Got drunk confessed a ton of stuff to bf

>>18011730
The fact that you said you didnt cheat makes me think that you cheated

Damn you've got baggage.

Let him chill on it for a bit. It's nothing devastating, but he still has to recoup.

Talk to your boyfriend. Ask him which of the confession bothers him. Ask him if he wants to talk about it. Ask him how you can make it better.

>>18011740
If he is not answering her it doesn't help

Tbh I'd be pissed in her position if I confessed to being molested and all he could do is sulk. Maybe he just doesn't know how to deal with the issue OP give him time.

>>18011742
>Tbh I'd be pissed in her position if I confessed to being molested and all he could do is sulk
He probably doesn't think it was that big of a deal to her because she mixed it in with much more insignificant details, like wanting to swap to the pill instead. At least that's what I'd guesstimate anyways.

>>18011742
Or maybe it's that she admitted to WANTING to cheat on him with the gangbang?

>>18011730
Well confessing to being stupid already puts you two steps ahead of every other fucking moron on the planet.

That aside, your boyfriend seems to be taking things way harder than he should. "Thinking about being gangbanged" isn't really anything I'd consider out of the ordinary on the list of things to have sexual fantasies over. Being molested is important but that's nothing to be mad at you over. The condom thing is just fucking stupid to be mad over. I'd say you're in the clear. Are you sure it wasn't something else?

>>18011742
This my ex was molested. He needs to shape up and realize that it's good she felt she could share this. As for the other stuff, it's something they should talk about as a couple, my ex wanted kinky stuff including fantasy rape play... It was difficult to accept but he needs to man up and talk to her, not be a pussy and sulk

>>18011730
I could never recover if my gf said she wanted to be gangbanged. Thats a straight up "no" from me. I wish i wasn't so insecure and petty, but I am. I can deal with any fetish except shi that requires additional men to satisfy. Thats fucking gross. I dont imagine 2 girls at once when im supposed to be in a stable relationship so its only fair. "Its just a fetish" that shit rots in the back of your brain and is a huge redflag that you might try to make it happen at some point in the future. Especially seeing as how you may have the tendency to get drunk and do dumb shit. So yea you might have to talk about that and get him admit one of his fetishes.

Basically its a lot at once and men are kind of emotionally retarded and have a hard time processing info dumps. You should definitely talk to him about all these issues individually in a more mature sober setting. Especially the molestation. (Sorry about your molestation by the way. That sucks. Huge respect for people who went through that)

But yea can't stress a more healthy communucation method enough. Give each issue proper time. You may not think something like the gangbang is a big deal but maybe he does and you should respect that. Hope everything goes well.

Your boyfriend is a faggot. You dodged a bullet. Date a real man, not a manchild off /r9k/.

Gangbang is a redflag just like anything else that involves more than my partner. Not something I could deal with. Give him time for now but in his shoes I wouldnt have to do much thinking.

>>18011730
>>thinking about being gangbanged
this is not fantasy but you working through justifying it in your mind with the how, with whom and when soon to follow if you haven't gone there already

>>18011732

Not really, /adv/ hates women and thinks they're all cheating whores.

thats hot
too bad your boifriendo doesnt know how to benefit from it

>>18011802
I think anal sex is hot for the taboo thing of it and I fap to it a lot but real life anuses (ani?) are just ewww and gross and I wouldn't stick my dick in it, I leave that to porn stars.

Sometimes things are just a fetish.

>>18011730
Might want to start looking for a new boyfriend.

These aren't even actually things to confess. You want to get gangbanged? I want to fuck my gf up the ass and then have her sister suck me off. You want to stop using condoms? Sounds wonderful.

The only thing on there is the molestation thing, which perhaps could've waited for a better time, but if all he does is avoid you now like it's your fault then I'd say you dodged yourself a bad egg.

>>18011730
I mean gangbanging isnt even an intimate thing so idk why he wouldnt talk to you. I would feel WAYYY more insecure about my girlfriend wanting to have intimate, loving sex with another person. A gangbang is just a meme.
>he doesnt want you to use the pill
>awkward about you being molested


FUCKING DROPPED LIKE A FREEMIUM VIDEO GAME. Dump him now or you'll regret it later.

