Fucking fuck

Be honest. Sit him down and tell him everything you told us. He will be destroyed but at the same time he will want you to be happy. Its not like you want to get fucked by 12 nigger dicks and hes inadequate. Its entirely a you thing and you deserve to be happy. But also him. Don't waste his time trying to lie to yourself. You will eventually hit a breaking point. Set him free.

Just a phase.

Don't be a retard. Lesbians don't exist.

>>17995139
I know this is the appropriate choice. That's what I want to do. But our lives are so wrapped up around one another. He's really all I've got, at this point. I don't want to get kicked out or separate until we're both stable to live apart from one another, but I'll just have to deal with it like an adult when the time comes. Thank you though, truly. I know that's the right thing to do, for both of us, even if it hurts.

>>17995139
Why do you think people deserve happiness? Do we really deserve anything?

>>17995189
that's largely irrelevant to the topic at hand.

>>17995113
There's never going to be a good time to do it. Just do it whenever you can.

>>17995189
Isn't the question rather, what's gained if OP stays for his sake? Would he really consciously prefer blissful awareness with a woman who does not reciprocate the full scope of his sexual love? And even if he would, you never know it for certain and it seems awfully condescending and out of line to grant yourself the right to decide that for another person. That it's for their own good.

There's literally no way you can handle this that won't destroy him. Might play it off okay and remain friends, but it'll hurt him pretty bad.

t. gay guy who did similar thing to a girl

The quicker you do it the better

Well, I'm 8 years with my current gf and she's bi. We've been exploring that side of her toghether with ffm threesomes.

So I think you need to make yourself two questions mainly:
-are you 100% sure you're not romantically attracted to him at all? I ask this one because in a long relationship, there's been times I've wondered if I trully loved my partner. Then I see that I just can't imagine my life without her. Yes, the "rush" of a new love is long gone, so I'm mostly "neutral" in this regard. But I'd be devasted, crushed if we were split apart.
-are you sure your sexual interest is not just a lust for something you currently can't have? Do you know for sure you're a 100% full blown lesbian? Wouldn't you, after a while, feel that you missed man if you had a relationship with a women?

>>17995113
>attracted to men, women, anything in between, it didn't matter
Go running piggie. Fat fucking slob.

Its not going o matter how long you wait. Its gonna sting. Rip the bandaid and enjoy your fair share of pussy with the rest of us.

This is the sort of thing that's going to destroy his sense of self-worth and masculinity no matter how you tell him.

He's going to spend the rest of his life wondering if the next girl is going to, in his mind, find him distasteful enough to prefer women.

Just get it over with. There's no way to soften the blow.

>>17995476
To your first question: I'm pretty sure. I do care about him, he's someone I'm very close to, but I don't like to touch or get sexual with him at all. And like the men I've dated before him, I never really liked sexual encounters with them either, it was just something I thought.. y'know, you were supposed to do. I liked people because their personality's were align with mine, but they always pursued me first and I allowed it.

But in essence, I would still be really hurt and heartbroken to be away from my partner, just as I would with any other who I've been around with for a long while.

To your second question: I don't know, honestly. I'm still trying to figure all of this out, but it feels right to be with women rather than men, for me. I like men, they're cool, but there just isn't any substance there for me.

>>17995507
I know. That's the problem with this whole thing, because he's going to make it all about himself when it has really, nothing to do with him at all. But he's exactly that type of person, who would spend the rest of their lives wondering what's wrong with him and why I want women more than I want him, when I don't fucking know why either. I just feel how I feel and there's nothing I can do to help that.

In a perfect world, he would support me, be the best friend I need him to be, but I know that will never happen. It'll be too painful.

>>17995556
I can see it now

He asks "why?" and if you mention that the sex is bland it'll just make things worse, and if he asks if you love him or not and you say "yes" he'll demand to know what the problem is.

>>17995596
Yeah. It's a double edged sword, really. I care about him and love him, want nothing but the best for him, but that's not in the way that he wants.

Just wish I'd have figured this out sooner so I wouldn't have to hurt anybody.

>>17995631
New Anon.
It's an unfair situation, but sometimes it happens in life. The sooner you tell him the better (as long as you are sure). If he really is a good friend he may want to stay as a friend (I have a cool lesbian as a friend) but he also may need to distance himself. Don't judge him too harshly if he does.

>>17995523
Did you ever have sex with girls before, or are you just bicurious? One of the girls that went out with us said she liked to have sex with women, but it didn't satisfy her sexual urges and needs.

I'd say first be really sure of what you're doing, because there's absolutely no turning back after. Maybe cheat on your bf with a girl (really wrong, I know), or have a threesome with him (which might make everything worse with him feeling inadequate and guilty from letting you experiment).

I might be biased but a threesome might be a good idea of you set it up right. Say you've been curious about sex with girls and that you'd really like to try that, but that you'd feel safer if he did that with you, since you really trust him and so on. I mean, the guy is already going to be crushed either way, so at least he gets a consolation prize out of it.

>>17995113

Just break up with him and dont tell him so he can still keep his dignity

>>17996213
She shouldn't even break up with him. She should just leave without telling him. At least that way he might in the future think there was something wrong with OP instead of something wrong with him

>>17995113
Haha, why do you need adv? There is one of 2 things happening here and bot are easely fixed.

1. You're suggesting your sexuallity is shifting, something is changing it. Is wether it's due to external/internal/psychologial/endocrinological factors really isn't important. It wouldn't be unreasonable to infer that if it can switch, it can be switched back. Get out your bible, you're praying the gay way

2.) You're full of shit.
The reason you find sex with men boring is because thats what women do. Shaving your head and having sex with women looking like ugly dudes wont fix that
>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_bed_death