
>>18054410
this
now can we end these dumb how do I have sex threads and get on to some serious life issues

>>18054466

I keep reading online how there's so much stuff to understand when it comes to sex, and how girls will KNOW you're a virgin if it's your first time. Tell me it's not true bros.

>>18054469
you don't need to study to have sex. sex your first time might not necessarily be mind-blowing or anything, but it'll be a satisfying bonding experience if nothing else. learning how to please your partner comes with time. trying to read up on it so you're perfect the first time is fucking retarded, just learn naturally through experience, trying to research concrete steps on how to be a sex god is a surefire way to ruin sex. intimacy is supposed to flow naturally regardless of skill level or experience.

also i don't know why virgins on this board think girls care if you are a virgin or not. nobody gives a fuck, seriously. the skill level between a virgin and someone who has had sex with a decent amount of girls is negligible, the only difference i've noticed is that the latter is slightly faster at unhooking a bra.

the only thing that makes fucking a virgin awkward is the insecurity/guilt that you are going to ruin their first time for them

Dont tell her if you're not 10%. If you are, it doesn't matter shell want to fuck you cause you're hot. If you don't look and act like a chad shes going to think differently of you. Virginity for a girl is like the numbers of people she fucked for a guy. Some wont care some will. Being a virgin at 26 is like a girl coming to you and telling you that shes had over 200 partners. If she has other options shes going to next you because she'll think theres something wrong with you the same way a guy will think twice about getting serious with a girl whos pass around a lot.There's no consequences to tell her a little further along the relationship itll even get you closer and shell like you for it but you already lied to her so its best if you keep it a secret. Also don't put all your hope into this girl aka don't put her on a pedestal. You don't even know if she wants a serious partner.

>>18054480
>There's no consequences to tell her a little further along the relationship itll even get you closer and shell like you for it but you already lied to her so its best if you keep it a secret.

This is the actual worst advice.

>>18054484
It worked for me... Would she have cared if i told her i was a virgin the first time probably not knowing her now. The thing is that at that time i didnt know if it was going to be serious and its stupid to gamble on this. We don't know anything about the relationship of op so better go on the safe side.

>>18054501
lying is not "being on the safe side", that's an even bigger risky gamble then just telling her the truth to begin with. if you feel like you have to lie to have a chance with someone, then it's not a relationship worth pursuing. do not do this.

>>18054501
you'll never know your true compatibility if you start building a relationship on lies

>>18054511
This isnt india. The guy is 26 not 20 there's a difference. At that age it is expected to have a at least one sexual experience especially with how sexual society is now. In this case lying about your virginity is being on the safe side.

>>18054523
Society is actually less sexual now as far as average sexual activity goes. Most millennials are waiting longer and longer to lose their virginities, get married, and move out due to the internet era.

Virginity in your 20's is not that big of a deal nowadays and most people don't dwell on it too much unless they or their partner bring it up during their first time together.

Again though, anyone who cares about something like virginity status enough that they lose all interest is not someone worth pursuing. Aim for bedroom compatibility with someone who understands your situation, whether it be your very first time having sex or your 100th one night stand.

Nobody "expects" a 26-year-old to have previous sexual partners, they just might assume that they do. Assumptions and expectations are not the same thing.

Lying about your virginity status is not going to impress a girl. The only thing it's going to accomplish is an awkward situation where she becomes aware you lied to her for a dumb reason.

Just tell her the truth so she knows how to behave in bed with you. It's much more rewarding to have your first time with someone who is aware they are guiding you through your first time than to pretend you have experience you clearly don't have.

>>18054513
Yes you don't start lying a the start of relationship that you're millionaire and have a phd in neurosciences or that you got laid by the dozen. At this point at 26 op just needs to have at least one experience. If op is a virgin at 26, chances are that he never initiates with girls. Its best for op to lie because there are some girls out here who are weirded out by virgins and it changes their whole view about you. They haven't even had sex so at that point the relationship isn't even serious yet. You're acting like this girl is the love of his life and that she loves him just as much. Honesty is not always the best option.

>>18054544
Life is not reddit.

>Its best for op to lie because there are some girls out here who are weirded out by virgins and it changes their whole view about you.

Then that's clearly not someone OP is compatible with, and he doesn't need to be sticking his dick into them.

>>18054551
a reddit-tier response would be more like "if you lie to get someone to have sex with you and they wouldn't do it normally, then that legally counts as rape" if we're being honest

Look OP just do what feels natural, evolution, not your thinking gave that to you when it happens your sense will take over trust

>>18054544
>>18054478
Look, dudes, it's just not true that "nobody will care", and that zero women will be put off by a 26-yo who's never had sex. Our society is the way it is. Men are generally expected to be sexually active, men who aren't are often perceived as having something wrong with them, and there's enormous pressure on adult men to not be virgins (and, hell, on teens too). There absolutely are women who would be put off if they found out the guy they were dating was a virgin. You can think that's shallow and immature all you want (and I'd agree), but that's just how it is. He lied for completely understandable reasons (do note that "understandable" is not necessarily the same as "excusable").

