Self control

>>18053501
Stop masturbating to porn.

>>18053542
Yeah, well, how do I find the self-control to not go on sadpanda and wank it every couple of hours?

>>18053553
Stop masturbating to porn is a good start. I think you just have to stop masturbating so much, like, just start masturbating once a day. Eventually, make some hobbies and then the need to "wank it" won't be so predominant when you hace free time.

Also kys desu

>>18053566
That's what I wanna achieve, masturbate once per day, but I can't control myself.

What I need is to find why I can't control myself.

>kys desu

Why?

>>18053501

Jesus, some guys wish they had your sex drive. 5 times and you can keep stiff? How old are you?

>>18053722
24
Friendless, virgin, NEET, depressed, etc etc etc.

Find something to fill your time with
When you feel like masturbating try to discern what the "trigger" is
This could be getting into bed, seeing a tissue box or browsing /b/ etc.
Realize this consciously and replace the porn step with something that you find rewarding
This can be 10 push-ups, a cold shower, a mint etc
Read the power of habit and go on the no fap reddit for support. They're faggots but it helps

>>18053738
I don't go on /b/, mostly /a/ and /v/ and /pol/.
The 'triggers' seem to be the constant viewing of 2D girls and extreme boredom.
So far, I haven't been able to stop it though.
I'll pretend like you didn't just tell me to go to reddit of all places.

I assume spending all day on my pc is the main cause of this but I can't find anything else to do. Extreme brain fog doesn't allow me to think anything.
And I doubt I could go from 5+ times to nofap, once per day is the eventual limit I wanna achieve.

find some really awful porn, something that you'll be ashamed of like goat fucking (but not females with goats, thats hot) and fap to that

probably won't help you but do it and tell us how it feels afterwards

As soon as you wake up, do the following.

*open your windows and turn on your tv
*get fully dressed, including pants and a belt
*stay dressed till you feel sleepy and want to go to bed
*if you shower, get dressed right after you finish
*stay busy or stay focus on a tv show
*drive somewhere public with lots of ppl, but stay in your car if you can
*if you feel the urges coming, walk to your porch or a safe public place and avoid being indoors
*stay on blue boards or get off 4chan all together
*you can try running every 3-4 days a week to flush out impurities in the body
*eat healthy

Although it would be a gesture, try using Web blockers to motivate you to stay off of your usual porn habits.

I used block site add on for my browsers and blocked my favorite porn sites. I mean, even if I go for the "nuclear" options I still know how to get past them, but in a minute of weakness remembering that you blocked some sites to stop you for that reason might motivate you.

Also give it about 10-15 minutes for the feeling of fapping to pass. You'll get back to work

>>18053795
I don't have a TV in my room, I can't drive, I don't own a car and last time I got out of the house was 2 weeks ago, but I get the general idea is to keep myself busy with other things.

I'll try and find something. But it does get hard when I have this severe brain fog and the only things I can do is browse or play videogames.

>>18053722
Is that a lot? Literally never had a clue that my sex drive was that much higher than normal.

I usually fap every day but lately I've been stalking this girl online for like half a year. I've been talking to her too, using different screen names but she seems to like me.

My sex drive has dropped to almost 0, I keep obsessing over her and its like its replacing my need to fap. I now fap only like once a week, maybe, to really vanilla porn, its amazing.

So maybe if that made me drop my urges from a regular fapper to beta christian monk levels, it could help you drop from king-kong-ree fap levels to regular ones??

Find a girl, build a shrine, don't be too creepy.

>>18053930
>find a girl

That ain't happening, even assuming I actually leave the house.

>>18053995

why would you need to leave the house?

>>18054153
Isn't that what everyone always says to lonely shut-ins that spend all their wake time online?

>>18054163

wtf, no. did you even read the post?

You don't actually need to know a person IRL or even have them be aware of your existence for you to be obsessed with them. Doesn't even have to be a real person as long as you love them.

>>18053722
You'll find that most of these guys don't actually have a sex drive. They fap out of habit/boredom/anxiety and can't get hard for actual sex, let alone have any motivation to pursue it.

>>18053995
Why won't you leave your house?

>>18054195
I doubt I could do that. I was never one of those /r9k/ types that obsessed over the flavour of the month attention seeking girl.

>>18054222
Social anxiety, lack of motivation, etc etc.
Propably heard them a million times already if you lurk /adv/, I'm more interested in advice towards having some self control. I believe that if I cut down on fapping it might help with my heavy brain fog and lack of energy.

