Ladies, suggestions for a virgin's first dildo?

Stop trying for attention
You're ugly

>>18044616
Duly noted.
Thanks for bumping my thread,
anyone with a real recommendation?

>>18044608
>Later on when I was by myself I tried to finger myself with plenty of lube. It was also, very bad.
Unless you're incredibly turned on (not just wet; you can be wet and still not be turned on), that's pretty normal. Hands are pretty rough.

Idk what youre going to find thats better than just one finger, get some astro glide lube.

Most sex shops will have a regular sized dildo
Like 6 inches long with only the last 4 or so meant for penetration

Exercise helps
As an adult, regular exercise will erode the hymen and also increase your attractiveness

it hurt like a motherfucker when he did that because he busted your hymen open

it hurt when you tried it yourself because the pain association formed by the first experience got you expecting that since it hurt that time it's going to hurt every time

relax

like mentally calm the fuck down and physically don't tense up your cunt muscles in anticipation of pain because the excessive resistance that creates will register in your brain as pain sensations

next time you're in one of those stores, tell the clerk what you're looking for when she approaches and asks if you need help with anything, that's what they're there for

don't into casual sex. not sure that even needs elaborating upon.

babeland is a good resource both for toys and info on them, reviews, etc. Unfortunately everyone's different so there's really no use in me recommending you a specific one; it really comes down to trial and error I'm afraid.

>cheap
Trust me when I say that sex toys are one thing you don't want to cheap out on. 1. you'll likely find the cheaper one deficient in some way and eventually upgrade, meaning the first one was a waste of money (see: me getting a hitachi classic only to get the cordless like 6 months later... don't be like me) and 2. there's basically no FDA regulation etc on sex toys and the cheap stuff could be leaking all kinds of chemicals, which as you can imagine is not good to have around any mucous membranes. Especially when your reproductive health is at stake...

> I've been trying to get into the casual sex scene.
I can tell by the way you're phrasing this that it isn't a good idea for you. Why do this so arbitrarily? What good do you think could possibly come from this?

>I met a guy a while back ago, but when he tried to finger me, I was NOT expecting it to be that painful.
Common enough scenario. It was a combination of your and his inexperience. In fact, I'd say it's more the latter; you're not bad at being fingered so much as he's bad at fingering.

Also, fingers are rougher and more weirdly shaped than a smooth dildo (or dick for that matter). totally different beast.

>I think I just need to, train my pussy I guess?
The vagina is surrounded by pelvic muscle, which is normally somewhat contracted but expands during arousal. It isn't just a matter of being wet, your vagina actually gets wider and deeper.

I really don't think you need to "stretch" yourself, I think your problem has more to do with arousal. Though babeland does sell dilator sets which may be of interest to you.

If you end up really having problems even getting the teeniest tinyist dildo in, you should ask a doctor. Could be a medical condition, but that's very rare.

>>18044627
True. It was just like, this extreme stretching feeling that was so painful. Figured it was because I wasn't loose enough. Should I just bite a pillow and have a dude fuck me already? There's no prep work I need?
>>18044633
I've got sliquid, I just wanted to work myself looser myself first, because I'm sure the look of pain and discomfort would be a bit of a turn off to a guy.
>>18044644
I do work out regularly, but I'll admit I'm not doing anything hard core. I was in a car accident as a teenager that fucked my knee up real bad, so I'm not supposed to do any like, lifting or shit that would put a lot of stress on it.
What kind of exercises erode the hymen?
>>18044647
I suppose so, I didn't bleed though, wouldn't you bleed if you broke your hymen?
I'll try to be as relaxed as possible. I don't have much choice in where I shop in my small bible belt town. Closest thing I've got to a sex shop is a Spencers gifts, which I don't think the employees can help me much lol.
I shop on amazon for my toys mostly.

>>18044647
>>18044658
Oh and
>don't into casual sex.
Why not? Everyone else seems to do it just fine. I'm not really much to apply much moral value to sex either. Sex is just mashing genitals, with or without emotion.
>>18044655
>Trial and error
Unfortunately why I was looking for cheap. Much too scary to blow a whole months worth of rent on a toy I'm going to hate and never use.
I was just trying to stay clear of the 200$ type ones, like I'd feel shitty enough about wasting 50$ on something I hated, but 50$ is about all I could see myself spending. I can't afford much as a broke college student.
> What good do you think could possibly come from this?
I won't be as lonely and sexually frustrated? I can meet guys easy, just never any that are interested in more than at most a fuck buddy situation. I'm cool with that, everyones after different things. I'll take what I can get, I'm just an inexperienced virgin and I know most people get this shit out of the way with a boyfriend in high school. I missed that ship unfortunately, so I have to make up for lost time.
> you're not bad at being fingered so much as he's bad at fingering.
Then why did it hurt so much when I fingered myself too?
> I think your problem has more to do with arousal
How do you know when you're "aroused" enough? Do I like go till I'm basically about to cum and then penetrate? Or do I cum once and then penetrate before I go for a second?

