Watching porn with my gf was weird

I love how sometimes girls says things to impress or be in a competition w/ guys (having a threesome) and not caring while men keeps their mouth shut sparing their partner hurt feelings, props to you

The way it seems she wanted to be seen as an experienced/ kinky person bragging how she can take BDSM and stuff... she's a kid triying tu turn you on while having a certain status (or feeling secure) leave this for a while, and don't come back until there's more confidence between you two

>>17968062
>What the hell happened?
I'd point to
> I correct her, she gets pissy

But don't worry too much about it. Wait a few days, then let her know that you want to try again and are certain you'll find something to agree on, which leads to fun times for all.
Most importantly, be positive.

It sounds like she has some unresolved feelings, hangups, or both. This could be a way to iron them out, if handled delicately.

>She takes forever to pick something
>She chooses BDSM, gang banging, and BJ videos
> she's intimidated by women who are a different color than her
> she still insisted just touching the girl
>She suggests we watch gay porn
Sounds like control/power/rules issues to me. But that's kind of my kink, so I see it in everything.

Focus on what works and what works for you. You can't force her into what you're into, but you can certainly nurture her interest and preferences. Take the long view.

Happy fapping.

>>17968062
Well, BDSM, gang-banging and even to a lesser extent blowjobs are extremely submissive porn categories, she obviously likes being dominated or at least fantasises about it. If you didn't already know this about her then you do now.

What do you mean she can't watch "normal" stuff because the women are a different colour? Most porn categories have women of all kinds in there. I'm confused.

I don't see why she'd randomly bring up her previous threesome unless she was hinting to you that she wants to watch threesome porn, so there was a clue for you.

The conclusion I'm drawing from your facts (1. She wants to watch gangbangs, 2. She hints a threesome, 3. She insists she didn't touch another guy last time she had a threesome, 4. She wants to watch gay porn) is that she wants to bring another man in for a threesome with you. Is that possible? And when you rejected watching the porn she wanted to watch (and she gave you at least five categories she'd be okay to watch with you) she gave up on it altogether. Sounds reasonable to me.

I feel like porn and sex toys are kind of linked because they are most often used for the purposes of masturbation. While I've often found that porn/toys/masturbation can be a two player game it is a difficult leap to take something usually practised alone into a thing to do with another. Usually when masturbating you are detached from having to perform to and for another and having to worry yourself with the relative satisfaction of another, it is one of the great things about it.

So watching porn with a partner is NOT like watching porn alone and the preferences and choices have to reflect the other person and take into consideration the needs the other and should be a separate entity compared to what each individual would do individually.

Case in point would be how butt hurt guys are over their partners sex toy collection when it has nothing to do with their partner or preferences when having sex with another person and everything to do with masturbation.

I mean, just to avoid..
>She has a 10" black dildo.
>This is one her ex bought for her when he wasn't around.

Sort of shit, you should have separate sex toys for using as a couple which take into consideration the needs of the other person not just yourself.

If all that makes any sense? Basically this encounter can't be judged too hard because it was basically couples porn virginity awkwardness. Also the shit she was saying while potentially upsetting for you, sounds basically like she was trying to talk about sex stuff while in an environment of sex stuff and maybe if you weren't so uptight about what was supposed to be a free environment to explore and discuss turn on's and off's you'd have managed to turn that into sex.

>>17968105
>What do you mean she can't watch "normal" stuff because the women are a different colour?
She does, but she just seems to be intimidated if a woman of a different color is on screen, especially if said woman is banging a guy that looks like me.

>And when you rejected watching the porn she wanted to watch (and she gave you at least five categories she'd be okay to watch with you) she gave up on it altogether. Sounds reasonable to me.

Kek, they were all either penis or pain-centric, my bad for being straight and not a masochist.

Oh and she did say she wanted a threesome with a girl though.

>>17968107
>maybe if you weren't so uptight

Guess I'm just not too crazy hearing about my gf being with other people or thinking of her enjoying getting hurt.

>>17968084
>Sounds like control/power/rules issues to me.

Wanna elaborate?

>>17968062
>>17968136
>seems to be intimidated if a woman of a different color is on screen, especially if said woman is banging a guy that looks like me.

It sounds like she has some real issues OP. What's sex with her usually like? Do you do anything that isn't the usual?

>>17968152
Lol Naw, I feel like most women are like that deep down.

She enjoys me choking her. Which I personally fucking hate, I really don't like being violent with women. :/ But if it makes her happy.

>>17968136
Man you are so dumb.

>Didn't touch the guy though.
She was basically trying to talk to you about a girl on girl experience, probably to gauge your reaction, probably to turn you on in a situation where you are supposed to be exploring sex stuff and she even tried to pad your ego by minimising the involvement of the other guy for you. Oh guess you don't like to hear about your girl with other people, better shut it down.

>BDSM.
Hey honey, I really like this thing. Oh right ok so you've tried to minimise it hard and your retort is a slightly prettier 'you + pain = dumb'. It is ok, I didn't really like it anyway I guess. I love talking about sex with you thought!

Dude there are levels going on in conversations.

>>17968157
I'd guess she's pretty heavy into the dom stuff then. It seems a lot of women are, I dated one of the feminist tumblr chicks who was pretty anti-male (yet still dated guys who the fuck knows what was up) and she loved to be dominated and degraded.

Shits weird dude but just roll with it. It's just sex.

>>17968163
This. OP is dense as fuck

>>17968163
I dunno, I just heard "threesome" and my mind went directly into thinking that she was a slut, so it was a bit of a turn off. I don't necessarily think that, but thinking of her with another guy is never fun to me.

>BDSM

I have no idea how to tie anything, and it seems like a lot of work just to get off. Plus if you need to be contorted in some type of way to get off, you had a messed up past, which she has and it makes me think what the hell happened to her to make her like stuff like BDSM.

>>17968195
I've got to go to work so I can't write a long pretty post extolling the virtues of this kink, but short story yeah being a good 'dom' is a pain in the ass because you've got to invest time and money in learning to be a good dom.

I guess from the perspective of the sub it brings validation to have somebody want to use you and to get off on wanting to use you and putting that effort in to use you in a ritualised way. Basically you are wanted and you have a purpose and that purpose is defined and directed by another and this is quite relaxing and nice in an otherwise chaotic world. The pain aspect simplifies it somewhat and this is also quite direct and simple when things are usually complex and layered.

Basically this person is going to pay a bunch of attention to me. Give me simple instructions to follow. Get me off a bunch of times and invest time and effort in learning how to do this in a better way over time.

What isn't there to like?

>>17968208
Interesting. Says a lot about one's psyche. And it's not good lol.