>>18054239
OP, everything's linked. You being a shut-in, your addiction, your lack of motivation.
Even if you don't want to go out, do you make your bed everyday? Open your windows to let some fresh air inside? Do you change and get dressed every morning? How many times a week do you shower? Do you have any habits like >>18053795 said beside walking outside.

>>18054255
I shower every day. I keep my room relatively civilised, though it's not exactly shining either. I'm very, very far away from the point of piss bottles and cum socks.
I air the room after sleep. I'm rarely out of my pyjamas, I see no reason to wear anything else.

Also, refer to >>18053870

Bumping this for interest.

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My problem is if I don't fap in the morning i'm distracted all day+have a constant boner and if I don't fap at night I can't sleep

How do I win?

>>18054975
Pair with someone who has a similar cycle? Sounds normal to me. I fap a fuck ton so I'd look for someone with a similar high sex drive.

>>18054997
Yeah, about that whole 'pairing' thing...

That's just something that doesn't happen to everyone.

We get like 5 threads like this per day. How about you check one of them for 5 seconds and figure out that the only way to stop is by having the self-restraint?

Or just fucking block the websites, moron.

>>18055024
That does sound like a personal problem, but you're socializing here which still means there's hope. Just socialize in other areas too and find some fwb
Theres apps for that
Nothing wrong with having the magical touch being alone either tho imo.

>>18053501

There's no magical trick to discipline.
You develop it or don't, all of us wake up in the morning wanting the things we want. It sure as shit isn't to work out, or to go to work, or to study, but we do it because we develop discipline. You just have to do it.

>>18053722
>>18054206

I can cum over a dozen times with a mate, screwing until the sun comes up and they're hurting.

>>18055035
You're making a whole lot of assumptions here.
Well, I'm not gonna blame you, but you need to realise where you are.
If someone's a virgin lonely mess that faps 10 times per day at his mid-20s, well, finding a girl is at that stage is impossibble.

As I said, some things just don't happen for some people.

>>18055042
Or are the numbers just an excuse? Instead of counting you could be "doing".
Think your body speaks for itself but that's just my opinion.

>>18055056
I can't understand what you're trying to say.
Counting what?

>>18055072
>Counting what?
Reasons not to fuck. The benefits include not having to fap in shame again, fapping in general shouldn't be shamed. The quicker your done with it the easier life is. The whole paranoia with how many times someone should or should not fap coupled with their age group is a waste of time and just causes more anxiety.

>>18055086
Well, I do believe that my chronic excessive fapping habits might have something to do with things like brain fog, lack of motivation, constant feeling of tiredness, depression, etc.

>>18055088
If you believe in it then that's that period. Weird though, you'd think that after seeing everything you want, you'd feel some kind of motivation to try to turn it into reality.

>>18055097
>Weird though, you'd think that after seeing everything you want, you'd feel some kind of motivation to try to turn it into reality.

Nah, only inadequacy.
As I said, not everything is for everyone, some of us can't do the things everyone else can.

>>18053620
>That's what I wanna achieve, masturbate once per day,
Oh, if that how it is, then it's very simple - just stop being a NEET.
Working people with normal schedule don't have the time to fap daily. I don't even do it once a day because when I have free time I often don't even find myself in the mood to do it.

OP you simply need to discover the pros of not fapping and understand that it can be a greater source of pleasure
I bet you don't even remember how it feel to cum after a 10days break
From your perspective not fapping is like blocking your energy, you need to consider that you can just willingly block it for some time and release it later in a more powerfull and satisfying way..
Enjoy the energy and self esteem boost of a no fap week and release the beast when the time is right
Plus doing it can motivate you to actually chase girls or other fullfilling sexual situation because if you waited for a few days you don't want to spoil it on a mediocre orgasm
Another good rule is to completly stop fapping and only allow yourself to cum if someone else does it for you
If you follow that rule you will be forced to use your new energy boost to create cool sexual intercourse (if you don't then no orgasm and the energy continue to pile up until you find a way to free yourself)
Try it the first two days are kinda tough to go trough and around day 3 of not fapping it's not even difficult anymore
It can change your life

