Am I a cunt?

>>18004374
I used to suffer insomnia just as bad as you. Drugs aren't the solution

>>18004374
>He says he can express his opinion, I think it's inconsiderate because(1) I don't sleep without ambien, and I am not productive if I don't sleep(2) I don't sleep well if we argue before I fall asleep

Have you expressed that opinion to him?

>>18004378
I never found any other way to sleep. I've been like this since I was born (for my mom's delight).

I have a quite healthy lifestyle, I do sports, I eat clean, I am in shape, I did plenty of medical tests but everything is alright. It's just how my brain is.

>>18004374
sounds like bf is the cunt this time. this also seems like a really trivial and silly thing to make a big deal about. either youre not telling us the whole story, or he is upset about something else entirely but taking this opportunity to bitch about something (which would be extraordinarily childish and a whole other pile of red flags). or hes just a fag

>>18004390
So have I.

You're not trying hard enough. You just want to take the easy way out

>>18004385
Yes.
It's either "We'll talk tomorrow morning then" followed by 10 minutes of sighs and other little annoyed noises, "Change drug" when he knows I tried countless drugs and ambien is the one which works best for me, or "Just sleep like a normal person", when... lol? I wish?

>>18004395
I don't want to take the easy way out. I tried many things and this is the only one that works for me.
I did meditation, it doesn't work for me. I listened to: audiobooks, podcasts, the sounds of the sea, whale porn. I don't use laptop/phone before bed. My room is dark. I do relaxing activities before bed.
I go to bed always at the same time, wake up at the same time, tire myself out during the day.
Didn't work for me. Had to try drugs. Took valium, took some antidepressants, made me lazy all day. Took ambien. Works.

>>18004390
have you tried the dudeweedlmao? cbd extract should be right up your alley- no real intoxication, just drowsiness and relaxation

>>18004391
I had a couple of bad moments (woke up in the middle of the night with a panic attack once, got hyperactive and fixated and did some online shopping once) but this happened many months ago.
Lately beside not remembering what I do in the 10-15 minutes after ambien kicks in and before I fall asleep, there's nothing special.

Maybe he's just a fag.

>>18004419
... don't make fun of me. I'm allergic to cannabis.

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>>18004374
Can someone elucidate me here? Is OP asking us for help about sleeping pills or is she asking how best to tell her bf to fuck off?

>>18004421
unless you do some really shitty things during this 15 minute blackout, im going to go with hes a fag
>>18004429
do you have general pollen allergies? or do you just get way too fucked up when you smoke? either way, extracted cbd may still be worth a try. do some googling if you feel like it. i am also allergic to cannabis (and all pollen bearing plants), but i only get hives when i come into contact with the plants themselves. dried flower matter is fine for me, and extracts are as well.

>>18004440
I just realised I forgot to ask an actual question. Blame it on the ambien.

I was just wondering if I am a cunt for wanting my boyfriend to shut the fuck up and not talk about the medications I take, even if he clearly dislikes it.

But advice on sleeping pills could be good, too.

>>18004462
Worst thing I did was trying to fuck him, but yeah I'm not an amazing lay when I'm half sedated.

I don't have pollen allergies but having someone smoking weed next to me gets me fucked up: my nose gets super stuffed, my eyes get very red, and I can't breathe well. I never tried to smoke because I thought I would implode.

>>18004477
He sounds like a cunt and if your relationship is fine otherwise I don't see why he can't deal with it.

>>18004477
>when I'm half sedated
i can see this being advantageous for the bf. he can do all the weird shit he wants without fear of having to explain himself after the fact

>>18004468
Has he said what his problem with it is? Why doesn't he like it?

>>18004374
He's the one who is out of line. He seems very self-righteous and lacks understanding. If he actually cared he wouldbe trying to help find solutions or make kind, helpful suggestions. He should also be looking out for your best interests, and if the drugs are working for you and helping you sleep and live a normal life, he should be happy about that. The drugs don't affect him in any way.

Do you have delayed sleep phase syndrome?

>>18004984
>>18005552
He came to the living room and apologised, he said he was being inconsiderate and we slept nicely (in our bed).
Thank you all.

>>18005795
Yes. I was like this since I was born.

>>18005795
>delayed sleep phase syndrome
what is this and how to fix this?
I think I might have it
(habitually sleep at 4-7 AM)
The girl I'm seeing is curious why she can't come over in the morning, I hesitated telling her that's when I sleep and I'd hate to have anyone knocking my door at that time

I skimmed and here are a few options op-
Keep things as they are and be unhappy I guess. Pretty self explanatory there.
If you want to try to get off pills, take up a more natural route. Herbs, meditation, hypnosis, etc. could do the trick.
Or just break up with him. But that's a whole other thing obviously.

>>18005897
Chronic dysregulation of the "body clock". Meaning you'll fall asleep later at night and wake up later during the day. Those hours of sleep are great tho.

For a lot of people it is just something they experience as teens, for some it's just how you are and you will have it for most of your life. I was like this since I was born, my dad has it, my grandpa had it.

You just have to slowly but steadily re-adjust your body clock till you're satisfied with it. So make a schedule (going to bed at 4, wake up at 11) and slowly anticipate your bed time till you go to bed at midnight and wake up at 7.
Here some suggestions:
> Make sure your room is a nice place to sleep: comfy bed, dark curtains, etc.
> Don't spend time in bed when you aren't sleeping
> Tire yourself out during the day - exercise!
> Have a balanced diet, take all vitamins, don't eat heavy meals for dinner or for a few hours before bed.
> Don't spend time before going to bed watching screens, or do it with a red filter on (preferably no screens at all)
>Meditate
>Read for a while before falling asleep, make it your "ritual"
>Listen to an audiobook while trying to sleep (a lame one) - it helps me control my thoughts
>Use melatonine

None of this worked for me. I managed to fall asleep at 1-2 AM for a while, but never before that. I get an energy rash at 23 and I'm just as awake and productive as I could be.
I am using ambien right now.