>>18011901
Just try talking to the guy after some time and don't overthink it.

>>18011847
>justifying it in your mind with the how, with whom and when soon to follow if you haven't gone there already
I know it's hard for you people to believe this but women aren't usually such massive sluts. I'm slutty as a she-devil and even I would never think a gangbang would be a good idea out of my own fap fantasies. Hell, I wouldn't be OK with an mmf threesome. This kind of shit is very rare, I doubt OP would ever do it.

>>18011802
Man, gangbangs are literally, physically impossible for most women. Hell, tons of women are made uncomfortable by anal sex, alone. It's like the 'harem' meme. Yeah it would be cool to be the centerpiece of a lot of hot women, but realistically 90% of people wouldn't know what to do with it. They'd fuck one or two girls, nut, and then go do something else. Kinks don't define someone as much as you'd assume.

I met a girl on tinder a few years ago, we didn't have chemistry but we still talk. She has a kink for group sex, and though she's slammin' and has had more than one opportunity to get it done, she is actually much too shy to do that. Lots of people are.

"Oh she might get drunk and do it". What, convince 10 strangers to come back to her house and stand in line to wait and fuck her? Would you go to a stranger's apartment, with 9 other men, just to wait in line to fuck one drunk girl? Gangbangs, real ones, take lots of time and planning. They involve EXPRESS consent of the girl, they usually involve people who know each other, they require an investment.

Basically what I'm getting at is that your fear of your girlfriend suddenly breaking up with you for a group of strangers is silly.

You stupid idiots, "Thinking about being gangbanged" means "I want to sleep around", they all fucking say it and essentially it's the end of a relationship unless you want to hang around as a wallet they can use.

Sounds like the BF knows this.

>>18011916
it was top of her list and along with the other things not fantasy but real

>>18011939
Fuck off, moron. I've been married for 7 years and gangbangs are my #1 masturbation fantasy. I most certainly do not cheat. Sorry you (and OP's boyfriend) are incredibly insecure.

>>18011929
>Gangbangs, real ones, take lots of time and planning
no they fucking don't. Participated in one that just happened. 5 guys and one willing girl. Started with her fucking one and I moved in and stuck my dick near her face and she started sucking, one would nut and another climb on and she partied with us all after. No planning no nothing

>>18011730
Everything else he needs to get over.
But the gangbang fantasy... Whoa. You both need counseling.

>>18011952
nowhere did she say it was a fantasy but was thinking of one. Big difference

>>18011944
You're projecting your insecurities in her post. For all we know it could have been in chronological order. It's how I read it, considering that it went from lewd/masturbation talk (common drunk topic) to actual sex talk (involving him) to deeper more traumatic shit (still sex, but drunker) to self hate (which she remembered to mention because it's likely a consequence of abuse).

In fact, I make more sense than you do.

I think he's primarily upset about the gang bang confession. Is he insecure or the jealous type? Give em time and see what happens.

Everyone is entitled to a healthy sex life :^)

>>18011730
>>>18011952
>nowhere did she say it was a fantasy but was thinking of one. Big difference

Well since she wants to have one, I would fucking leave. I'm all for having a good and healthy sex life with ONE partner. But not sharing OP like she's a dirty sweater.

I didn't demand to have a gangbang i said i liked the idea at times

>>18011949
Ok, so, gangbangs that involve any half responsible adults usually go through a vetting process.

Also, the anecdotal evidence is appreciated, but please remember that it's anecdotal. If OP isn't the type of girl to suck a strangers cock at a party, she probably won't find herself in that situation

>thinking about being gangbanged
I'd prefer that to you not thinking about it
>wanting him to ditch condoms and just use pill
objectivey a good idea.
>being molested as a early teen
not great, but nothing to be mad at you about
>being way stupider than i let on
what does that mean.

>>18012748
>i liked the idea
and that will not change so at some point you will either bring it up again or go it alone and your bf heard this loud and clear. What you did was float a trial balloon and wanted him to know you were down for it.

