Sexual Performance Anxiety

>>17970783
Relaxation and foreplay.

Stick it in when the urge to stick it in is great.

Pnetration is just one of the many things in the sexual dance.

Eat her out, let her suck you off, play with her hair, suck on her erogenous zones.

Penetrate when you want to cum, or pull out and cum on her face.

It happens to us, but if shes presenting her pussy to you, therse no need to be anxious as you are in the goal zone. Its like youre about to kick the ball in and theres no goalie, the only way to fuckup is by your own devices.

>>17970783
i used to be the same.
Heartrate spiking
Cum before even getting started.
mind racing.

I met a virgin and basically worked with her to get over it. Her being scared shitless of me breaking her hymen made it easie,r but it still took us a long time to finally have sex. Now its easy for me.

>>17970801

Nice advice I appreciate that my dude. The whole thing about her already being there presenting etc I never thought of before. Cheers

>>17970814
Absolute shitshow isnt it man? I mean any long term girlfriends, partners, whatever I've had I got over it eventually and all was good. Its caused me to make a bit of a goop of myself with one-night stands or whatever before though.

First thing to keep in mind is the coolidge effect: it's proven that you orgasm very quick with new partners in most cases. Further sessions increase time to orgasm. Premature ejaculation is also normal and not an issue in most cases.

What I do (if I'm single and hooking up with a new girl) is save my load for 3-4 days without cumming. Then I either fap before sex (1-2 hours before) or even better: Have the girl give you a quick handjob during makeout sesh and cum on her tits or something.

Then just clean up and eat her out/make out until you're hard again. It's best to eat her out so she orgasms and you feel less pressured to last long during sex because she already came once. It also has a confidence boosting effect.

There's a book you can read called The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sex Secrets Every Man Should Know that goes into great detail how to perform well in bed. It's a short easy read, you can google the pdf.

Always communicate with your partner, too. Communicate how you feel before sex "It's been a couple months since I last had sex. I might be a bit rusty but I'll get my abilities back soon."

or just tell her you are about ready to orgasm if you are getting really turned on during the makeout sesh. Just bust on her while kissing then proceed with further sex.


Sex isn't just one round, keep that in mind. You can cum, then she'll cum, then you'll fuck her, then you'll both cum. Then you'll cuddle, then you'll both get turned on again and have an even better, longer session.

Deep breathing and kegel exercises also helped me out a lot. Good luck OP! The best thing you can do is just say fuck it and go with the flow. Cumming quick only bothers women if you become passive immediately after. If you cum fast, either keep going or switch to some other form of sex until your dick recharges.

>>17970854
I like your style man. Thats the approach I've been taking with this new girl I'm seeing largely. She's easily had the best reaction to it of anyone before though. My problem in many ways is that it annoys me. I might try your tactic with the handjob, etc thing. Seems like it might work.

I know I'll get there in the end but its getting irritating now. Thought I'd grow out of this at some stage you know? Haha, cheers though man. You're a gent