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>>17980942

Gonna be honest, you both sound like bitches. For starters, if your gf gets pissy about setting the table, I can only imagine what things would be like if you ever wanted to get married or have a kid. Also, the ketchup thing is like a non-issue. I get that you think you made the perfect steak, but some people just want ketchup on their steak. That's how she wants it I'm guessing since you say you've never seen her eat a full steak. Get over yourself.

>>17980952
m8 the steak was already marinaded and perfectly cooked. If you throw a shitload of ketchup on there like a fucking peasant it ruins the natural flavour of the meat since the acid in the sauce doesn't have enough time to neutralize with the meats juices. You might as well eat McDonalds instead since by that point it probably tastes the same.

It was at the end of a long day so I get not wanting to set the table - hell I was like that as a kid.

But to drown a steak in fucking ketchup is rude and insulting

>>17980954
Are you the head chef of a five star restaurant? If not, don't get insulted by the ketchup thing. I understand slaving away for the perfect steak but you need to take a chill pill and swallow your pride.

>>17980972
Why does it matter if I'm the head of a five star restaurant? she covered it in enough ketchup for five or six burgers, it was obviously deliberate

She ruined dinner because of being pissy

Why should I stay with this woman? It's fucking disrespectful as shit. She likes ketchup on stuff but at that point it's not even steak anymore

>>17980979
lmao you n ur gf are cunts gl hf

>>17980952
>Gonna be honest, you both sound like bitches

That's what happens when a man defines himself through a woman's job. I understand when a guy has a cooking hobby and believes he is good at it but to take it super seriously to the point of causing relationship conflict, lol

>>17980942
Is this your everyday's life? Is she always pissy? She seems ungrateful but there is always another side to the story, give is some details? Not the ketchup story, but how do you live with her bla bla

>>17980983
She does get pissy about once a month (yes her period is coming on atm)

Most of the time we get on really well, chores are split fifty fifty with me doing mostly 'dude stuff' like taking out trash, building new furniture and lifting shit. She does the washing most of the time. I do it if she cooks which is relatively rare. I earn significantly more money than she does.

Earlier today we were fantastic. We have shared interests etc

Don't know what other details I can offer

ketchup is gross desu

Your girlfriend sounds like really bitchy, but I'll try to see things from here perspective:

You obviously made an effort to cook nicely and you were proud of your meal, but she didn't care for it and felt like you were trying to force her to enjoy something she didn't ask for in the first place. So you got frustrated because she didn't care and didn't try to enjoy or contribute to the meal while she got frustrated because she would rather watch her internet videos and eat some microwaved crap and you kept badgering her for attention.

I think in a relationship you should at least try to appreciate your partner's interests. But if she doesn't care for cooking then she doesn't care for cooking and you've got to leave or cope with it.

>>17980988
Then why did this one incident made you rethink your relationship? You know she's like this once a month, what are gonna do then?
Just shrug it off, she'll probably apologize later.

>>17980972
Not OP

But I'd be pretty fucking insulted if I cooked food and someone immediately started to season it and spice it with sauce and shit without actually tasting it first. It's literally rules of etiquette.

Also, OP, sorry m8 but your gf is a bitch. You also sort of sound insufferable yourself. Like, honestly? I wouldn't put up with that pissy attitude and neither should you. This whole thing would have been avoided had you simply put your foot down and told her to set the table because you've got your fucking hands full.

But that's just me m8.

>>17980942
she sounds like a pretty unpleasant modern age cunt. if she isn't paying a fair share to live with you together I'd break up with her and kick her out because she sounds fucking dreadful.

But I'm sure you're retarded also.

>>17980972
I have to say there's a level of reasonable shit for some one to do to food... if some one does that to a burger, fine, but to pay extra and be able to cook a steak properly and go out of the way takes quite a bit more effort and then kind of take a shit on the time and effort, i'd rather toss in a microwave dinner for them to eat and i'll save the steak for myself.

