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Ex No Contact and Masturbation

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Okay so here is my situation.

>Date girl for four years
>Break up a few months ago
>Since then: 12 hookups, countless dates (mostly Tinder/OKC), two short term GF's, one long term FWB
>Currently single

The problem is I'm doing no contact and things are going pretty well. But my ex popped up on my twitter feed a couple days ago after she looked at my snapchat story and was tweeting stuff about missing me and wanting me.

I realized it was unhealthy for me to still be following her so I unfollowed on all social media.

The problem is those tweets I saw get in my head. I kinda got excited, DESU. There's a slight chance they could be about someone else, but 99% sure they were about me. We have friends in common and they told me they were about me.

They urged me to contact her, ask her out for coffee. But I think that's a bad idea. A few months ago I asked her out twice and she canceled at the last minute, told me she's not ready, and called me on my phone and caught up for a few minutes.

Since I already got stood up twice, I am pretty positive it's best for me to stick with no contact.

But here's where it gets complicated: Jacking off makes me forget about her completely, and it's great. But I don't like jacking off everyday and I think porn is unhealthy, but porn helps a shit load too...

So my questions I guess are A: Should I contact her if she's tweeting about me?

and B: Is it alright to jack off to porn if it helps me get over my ex?

Thanks.
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>>17979600
>But I think that's a bad idea
and youre right.
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If I don't give a shit about a girl after I jack off, then I know it's just my dick playing tricks on my mind and I should stay away from the bitch.
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>>17979609
Very true, but the thing is the apathy only lasts about a day. I try to not jack off that much because I don't want to drain myself, but it seems I get "ex thoughts" daily and the urge to jack off to remedy that is a common occurrence.

So I guess what I'm really asking is jacking off more than usual + porn an effective method to get rid of "ex thoughts?"
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Have you told your friend about being stood up?

And I wouldn't look at porn at all. Shit rots your brain
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>>17979711
Yeah agreed. Gonna stick with no contact and limit faps.

Yeah they said "third time is the charm."
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Never take any important decision in your life without jerking out first
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>>17979600
>Since then: 12 hookups, countless dates (mostly Tinder/OKC), two short term GF's, one long term FWB
You're a disgusting degenerate slut kill yourself.
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>>17979714
Think your friend is talking with your ex about the whole situation?
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>>17979600

Now here anon, you're doing great with no contact. So many other anon's fuck up after so many days. But once in a blue moon there may come a time to break no contact. I've only seen it in emergencies, so I doubt that this is the time.

Look at it from a different perspective. Your ex is being social and outstanding about "missing you." She's publicly announcing it. She's telling the whole wide world her "I miss someone!" So why in the hell hasn't she contacted you? If she misses you so badly, she wouldn't miss a beat sending you a text or calling you.

When people initiate no contact they do it because they're trying to move on with their lives while still keeping a door open to their ex. They're not chasing their ex, they're doing their own damn thing and letting their ex come back through that door if it comes to that. You've shown interest and have asked her out before and she's left you at the altar. She knows the door is open, so there is a reason she isn't coming back to you.

Your ex hasn't moved on. In the event of a break up she should have taken the time apart to do the same thing you're doing. She hasn't which is why she's sitting down missing you rather than contacting you. She still has her own demons with her, anon, and they won't hesitate to stick a pitchfork in another relationship between you two.

Ultimately it's up to you to break no contact if you truly feel like it. My advice is to bunker down and wait if you want to get back together because there are lessons your ex needs to learn on her own. Otherwise if you contact her, be aware she may have some problems with her.

As for the jacking it deal, just keep a lid on it. It's a healthy coping mechanism as long as it doesn't become more than that. You've gone on dates and have socialized so keep that up and don't touch your penis every other hour. There's better ways to spend no contact and you've seen it.
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>>17979862

Yeah that makes a lot of sense. Right after tweeting that she missed me, she retweeted something about figuring yourself out before investing in other people's lives.

I think she's sending signals that she's starting to miss me, but is still working on herself.

But regardless, gonna stay focused in these dark times. Pushups, no porn, continue no contact, don't think about ex, just move forward.
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