I recently told my guy friend I had feelings for him. But he

>>18034020
He may still have feelings for the person from his last relationship. It may be unfair, but you already played your hand and all you can do is hope for the best.

>>18034020
That all means "no" and also with all that dodging he might secretly be a girl

Sounds like you're in the process of dodging a bullet. Dodge it the rest of the way and don't enter a relationship with him.

>>18034030
He hasn't dated anyone seriously in several years and most of the problems are just uni and figuring what he wants to do in life
>>18034037
this is the vibe I was getting. But i really can't tell. I wish he was more straight forward so I can stop mulling over it

>>18034038
yeah maybe you're right.

I would have to be in a severely bad situation to say no to a women I liked.

>>18034063
Well, the upside is you put the ball in his court and he HAS to come up with an answer

>>18034037
>>18034020


Id have to disagree. It sounds like he does have feelings for you. But it also sounds like he is so depressed and lacking in self-esteem that is life is literally handicapped by it. Meaning he probably doesn't think he deserves you or anyone for that matter.

But just because he seems to have feelings, doesn't mean you should pursue him. Being a friend to that kind of person is fine, but dating them is utterly toxic.

Sounds like he is interested to me.

I have personally been in a spot where my health, working, and living arrangements had me in a bad place personally and while I wasn't a depressed mess or anything I simply wasn't in the kind of state where I would consider dating anyone seriously.

Let him come back to you and don't torture yourself in the meantime. If what he says is true then he does really like you and probably feels as though he's strung you along to this point without being able to accept your feelings.

>>18034020
>I don't care about you to put you first so let me bang these other side bitches before settling with you.

>>18034071
>>18034079

I just feel bad for even having feelings for him at this point, because i felt like i added more stress onto the amount of stress he already has.

Ya'll are right maybe I just need to forget about it and just chill and ride out what happens.

he's been acting like nothing ever happened these past few days/messaging me first all the time and it's really messing with me lmfao.

>>18034086

You'll get over him in 2 months, like all girls do.

>>18034090
Pft haha I'll try my best anon if things don't work out. It's really hard when you tutor them for everything though ( _ _ )

>>18034086
Then tell him that his attention is confusing you. Do it kindly so that he doesn't give a negative reaction just as a knee-jerk response.

Be wary about putting him on the spot for an answer though because his split second decision might not be one you like.

The other alternative is to try again in a few days and tell him that you like him but that you would never want to add to the stress in his life and attempt to offer him a "stress free" relationship.

>>18034020
You did nothing wrong.
Some people don't take relationships lightly and they see them as huge compromises of time and effort, if they aren't willing to invest those resources in a relationship in the first place they would rather not to have one.