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Advice needed Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:37:38 Post No. [Report]

Should I tell my girlfriend about my pornography/masturbation addiction?

I haven't told anyone for obvious reasons, but some of the side affects directly effect her, such as decreased sex drive, harder to get erections, etc.

I've been trying Nofap, but sometimes I'll relapse. She'll notice that I seem depressed/frustrated, but doesn't know why.

How do I go about telling her this? It's hard for me to confess as in my opinion, it's quite pathetic that I'm even going through this situation.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:41:15 Post No.17986075
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Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:41:15 Post No.17986075 [Report]

>>17986063
Tell her.

My boyfriend did and I supported him through it. We were each other's firsts and I wanted to help, and I'm not grossed out or offended by porn.

If she cares for you, she'll help and be understanding.

Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:47:06 Post No.17986097
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Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:47:06 Post No.17986097 [Report]

>>17986075
How would I even bring up the topic?

Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:50:16 Post No.17986113
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Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:50:16 Post No.17986113 [Report]

>>17986097
Just say,
"look, have you noticed that I'm not so, interested in sex? It's really, really not you. I think you're beautiful/gorgeous/sexy/whatever, I just have this problem...." and on into the issue.

She'll have noticed and will in all likelihood be thinking she's unattractive and the like, so make sure you reassure her that it's not that.

Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:52:42 Post No.17986121
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Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:52:42 Post No.17986121 [Report]

>>17986113
Do you think I NEED to tell her, or do you think I should just fix this problem silently?

Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:53:23 Post No.17986126
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Anonymous 2017-01-23 11:53:23 Post No.17986126 [Report]

>>17986063
Get over yourself. We're wired to enjoy orgasm. It's not an addiction.

If you're doing it so often you feel it's detracting from your life in general then yeah if she's sufficiently close then talk to her about it.
Hell, she may want to assist in transferring the urges from the screen to her. Or just may want to involve porn more in your sex life.

Dont make it an addiction thing though. You just watch more porn than you'd prefer to.

Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:20:01 Post No.17986206
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Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:20:01 Post No.17986206 [Report]

>>17986121
IMO since it effects her, and she already noticed a difference in your behavior, you should give her an honest explanation.

Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:40:36 Post No.17986266
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Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:40:36 Post No.17986266 [Report]

>>17986075
>>17986126
I'm scared that she'll see it as pathetic and won't see me in the same light as she does now.

Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:42:20 Post No.17986274
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Anonymous 2017-01-24 12:42:20 Post No.17986274 [Report]

>>17986266
You could always spin it that you're driven to porn because she's not doing enough for you. Play the guilt card. :)

Anonymous 2017-01-24 01:14:46 Post No.17986347
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Anonymous 2017-01-24 01:14:46 Post No.17986347 [Report]

Usually things get easier when you talk about it. If you guys are close and you find the right moment I would say tell her. GL getting over it mate.

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