ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

GIRLS:

>How would you react if the guy you meet couldn't get an erection?

Guys and girls:
Do you often fall back into the "why bother, I'll never find anyone" mindset?

>>18031240
No, i don't.

>>18031225
If it was a boyfriend I would work with it through him, but secretly feel really hurt. If it was a hookup, I'd probably just leave.

>>18031240
But I have someone, and even if I didn't, I don't need someone to make me feel like life is worth living.

>>18031225
Given that I don't sleep around, I'd probably like you and possibly have feelings for you, so I'd be understanding and try and help you work through it. That said, if you permanently couldn't, it'd probably be a dealbreaker

>>18031243
When guys can't get boners, it's usually not the woman's fault (unless they're just not attracted to women). It's nerves or a medical condition. Not sure why you'd feel hurt.

>>18031243

damn...

>>18031250
Trust me. Pretty much every woman who has ever had this happen to them feels like they're unattractive to him. We're insecure creatures.

>>18031258
I've never had it happen to me, but my boyfriend does have trouble cumming and I don't feel unattractive or insecure because of it. Just because you feel that way doesn't mean that every woman does, nor does it make it reasonable to.

>>18031240
I've never left it.

>>18031262
Most women do though. It often comes up in google etc (I was googling how to help with a bf who can't get it up and nearly all of the articles had some mention of insecurity).

I'm not saying every woman does. Just that many do. And it's not unreasonable.

ladies why wont any of u do me

32 m virgin los angeles

kik: zsasza

finding a girl thats into virgins is harder than finding a girl thats into shit play. what gives

how does my unspoiled and untouched wonderland of a slightly overweight body not
get you moist

do you not see that virgins are fine wine that only get more delectable with age

I don't have any confidence with women, is there a way to be honest about being awkward without creeping you out? I'm trying to change but I'm not making any progress. Any original and helpful insights would be greatly appreciated

>>18031311
Pretty much only men care, and even then only the sexist or religious ones. Women will sleep with you when you make yourself desireable, and most won't care if you're a virgin.

ladies, how do I get to know a girl better that I might be interested in without looking like just another orbiter?

Men pretending to be women:

I'm 32. What is the absolute lowest age that I'd be able to find to a girl who could be interested in me? Obviously, above the age of 18. Follow up questions: for which age groups is the idea of dating an older guy more appealing? What is the age group I could potentially have the highest level of success?

Only tangentially related second question: asking out an employee at a fast food drive through: no-no, or huge no-no? Even if she seemed kind of flirty? At least, what I would have to imagine flirtation was like?

Been seeing this girl lately, looks to be headed for a proper relationship and I really like her.

One of her friends let me know on the down-low that this girl has been raped previously but it's one of those things I'm not supposed to know. It was intended as a friendly warning not to push too hard on the physical intimacy side of things.

Of course this doesn't change my opinion of her, I just want to know how I should react if/when she tells me, which I sort of assume she will sooner or later.

I'm not great getting upset or angry on someone's behalf and I don't want to be an edgy fuck and promise to kick some dudes teeth down his throat or anything like that.

>>18031373
Does this girl have red hair and a name that starts with an S? Because if that's her, and you touch her, I swear to whatever god you believe in that I will fucking cut you.

In addition to this: >>18031404, does her friend's name start with a J? Because if both this and the previous thing are true, I can very easily find you.

>>18031418
>>18031404

No. Just no dude. Is this bait because I said I didn't want to give her an edgy response?

>>18031431
If neither of things I said were true, then I don't give a shit what kind of response you give her.

If her name starts with an S and her friend's name starts with a J, then you stay the fuck away from her. Don't pursue a proper relationship, don't become friends or acquaintances. Just stay the fuck away.

>>18031435
Dude, I'm just lurking, but why? you piqued my interest.

>>18031438
i think hes a beta orbiter

>>18031431
>>18031438
It's obviously bait. All that anon knows is that she's been raped, that doesn't narrow it down all that much.

That or mental illness.

>>18031435
You sound mentally stable. No neither of those things is true so you can untwist your panties because I'm not hitting on your girl.

>>18031441
Bitter ex-boyfriend. Kind of like an orbiter, but I will definitely resort to violence. We give almost no shits about consequence.

>>18031445
If it's not bait, I just want to know what is going on. I don't think he's got a leg to stand on.

>>18031449
Right, and you know that being a bitter ex-boyfriend won't win her back? Girls really hate that shit.

>>18031449
I hope you get a restraining order put against you. You're fucked dude. Move on.

What drives most young women these days to be so:
- Simultaneously vulgar and inarticulate
- Overtly emotional
- Political/Partisan

Seems like every woman I run into these days has an attitude and an opinion

NOTE: When I say "attitude and opinion", I mean an attitude and an opinion. Not an argument and a conviction.

Obviously I'm condescending a bit but I really need to know what the deal is.

>>18031455
Oh, it's not about getting her back. It's about making sure she gets to be as miserable as me. What the fuck gives her the right to be happy?

>>18031458
You're in a liberal university or you're deliberately seeking out the bad examples of women. Most women aren't like that.

>>18031461
You're totally fucked dude. Get a life.

>>18031452
>I just want to know what is going on.
I'd say he's unable to see things from anyone's perspective but his own, which leads to:
1) asking a random stranger on the internet if they're not talking about his ex,
2) doing so with a "tough guy" persona like anyone give a shit.

>>18031458
You growing older, I'd imagine.

>>18031455
This. Doing jack shit gets them back though. A girl I was dating was pretty shit at messaging and seeing me so I just stopped giving a shit or replying much, eventually I stopped altogether. A week later she went through a friend to contact me desperately, she was crying and everything. I did reluctantly but things improved so it was pretty good.

>>18031461
I bet you own a trench coat and pose with your cheap shop decorative samurai swords.

>>18031458
Because today you can shout about anything and there will be people willing to listen. Tumblr is a haven for spouting ridiculous bullshit and being taken seriously by others.

>>18031458
>- Simultaneously vulgar and inarticulate
Not where I am.
>- Overtly emotional
Thats just being young. The men are too.
>- Political/Partisan
Everyone has politics
>eems like every woman I run into these days has an attitude and an opinion
You'd be surprised how many people, male and female don't actually have arguments, only opinions. It's a young person thing.

>>18031474
If I had a trenchcoat or cheap replica samurai swords, how the fuck would I have gotten a girlfriend in the first place?

>>18031477
Honestly I'm surprised you did get a girlfriend. How did you do it? Did you fake your whole personality?

>>18031477
I don't know but you obviously didn't do it with your natural charm.

>>18031372
My boyfriend is 32, I am 23.
A lot of girls around my age have some sort of fascination for older guys, most of my friends are dating older.

>>18031368
Talk to her as you'd talk to a male friend.
Don't compliment too much. Don't be a doormat - stand for yourself, don't go out of your way to be nice to her, don't buy her things. Conversation should be mutual.

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Girls: How much does a guys car matter to you? I've heard a lot of women complain if a guy has an older car (anything pre-2000s) and I have the same car as in pic attached that I've restored and use as my main car.

>>18031489
I literally do not give a fuck. I know nothing about cars, and like old ones for the aesthetic (like 50s and 40s). If you had no car, I wouldn't think lesser of you.

>>18031489
In general, if it looks somewhat decent, is clean and works fine - I don't care.
A lot of pre-2000 cars are definitely not decent looking after 20 years of usage, but if yours is restored it is probably in better conditions than mine.

>>18031458
It is not a gendered thing.
I mean, even just on 4chan - whenever the discussion gets somewhat political, 3/4 of the thread turns into a huge alt-right rant, with poor grammar and no argumentation. And, as you know, it's mostly guys on here.

Politics are more important today than they have been in a long while, and when large masses of people get into politics it inevitably gets highly polarised. People also rarely inform themselves properly before getting an opinion - they get an opinion and then inform themselves in order to reconfirm their bias.

It is not a women thing, it is a people thing.

>>18031507
I think it's a young people thing, specifically.

>>18031489
>own restored classic sports car
>never really elicits a response from girls
>sell it and buy an 05 alfa romeo hatchback
>girls always say it's a very nice car

;_; don't listen to girls bro they don't know shit about what makes a car "good"

>>18031511
No, a lot of adults are like that.

For example it is very common that people my parents' age start using internet and social media without properly understanding them, and they believe all the bullshit they read on facebook (even blatantly fake news). My dad (a man who reads two books a week, active in politics, lawyer) used to believe bullshit he read on facebook.

They form their opinion on fake facts, and then express themselves not very properly online.
Most of the arrogant, ignorant, awful comments online is by 50 year olds.

Then, of course - young people are young, they tend to be more extremist in their opinions, you usually grow out of them as you grow up, if you're somewhat intelligent.
But I found out that a lot of adults never really grew out of them, sadly.

>>18031514
I would probably have dumped you just because you own an alfa romeo. Alfa romeo owners are the worst. You should have kept your sports car.

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>>18031514
>alfa hatchback
>not even buying a decent looking alfa like a GTV or a spider or even a 159
dude wtf

>>18031531
That's because ignorance is the default state for anyone. We are born ignorant, and it takes work, exposure and curiosity not only to know the basics on a given subject, let alone to keep up with new evolutions or get paste the "common knowledge" type of errors.

People are busy and the data needed to understand shit is huge, it's normal that on 95-99% you're gonna have no idea what you're talking about.

That's why humility>"herp derp I'm so much smarter than the sheeple".

>>18031240
I'm in it most of the time. Sometimes I fall back out of it.

>>18031243
You're a HUGE bitch. The cock life is hard.

>>18031536
Thought about the 159 but I wanted a smaller car, GTV is ugly.

>>18031534
>Alfa romeo owners are the worst

You've clearly never met a Citroen owner.

>>18031570
>You've clearly never met a Citroen owner.
The worst I've ever met is Audi owners desu.

For females:

What to not ask you on the first date?

