Help with virgin older brother

What is the easiest step forward for him? Does he have any other interests or hobbies?

>>18053197
That's some serious anxiety. I'd take him to a therapist.
Good on you for teaching him to drive tho. Little things help him build confidence.

>>18053197
Why don't you worry about your own fucking problems? Your parents will eventually kick his sorry ass out and same to you who seems to also be leeching of your parents.

>>18053219
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>>18053203
I think it would be for him to take up a job, really any job just to find out what interests him. He doesn't even know why he started his degree. Maybe I'm just a shitty brother, but I haven't seen or heard of him doing anything other than gaming. He has over 4000 hours on dota 2. He has tried to learn card tricks, but lacks the effort to read the books he's bought about the tricks. He has never taken to sports when we were kids, even though our parents loved baseball and forced us to play.

He's him and I at my grad

>>18053267
Try asking him what he actually is interested in and get him to go to lessons on that. If there isn't anything try making him work in retail stacking stuff with people his age.

>>18053219
I see your point. I do worry about my own problems. I am really nervous about going back to school since I don't know what I am going to do yet. I worry about how my girlfriend's dealing with her divorcing parents. I'm not leeching off of my parents, I work full time as a laborer and help my parents around the house. They don't want anything more from me as long as I go to school and do good. My parents were never hard on my brother because he was bullied a lot and never learned from it. Him and I just turned out differently I guess. It's hard to just give up one someone you used to love.

>>18053267
I think you need to have a sit down with your parents and explain how concerned you are about your brother, that you think they really need to push him to look for work and get in therapy to deal with his anxiety (and depression?)

Its good that you're teaching him how to drive, but insist he keep practicing with you atleast once a week or more. Say to him a day or two in advance "we're gonna practice driving tomorrow" and then remind him that morning. Don't be too hard on him for freaking out btw, I remember how hard it was to learn to drive stick, every time I stalled out at a stop light and people behind me started honking I felt like I was going to die. Don't let him give up on it, the same thing for going to the gym.

He really needs to get out and find work though, living at home and whatnot is secondary, getting out of NEETdom is the primary concern.

>>18053218
He has an appointment with my mom's psychiatrist in two days. He probably inherited my mom's bipolar disorder

>>18053328
That is a great way to help him. That is the first step.

>>18053313
Thanks for the reinforcement, it just feels really shitty that I might be the only one who actually cares about him. He got his driver's licence at age 20 so its not that he can't drive, it's just stick shift. When he was freaking out about stalling, I just said to him that it's part of the learning process and that he'll laugh about it in a years time. I don't know what to do when he gets upset though, because it really ruins the rest of his day. I want him to learn that failure is part of everything and that he can't learn without it.

>>18053355
just keep at it, have you told him what you're telling us that he can get in a mood and it really brings...the mood down? Tell him that's something he needs to work on with his therapist, learning to be in control of his emotions and think more rationally.

You sound like a condescending faggot. Do you think you are somehow 'better' than him?

>>18053403
Yea I sound like an asshole saying all this. I'm trying to explain the whole situation of his life in a 4chan post so I can see why I sound condescending, but I really like my brother and want to help him. He was my best friend before he left for university. I don't think I'm better than him, him and I are really similar. He's just stuck in a rut and I want to help him but I've never done this before so I don't know where to start. I don't want to see myself as better than him and I'm not trying to say that I can help him because I'm a better person. It's only about how he doesn't have confidence in anything he does. He is really school smart, he's definitely better than me at that. I know I would have dropped out if I was in the same shoes as him

>>18053197
Your brother sounds exactly like me desu.
Some people are simply not meant to have a succesful life. Everything is not for everyone, some people just can't handle it. The sooner you accept it the better.

What's his dota mmr btw?

>>18053515
About 5000 and his SR in overwatch is 3950

>>18053515
Don't listen to him, that's the attitude of a loser. Help your brother find a path in life he loves, even if it isn't a stereotypically successful one.

>>18053461
God I wish I had a brother like you. I'm the oldest (by enough) and the younger two are the definition of spoiled brats. Like "fuck you dad the $80 internet doesn't let me watch netlfix and play overwatch" types.

Sorry ranting. Well since I've been in that situation I'd just help him with the smallest things. Once you get him to realize that he has the power to change his life (even if it's just with shit like making sure his room is clean, the stick shift, maybe going on a walk everyday) he'll start doing it on his own.

Also get him to focus on the present more than the future. Getting caught up in the "but i need a house, a car, a family by age X" and all that other shit will just distract and depress him

Good luck OP. You're a good brother.