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Today I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years has been cheating, kind of. So today she tells me that about one year ago she sent nudes to some guy on tumblr. She also tells me that she used to regularly post nudes on her tumblr around the same time. I am still extremely pissed off and am trying to debate whether I should break up with her or not. I don't want to do anything rash. If she were cheating with someone irl, this would be a much easier clean break, but I don't know.

I don't want to let her stick around and set the precedent that infidelity of any sort is okay, but at the same time, this is my first long-term girlfriend and she is a huge part of my life. Giving her up would crush me and I am honestly afraid of being alone.

The man in me says break up with her, and the woman in me says stay with her. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
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>>18017857
randomly posting nudes to her tumblr is ok, It's her body, etc.

Sending nudes to one specific person is totally different. I would let her know you're not OK with that, but I think breaking up after one offence is basically rash for almost any offence.
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>>18017865
you are a female aren't you
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>>18017857
ABANDON SHIP
REPEAT
ABORT MISSION AND ABANDON SHIP IMMEDIATELY
trust me in this, anon. you will thank yourself later.
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>>18017875
No.
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Does she regret the decision? Not as in, she’s told you she regrets it (because she will tell you that no matter what) do you sincerely get the impression that she is past that? If you don’t know either of those things, then you need to talk it out with her as to where the relationship goes from now on. If she’s as serious about this relationship as you are, then I don’t think she would have done the things she did, the tumblr thing whatever, plenty of people do that, but specifically the sending the nude pictures to a specific person. I wouldn’t suggest staying with a person who did this and is only telling you about this right know – a year later, because it seems more like a “Hmm, it happened long enough ago maybe he can’t get mad at me for it – I swear I’ve changed!” situation than a change-of-heart situation, with true regret. Under what circumstances did she divulge this information to you? Did you catch her? Did she just casually bring it up?
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>>18017865
I strongly disagree with you. When you enter a relationship you give up certain freedoms. If she doesn't like that then she should have gotten in some open relationship shit. But she didn't, she stayed in the stable relationship so that she could have her cake and eat it too without even telling her boyfriend that she was doing this. Even if he was ok with this she should have told him.

>>18017857
Well man, just do what your heart tells you. If you still love her and want to be with her then do it. I've been through similar shit and I felt like I "should" break up, but are you really doing that for you or are you doing it out of some warped sense of pride? Idk its a tough call that we really can't help you with.

Its certainly bullshit that she did that behind your back. Don't let her or anyone else tell you otherwise. I wish I could say dump her but we live in fucked up times where theres more girls with naked pictures of themselves online than girls that don't, and leaving her will probably just lead to dating a similar bimbo, so whats the point?

I will say that people who post naked pics of themselves have something wrong with them. Its a sick vanity that always comes with serious issues. Like what was her end goal with those pictures?coupled with a secretive selfishness since she was in a relationship. But I honestly don't believe there are many good women left so we might as well just accept this degenerate grave we've dug. I know I have.
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>>18017865
>randomly posting nudes to her tumblr is ok, It's her body, etc.
No, it's absolutely not OK, considering OP is hurt by it.
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She told you about it, so that's a good sign.

Ultimately ask yourself if can deal with a permanently tainted relationship.

I'd say call it off, personally.
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>>18018021
>When you enter a relationship you give up certain freedoms
that really depends on what happens when you enter into the relationship, which you seem to recognize.

>Even if he was ok with this she should have told him.
I agree. I never said anything to the contrary. OP asked if he should leave his girlfriend over this. I gave my advice for that and that alone.

>>18018033
>No, it's absolutely not OK, considering OP is hurt by it.
I think it's plain that OP is more hurt by his girlfriend sending nudes to the one guy, but even if he isn't, I'm speaking generally with that line, and not to this specific case.
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>>18017865
Cuck
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>>18017857
Come on people even OP's girl knew this wasn't right and why she hid it. Many women won't send nudes even when they are single and this one did it while in a relationship. Even if you don't call this cheating it should be a huge warning to OP of her very different view of behavior. Further, what ever happened to wanting a partner to be proud of, this girl has humiliated OP in public and private with the guy she had hooked.
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>>18017857
Why did she suddenly tell you OP and how do you know the timing, duration and extent is as she disclosed. It's very likely this is not the whole story.
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>>18018239
yeah, seeing my girlfriend's tits is the same as fucking her.
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>>18017857
Don't worry. Every dude on tumblr is gay. Watch out for lesbians though
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ask her how she feels about you recieving naked female photos. Get some and see... if shes fine with it she doesnt respect you or the relationship and if she hasnt cheated on you she will eventually.

I wouldnt bother desu. Id get one last root and fuck her off.
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>>18017857
i think you need to stay with her for another year or so, but at the same time you need to start watching youtubers like mgtow101 and sandman. dont take what they say literally. just use it as advice.

you need to start socialising more too by the sounds of it. you sound too reliant on her. if you do stay with her make sure it never happens again and get a dna test if if she becomes pregnant.

also try talking to her and let her know how you feel.
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