>>18031570
>You've clearly never met a Citroen owner.
Citroen owners are pretty harmless.
Alfa romeo is the worst where I live, whenever there's an alfa in front of me I go full "oh noooo".

Anyone dated a French girl?

Are they big into texting. She takes hours to respond, but when she does its usually lengthy and friendly.

>>18031607
I'm a Belgian so close to the same thing. It depends on the class of people. The lower class they are the more they cling to phones. People with busy lives and busy jobs text less. Also some firms have "phone in the closet" rules. If there is an emergency family has the number of the company so there is no need for you to stay reachable.
Also a lot of people have switched to whatsapp or fb messenger more than text.

>>18031404
>>18031418
>tfw I know someone who fits this description
I'll ask her about her exboyfriends today.
But seriously dude, what about the original post makes you assume this is about your situation? It's a very vague question, no identifying information at all.

What do you even say to a complete stranger? Like, there's no real reason for me to start a conversation with her, especially on a bus. Think I catch her staring though, but I don't know if she's staring or just noticing my staring.

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guys,
what do you type in if you search for porn?
curious what you fall back to when you are in the heat of the moment.
what would you type in if you have jacked it for a while and are now ready to cum?

>girls can't be princesses all they want, but they don't wanna
>as a manly man, I can never be princess
Why do you do this? ;_;

guys: whats the maximum amount of previous partners you'd accept a girl you want to date/marry having?

>>18031698
pawgs.

>>18031713
had to google that.

>>18031698

Male here. I like "Lesbian" as a blanket, go-to search. Maybe add "Lezdom" or "Domination". Usually add "Blonde".

"Face licking" if I'm feeling kinky. It's the only "weird" fetish I have.


>>18031707

The number by itself doesn't mean much, really. It's more about her general attitude. 10 partners would be a deal breaker for me if she posts half-naked selfies, parties and hangs out with guys a lot, and all that jazz. 10 partners but being more reserved wouldn't bother me. That kind of stuff.

>>18031682
Make small talk about taking the same transport or make a small compliment about her hair.

>>18031698
I don't watch a specific type of porn when I'm about to cum.

>>18031707
This is relative. Maybe less than 15 for a 25 yo? Sometimes I want to marry a prostitute who has had 1000 dicks in her, though.

>>18031682
>Like, there's no real reason for me to start a conversation with her, especially on a bus.

Right on the money. No reason to talk to her. Don't do it.

>>18031726
what's it with guys and lesbians? why do so many guys watch les porn?
i find male porn habits extremely interesting

>>18031682
>on a bus
Just don't, literally the worst place to strike a conversation out of the blue.

>>18031741

I can talk for myself, but I think it's like this: I would like to walk into a room with two girls fucking, but not into one with a dude and a girl.

That's why I only watch straight porn if it's POV. I guess I have trouble "projecting" myself into the movie, and POV helps.

Girls and guys...
So there's this girl from college I've been interested in for ages and she seemed interested too but I found out recently that she's started to talk with another dude... And it turns out it's someone I know and that a while ago when I was interested in another girl he started talking then dated her before I could make my move. Also my ex's ex. I really don't know what to do... help

>>18031767

Are you 18+ to post here? If she seems interested ask her out. This shouldn't even be a question.

>>18031726
>>18031735
personally, i was dead set on ~5 being the maximum at around 22-25

10 is a definite deal breaker for me though

it seems it would be difficult to be trustworthy/ stable while putting up those numbers

I realized that I should just go with my gut feeling instead of taking advice from you people. You faggots fucked up my chances with 2 girls already.

>>18031827

I wouldn't mind. Maybe she got the first seven or eight a while ago, and now she is settling down on more long term partners. As I said, I'd have to see her personality right now to decide.

I'm 25, by the way, so that's the age range I'm shooting for.

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Do women even find regular male bodies attractive? I mean when they are not ripped, not fat but no big muscles or anything. I honestly don't get how the male body could be attractive to anyone unless it's the body of a greek god.

>pic unrelated

>>18031832
details please

>>18031839
im not a girl but from what ive seen, body matters little

being /fit/ will gain you a few points for sure but social status, confidence, and financial security are much more "sexy". especially as you get older

dont let that be an excuse to let yourself go though, anon

>>18031707
Depends, i'm 24, for a 24 year old girl, 6 partners or so would be my limit.

Because if she had more, then that means she had more than one relationship a year at least since she was 18. Which leads me to believe she either doesn't take relationships seriously, doesn't know what she wants, is very bad at choosing partners, is a whore or all of the above at the same time.

Like other anon said, her general attitude and personality counts too, a lot. If she's 24 yo, has had, like, 8 previous boyfriends, is constantly on her phone taking selfies for social media, has lots of "guy friends" and is the flirty type, why would you date this person and not expect to eventually become "ex number 9"?

>>18031682
>Like, there's no real reason for me to start a conversation with her
then why start a conversation?

There obviously is a reason. So go and say hi, introduce yourself, tell her you think she's beautiful and you'd love to have a cup of coffee with her, if you dress normal and don't fucking smell then the worst thing she will do is politely say no, don't try any cringy fucking pick-up lines, they almost never work.

>>18031839
No, not really. A regular male body isn't really anything great to look at. That said, I think the arms are the nicest body part on a guy so if someone has nice arms I'll take notice. Other than that, the face is way way more important

>>18031863
>There obviously is a reason.

Don't tell him that. If all you have to say is "You are hot/cute/beautiful", don't talk to that stranger. Why is 4Chan so obsessed with picking girls up on the bus/bus stop? Jesus!

Girls,
When you do that sexy little lip bite, are you aware that you're doing it or is it involuntary?

>>18031870
Both.
But I'm always horny when I do.

>>18031870
Middle road for me. The impulse is instinctive, just like licking the lips, but I do realize I'm doing it and can stop myself. Same for moaning actually. Yes it's natural and it takes me out of it to be silent, but it's not like I can't physically hold it in.

>>18031852
this is my reasoning exactly

i guess 5-6 is is a reasonable cutoff

Girls

What are some things your boyfriend can do to turn you on/get you in the mood?

If a guy is texting your girlfriend, what should you do?

She says it's just smalltalk. Is it normal to be uncomfortable with this? Obviously I'm not going to try and prevent her from texting people–I don't want to be controlling. But I'd be lying if I didn't say it makes me feel a little threatened. This is probably just insecurity on my part. Just wondering if it's normal.

>>18031914
>teasing me, light banter
>breathing down my neck, whispering in my ear, pulling me into him from behind and licking my neck
>firm pressure on the small of my back and/or around my hips/love handles
>not reach for me in any way at all but just look me up and down with that "I want to bend you over" look

First ones I think of.

>>18031925
What sort of things does he whisper?

>>18031923
It's normal to feel a little bit of insecurity. Just gotta realize that if she hasn't given you ant reason not to trust her that it's just in your head and not let it manifest itself in a negative way. This kind of feelings, while common and normal, can sabotage relationships.

>>18031923
Depends. Has she told him she's taken? Is this a guy she has anything in common with (like doing a group project) or someone who asked her number just because she's a cute girl? How often does she text him and does she instantly grab her phone when he reaches out even if she's with you?

Basically it's more about the bigger picture. Any guy would be uncomfortable with a guy she only knows because he's attracted to her wanting to "just have small talk", especially if they text all the time, she turns her screen away from you etc.
Whereas wanting to forbid her from texting any guy ever is psycho territory.

>>18031927
>you have no idea how good you look from over here
>I've wanted you all day
>put that down/come here, let me taste you

Though honestly it's more about the entire situation. If it's said with enough innuendo, just a "can you spare a couple of minutes?" will make me shiver.

>>18031914

Not much. Sometimes he looks at me or smiles at me and I'm ready to go. But more seriously, one of the hottest things is when he builds up to it throughout the day by being suggestive, tactile and saying outrageously inappropriate things in public places and such. Being acutely aware that he really wants me for a whole day is the biggest turn on there is. Resulted in some of the best sex of my life.

What's the best way to get back at a cheating cunt?

>>18031951
If you haven't officially broken up with her yet, ghost her completely. Change your relationship status and block her on everything. Forbid any mutual acquaintances from informing her on anything having to do with you. Don't even confirm to her whether or not you found out that she cheated. The complete lack of closure will drive her up the fucking wall.

>>18031951

Find someone better, prettier, smarter and more loyal and flaunt your newly found happiness in the cheating cunts face.

>>18031876
>>18031880

Alright, now the other night I was out with a friend and we were having a good time so I tried to kiss her. She refused but immediately looked upset about something.

We recovered and I got her laughing and noticed she bit her lip and gave me what I could fucking swear were her bedroom eyes. You think she changed her mind and wanted it?

>>18031959

People also bite their lips when nervous or anxious. It could be that you freaked her out instead. Impossible to tell for sure. You should probably talk to her.

>>18031959
If this was the first time you ever hinted to her that there was potentially more than something platonic, I think she was just shocked and needed time to process and sort out her feelings. Then her response would indicate that she at least started warming up to the idea a bit more.

I can't talk for someone else but I do think this doesn't necessarily mean she actually wanted to make out then and there. Also because if she really did, it wouldn't have been that hard to kiss you in turn after you already made it clear that you wanted to go there.

And personally I just really hate it when guys try to go in for a kiss when they got shot down just minutes or hours beforehand. It's not a page you refresh. If she really radically changed her mind like that, I think the onus was on her to make that known and not on you to assume she did a 180.
If I were you I'd hang out with her again, at night, get some drinks, and flirt with her a bit about it. Tell her she's lucky you'll still acknowledge her existence after her brutal rejection. Ask her if it's been on her mind etc.

>>18031240
not since getting along with girls and seeing how many awesome girls are out there.

>>18031682
never... I repeat NEVER cold approach a girl in a closed space like a bus or train. maybe outside, but if you approach her in a place where she has no way to get away from you, you are a creep automatically.

>>18031698
redhead creampie is my go to porn, dogs on girls if Im kinky.

