Girlfriend communication issues

>>18002598
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Then she goes on this whole wall of text about how she didn't feel valued and I left her behind to party with my housemates without her and told her to catch up with us. She says she didn't say anything because of the snap I sent her of me already out with my friends. I see it as her again not telling me things based off of assumptions she's making herself.

I don't know if it's alcohol or if I'm justified in standing up for myself here. I can't read her mind and I don't think it's fair for me to feel like shit retroactively for something I didn't mean to do. She doesn't tell me these things and I keep hurting her and that hurts me so much more

>>18002599
> I can't read her mind and I don't think it's fair for me to feel like shit retroactively for something I didn't mean to do. She doesn't tell me these things

No dude you're in the right here

>>18002598
>>18002599
tell her what you thought when she tells yu what you should have picked up. If she understands how you think, she should be able to communicate with you better. Also, try to understand her. I know, thats wat your trying to do, but all im saying is you should listen to what she says you should have picked up on, and use it for future reference.

https://youtu.be/NnCLoLhDkRs
https://youtu.be/F164UeMGltE

I bought into these videos, maybe she will too if she watches them.

>>18002598
Ehh you shouldn't have just gone out without her. You should have called and asked her vereally if she wanted to go out and if it was ok.

Text is shit for communication. Try calling more often that way you hear tone of voice

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Jeez.

OK, two things. First, be thoughtful but quit texting her every time you scratch your balls. She's not your mommy and you're not 9.

Second, adjust your relationship dynamic. If you're doing your part, paying attention to her overall happiness, and she's pulling this sort of thing, YOU need to decide if she's being proportionally upset or cunty about it. If she's passive-aggressively controlling you by manipulating your desire for her happiness unfairly, it's up to you to stop that, and you do it by letting her have a tantrum and sending her home. Which sucks.

If you fucked up here, and you might have, apologize and don't make an event out of it.

>>18002598
This is why texting is killing modern love and romance.

I agree. Call her more. Tell her you want to hear her beautiful voice, and that you find it hard to know how she is feeling when you text all the tie. She needs to understand that if her feelings are constantly getting hurt, it may just be that she isn't expressing those feelings effectively.

>>18002598
One of the many differences between men and women is that women really are very good at communicating and understanding others through tiny signals like looks or tone of voice, and it is so natural to them that they don't realize how really, really awful men are at the same thing.

We men really need to have things said to us out loud, in short direct sentences of small words because we just don't hear/see any other forms of communication.

We're good at other stuff, but not this, and so this is a case where you have to explain this to her and beg her to adjust to your disability.

I lied. Last night I was drinking and for some reason wanted to keep up a not gay narriative because I really need advice and thought it would have been ignored if it was gay. We're both men.

Also I went over to his house last night after fighting some more. He had a really hard day and I was the icing on the cake. I still maintain that he pulls this shit all the time and that I shouldn't be at fault for his inability to communicate with me, but we made up about it last night. I apologized for not realizing he was literally going to be home in an hour.