>>18011730
>>being way stupider than i let on
expected
>wanting him to ditch condoms and just use pill
sounds good to me
>being molested as a early teen
red flag, but i could work with this if i cared about you
>thinking about being gangbanged
aaaaand into the trash you go

>>18012958
Everyone involved in the gangbang were adults and responsible but it happened spontaneously and everyone went with it. In the real world spontaneous gangbangs far outnumber those planned with surgical precision.

>>18012748
Have fun with the ding-dong dippers while your boyfriend takes the high road and leaves this trainwreck.

>>18011802
Dude, where does it say that she actually WANTS to be gangbanged? For most women it's just a masturbation fantasy that they'd never want to do in real life. It's like how some women fantasize about being raped but would be mortified if they actually were to end up in such a situation. Thinking about it and actually wanting it are two completely different things.

It's not petty that you wouldn't allow your girlfriend to be banged by other dudes or hate thinking about it. It's only petty when men get upset over some fantasy their girl has when they know she'd never take on the offer if it was actually presented to her.

>>18013009
I love it when guys tell me exactly what goes on in my mind and what I think and fantasize about. Bravo for digging that out of your ass

>>18011730
Told you boyfriend you were damaged goods, half retarded, and want a gangbang no condoms.

How the fuck would you react?

Lucky you can still call him BF.

>>18011730
hits too close to home. My ex disclosed she was molested as a kid and later I she tells me she had sex with 7 guys at a party because her bf at the time broke up with her. Hmmm

>>18013009
>>18011929
>>18011873
Sometikes things are "just a fetish", Sometimes they aren't. You all are acting so positive that she would never do it if given the oppurtunity. Why? You don't know that. You're all just giving her the benefit of the doubt.

But the real way its hurtful is that she even thinks about it. If shes masturbating to the thought of getting fucked by other men whilst dating this guy. Even if she never does it she's still kind of repulsive. Its never ok to think about sex with people who arent your partner. Or even find them attractive.

Nows the time when everybody shits on me and says thats impossible, but fuck you. If i can do it then I deserve a girlfriend who can meet my standards. Everyone here seems to think men can't have any kind of standards.

>>18013026
Hate to break it to you darling, but I'm a girl too. Maybe you've never fantasized about things you wouldn't actually do (or at the very least be reluctant to do) but I know plenty of other girls, myself included, who admitted to fantasizing about things they'd never want to do for real. There's a difference between a fantasy and an actual fetish/kink.

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Here comes the train! Time for random penetration! Choo-choo!

OP here
>>18013081
thing about sir topping hat, his goal is for the trains to run all time and not be lazy right? well why can't he just fire them and hire new ones? if trains are sentient then they have a reproduction method and thus a unemployed
population. fire perrcy and thomas

as far as the thread goes my gangbang is in the realm of fantasy, i think in reality guys are too awkward in grpups. there would be fist bumping and "oh yea give it to hers" that would ruin my mood

>>18013530
So are you backpedaling on wanting to be gangbanged?

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>>18011730
It's really sad that he wouldn't talk to you... You opened up about some pretty personal and pretty dark stuff. I'm sorry
If it's a jealousy thing about wanting to be gangbanged then that's pretty immature and you might be able to talk some sense into him.

>>18011802
>implying you would refuse a sexual encounter with 4 girls at once

>>18013063
>Hate to break it to you darling
you talk like a patronizing old man. liar

>>18011730
>thinking about being gangbanged
DROPPED.

Thank god there is a magical substance called alcohol that makes dumb whores like you tell the truth.

He's so lucky that you told him. He might of done something incredibly stupid like marry you.

Tip - don't tell the next guy stupid enough to date you the truth. It's your only chance at getting married.

holy shit all these insecure retards lmao

also that sucks OP just give him time to recover and then apologize and ask if there's anything he needs to discuss

my boyfriend has 0 tolerance when it comes to being drunk around him lol, i've made him mad a few times. i never confessed anything like that though

>>18014481
Now this is an anon who will die a virgin, bitter and alone.

Most men have a harem fantasy and it's pretty much the same shit as a gangbang fantasy. Just saiyan.

>>18011730
Sounds like you have a shit bf, I mean, how the fuck can you be mad at someone because they got molested as a child -- what the fuck?

I'd dump his retarded ass.