>>18031707
I have been interested in a girl once, who whored around and had 60+ sexpartners at 23, she was absolutely chill and drug friendly. I guess 100 would be a number that would make me think twice, but nymphos are great people.

>>18031767
well so there is a dude that has the same taste in women as you have, and he is faster than you, what will you do to not die alone?
I guess it's logical, either let him his cake and eat it too or try to be successfull for once.

>>18031951
be sucecssfull and a great man and husband and let it be known to her

>went out with a girl last weekend, she seemed interested
>ask her out for this weekend, she's become busy
>She sends me a snap or text every day, but used to bombard me with messages.
When do I move on?

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to anyone (I'm a guy tho)
do any of you guys just feel like "chasing women" especially in college is just a big fucking waste of time?
Right now I work part time, maintain a good GPA and more than half way through college, make low-fi hip hop beats, socialize with people well, hang out with a couple of different friend groups, bike, and play vidya/other geek shit and vape a lot of weed. I really enjoy hobbies, both and low productive ones.
Whenever I get an opportunity with a female it never ever goes anywhere, and I'm left feeling annoyed and like I just wasted a ton of fucking time, that I could have been doing a ton of more productive things, or even just playing fucking video games and getting high.
But then I wake up the next day thinking
>fuck I really want to bone some girl, how long has it been? Nearly 3 years? For fucks sake. I'm 21 and I still haven't had sex or hooked up since high school.
then the cycle repeats. What's wrong with me /adv/? I know I'm a faggot that's got some issues with self esteem but I get by pretty well in life, so why do I feel like this when I'm trying to go somewhere with a girl? Does anyone know this feel?

noting I've been working on just befriending more girls in college, which has helped loads to my confidence in the past year, but still I have this issue.

Sorry for the blog post, I like to vent on this board.

I have no trouble with confidence or upholding a conversation, the problem being that I don't have a clue of how to start it in the first place. How do I initiate a conversation with a girl?

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As a guy, how do I express deep and genuine concern for a girl without sending any wrong signals?

I don't want her to feel like there's any strings attached to my being worried about her, but I really am

>>18032017
Same
I can't be fucked myself, I like my work enough

>>18032017
If it matters to you I'm a girl.

I have a bit of conflicting thoughts about your post. On the one hand, I don't think literally anyone ever sat around going "fuck, I sure wished I invested lots of time into chasing rare nights of meaningless sex". I feel that for most people who have regrets, it's simply regretting that they never put themselves out there to begin with, or were too scared or dense to go with opportunities that presented themselves. So in that regard I absolutely feel like there's no point in for example, going to clubs all the time if you get nothing out of it, solely looking to maybe meet some girl who wants to have sex.

But on the other hand, I do think your extremely pragmatic attitude regarding your time is off. Social interaction doesn't necessarily have a set goal. You never know when that person you once tried to get closer to for dating can tip you a job opening, or the dates you went on that lead nowhere provided you some introspection that helped you eventually get someone else. It is good that you want to spend your time doing stuff that you enjoy and get something out of, but you cannot reasonably expect to only ever invest time in things you know beforehand will without doubt render you benefit, either. I mean, that would mean you couldn't try to make new friends either for example, because sometimes those fizzle out as well before a real bond has been formed.

My advice would be to not necessarily give up on girls, but treat them as a welcome bonus. Talk to girls whenever you can, especially low key flirting/teasing. Ask them out whenever you want. But don't pursue unless you have clear promising signals, and try not to get hung up on individual girls, especially if you really don't know what they're like at all. Plus: women fucking love men who appreciate them, but don't -need- them and are happy in their skin/with life as is.
Try to appreciate the journey a bit more and not just stare at the eventual destination.

>>18032042
I'd focus on the reason(s) why you are worried and not the sentiment of worry itself. There's a huge difference between "I worry about you. I don't want to see anything happening to you. It saddens me to see you like this." and "You've been neglecting college. I hear you barely talk to your friends. You've lost weight. I worry about you."

Obviously just giving bullshit examples but you get the idea. Be factual and basically make her face what it looks like to an outsider.

>>18032042
Are you intimate with her in any way?
If you don't know her well, just don't intrude in her life.

>>18032045
>Ask them out whenever you want
Tough, I'm pretty busy and even though I act really confident in front of a crowd I'm super shy when it comes to one on one.

Is is that simple?

> But don't pursue unless you have clear promising signals
Even harder

>>18032047
All I really know is that she's upset a lot of the time, but won't tell anyone exactly why. It's someone I only know through online interactions. I've known her long enough to realise that her offline life is pretty hard, though.

>>18032050
Online and talking for a few years now.

>no replies ;_;
>>18031701

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>>18032045
>Talk to girls whenever you can, especially low key flirting/teasing. Ask them out whenever you want. But don't pursue unless you have clear promising signals, and try not to get hung up on individual girls, especially if you really don't know what they're like at all.


this is what I've actually been doing that's helped my self esteem issues since I transferred to my hick town state college, from living in a super liberal city for the first 20 years of my life. I appreciate the validation that I'm hitting the right notes, but that last part always bugs the hell out of me. I get hung up on individual girls and it bothers the hell out of me, it also affects my work ethic/study habits.

I haven't the slightest idea how to stop caring, as I've always had issues with over thinking things/not letting go of problems.

>>18032057
Because what you wrote makes absolutely zero sense.

>girls can't be princesses all they want, but they don't wanna
??? They can't be princess and don't wanna? What does that even mean?
>as a manly man, I can never be
...? You want to be a princess? What?
>Why do you do this?
...?! Why does who do WHAT?!

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Girls:

Due to eye irritation, I'm going to wear my glasses for awhile. However, I'm a bit worried about seeming less "manly" (confident, tough, etc etc), but I do like the idea of seeming smarter (that's one of my stronger points).
Do glasses make guys seem less confident and stuff? Is it really unflattering in general? Or is it overall trifling and I'm just overthinking this?

>>18032055
>Is is that simple?
In a way yes and in a way no. People have an ingrained anxiety towards social rejection, for very good reasons. Walking up to a stranger and asking them out is something that has no clear social script, you have to walk out of line so to say. That's terrifying to lots of people and then they make it worse for themselves by picturing how they came across or what they did wrong if they get turned down.

The thing is that most people are reasonable and reasonably friendly. She might say "no thanks" and she might say "uh, no thanks" in an aggravating manner. But she won't realistically say "ew no, leave me alone you creep", and in that .5% chance that she does... then who is really embarrassing themselves, you for having asked someone who caught your eye to chat with you some time, or her for throwing a tantrum over someone being taken with her?

I don't like seeing stuff like "girls don't want to get approached when they're reading". If I'm out in public, people can approach me for whatever the fuck they want, I should've stayed locked in my house if I wasn't okay with that. What DOES bother me is someone not respecting my cue that I want to be left alone if they do try it. I feel that what happens a lot is that men find it so scary to approach someone (understandably), that as soon as they do they feel like they're all in and they have to ride this train to the end of times. Nope. Everyone hates awkwardness, that's what etiquette is for, to avoid it. It virtually never has to come to a verbal "please leave me alone" if a girl doesn't want to talk. She will instead reject you non-verbally and that's your real sign to go away. So instead of going all out with a select few girls, your aim should be to try more often but less hard. Continues with examples in next post.

>>18032076
I honestly think glasses are pretty much the hottest thing ever on a guy.
If you pick the right kind of glasses, they make you look smarter and more attractive.
Buy a somewhat stylish, flattering pair.

>>18032079
why can't I meet a girl like you

>>18031698
I don't really have a go to porn search term. I kinda just browse around until i'm like "thats the shit I like" which is usually like kinky stuff. Feet, girl on girl, you know, sexually deviant type stuff. I cant really watch regular porn it doesn't do it for me

>>18032079
Go with the reading example, I'm reading and someone comes up to me and asks what I'm reading.

If she rejects you she might
>hold up the cover for you to see
>flatly mention the title with brief or no eye contact
>not even mention what it is and give an evasive answer ("oh, study stuff")
Most important is always the body language. Does she stiffen up, keep her eyes locked at the page, roll her eyes, either stare at you unimpressed or not look at you at all, physically turn away from you, only make very brief eye contact she can't hold, not smile at all? She's not buying.

Signs of interest, on the other hand are;
>actually giving an in depth answer
>giving a personal answer ("my favorite, can't get enough of this one, I must've read it a hundred times")
>giving a quick, evasive answer and then immediately moving on to another topic [could be embarrassed of what it actually is she's reading]
Body language: open faced smiles, eye contact, turning her body towards you or leaning towards you, visibly checking out what you look like and what you have on you.

Don't waste your time trying to connect with someone who's resisting you right off the bat. Just tell her "cool, enjoy it" and leave it at that. Don't dwell on WHY she didn't want to talk. For all you know she has explosive diarrhea and is dying to get home. Or her boyfriend broke up with her two days before and she's trying not to cry. These are extreme examples, but they get the point across that frankly you have no idea what's going on with her and what context you enter to her by chatting her up. So there is no point in analyzing your behavior like that's the only factor and whatever you tried happened in a vacuum. No, she was already in a good or bad, sociable/energetic or sullen mood before you entered the equation to begin with.
Only if you notice patterns of people responding negatively to you while you don't understand why, then you can try to analyze the way you approach people.

>>18031698
Depends on the mood
My fetishes usually rotate around rough buttfucking, girls peeing and furry porn

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>>18032081
Personally I wear these. Kind of average, in my opinion. Not something I would exactly call "stylish".

>>18032092
Thanks a lot m8

I-it'd be nice to go out with you, you seem cool

>>18031707
Honestly the amount of partners a girl has had doesn't really bother me at all. Sex is sex. As long as I can trust her then the amount of partners she's had doesnt matter. If I cant trust her however, and that number is high well I wouldnt marry her. It all boils down to trust for me.

Girls and boys, how long do you usually wait after asking someone out and be told "later" for them to come back to you? How long does it usually takes for you to go back to them (if you want to)?

