My bf is too intense about our relationship

Bump. Please help.

Well you are too young. Its time to be direct and honest.

It's not that he's too intense it's that you see yourself, rightfully or not, as better than him. If he were on a good path and if you saw him as someone you must hold on too then your thread would be

>My bf isn't making a move
>We've been together for 5 years already and we've been through a lot
>we were each other's firsts and we're both working on our career
>he's amazing and studying really hard to be a surgeon and i'm working on being a human rights lawyer
>he mentioned having a family and loving me together but he isn't pulling the trigger
>he hasn't proposed yet or even given some hint of why he hasn't
>should I pressure him or leave it be? is he planning something? it's kinda freaking me out

Don't feel bad, it's ok to be a cunt at 18, completely natural. Instead of thinking how it will be though look at what it currently is.

You are NOT a humans rights lawyer and he is NOT a failure. You both might be these things in the future but you are not now. If you want to move on and think pasture is greener on the other side, go right ahead dear but be honest about it and accept the outcomes, good or bad, as entirely yours and of your own making.

>18039476
Oh? then what do I say?

>>18039496
It's really not the lack of job and stuff. He has a job. I'm just finding the talk about babies really scary. I'd find that scary whoever it was coming from.

>>18039418
This person has no ambition and he will always be holding you back. You just have to decide if you like the relationship enough to be held back.

>>18039506
Well that will change soon if you're patient. Look up biological clock, it should start ticking pretty soon and you'll be dying for babies then. What you can do is use the time off you need as a way to motivative him.

>I really love you too but how would you take care of a family? If you really want these children then prove it, work harder, make a good income so that we can actually raise them, so that we can actually afford it.

Should buy you a few years and by that time you'll REALLY want some fucking kids.

>>18039418
You've got a guy who really loves you and wants to start a family with you, it scares you now but you'll want this a little bit later on in life. Just tell him that you're too young for babies right now. As far as your careers, I don't see why it would matter unless A.) You/He don't/doesn't want you to be making more money than him or B.) He is actively getting in the way of you reaching your goals.

If you doubt his ability to provide for you and a child in the future if he needed to, do what >>18039540 said and motivate him to strive for more than he's currently doing.