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>>18044608
These will work

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>>18044694
Oh anon, plz.

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>>18044674
Well babeland's Mistress model is $55 and it was my first dildo, and I had similar anxieties about being too tight. So I guess that's my recc.

Plenty of girls are virgins after high school. TV and movies have memed you into thinking you need to rack up exp points, when the fact of the matter is that the best way to get good at sex is to be with someone you know really well and trust and work at it for a long time.

I know a lot of girls who would kill to be virgins again. "grass is always greener" etc etc but you really should enjoy it while you have it... there's no going back ya know? It's your decision but just make sure you're not taking this too lightly.

>Then why did it hurt so much when I fingered myself too?
bad angle, nervous, bad mindset... could be a ton of things.

>How do you know when you're "aroused" enough? Do I like go till I'm basically about to cum and then penetrate?
I think you're thinking about this a little.... mechanically or something, lol. First of all, be really relaxed. (this is one of the pitfalls of casual sex; it's hard to be relaxed when trying to perform sexually for someone you don't know well or trust). Have a couple glasses of wine. Look at some porno or read some erotica. And (very important), go into it thinking "if I can't get the dildo in tonight, that's fine". I think you're giving yourself a little bit of performance anxiety because you feel bad about being inexperienced.

When you're fully aroused, your pussy will (no joke) swell up and feel super sensitive. There's a reason people compare vaginas to flowers; it seriously like "blooms". You'll know what I mean when it happens lol.

The thing you should remember is that sex for women is like 20% physics, 80% psychology. Mindset is everything.

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>>18044728
>some chad trying to jam his cheeto fingers into left pic

>"why does it hurt lol"

>>18044728
I mean its not so much that I regret not losing it in high school, it's just that the dynamics of dating has made it near impossible to get in a romantic comfortable relationship with someone as an adult, WITHOUT fucking them first.
I mean, out of the extreme rare few that I know who are in relationships are either dating their high school sweet heart, or have told me that dating comes after fwb.
I'm 22, I've been looking for a relationship since 17 and it just ain't happening. I'm not gonna survive my 20's if I don't get some form of intimacy, and I'll happily take the casual if it's all I can get. The loving aspect can wait until I'm 30-40 when people decide to start dating seriously again. Or on the off chance a guy enjoys fucking me enough that he'd consider fucking me exclusively. Whichever comes first.
I know there's the small handful of guys out there who would happily date and wait on sex until they're committed, I just simply do not have the time to find the needle in the haystack.
>I think you're giving yourself a little bit of performance anxiety because you feel bad about being inexperienced.
Perhaps, I'll admit the one anon's probably right about being spooked from the past experience to some degree. Fuck that hurt. I don't want to believe I'm ruined because of one bad time though, and that experience is gonna plague my mind forever now. But I am nervous. It's probably not a good mindset, but as I said previously, I'm kind of like "I need to get this shit done myself so I'm not showing some face of absolute pain with a real guy."
Ergo, I'm preemptively expecting pain.

>>18044608
>Where can I get a tiny thin dildo?
at the groce store . put a condom on a carrot

>>18044753
>I mean its not so much that I regret not losing it in high school, it's just that the dynamics of dating has made it near impossible to get in a romantic comfortable relationship with someone as an adult, WITHOUT fucking them first.

If a guy isn't getting any, then he's just one of the hundreds of beta orbiters.

>>18044767
Well I suppose that proves my point, the practice of dating before fucking is dead. It's unappealing to guys, therefore I have to somehow be ready to fuck them before I can get with them. Thats all I'm seeking to do.

>>18044608
Your knowledge of your own anatomy seems seriously lacking. Penetration pain for a virgin is not likely to be too-small-vagina, but rather intact hymen. It IS possible to stretch the opening in the hymen, but sooner or later some tearing is going to have to happen.

>>18044608
Save money. Use a raw hot dog. (As a teen who couldn't possibly have smuggled a dildo past my parents, I got a rubber hot dog meant as a dog's toy. Just keep it clean and it works fine.)