>>18032092
Now you need to get thicker skin and feel more at ease with yourself in order to approach girls in the ideal way - which is, natural, light hearted, casual. What you are trying is to keep it as close as possible to the core feeling: you took a liking to her. She interests you. You want to know more. It typically pleases people to feel that someone has sincere interest in them. So the best thing is to go with your gut feeling - don't approach the girl you think is realistic for your league, approach the girl that is smiling at something in a way that touches you, or the girl who is reading your own favorite book, or the girl who is removing her bag from the aisle seat as new people get on with a haste that is endearing to you.

This is the easy part in theory. Being confident about not thinking but just taking the leap and talking is a lot harder in practice and there is only one way to efficiently get better at this and that's lots of practice. You won't want to talk to women in the wild all the time because it's stressful and what not, so start with men or women obviously not close enough in age to date. Chat with people about the dog they're walking. Joke with kids who talk to you. Don't just ask a stranger for directions but ask them what bar they can recommend.
The purpose of this is not that talking to strange men and old ladies will give you the pick up skills of a suave ladies' man. It's that it will build your confidence that people will appreciate you as long as you're polite, non-intrusive and friendly. That they might even greatly appreciate you if you're both interested and interesting.

THAT will give you the self esteem to shrug off a bitchy girl here and there, because it gives you deep confidence that you did nothing wrong so her reaction is on her. To even pity someone who wants to waste energy on unnecessary negative sentiment.

Obviously this is a very long term process but this is what you should strive for, in my opinion.

I've got a question for the gals.

So i just made an account on OkCupid and put up some pictures for girls to see and made a profile of myself. Overall I'm satisfied with what i put out there but literally the only person to like me was a 20-year-old girl 5 minutes after i created my account and having not put anything on it yet. I spoke with her for a bit but she was somewhat slow and uninterested a conversation as much as she was interested in knowing much about me. After I finished putting some info on my account I decided to keep chatting and eventually Just lost all interest in her due to her painfully obvious lack in the personality department. She was cute and seemed to be well off when I looked at her profile but she had next to nothing on it.

I feel like I'm doing it wrong. Why is it that when i had jack shit but a single picture on my profile I instantly get someone to like and chat it up with me but when i let a little out Nobody gives a fuck? The less i have the better? What's the trick to getting a gal to like and chat with you? other than that girl nobody else has liked me just visited rarely and I feel like I need to take the first step and message a girl I like but when I don't have a like back it feels like it's gonna be in vain?

Advice? I'd appreciate it a lot.

>>18032102
"Later" as in "Im really busy with work this week"?
Or
"Later" as in "Some indeterminant time in the future ranging from next year to never"?

>>18031951
Don't get back, get better. Stop wasting your time trying to ruin someone else's day just because they did you wrong. That's immature. Pack up and move on. Otherwise you're only going to be perpetuating the pain/hate cycle.

>>18032102
I'm uh, well submissive and not with great self esteem, so indefinitely. Usually if someone tells me later and doesn't get back to me, I assume it was a hint he's not interested and is too nice to say so.

However this did come to bite me in the ass once, but thankfully worked out.
>Texted dude: "Hey, if you're free tonight let me know!"
>"Ok, I'll let you know"
>Never responds
>Week passes, get random text out of blue that was a group text between us and a mutual friend.
>He then texts me privately, we chat, then he asks "So why haven't I heard from you in a week?"
>Tell him I thought he was hinting at me to get lost by not getting back to me
>He apologizes, says he just forgot about the text.

Moral of the story, don't jump to conclusions too fast or you'll risk missing out.
I'd give it a couple days, unless it was a situation like mine where you were like "Lets hang out /today/" in which case I'd give it till a couple hours before you wanted to go out and then say "So you interested in coming out tonight?"

>>18032110
The first

This girl I'm interested in is giving me some really weird mixed signals. Recently I found out her last couple of boyfriends have been emotionally and verbally abusive to her
She's opened up to me quite a bit and she's told me that I make her feel safe and comfortable to be herself. Does it sound like I've got a shot with her?

>>18032085
I'm in never heard of tier-Europe, but I swear there's lots of very interesting and very nice people around. Actually getting to meet them and discover who you click with is the hard part, not them existing. Might be a sad consolation prize but I wanted to point it out for the record, the internet can greatly skew your idea of how many nice people are out there.

>>18032097
Thanks man, I hope it is, though I talk a shitload as you could probably guess by now :)

For what it's worth, obviously I have never lived through the male experience of all this (although I have been around here for a long time so I do feel pretty in tune with the typical self sabotaging thoughts and worst case scenarios), but I did use to be really nervous and anxious around (strange) people for a long time and I overcame it this same way. For me nothing grounds me more if I feel a bit shaken or insecure during an interaction than realizing to myself that I stand by the way I behaved, that I approached this fellow person with goodwill and respect. That's really all someone can expect of you, right?

Cheers, hopefully this will prove useful to you.

>>18032107
Online dating is weird and full of undesirable people. You're shifting through 100 pounds of shit to find a single gold nugget basically. Congrats, you've picked past your first turd.

Personally, I don't even bother with dudes who don't have shit on their profile. I've got nothing to talk to them about, so I skip them.
There is a fine balance though, you don't want to over share, because then there's also nothing to talk to you about. I can just read it on your profile.
Gotta find a happy medium. If you want girls to send the first message, you gotta give them something to open on (and ladies, same advice.)
Like I just recently matched with some dude on tinder, it was the dumbest thing that got me, he wrote "I like pineapple on pizza". It got me because not many people do, and I happen to like it too. It was just a kind of funny random little thing I could relate to.
Now, you have no way of knowing what little things like that will reach out to people, but just put some stuff about yourself without going into too much detail.

Always remember though, when you're online, you're going to have a fuck ton of these types of girls and experiences. It just comes with the territory. Don't get too discouraged. It's really just a gamble, it's not about "how do I get a lot of girls to talk to me", it's just gonna be waiting until the right one sees your profile and wants to talk to you.

>>18032102
If I ask them out and they tell me they were busy or they would go back to you without a set time window, I'd assume its just a rejection.

>>18032092
>>18032079
Hi, I'm the anon you originally replied (>>18032017). Any advice for >>18032062?? You give great advice.

Question for the ladies:

When you're walking down the street and you see an attractive guy coming your way, what goes through your mind? Do you make eye contact, smile and wave? Or do you tend not to really care/notice these situations at all?

>>18032116
Well, damaged chicks come with baggage. She's probably giving mixed signals because of her own issues, and one minute she trusts you, but then something set off her seed of doubt and then she doesn't know if she can trust you, or if you'll be just like the other dudes she's seen.
It's hard, I feel for her I do it all the time too. What it comes down to really, is if SHES ready to date again, or if she's just kidding herself and you are unfortunate collateral damage of that.

I'd just keep doing what you're doing. Being good to her, proving to the best of your ability you're not an asshole, and she either will or won't come to trust you on that. Don't invest too much in her just yet, and don't wait around forever.
At some point though, if you really do want a shot at her, you're gonna just have to lay it down on her, tell her you're interested and ask how she feels. Tell her she can be honest if she has mixed feelings too, you just wanna know exactly how she feels about ya. If she does have mixed feelings, figure out if theres anything you can do to solidify it one way or another.

>>18031584
Anal

>>18032064
Sorry for the brainfart. Proper version:
>girls CAN be princesses all they want, but they don't wanna

Princesses are so cute. Don't you wanna be princess too?

Why do girls don't want to be princesses even though they are incentived to be?

>>18032125
"He's cute. Probably has a gf/would never be interested in me though. Oh well"
I'm my own downfall, I know. I might smile though, but that's all I can ever muster up the courage for.
Honestly, this is why I often wear sunglasses out. I can admire the sight without being noticed lol.

More confident women though, I'd say would at least smile and make eye contact. But if you think about it, who gets in contact with someone that way? A random stranger walking down the street is almost never going to go anywhere. You're mostly just gonna pass by each other and never see one another again.

>>18032138
Because princesses need princes, and most of the time the best you can get is an idiot who wants you to be a stay at home mom but complains because in case things don't work out he doesn't want to pay alimony.

>>18032125
"Oh, cute".
I make eye contact, smile if he looks at me back.

Most of the time I don't honestly notice.

>>18032124
Quick reply because I have to head out right about now: there is no way you can 100% avoid falling for individual people and you shouldn't want to, either. Falling in love is part of your humanity and it would be entirely unrealistic to expect this expressly emotional side of yourself to be 100% efficient and rational. That's not how the heart works.

When I'm talking about not getting hung up on individual girls, I mean, not convincing yourself that a girl who turned you down was your soulmate because she was pretty and presented herself in a way that lined up with your ideal image, when at the end of the day you don't know her at all and she might even be disappointing to you if you did.
If you catch yourself doing this, try to consciously remind yourself that you don't know this person and have fallen for someone who does not exist - namely the combination of their looks/vibe and your fantasy about who they are inside.

Obviously it is more difficult if you know someone better and know for a fact they're just really something special. I have no better advice for that than to try not to fight it but ride it out (you think about her having sex with her new boyfriend? it works better to say fuck it and imagine it in so much detail that you become bored of it, than to actively suppress that thought and make it into a taboo minor obsession) and actively remind yourself to look at other girls and notice things that are nice about them. Comparing should be avoided at all costs - not always possible, but that's the goal. Even just noting that a woman has a really sweet, sunny smile (when you don't find the rest of her nearly as attractive) subconsciously puts you more in touch with how many different people you could potentially connect with and have an interesting dynamic with. If you catch yourself relapsing, go "now I know girls like this exist, cool".

And distract yourself, try to use that heartache for vigor for other parts of life. Good luck!

>>18032153
Ty based femanon!

>>18032144
True, true. Honestly I wanted to know so I could compare it to the reactions I've gotten to then determine whether or not I fall in the "random attractive guy" category. People tell me i'm handsome all the time, but I tend to be very skeptical of everything. Particularly when people praise my appearance because I feel like they don't mean it and are just trying to be nice

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>>18032076
Personally I think glasses are sexy, but that's a more personal kink.