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ALL THAT SAID, OP, it's your call whether or not you come clean to her now. I can't begin to guess how she'd react; she could be extremely hurt by the lie, she could laugh it off as nothing. If you don't tell her, no, it's not a guarantee that she'll be able to tell. Think about it. If you'd never played tennis before, and you went down to a tennis court and challenged somebody to a match, would they be able to tell? Maybe. Maybe you fuck up or are just obviously nervous and they catch you in the lie, or maybe you have a knack for tennis (or just get lucky).

My advice is don't think too fucking hard about this, all you're gonna do is psych yourself out. Don't focus on the fact that this is ** YOUR FIRST TIME HAVING SEX HOLY SHIT **, focus on HER, whatever you find physically/emotionally attractive about HER. Fucking animals figure this out without reading guides or watching porn. How? Probably by not thinking too hard about it.

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>>18054567

>sex is as hard as playing tennis for the first time

WHAT THE FUCK WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME THIS

>>18054567
Exactly why i'm trying to make him understand. I was a virgin until 23. I got a gf 3 weeks after our first date we were at her house drinking i knew it was going to happen. We were playing truth or dare. She asked me how many partners, I told her i had none (i was not awkward about it) and the moment i told her the vibe completely changed. We did not fuck and she told me that we should stop seeing each other a little while after that. That compatibility thing he's talking about is shit. Relationship are not perfect and don't work on some form of criteria. I knew the girl for a while before we dated and we got along well. I did not make the same mistake with my current gf. Told her i had a few drunken hookup, i kept it vague. We fucked and i told after 3 months down the relationship while playing truth or dare again (girls like this shit). She didn't believe me and that first night wasn't glorious at all. Girls don't have some superpower that tell them if you're a virgin or not. Op just go with the flow. Don't try to force a scenario in your head. The sex part will be instinctual. Its basically just like amateur porn (the shitty angle hidden camera type). Watch that nina hartley cunnilingus lesson and you should be ok.

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What's there to learn about sex, desu? I always hear about people 'teaching' each other things during sex, but really, is there that much stuff to learn?

Finding the spot inside the vagina and adjusting your thrusts, kissing, foreplay, rubbing two fingers along the vagina etc. It seems pretty standard.

What complexities are there to learn about sex?

>>18054711

It's not so much about learning about sex, rather than learning about sex with that particular person. Sex is different with each person, because there are things that turn some on and do nothing for others. There are also physiological differences between people which means that "rubbing two fingers along vagina" does no always work and the amount of pressure needed, location of nerve hot spots, ideal duration of foreplay etc. varies greatly from person to person. Also, some positions work better for some people than others and some people have never even thought of doing other things, so experimentation is necessary. It's sorta like driving a car: the basics are the same, but you still have to figure out whether it's a manual or automatic, how fast it accelerates and how precise the steering is, or you probably won't drive it all that well.

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>>18054719

If everyone's different then why the fuck are their 'golden rules' you apparently need to learn about sex.

>>18054842
name one

>>18054844
I don't know, I'm a virgin. But I read tons of posts about how girls will quickly figure out that you're a virgin because you're doing X or Y wrong, and that you need to have lots of sex to be good in bed.

>>18054842

Think of them as guidelines. Makes it easier to get it going if you have some idea where to start.

>>18054854
Then tell me the guidelines. Give me the cheatbook please.

>>18054878
common sense shit, man. like "don't stick it in the ass without lube" or "use a condom".

>>18054879
Surely there's more right? Like where to put your hand/position your legs when fucking? Watching for your partner's reactions? Knowing when and where to kiss? How to change positions?

>>18054880
where to position your legs is just a matter of personal comfort, like adjusting in a chair. there aren't black-or-white 100% concrete answers to shit like that, just adjust and get comfy as you go. the only "guide" we can provide is "don't be an asshole", basically. everything else is "what feels good at the moment".

>>18054880
>Like where to put your hand/position your legs when fucking?
Wherever feels best for both of you. Everywhere tends to work okay for hand positions.
>Watching for your partner's reactions?
This is a good idea, yes.
>Knowing when and where to kiss?
A lot of time and wherever you can reach and feel inclined to kiss. If you've gotten to the point of having sex, kissing is a free game.
>How to change positions?
Open your mouth and suggest it. Communication helps.

Honestly, it may seem intimidating and difficult now, but people have figured sex out for thousands of years even without Internet. It comes pretty naturally once you're actually at it. If you don't stress about it too much and make a good effort, it will most likely go okay. After a few times you'll even be able to tell what you like best and what your partner likes best, so it improves quickly. You'll do just fine.

>>18054891
>Open your mouth and suggest it. Communication helps.

So people really just say, "hey let's do doggy now"?

>>18054897
more like "flip over?" or "wanna switch it up?" in the case of me and my SO but yeah.

>>18054897

Yes. Or "I want to be on top" or "goddamn this bed is loud, to the floor now" or "climb on the table". Easier than trying mindreading. If you're comfortable enough to smash your genitals together, it's fine to talk during it too. It might feel weird at first, if you're not comfortable with the situation or your partner, but it gets easier and makes the whole situation more chill. Sex doesn't have to be a serious ceremony.

>>18054891
>>Watching for your partner's reactions?
>This is a good idea, yes.

what to look out for? if she's wincing in pain or moaning?

good thread guys.