Longing for ex-gf

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Stick with no contact. General rule of thumb is keep no contact for half the amount of time your relationship was

>>18001874

So don't message her for two years?

That break up sounds quite messy. Why did she dump you OP? It's obvious she loved you.

>>18002091

She dumped me because I was focusing on my career and wasn't investing much effort into the relationship. Literally a week after she dumped me I got a huge promotion and life has been great since, if only she had waited a bit longer.

I know she still loves me but I think she's too stressed with work and school to contact me right now. I'm not sure if at the three month point of no contact is it okay to reach out and say "hey."

Half of me says stick with no contact, half of me says send a text.

>>18001750
No contact lasts 1-3 months. You're walking the border my friend. I've done this before and yes, it works. So text her but don't go full retard. Just a simple "hey, just passed by the place we had our first date. Remember how awkward but funny it was?" or any shit that won't scream out "I miss you" but will serve as a reminder about how cool things were back then.

Just don't initiate full scale conversation. Dont text back straight away and don't send more than 8-10 messages a day until you have couple dates with her under your belt. And don't text "I love you" or "I miss you". That shit has its own time and place and its not now.

>>18002255
I've heard this and it's what my intuition and your dubs or telling me to do.

But I've heard other people say that if you were the one that got dumped then you should never be initiate contact and just wait for them to contact you, any input on that?

>>18002280
It's not who dumped who first. It's always about the reason why someone got dumped in the first place. As far as I understand she had all the reasons to dump you and it was your fault. Start making up for your own mistakes.

>>18002297
So what kind of text should I send and when? No contact started November 4th

>>18002221
She should have supported you.

>>18002307
She was but she was stressed and depressed.

So, contact her soon or let her contact me?

>>18002339
just text her, you know she'll smile reading it. Don't follow dumb rules, do what you feel it's right for you.

>>18002589
This. Close the thread OP, it'll go fine.

>>18002642
>>18002589

that's what I'm saying, though. I'm 50/50 split on what feels right.

Texting her feels right, because she hasn't contacted me, but I've already overpursued after the breakup. We stayed in contact and I asked her to meet up twice on separate occasions. She accepted but backed out at the last second both times.

Isn't it bad to ask her out a third time? Wouldn't walking away at this point be best? She knows I want to see her, so shouldn't I just give her time and space to come back on her own?