Granted, there are some dudes who just cannot pull off glasses try as they might. If their face isn't right for them, well there's just nothing we can do.
I'd need to see pics to decide if/what you can do to make them more appealing.

But overall, yes you're overthinking. Glasses don't really say anything for your personality to me. They don't make you seem smarter, or nerdier, or less confident. It's just fashion. Same thing as choosing what shirt you're gonna wear. You can wear the one that shows off your good bod, or you can wear the super oversized illfitting anime tshirt. Ones gonna make you aesthetically look better than the other.
Same with glasses, you look aesthetically good in them or you don't. Doesn't speak for your personality at all.

UNLESS, you actually DO lose confidence because you don't feel as hot in them. Like I've noticed it's weird how clothes can affect our self esteem/confidence.
Typically I go for a frilly girly look. I like lace and dresses. Recently I did a cosplay for Delsin Rowe, pic related. I put so much effort into the jacket, and I liked how it turned out, so I started wearing it casually.
Woah mama. When I'm wearing that punk jacket, I feel so much more confident. I walk around in that thing like I were a punk kid. It's kind of cool.

>>18032162
Dude no, I totally relate. I don't trust friends and family's opinion on my looks. Of course my mom's gonna tell me I'm a beautiful young lady lol.
I've only been cat called a couple times in my life, I fucking loved it. Validated that someone other than my mom or my best friend who thinks all of her friends are just beautiful little snowflakes (even though some of them are horrendously overweight) thinks I'm good looking.

Unfortunately I just think women tend to be much less vocal about calling out the hot guy on the street. Unless drunk lol. Probably because men are more visual than women in general. Men are more likely to be pulled in by good looks, where as women are more likely to be pulled in on charm and interaction.

>>18032125
I'm a male, but I'd like to point out that just smiling like these two >>18032144 >>18032148 doesn't ALWAYS carry the connotation of romantic interest. For instance, I get smiled at by random girls all the time, but its mostly because we made eye contact and it would be awkward if we didn't smile or say hello.

>>18032146
Well, I'm certainly not an idiot, but I don't have prince's looks. :(

Is it weird that I'm almost 19 and don't really talk to / pursue any girls? I don't really want to put in effort but my family is concerned that I'm homosexual or something and I'm not

Fucked my gf from behind the other day and noticed today that there are little bruises on her hips where I was grabbing her. Did I go too hard girls?

>>18032173
Well duh. Smiling is just polite in general. Especially if you're smiled at, you'll smile back on reflex because socially that's the polite thing to do.

Saying hello might be a good way to test if it's just "polite smiling" or not though. If I'm polite smiling, guy says hello, I'll say a flat hello back without even stopping and just go on my way.
If I'm interested, I might slow down or stop and say "Hi, how's it going?" hoping he might strike up a conversation. Adding the question invites for conversation. Just saying hello kills the conversation.
Though again, not all people are the same, some ask "how are you?" casually with no intent of keeping going. "Good? Good, see ya". You know. But it's a start.

>>18032184
Only if you actually want to talk to girls and are too insecure to do it or something. If you have no interest in that right now, its fine. Actually, I'd say it's pretty good/normal.
Ignore your family, tell them to fuck off you've got better things to do right now, such as get in/stay in school, get/stick with a job. Working on moving out, starting your own life, shit like that. Establishing yourself as an individual is necessary before serious dating anyway.
>>18032185
I can't say for sure since I haven't had sex like that
But I can say that women just do typically bruise easier than men. Actually, its pretty normal to just wake up with bruises you have no idea where they came from or how they got there. They don't even hurt.
Think it has something to do with the extra layer of fat women have under their skin. I read an article on it once.
Anyway, you should be asking her, not us. If she doesn't feel like you've hurt her or went too hard, then it's all good. Just keep good communication.

>>18032076
I got some cool looking glasses last summer because my eyesight has slowly worsened over the past year or so, and I've gotten loads of compliments from women (and dudes even) ever since.

Now I prefer wearing them all the time. Rock the glasses man.

Any Femanons here have racial preferences in guys?

[spoiler] I'm a taco and love me some white wimins [/spoiler]

>>18032246
Yeah, I think everyone does. Typically, people don't date outside their own race much. There are far more same race couples than interracial couples, despite what porn tries to make you believe.
However, I'm a white woman, and if I had to put it to a rank, best to worst, it'd be:
Asian, White, light skin Latinos, dark skin Latinos, Middle Eastern, Black.

However, despite me finding Asian men the most physically appealing, I've on;y ever dated white guys. The pool of "Asian guys into White women" is already a small enough dating pool, and then when you nitpick all the other things I find important in a man/relationship, that pool becomes a single drop on the floor.

>>18032260
>tfw Japanese guy into white girls
How about we make some Aryan babies?

Girls, when you are nakies and see yourself in the mirror, do you think "Damn! I would fuck myself"?

>>18032421

Yes.

>>18032308
kek my favorite kind of Asian.
Doubt you're anywhere near me though. Nobody ever is lol.

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>>18032421
Nope.

>>18032246
Yeah, definitely.

I like white guys more than any other ethnicity.
I really like pale guys, with dark hair and light eyes. Tallish and broad shoulders.
Red hair is also sexy as hell.

Least favourite would be Asian and black guys.

>>18032421
Kek
Yes, sometimes.

>>18032246
>>18032260
I'm Indian and I really don't like Indian guys (can you blame me though?)

I met a girl back in December and we hit things off great. Unfortunately I had to leave the country for two months. During this time I occasionally got drunk and would write her some cringey stuff.

I've returned and apologized and explained what was going on. I know I fucked up and should move on but I wanna really make amends before moving on.

>>18032439
> Nobody ever is lol
I know that feel. ;_;
Let's see: which continent?

>>18032467
lol, I mean since they're second to last on my personal list, of course not I understand completely. Sorry the struggle's gonna be hard though. Especially these days, everyone kind of hates that race. Justified or not.

>>18032501
Midwest USA.

>>18032516
>Sorry the struggle's gonna be hard though. Especially these days, everyone kind of hates that race.
Are you saying that I'd have trouble dating? Because I'm in a long term relationship

>>18032520
About 5,500~6,000 miles away. ;_;

>>18032523
I was implying it would be difficult to find a non indian willing to date indians, given the political world right now, but not impossible.

No need to jump on the offensive mate.

>>18032527
Story of my life lol.
I'm trying to get in with one of those teach English in Japan things when I graduate right now lol. Maybe I'll get better luck when I throw myself into the pot of them hah.

>>18031707
My 22yo gf has always taken sex pretty seriously and only had 2 previous sex partners, even though she's hot as all hell.

I already feel like that's more than enough to be acceptable, so I guess I can't really say much.

Ladies
I am having a depressive phase rightt now, would you be willing to talk about thay with somebody you know or would it be to much intimacy?

>>18032523
>>18032528
I used to be staunchly against any asian women. But that was because I was a young naive faggot. Now I like all women the same! Ethnicity doesn't really matter to me anymore

>>18032539
With a stranger? No. With my boyfriend, yes.

Girls

Say we're in the same major, we're seeing each other but nothing very serious. I'm kicked out of said major. Would that make you lose interest?

>>18032546
What about a somewhat close friend?

>>18032557
Well actually I had a affair with a girl which is currently in a relationship but we're relatively close

>>18032542
I have nothing mentally or emotionally against anyone of any race. It's just a matter of physical attraction. Hell, I fell for a black guy before emotionally, even though I didn't find him physically attractive in the slightest.
Problem is, I need SOME degree of physical attraction to work. Because, well, I want to have sex with who I'm with. If I'm just 100% physically unattracted to the guy I'm with, to the point I have zero interest in having sex with him, it's not gonna work.
I just have yet to ever find a black man physically appealing at all. It's not impossible, but very unlikely I will.

>>18032551
Well, idk. "Kicked out" implies you fucked up real bad.
Like you let your grades go to absolute shit, or you did something bad enough that they kicked you out for disciplinary reasons.
THAT would be what turned me off more than if you just decided to change majors or something.

>>18032557
Well, in moderation.
If I'm very close to someone I'm willing to listen, but in general I don't want to listen to someone else's problem 24/7.
I am willing to help a friend sometimes, but I'm not a therapist.

>>18032573
Well I didnt have it easy at all last semester, notes were shit but i was putting every bit of effort i could this time, and today i learned it's too late - i'm out. I'm still going to the same uni though, switching majors this fall.

>>18032581
Well, so long as you're still in school and not a complete drop out or anything. I'd be cool with it.

My concern with dating the type of guy that just flunked out of school would be, realistically if I'm thinking long term, he's probably not gonna get a well paying job and he's also probably saddled with debt from failing at college.

>>18032581
>>18032606
And to add to this, I can also understand because if this were me and you were in my major, getting a C is failing and grounds to get you kicked out. 3.0 minimum, and that's to be on probation. 3.25 I believe is required to graduate.
So I could probably understand better. The pressure of "Perfection or bust" is a little nerve wracking and not for everyone. Hell, I barely make the cut.

>>18032606
The major i'm switching to actually has better career opportunities. I'm less nervous telling her the truth now, thanks!

>>18032625
Yeah, nah. I'd probably just explain it as "I didn't think I was getting anywhere there, I'm going with this major because it's a better fit"
Not really lying, just spinning it in your favor.

Accctuually, this can be a good thing. When you see her, you can steer the conversation into why you aren't in her classes anymore, and then pull a line like "Shame I wont see you in class anymore, we should hang out outside of school instead"
Boom, out of the school zone.

How do you femanons feel about hairy peckers? Is this a turn off to you?

>>18032769
buy a tweezers and get rid of those, man

>>18032769
If I have to suck it yeah.

>>18032769
On the shaft? Kind of. Trim them short, or they get in the way while giving head.

>>18032769
kindaaaa
If I were dating you I might say I prefer them gone but if I love a guy enough I'll overlook it.
Sort of like hairy pussy I think.

