My (now) ex girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and

>>18042290

get over yourself.

>>18042290
read? do some creative stuff? draw paint ?

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>>18042299

BUT THOSE DONT SOUND GOOD SO WHAT SHOULD I DO?

>>18042299
I've tried doing creative stuff. But I feel like that well is blank. Maybe it's just the combination of being out of work (as in, being out physically, since I still have that job) and the breakup, because I feel like that creative part of me is currently either inactive or dead.

>>18042305

then do nothing.

>>18042311
That is what I've been doing now, and doing the same thing is the path of least resistance.

>>18042364

uh huh.

>my doctor told me the best way to get over someone is to start seeing someone else

I'm sorry OP, but that's HORRIBLE ADVICE. Do NOT listen to that. It's true that dating someone else after a break up can make you feel better, but you have to make sure you're ready first. Don't just jump into another relationship when you're still trying to get over your previous one. You'd be no better than your ex if you did that, and you'll realize the new person you date will be nothing but a rebound and will end up carrying your emotional baggage. Fuck your doctor.

I went through something when my ex left me and started seeing another girl within the same week. What helped was a lot of support from my friends and occupying my time. Try something new. Keep looking into easy but entertaining new hobbies. What helped me was (and this is embarrassing to admit) making a YouTube channel and recording my shitty gameplay and commentary. It was just a nice way to occupy my time and set goals for myself (uploading videos regularly, interacting with comments, learning new ways to edit videos, etc.) You just have to find something that you can set goals with and gives you some amount of joy. Also talk to more people than just that quack of a doctor.

>>18042305
Also what's important is just sitting there and letting it all out. I don't know exactly how much this hurt you, but having a few days to just sit around and let yourself vent it all out might help a bit.

>>18042417
I don't have to worry about any of that. Like I said, finding someone else isn't an option anyway.

>>18042441
Just making sure you know exactly why not to follow your doctor's advice.

I re-read your first post and realized that it's only been a month since the incident. Oh boy, you have ways to go. Everything could just be a result of waiting it out. Getting through each day one at a time and trying to distract yourself is important. But it's only been a month, so it's still gonna sting. It's natural.

>>18042290
>best way of attachment wound is to get attached to something else

That's why I don't believe in psychotherapy, especially when it comes to "my gf left me", not some clinical stuff.

1) Stop checking on her, her facebook etc. It's gone, done.
2) Learn that 50% of your life will be like that, pretty much about losing things (losing, youth, friends, health, life in the end)
3) You have just landed on a new planet, new reality, no wonder that old things seem to bring you no joy. Open to your new situation, get to know your new self - what grinds your gears now, what not.
4) Stop fearing loss and change. Deal with it. It's gone, welcome to the new chapter.

These silly millennials.

My fiancee of few years cheated on me before wedding and I found out and managed to cancel ceremony.

Never had a breakdown, depression, need for therapy. Instant increase of mood and life quality the moment I left the whore. People that met me wouldn't believe me that I just broke up. Or they would say that crisis is yet to come.

Year later and no single shit given.

I just can't relate to these people like OP.