Polygamous Marriage

>>17972733
Wait, so you want to both of you have sex out of your marriage? If so, just meet escorts.
If you want an actual relationship then... Idk good luck.

>>17972733

Thats the issue with polygamy.

monogamy has its issues, and i certainly prefer polygamy, but it allows others for others to get wrapped up in your lives too easily. whats the line? is it only sex? how does a married man go about getting 'only sex'? its hard. and those after sex conversations often lead to more.

the downside of monogamy is that you risk being too suffocated by only having each other

the downside of polygamy is that you risk losing your partner to anyone who might tempt them.

love does not require sex, nor does sex require love, but the two cross paths often.

there is no way to establish a perfect relationship. if you want to explore polygamy this is what you open yourself up to. an equal but opposite possibility to monogamy's flaws

>>17972748
No, I just want him to have more than one wife. I want to be sexually faithful to him.

>>17972812
My questions and thoughts are then about how you "rise above" sex in terms of the family unit....assuming you are engaging in polygamy for the sake of having many children

>>17972733
polygamous life has no happy ending.

>>17972733
>both for me and for my husband so that we can increase our love and our children

wait what

>>17972843

you don't. if your goal is to let your husband impregnate women they are going to be perfectly intwined with your lives you are not going to find a bunch of women who want to be second fiddle to you and have your baby nad struggle to support the kid

>>17972852
I am fine if they are entwined in our lives, naturally I would assume them to become family. I am looking for advice on what that is like or how I can overcome feminine tendencies toward weak feelings like jealously and pettiness?

>>17972847
Why do you think this? Just wondering, maybe you are right.

>>17972849
I want my husband to have many children and I want those children to be a part of our family

Polygamy is the natural way of things?
Really?

Where did you read this?

>>17972852
Oh, and I should add, my husband is wealthy enough to support multiple wives and children. Money is not an issue, and no one will be impoverished in this family.

>>17972878

just have your husband beat you anytime you act jealous of your sister wives.

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>>17972877
I didn't read it anywhere, I came to the conclusion myself after many years of studying children and their development as well as consideration into what an ideal society looks like. It is my opinion, I wouldn't assume it to work for everyone. The fact of the matter to me is that if you can find dependable, loving adults, the more the merrier, especially as far as children are involved. There should always be snuggles and food available from someone who loves you. Do you think monogamy is the natural way?

I think it takes a village

>>17972879
I am fine with spanking as a punishment for bad behavior, but I don't really think that is an "answer" to the issue. I know I can rise about jealousy, but I am curious as to what other people's opinions are. We all know woman's head was formed on a whirling wheel.

>>17972885
The natural way of what?

You say you study children?
Then tell me, what happens when one child receives attention from somebody they like, and then the person they like gives that attention to somebody else?

Humans fuck around, yes. However when it comes to consciously "loving" multiple partners, they fall apart.

Say you work 5 days a week, and you have 3 partners to spend time with. When the fuck are you ever going to get anything done? You're going to be so busy allocating time to partners, children, and mandatory tasks that you'll never be able to advance yourself, or relax.

I'm sorry. I understand the concept of polygamy, but every single time I've seen it attempted in practice, it has failed catestrophically.

Yes, it would be great if we could all just love each other, but I think that also takes away from the exclusivity and value of having such relationships in the first place.

>>17972896
I won't be working and I will be a full time sahm. I understand what you are saying and I agree with you! A child's relationship with their caregiver should be stable and consistent; not erratic. If I didn't have the availability to be there 100% for any children involved, I would never consider it.

>>17972903
>>17972896
I meant to continue and ask why you think loving people consciously makes things fall apart? I guess that is the heart of the matter for me. What is ideal love in a familial sense and is it possible through polygamy? You say no. What is love to you?