>>18031483
Where do they usually hang out?

>>18031372
Anyone else?

A married guy has a crush on me.
Am I a horrible person for enjoying it?

>>18032795
True, I don't really mind hairy pussy but I figured that women probably have a preference when it comes to dude and pubes. I had a girlfriend who would give me head even when I was full bush, and she never really said anything. Actually she loved to give me head. She did say once though that she would suck my balls if I trimmed them up a little

>>18031698
I always search by female pornstar name. 90% I finish on blowjob part

>>18032821

Not the same anon, but do you have an affinity for certain pornstars for any specific reasons? How often is it "wow she's hot" vs "heh she looks like this one girl I know". I'm single so don't worry about your answer getting some dude in trouble.

>>18032811
No, but if he does this to you, he's likely done it to other girls.

girls:
have you ever dated a guy, found out he's submissive and lost interest in him?

I'm 6ft5 with a 7,5 inch dick and a deep af voice but girls I've been with always wanted to be degraded and dominated. I've often heard dudes that were broken up with are often told to not tell their future gfs that their submissive as it really kills the relationship

can you imagine a long lasting relationship with a submissive dude but not a cuck?

>>18032873
That's probably my biggest kink - the idea of dominating someone much bigger than me, older than me and generally manly (big cock, muscular, hairy, deep voice, socially dominant) makes me wet as hell.
What matters to me is that he's charismatic and not a doormat in everyday life, and that he's monogamous/not a cuck.
So, yeah, I definitely can imagine a relationship like that.

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Both

I live my life like I was in prison. I trust no one and I'm unforgiving for the smallest mistakes. I cut people off as soon as they wrong me, even if they had reason for it or not. If a friend does a mistake, there aren't enough sorry's and explanations in the world enough to get the friendship back. I always imagine the worst possible scenario of why and how they wronged me, and no matter how sound their explanation is, I stick with my guns and block them out.

I recently lost my relationship because of it. It was shitty alright, but she forgave me for a lot of bad things that I had done (being a complete fool, almost dying a couple of times and nearly got 5 years in prison but barely escaped). I could not forgive her for flirting with two other guys over facebook at a time I was away for months.

How do I stop thinking the worst of people and learn to forgive?

>>18031225
Guy here, but. I had the same problem at a party. Was embarassing as fuck and never had such a small dick even in the ocean.
She called me up and was cool about it. Went together for 2.5 years after that. Not to be expected by todays hoes though.

>>18032884
thank god I legit thought it might be something psychologically fixed with females (would make sense evolutionary-speaking)
yeah I'm pretty confident/dominant outside of the bedroom and I'd want to keep it that way but the idea of completely submitting to a girl in bed makes me diamonds
doubt anyone would ever consider me as sub on the outside which makes it even more fun

any luck finding a relationship like this in the past?

>>18032928
I do enjoy being sexually dominant, but I'm pretty "traditional" about everything else - very domestic, very motherly, nice, mildly quiet in every day life. I just love taking control in the bedroom, especially with a guy who is confident and constantly in control the rest of the time.

>any luck finding a relationship like this in the past?
No, it's pretty hard to find someone who balances me well. I rarely find a guy sexually submissive who isn't submissive in every day life, or short/small, or feminine, or young, or just too much into humiliation.
I don't find humiliation sexy, I just like the idea of being in control and having a guy completely crazy for me, who'd do everything I want.

>>18032968
I see. Sucks, I'd definitely be interested in dating you as you sound ideal to me albeit you probably live on the other side of the globe. Starting my uni a little late (at 21) next year somewhere in Europe, most likely the UK. Good luck finding someone that fits your needs anon.

>>18033002
Well, I'm in Europe myself. Not even too far away!

Good luck to you too, anon.

>>18033008
haha really? where about?

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How do I ask a girl out on a date?

There is this girl in my organization who I've clicked pretty well with and I want to ask her out on a date, but I don't know how to. Do I just go up to her and ask or stir the conversation in that direction and find an opportunity to ask her?

>>18032834
How she acts and looks mostly. I prefer ones which remind me of something from my experiences. Books movies personal life. Why would I worry?

>>18032873
Would fucking love this as long as you were into the same kind of femdom I'm into - basically I like to feel like a sort of sexual nurse pampering my sub, I'm up for teasing/taunting or playing bratty every now and then but no real degradation/humiliation stuff and no pain.
Love personal grooming (feeding, massaging, bathing, shaving my partner), just being the more "active" partner during sex (edging him or using handcuffs on him, tease and denial, being on top) and highly interested in pegging and prostate milking.

And second requirement would be not only wanting this kind of sex. I don't particularly care about being dominated and definitely do not want to be degraded, but I do want "normal" sex where there isn't a fixed dynamic, I like it to pop up here and there naturally depending on the mood and build up. And I do want a partner who will occasionally tear my clothes off and start working me no questions asked - just primal, mutual sex where you're both the aggressor sometimes.

Not sure whether this aligns with what you'd like, but even if not, I'm just some random gal who happened to see your question so don't despair. We're not all subs. Frankly I also just don't enjoy sex as much if I'm not as active, on top of not having the psychological pull to act submissive. If I have to go along with it I'll be a bratty sub who talks back and tries to rebel to be put into place. "Let me please pleasure you daddy" stuff... ugh, no.

>>18032769
I want all the bodyhair you grow. No trimming either. Especially not the pubes. Zero fucks given about whether or not it continues onto the shaft.

>>18032873
>can you imagine a long lasting relationship with a submissive dude but not a cuck?
No, not even a short lasting one

>>18033047
are you European?

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>>18033064
Yes.

>>18033069
It's bummer here in the new continent the trend is opposite of that, I like my pubes.

>>18033069
Gross

>>18033073
I get so mad when my boyfriend trims his hair. Blergh. Especially pubes, makes sex and blowjobs so uncomfortable.
Hair on guys is hot. I shave myself head to toe and hate hair on me, but on guys it feels nice and fuzzy.

>>18033073
It absolutely is, but I think even in the US (not that I can really speak with experience about that) it is less of a big deal for men than for women. After all that hair growth is still a sign of sexual maturity and testosterone.

>>18033074
More fuzzy men for me. I would lick all that stuff so much he'd have to wash up afterwards.

>>18033084
Forgot to add but on top of just having a preference for the look of a hairy man, natural bodyhair has tapered endings that are soft and don't irritate the skin. Trimmed hair on the other hand has much sharper edges.

People make such a big deal out of bodyhair with oral, but I'd rather have a hair in my mouth once in a blue moon (hell, I have to dish my own long hair out of my mouth much more often during wild sex) than not be able to rub my face against my partner's crotch because it makes my skin blotchy and gives me a rash if I go too hard at it.

>>18033047
I like the way you roll

>>18033086

Nobody cares

>>18033101
Well then. I thought what she was saying was interesting

>>18033101
I do, and others care about stuff from the other side that I find trivial. Just sharing why this is my preference.

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asked this in another thread but i couldnt stick around for an asnwer

Should i shave my happy trail? its prtty thick and dark and other than that its only accompanied by the usual chest hair patch. shaves my pubes btw

what do with happy trail?

>>18033136
I'm the poster who was arguing in favor of bodyhair so obviously I think you shouldn't touch it, but generally I have to say that from my experience if women who are typically not a fan like any bodyhair at all, it's the happy trail. So I wouldn't outright shave it, no one's going to find it weird that you have it and if you fall for a lady who opposed it you could always do it still.

>>18031372
Half your age plus 7. So for you 23 is the minimum.

>>18033039
this is exactly what I mean
really kinky and hot shit like milking, denial and stuff with the mixture of caring stuff like shaving and bathing but no extreme shit like year long chastity and crossdressing in public or whatever
but at the same time this doesn't limit the couple to only domming the guy, occasionally the guy will fuck her against the wall until she can't control her legs, stuff like that.

this thread gave me hope thanks femanons

Ladies how would you feel about getting flowers anonymously on Valentine's Day?

Girls
What are some subtle things guys do that really turn you on?

how do I go about asking for booty pics

>>18033213
It's not very subtle I guess, but sitting on a guy's lap (wouldn't do it unless the guy offered/asked me to do it)
I also like being grabbed by my waist

Will reply again if I come up with more

>>18033213

I'm a Guy but I noticed that girls are turned off by me talking about relationships or other women

girls: do you like guys that like sucking dick?

>>18031190
I was a very ugly child. was abused and bullied too
grew up to be average/cute looking
can't get in my head people are attracted to me
finally realizes guy at work is flirting with me
friend says he just wants to fuck, can't fathom the idea of some random dude wanting to fuck me (of all people)

>1. how do deal with this ugly duckling syndrome? anyone here been through that? how you managed to accept that you are desirable?
>2. do guys really randomly want to fuck co-workers? like, this shit really happens? what's the appeal in that?

>>18033213
>anything that is sincere and shows zest for life like full body stretching/yawning, fits of genuine laughter, humming/nodding along to music without realizing it etc
>really like it when guys tap/drum with their fingers on stuff (especially the inside of their thigh), reminds me of fingering and hands are just pretty fantastic
>if you mean subtle but not subconscious: a quick but deliberate touch on my lower back when walking behind me, like he's escorting me out
>seeing a guy flustered/blushing is pretty fucking cute and hot
>love whispering/talking directly into my ear, the hot breath against my throat and all... doesn't even matter if it's for practical reasons

>>18033234
I don't like it if I have doubts that the guy I'm into is really seriously into women (compared to men). But in general, yeah, that's a pretty hot image.

>>18033234
yes
>>18033213
I wish I had a better way to explain it but giving me that kinky but not disgusting look, rough beard on my neck and shoulders, having a decent bulge
>>18033212
a little creeped out unless I was sure who was the person sending them, then it would be cute

Why would a girl, who's an EMT, try pushing me to become an EMT as well?