>>17980979
that being said, you can't force some one to appreciate something. if op's post is indication as to what this type of person is, they're not interested in them and probably not a good partner.

>>17980942
OP you are fucking nuts over this ketchup thing. There is no fucking etiquette thing broken here nor any show of disrespect. Bottom line you were already pissed at her for not helping by setting the table (I agree she should have helped and agree I would have been pissed too about that). I think there is more going on between the two of you than ketchup on a steak

>>17980942

To be honest it seems like you were in a shitty mood which put her in the same, possibly because you had to juggle everything while she sat on her phone and then I assume you asked her to set the table in a "tone" which led to a snowball of passive aggressive back and forths until she had enough and just said "fuck this" and left.

Remember just because you're doing something nice doesn't give you the high ground, you can't get away with being a dick.

I don't think you're entirely to blame but I also don't think she is.

>>17980942
>lake of ketchup

My fucking heart.

Your girlfriend sounds like trash my man. Maybe ketchup on the steak would get a pass BUT if someone is kind enough to slave away making dinner for you you do NOT act like a cunt when they ask you to set the table, even of the food is bad, even if you don't like steak, the gesture needs to be respected. What a bitch. I'd never cook for her again (or see her, for that matter)

>>17980942
Get some McDonald's shite for her next time and serve that dinner described for me at earliest possible convenience.

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kek this is why communication is right up there with trust honesty and respect as foundational pillars of gud relationshibbing


where you fucked up:
>deciding to put a marinade on steak
filthy casual nigger wat are you doing pleb tier

where gf fucked up:
>deciding to avenge the porterhouse
marinade was rude to steak, ketchup was rude to you...but also rude to poor steak too
tell her she only victimized it further and gibe dish of ketchup topped with gold star for trying if she cries so as to condition negative association and thereby protect future meals and shekels

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/funposting aside, where you actually fucked up:

>not making your expectations clear with regard to behavioral boundaries & what you are/aren't willing to accept in a relationship
>uncertain from context but perhaps failing to express to her the importance of what this particular meal meant to you
did she know you were gonna be going out of your way to do something special for her or did you spring it on her?
>uncertain from context but perhaps not listening to her enough/having expectations she finds unreasonable
do you know why you've not seen her eat a full steak before? (benefit of the doubt here...given the lack of an explanation, the inclusion of reassurance in the next line, your passion for cooking, the bit about the salad, the followup bits about the ketchup, and the relationship not being anywhere near as new as it sounded in the OP, I suspect redundant question is redundant. If I've gotten this wrong, my apologies. If she simply doesn't like steak, well your disappointment is totally understandable all things considered though not totally fair and feeling undue pressure would certainly explain though certainly not excuse her reaction.)

You're dating a child

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and where she actually fucked up:

>pointedly rude ketchup lake was passive-aggressive af; she needs to learn to inspect what she's feeling and own up to why she's feeling it; her conflict resolution instincts need major work
>failing to identify why she felt so disproportionately inconvenienced by your request to set the table relates similarly to the above point; her decision on how then to handle her response and act upon those feelings belies poor prioritizing and a lack of discipline
>being unappreciative, insensitive, and childishly bratty towards you because reasons
>degree is uncertain from context, but the inclination to either not realize or not care that she allows pms to be treated as the go-ahead to become an intractable irritable cunt once a month is apparent


lastly, addressed to both:

If gud communication and give-a-fuck then frequent cooperative harmony.
If shite communication and give-a-fuck then frequent petty buttmad. How fix:
>give more of a fuck
>fuck more
>express desires, grievances, and expectations openly more
>be receptive to hearing and understanding each other whenever one such expression is offered up, and don't ever gloat or be a dick in the face of the next two points:
>>be willing to accept, admit, and rectify when wrong
>>be willing to accept, admit, and compromise when unreasonable
>make sincere effort not to fall back to using passive aggressive bullshit tactics when frustrated or overwhelmed
>pick your battles


also am still remain skeptical here but onion glaze sounds tasty as all fuck, how make?