>>18055497
Me again
You should stop with the "only once a day" goal thing
It s not gonna help
Once a day is staying in the same pattern and unneeded frustration
If you do it once a day you can do it 10 time as well, it's equivalent
The point of waiting isn't discipline or blocking your sexdrive the point is to accumulate more sexual energy to reach maximum capacity
Like just before blueballs (7 to 10 days approx.)
Once you get there i promess you're gonna want to make it count, after waiting for so long you will find yourself inventing a funny and brave way to get rid of that stored cum in a spectacular manner without even thinking about it
It will come naturally
I don't know if you find it difficult to approach girls
but i can assure you that if you do so with a 7days plus load in your balls your attitude will be completly different
Its like martial art you stay calm because you know you can crush the person in front of you
In this case you stay cool and seem attractive because you know and the girls can feel it that if you were to have sex it would be fucking wild
Just let the neccesity drive you to accomplish what you truly desire
If you encounter a cute girl after a day of fapping your brain reward system is scrambled by the porn in your mind so you don't even try and rush home to fap even more
Rewire your brain, avoid porn or at least keep your dick in your pants and just see how your behavior around potential sex partner naturally change for the best

>>18053501
Create a routine where you only masturbate once per day. Let's say before bed every night. Don't use porn when you do it. Try to just use your imagination.

Avoid pornography. Delete all the porn you have or you'll try constantly to look at it. A big part of control is making sure you don't have the offending porn around at all. Kind of like if you're trying to lose weight. You wouldn't keep lots of candies and chocolates around.

Start exercising. Buy a gym membership, pick up bike riding, run, or whatever. Just do something to keep you active so you won't keep thinking about your dick. Start with a couple times a week and eventually aim for 60 minutes a day.

Try to stick to blue boards. That should be obvious enough.

>>18055534
and a final advice
remember what i said about "the rule"
giving yourself orgasms isn't your job
someone else should be doing it for you
The world is full of single and bored ladys who would be pleased to help you to do that
Stop waisting that sexual energy and using it for you own profit
Break the addiction pattern (only take a day or two before starting to be really enjoyable)
How can not orgasming for two days can be enjoyable you ask ? Well because making plans about your next huge cumshot actually feels better this and the energy slowly building up mixed with the idea of how you intend to use it
If only girls are allowed to make you cum you will be forced to go out to meet one and believe after waiting for some time you WILL go out and do it
24h - 24h - 24h - 24h and boom you're getting laid and you don't even know you were capable of doing something like that
Quality of life signifycantly improved.. just like that
Also it doesnt matter if relapse from time to time who care.. just reboot nofap the next day

>>18055553
I disagree
Once a day can't help you break the circle
Hold it for at least the whole week
Like monday untill the weekend
Then on friday start to make plans and consider how you could use that saved cum and high modjo and how you could use this strenght in a profitable way for you
Doesnt matter if you're not social or have no friends just go lonewolf in some bar whatever
Dont be effraid to creep or to aim for places full of social people and drunk chicks
If you waited enough rejection wont matter because you wont be trying to protect your ego but to empty your ballsack in a pragmatic way
They say 99% of success is just showing up
Be persistant enough and the will to fucking release the sexual tension will make you creative and skilled enough to get what you want

>>18053501

A lot of it is influenced by having it so readily available. If you're on the internet all day, especially here, there are constant reminders of sexuality. After a while your mind is hardwired to it. I hate to sound like a Christfag but they while thing about "idle hands are the Devil's workshop" is pretty true. You need to give yourself other things to do that are more productive. Things that aren't constantly exposing you to sexual shit.

>>18055628
Probelm with that reasoning imho is that nothing really beat an orgasm in term of goals
So.. i feel like the best attitude to aim for is focusing on a delayed more powerfull and fullfiling orgasm that will come later
It will be stronger and better and the desire you created while waiting will naturally push you toward improvment
Not improvment for the sake of it, improvment of your orgasm quality
Doing that you will force yourself to secure an external and social way to get sexual pleasure
Once you've secured some kind of sex partner/gf fuckfriend whatever quantity will then follow naturally
Don't pay attention to "porn addiction" mumbo jumbo bs there isn't such a thing
Hell if you want to motivate yourself before going out for aprroaching you can as well watch porn to get you in the me mood whatever
Just don't fap to it and save that desire for an actual strategy wich final goal is to obtain better sex and orgasms

>>18055497
>>18055534
>>18055565
OP here.
You're making the assumption that there is a possibility that a girl will actually fuck me.
No girl has ever shown the slightest interest in me in my 24 years in this world. It ain't happening and I've accepted it.

What I need is to learn how to discipline mysef into a routine, not go fasting for a few days then spend the rest of the week with the most disgusting hentai possible.

Bumping this to see what other anons have to say.

>>18055628
Normalfag advice desu.

How can someone who doesn't know how to do anything else just do it? I mean, it's easy if you're a normalfag, but if you're not it's hard.

>>18056301
Same here bud