>>18031832
in the end of the day its always your decision how you act

>>18033251

It wouldn't be a stranger sending them, she'd most likely suspect it was me, but I'd have plausible deniability, which is a factor here for a variety of reasons.

Primary reasons for wanting to do this
>want her to get surprised with flowers on Valentine's Day
>can't really pursue a relationship, I'm moving away for work very shortly, but she's special to me and like to make her happy
>long game, gesture can be revealed later if it's advantageous, or denied if not

>>18031989
maybe ask her in a weeks if she wants to meet. maybe she really was busy you never know but chill dont make yourself look needy

If I am naturally cold and anti-social towards strangers, how do I get a gf?

...or even friends for that matter

>>18032557
depends of course. If this person is empathic and seems nice, why not? If you feel like its a person that doesnt know what its like to be down and how to deal with it because its unfamiliar for them then maybe its better not to.

Trying to find something that gets me out into the world and doing stuff, preferably some activity or hobby where I can meet women. i've changed a lot, lost weight, going to the gym, strengthened my social skills, but I simply dont interact with a lot of women. Bars are awful places for what i'm looking for and my friend group is small, so meeting a girl through mutual friends is a crapshoot.

Guys
Is it a problem for you knowing, that a girl you are seeing has been sexually abused? Is it a turn off or could you be okay with it? I am very insecure about telling people this because ofthe fact that they might think i am crazy or fucked up.

>>18033325

I've been pretty flirty and close with this girl lately. Went out for lunch with her a few times and usually meet inbetween college hours, but I want to do something 'real', so ask her out.

Should I go for a day this weekend or go for Valentines sappiness?

>>18033342
No, I will take it as a great sign of trust that she opened up to me and told me. We all have our shit and if someone decides to tell me something like that It would not turn me away.

Question in return, what kind of reaction do you want after you tell someone that? A friend opened up to me about something similar and I had no idea what to say. I felt like a shit friend :(

>>18033342

Depends on when I find out really.

If I found out after I'd been dating her for a while and developed feelings, I'd be incredibly hurt and sad that someone did something like that to someone I cared about.
I want to do something about it (even if you'd disapprove).

But if I found out beforehand, I'd be wary of you.

>>18033253
ideas?

I know it could just be friendly motivation. But really I don't feel that we are close enough for it to be the case

>>18033342
If you tell me really early (like before we were dating) I'd be kind of freaked out and hesitant since it seems like you just want to be dependent on somebody or want attention.
If we were dating for awhile and told me, I'd be much more sympathetic and be totally okay with it.

>>18033362
i just would want the person to reply and even if it is a ' i really dont know what to say but i am very sorry' or something. I know that people who havent been through something like it can be very overwhelmed and that is totally normal it would be weird if the person pretended to know how i feel. For me what i often needed when i told someone was a hug or just that person taking my hand and showing me that i am being accepted and not alone in this moment even though this has happened to me.

>>18033358
First dates on Valentine's Day are a bad idea.

What are my chances of having a man be interested in me if I have short hair, never wear any make up, never dress in heels, dresses or skirts or paint my nails, have small breasts (a-cup but not non-existant) and overall have few feminine features whilst not being particularly masculine either?

>>18033428
If I'm being honest, only the 4chan-browsing autist type (if any) will look at you based on those looks.

>>18033428
>short hair,

Literally the only thing you mentioned that I have an issue with.

Everything else sounds smart and conservative.

But yeah, short hair... my first thought is "she hates men".

Granted, I really shouldn't prejudge you as prejudice based on nothing more than a hairstyle (even if it has been taken by the radical feminist movement).

On the other hand people are always irrational, it's just how they are so fuck logic, I'd rather not take the risk.

>>18033456
>>18033428
I agree I'm not particularly picky when it comes to girls, with short hair being the exception. Not a huge fan. Everything else isn't really an issue

How do women feel about guys who have a strong affinity for childish things?

Let's say a guy behaves like an adult otherwise and has his financial situation together but still has largely teenage/childish hobbies or interests

>>18033428
Your chances are around 15%, according to my calculations.

>>18033428
How pretty are you?

Everything except short hair is kind of neither here nor there, if that's your look and it looks good then no one will have a problem with. The short hair though... if you're already short on feminine features the short hair will only make you look more like a boy. How short are we talking? Like a men's hair cut length, or short as in shoulder-length?

>>18033428
You'd fit my type pretty well, other than the skirt thing, I love a girl in a cute skirt, but that's minor details. I have a thing for girls with short hair and how I'm imagining you right now is a sort of tomboy look which I find pretty hot, but only to a point, if you start looking like your into chicks I'd never give you the time of day.

And no i'm not the "autist" type as some other poster tried to make you feel shitty about. I'm pretty normal, there's guy other there who are into you. Focus more on beign receptive to attention and interacting with guys.

>>18033428
I'm >>18033480

>short hair,
Nope.
>never wear any make up,
Ok, if naturally pretty.
>never dress in heels, dresses or skirts or paint my nails,
Nope.
>have small breasts (a-cup but not non-existant)
Nope.
>and overall have few feminine features whilst not being particularly masculine either
Nope.

Result: FAIL.

>>18033456
>>18033472

My hair doesn't quite reach my shoulders but it covers my ears and goes beneath my jaw. I don't think I look that bush, then again, most of the time people right away assume I'm gay or bi.
Does that still apply?

>>18033448
Not saying you're right, but I have attracted that type in the past.

>>18033480
Figured as much. To be honest, I was prepared for a lower value, all things considered, so I suppose that's not so bad after all.

>>18033277
Still need help with this one anons, would appreciate insight

>>18033472
>>18033505
Yeah, the minimum for me would have to be shoulder length. I would still hook up with you but thats about it. I couldn't see myself in a long term relationship with a girl who has short hair. Also I'm not trying to be rude, I just have a weird thing about hair length with girls

>>18033428
As long as we're talking purely physical features, as long as you're pretty cute naturally without all the extra flair of makeup and certain clothes and whatnot you've got plenty of options for guys out there. A-cups can be adorably sexy on a woman and personally short hair is kind of a bonus turn on for me.

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>>18033488

People sometimes say I'm pretty but as you can tell, I have a problem feeling attractive. Most of the time I feel comfortable with how I look but I know I lack those feminine features that are usually desired and don't get much attention thrown my way.

I know it's a matter of attitude too, I'm trying to work on being more outgoing instead of shying away from attention and all that. It's a long way to go.

Short as in pic-related, but wavier.

>>18033497
I just don't feel comfortable in overly-feminine clothing, doesn't mean I'm trying to look like a man either. I'm not comfortable with that now but maybe it'll grown on me eventually.

>>18033499
How the fuck did you go from 15% to complete FAIL? Sounds like the american school system where anything below 70% is the same as failing

>>18033342
Not a problem to me, but I was molested as a kid, so, there's that.

I dunno really, it would seem kind of dumb to catch heat over something you had no control over. Multiple sex partners and milage however, that usually varies round these parts.

>>18033559
No. 15% guy here. In the first post, I gave you a guesstimate.
In the second post, I was giving my opinion about your characteristics. I obviously I am not in the 15%.

>>18033301
stop being like that

>>18033559
>People sometimes say I'm pretty

If those people are girls it doesn't count.

>>18033370
No one?

>>18033428
Honestly, you kinda describe the girl I fell for. So, I think you'll be fine.

What makes an interesting conversation also what are some topics or things to get a girls interest in a conversation?

>>18033605
Jesus fuck she's probably just making conversation don't read into it. If you showed interest in her job it's probably just a "give it a shot if you're interested" kind of thing.

>>18033640
Eh, probably. Though it seems a bit more than just to make conversation or saying for me to try it. She's actually been pushing it since before she even started her training for it, so yea...

>>18033649
DON'T READ INTO IT

If she was showing signs of interest in you that's different but this on its own does not constitute that.

>>18033620
pets, hobbies, music, news, /advice/

>>18033605
Perhaps she's a little insecure aboutt her decision of becoming an EMT and having someone else who also chooses that as a career path acts as some form of reinforcement or source of confidence for her.
On the other hand, we tend to like people who are similar to us, so perhaps she tthinks highly of her career and believes it is a good choice for a lot of people. Maybe she sees EMT material in you, or she thinks you're a little lost on the vocational part of life and she's trying to show you a way.

I made a new best friend and I love him. We're both in long term relationships and I don't think he feels the same way. I wouldn't want to even be in a relationship with him so I don't know if I should just deal with it, tell him, and/or distance myself.

>>18033620
Find out what they're interested in and talk about it. If it's similar to what you like it'll be easy.

>>18033651
She has actually showed signs of interest as well in the past

>>18033659
Hmm. She is a Volunteer EMT, so not really a career. And she has said that she is really into helping people and medical stuff, so I don't think she's having doubts about it.

And, I think that she might see me as EMT material? Though I only mentioned it once that I was considering doing so. And she really began pushing me to do so after that.
And I doubt its about being a little lost, as again, it is for a Volunteer Department, so no pay, obviously

>>18033476
Like what? Playing in sandboxes and eating mud?
>in b4 videogames

>>18033716
You know it's gonna be video games.

>>18033672
How does that quote go? If you love two people at once choose the second because if you really loved the first etc etc...

>>18033722
My money is on ponies, anime, or tabletop gaming.

I can't seem to hold a conversation that has a good "flow" to it when talking with a guy I am interested in. Conversation starts well, but after a few replies it dwindles down into awkward silence. Sometimes I can get a good pun or joke in, and other times I try to joke and he doesn't say anything back. On the flip side I freeze up and am not sure what I'm supposed to say. Not sure if this is fear of messing up / saying something wrong or what. Any tips for making conversation easier and give it a better "flow"?

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I had a bad breakup with my ex of 4 years last June.

We stayed in contact, I blew up slightly when I found out she rebounded. Went no contact.

She dumped her rebound right before xmas. The no contact lasted three months.

I broke no contact this week since she's been tweeting about me and seems to be in the "longing phase."

