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Hey adv, first time really posting here but here it goes, I've been with my gf for a year and a half now, stuff is great but one thing; the sex. More and more she'd been putting aside sex, been a month now and we're together 24/7 it's been getting longer and longer and I'm the type of guy that needs release every day. She has never blown me or initiated on me, I'm always the one asking for it and trying to get her in the mood, but every time she brushes it off and gets pissed at me and screams at me if I keep trying, I've taken her to romantic places and stayed in a 5 star hotel and she didn't even consider it. The sex is also terrible, I never get satisfied from the sex because it's like a cave, I mean my dick is above avg size and it's hard for me to feel anything sometimes, maybe she doesn't use her muscles or anything, or let alone knows how to have sex, she's mainly just laying there like a dead fish while I do all the work, never once jacked me off or given head on her period days. Now when we're in public I can't help myself to check out other girls in sheer desperation, and I'm afraid it's only a matter of time before I cheat on her (I've never cheated before) and to be honest, I don't really feel the same anymore, keep catching myself thinking about what it would be like to be with other girls. What do I do adv? Do I tell her I want to break up or do I keep trying, as of right now I feel like a friend and not a boyfriend...
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>>18020607
Stuff is NOT great. When there's no sex, this is not a positive relationship. PLUS the sex isn't even good or varied either?
You can try talking to her, but here's what will happen. She will cry, and things will get marginally better for a short time. But you've just put off the inevitable.
She's either not into sex or not into you or both. Get out now. If you want to be nice, tell her why BUT DO NOT TAKE HER BACK WHEN SHE PROMISES TO CHANGE. Otherwise, don't tell her why.
I'm a femanon. Believe me on this.
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Have a serious conversation, not after an attempt of getting her to have sex
Ask her how she feels and thinks about it
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>>18020650
Thanks for the insight.
Lurking for more comments.
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Yup, sit her down in a situation unrelated to sex and talk to her about your needs. Do you ever talk about sex in a way that doesn't imply "Let's have sex right now"?
I suggest you use "I have been feeling ..." "I need ... to be happy and satisfied." "I would like ..." instead of blaming her ("You don't ..." "You should ..."). It's not guaranteed to keep emotions at bay but it's a start.
Also ask her why she never initiates. Again, "I wish you would ..." "I've been wondering why ..." "I want this to be enjoyable for you, too." Don't blame, she will get defensive and shit will blow up. Try to get to the root of the problem and hope that it can be solved.
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Dump her faster than a burning turd.
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Op I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He wants to have sex once or twice a month and then never again in the mood until another month goes by. I stopped wanting sex from him and now when he initiates I don't want it because he's basically programmed me not to want sex with him. I would rather not have sex at all than the once a month mediocrity.
He hasn't really asked if anything is wrong and he doesn't care either as long as he has his hand and his porn.
Talk to her to see if anything is up. She might be bored or want a bit of dominance.
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