Is it judgemental to have preferences?

No. "Judgemental" is a meme. Our fundamental right as human beings is to make judgements. It's GOOD to be judgmental. And if someone tells you that you are being "judgmental" like it's a bad thing -- what are they doing? They are being judgmental.

>>17984745
Depends on how much you let your choice be controlled by those preferences. Having them is unavoidable, but absolutely refusing to be friends with someone because they fall into a certain group even though you click together amazingly well is silly

>>17984814
but refusing to date someone because of personal preferences is totally fine?

>>17984757
This this this. Is it judgmental? Yes. Is that bad? No.

Judgement isn't bad, it's a completely necessary fundamental of life. We need more of it imo.

>>17984814
This is just silly, of course you should reserve the right to not befriend someone because of a group. If you're 15 and they're 50 and you click, you can not befriend them because that's creepy. What if you're a 16 year old upper class white girl and the friend is some absolutely lower class black thuggish guy but you happen to get along? What if you simply don't feel comfortable around lower class people in your area, even though one seemed cool?

Judgement is fine. It's a way to keep yourself statistically safer and happier.

It's important to know what you like and what you don't. Prejuduce has always been necessary for survival. Just remember to be a big boy or girl and look past prejudices when it comes time to.

>>17984925
Also

Don't overrate wealthy sweet-talkers, or you'll regret it eventually. Many of them are in a nihilistic fantasy world.

>>17984745
I don't think there's anything wrong with choosing to spend time with people you want to spend time with.

However you're doing yourself a disservice if you're using silly factors like income, race and appearance. You will likely be missing out on interesting and different perspectives and personalities by only hanging out with beautiful, rich white people.