My boyfriend won't really have sex or do anything with me anymore.
I give him blowjobs on the regular, on my own volition or because he asks.
When I ask for him to go down on me or even gesture for him to touch me, he kind of just... doesn't. Pretends he doesn't hear me, or just half-asses it.
He often chooses porn over me, and masturbates to porn in front of me. I get kind of sad, and he becomes insecure and angry at me when I am look "sad" and then I'm put in this weird position where I lose no matter what.
We live together, so I decided to leave as often possible to give him space but I get no sexual satisfaction. Every time I ask why he doesn't he gives me a hundred excuses ranging from exhaustion to "no one has ever satisfied him" and makes me the guilty loser, which is fine, it's my fault whatever, but all I really want is someone to go down on me and love me.
What do I do?
Talk to him. Tell him that your needs aren't being satisfied and that you dont feel its fair that you give him what he wants and he doesnt return the favor.
Personally I'd just fuckign leave him. More than likely hes cheating on you already or doesnt find you attractive for whatever reason. idk why people let their partners do this kind of shit to them when theres plenty of people who will give you what you need out there.Its pathetic.
Leave him. Bad sex is a huge reason that relationships degrade. If you've talked to him, explained the source of your sadness, but he still places blame on you, then he's not likely to change. That "no one satisfies me" is also very bad. He doesn't see you as a long term fit, so try to go before he kicks you out.
As the previous anons said, you should just leave him. Obviously he isn't going to change from what you told us. Sex is important in a relationship, you shouldn't be dating someone who refuses to be sexual with you, whatever the reason.
>>17977214
I suppose people stay in these relationships because the time and effort and emotional connection they've invested seems to outweigh everything else, and yes, the easiest, clearest solution is just to leave.
Last time I toyed with the idea of splitting up though they just started throwing everything and crying. I also realized I can't exactly leave or they'd be thrown out on the street since we live in a low-vacancy high-rent area. He's just about to graduate, and I know these aren't things that are ideal for anyone, but I do care about his well-being, so I don't think I can break up with him at all.
Dump him, he is either cheating on you or doesnt value physically/emotionally
Either way its no bueno, move on
Your first mistake is assuming "it's your fault".
Fuck off with that shit.
You're wasting your time with a guy who doesn't value you. Why? You do realize there are guys out there that would treat you properly, right?
This isn't going to last. Move on. What must be done eventually should be done immediately.
>>17977199
Lazy bitches just throw shit away when's it's broken instead of fixing it. People like this shouldn't even be considered to be giving advice.
>>17977237
>>17977237
Then maybe you need to tell him that you need to have a talk, as adults, and for him to not be a baby about it. (obviously you can word it nicer)
The way you describe him makes him sound like his immature and not worth your time.
>>17977266
>try to talk about it
>gets yelled at for bringing it up
>try to hold emotions in
>gets yelled at for having a facial expression
>thinking this is a worthwhile relationship
ok.
>>17977199
he's thinking about Stacy
How long have you been together?
ages?
are you his first?
>>17977199
My GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!! Wtf is that amphibian?!
>>17977199
>masturbates to porn in front of you
Pls leave him
>>17977199
Dump him. Sounds like a shit boyfriend desu.
>>17977237
>Last time I toyed with the idea of splitting up though they just started throwing everything and crying. I also realized I can't exactly leave or they'd be thrown out on the street since we live in a low-vacancy high-rent area. He's just about to graduate, and I know these aren't things that are ideal for anyone, but I do care about his well-being, so I don't think I can break up with him at all.
He's emotionally and sexually abusing you and using you. Value yourself. Leave him and find people who will respect you. It's not your fault he treats like you shit. Stop allowing this and just leave. You'll feel guilty and for a while until you realize that it was the best decision you made taki care of yourself.
>>17977199
He could be depressed OP
>>17977462
Not OP, but I believe that is the Giant Chinese Salamander.
When I reached this point in my relationship I had already checked out but building up courage to leave the relationship
>>17977926
Gross! It's an obese mutant slug that needs to be exterminated.