I told her I looked at how I acted a few months ago and admit I went temporarily insane. I told her it was because we split up a month before I sgot a job I was working towards and I was about to ask her to move in with me and go on another vacation.

She read it then tweeted something about love maddening the mind and freeing the heart. She seemed to be responding positively but never actually responded (she read it two days ago.)

Valentine's day is coming up. I'm back on no contact.

What's going through her mind? I have a strong feeling that she still loves me and wants to meet up, but no response yet.

If I get no response in a month, is it okay ask her casually to meet up for a walk or something?

>>18033755
>going back to your ex
>communicating through Twitter

We've all been there bud, but it's time to move on. You guys broke up for a reason and your post doesn't make her seem incredibly mature either.

One thing that helped me a lot with my worst breakup was understanding that ending a long term relationship was very akin to ending a drug addiction. Your brain freaks out when the source of its pleasure is removed. You then go through a lengthy period of withdrawal where you fluctuate between needing one more hit and being glad you quit the stuff. Just like drugs, even when you think you're clean, the thought of going back is always tempting.

>>18033752
When I'm talking/texting the girl I like and conversation wanes I don't force it. It's good to seem busy/not desperate.

He may also be nervous/slightly shy. Or not interested. I don't really know. Have you dropped some obvious hints?

I've made a mistake
I've caught feelings for a friend of mine and have been trying to create opportunities for us to hang out 1 on 1 but so far it hasn't worked out, I sorta suspect she's subtly/politely rejecting me.
I was sorta drunk this morning and out of desperation asked a mutual friend of ours to try and help me, but I feel like if I keep trying I'll inevitably come off as creepy and end up ruining our friendship.

What should I do?

>>18033771
... stop... it?

>>18033771
There's only one thing you can do...
Masturbate with the tears you will shed for her

>>18031698
amateur stuff, nothing fake.
Really love girls with cute faces and young looking.

>>18033780
But I've gotten this other friend involved
How can I just go "lol nevermind" without it being awkward
>>18033783
Its depressing that this is the most likely future...

>>18033771
Ask yourself a question, what do you want out of a relationship with her? If looking for a quick fun little thing, take the hint and give it up.

If you feel that you and this girl could really have something, and her happiness and wellbeing is important to you, back off. It's time for the long game. By which I mean don't enlist friends to help (people talk), don't force the 1 on 1, just enjoy your time with her without forcing it, and put your best foot forward. Don't be a doormat, don't be needy. Don't blow her phone up. Be fun, flirty, interesting, laid back. Work on cultivating yourself.

>>18033428
>>18033428
100%
london?

girls,
why is that when I text first you are really interested and willing to whatever things I propose, but you never text first?

>>18033770
I'm not sure if these would be considered obvious, but I do tell him that I kind of worry when he has to be awake for very long periods of time or handle certain things. In general I try to be kinder, rather than being apathetic.

Thanks for the tips!

girls, if a guy you really like is open about his sexual past with you, would you be honest and share yours too or would rather lie in hopes to give a better impression on him?

>>18033803
I think that kind of nurturing attitude should be self evident to most guys, I.E. caring about his well being etc.

How long have you known him? What's he like?

>>18033809
>>18033809
Honesty is best policy. If your past is an issue for him it will eventually manifest in other issues, even if you aren't honest about your history.

Are you exceptionally slutty or is he uptight?

>>18033813
4-5 months. He's very considerate and interesting to talk to. There's similar interests and he's pretty open about himself and honest. Good sense of humour as well.
He shows some care about me too, but I can't always tell if its in the care for a friend or something else. Mostly I take it as care for friends

How does one know if a girl is just being friendly or is "interested" in you? Basically I've been having to work with this one girl a lot in my grad program recently. I have noticed that she likes to talk to me a lot in person and text (she texts me first, usually not about school related stuff) and has complained me on my "style." Help?

>>18033794
Shy, playing it cool, trying not to scare you off by being clingy, gender roles

Pick one.

>>18033809
I'd be real, because if he's the type to get pissy about me having people before him I don't want him anyway lol.
But any dude who cares too much about that kind of shit to even ask would probably be a turn off for me. The only thing I'd ever ask a partner is "You're clean right?"

Heyo i'm an asocial 23 y/o KV gonna try and small talk with this random girl who sits next to me and I have two classes with.

Tried yesterday with a relevant question about the test we just took then froze, then she was buried in her phone so I didn't do anything.
What is the cut n paste advice to get past this next time?

>>18033838
>t. Disgusting slut no self respecting man wants

How realistic is it for me to have an innocent relationship where I meet a girl I like and we take things low, build up to our first kisses, hold hands, etc.. and hopefully go on from there slowly. It feels like sex culture has ruined the idea. I want to be able to just be happy from a peck on the cheek, I know it sounds cheesy but I want it so badly. But, it seems like most people would rather party and take everything casually.

I'm 20, good looking, fit, and have a pretty good career lined up, but I'm also introverted and not good at first impressions.

>>18033831
When you say he shows care towards you what do you mean? What's his dating history like? Has he made any moves or asked you out? Is there any clear reason he might not be interested?

>>18033841
i'm a guy and the only advice I can give you is be straight forward when you like a girl. If you go with "let's be friends approach" and then realize she is fucking chad on daily basis and get mad about it then you are the bad guy for some reason.
Make your intentions clear from the star. if you are rejected more than twice by the same girl, don't waste your time and move on.

>>18033848
Jokes on you, I'm a virgin.
Just find dudes who are so insecure about their own ability they feel the need for a fresh canvas who won't know if they're bad (they still will), to be incredibly unattractive.
>t. you, a dude who will never please a woman.

>>18033851
They are out there, getting kinda rare though. Keep your chin up, keep developing yourself, don't be afraid to get some XP in the meantime, and keep your eyes open, you'll know her when you find her. Good luck.

Girls

Why would you not call a guy by any sorta name? (NIckname or given name)

>>18033863
Thanks, is there anything I should practice so I don't screw up and miss an opportunity? I don't think I'll have many as the years go by.

>>18033859
>not understanding the sexual marketplace
>pro tip: whores have less value as a partner, getting uppity about your past is a red flag
>not understanding the t. meme

kys

>>18033859
How would you know any of that if you're a virgin lol.

>>18033686
Does this change anything?

Or is it still probably just friendly motivation?

>>18033869
>>18033870
Nothing wrong with having a few partners in life. So long as you're committed and not cheating, or you've made your intentions clear.
The morality isn't in the act itself. It's only wrong to string someone alone with sex without telling them you only ever intend it to be just sex or cheat.

No brainer there dudes. Sex is not that big a deal.

>>18033866
Stay in school, apply yourself. Keep getting /fit/, try and keep a sufficiently large social circle composed of different areas of your life, both because this will help with developing social skills and serve as a way to continually meet new people. Towards that end the quality of the company you keep is key. Lastly, do not be afraid of failure, we are all dying anyway, pursue what you want.

>>18033876
It's really not a set in stone thing though. It's what people make of it. It could very well be important to some people.

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>>18033876
>sex is not that big a deal

It pleases me immensely to know your life is going to be shitty

>>18033880
Thats perfectly valid, all I was saying was I would not want to date a guy who puts that much value into it. To the point that he'd demonize me if I did have a couple boyfriends before him I slept with. That shits just really unattractive to me. But hey, that was the whole point of my post. He would find me horrifically unattractive for daring to have sex with anyone but him, before I ever even met him, and I would find him horrifically unattractive for thinking that way.
Lose lose, wasn't meant to be. I'd be honest about my past because it would mean I could waste less time on the loser.

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>>18033884
Same here buddy. Have fun waiting around for your perfect princess lol. You'll die alone.

>>18033878
That all sounds good, and I know I have the consistency for the first ones, I have a few good friends but I know meeting new people is going to be hard, but I'll try taking it one step at a time.

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>>18033889
Not looking for a perfect princess or even a virgin. Just don't want some used up degenerate who thinks sex is meaningless.

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>>18033900
Welp, with that attitude I repeat, good luck and have fun dying alone.
If you're gonna be that angry and hostile about it, you're gonna turn people off. You don't have to like it, but the name calling is really unattractive and childish lol.

>>18033897
Meeting people gets infinitely more tedious after college. I'd consider joining some clubs that are co-Ed especially if your friend circle is mostly male.

>>18033908
That's the plan, I figure I'll need to force myself to socialize by going alone.

>>18033905
>gets upset a stranger on the internet refuses to date people who consider sex meaningless
>thinks I express these opinions this bluntly in person
>engages in reddit tier pop psychology

k

>>18033913
You'll be glad you did.

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>>18033923
>Gets upset a stranger thinks sex is meaningless
>thinks I express these opinions this bluntly in person either
>engages in r9k tier psychology

Don't leave ass prints on my door when you leave

>>18033513
Just do it. You got plausible deniability if it seems like she didn't want you to but desu, I'd just say yes if she asks. What you got to lose, not likebshell lose interest in your for giving her flowers.
The key to flowers I've always found was the note.

>>18033406
Truth here. Valentine's Day puts too much pressure on it to be "perfect"

>>18033941
Was just gonna go simple, To, someone special from X

>>18033428
It all depends. Short hair on women is something I've found that they can either 100% pull off, or it falls flat. It really depends on the hair style and your face. For me hair on women is all about how it frames their face, like a frame on a piece of art. Some art looks good with just the canvas. Some art needs a good frame to complement its features.

>>18033934
>using my green text to insult me

Not sure if lazy b8 or next level

Have a (you) for the effort

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>>18033965
Whatever man, you're the one getting this uppity about differing opinions.
But uh, I suppose you can have a (you) as well.

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>>18033972

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>>18033990
k bye

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>>18034000
While I can appreciate the trips, you're seriously the most fucking dense and retarded person I've ever come in contact with on 4chan. That says a lot.
Post limit has been breached so I suppose we can just shitpost reaction images the rest of this poor threads miserable life, as it dies slowly from your cancer.

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>>18034006
Fuck what a waste of trips

Are you feeling...
>triggered