My girlfriend proposed an open relationship to me yesterday.

Don't do it if you have any reservations at all. You have to be 100% certain that it is what you want or it will destroy your relationship.

Also, if she already has another partner in mind thats a huge red flag

>>17967120
Thanks for the input.

She doesn't have anyone in mind.

>>17967106
I have only read the first sentence, but...
Bear in mind that she'll get MANY more dicks than you'll get pussy.

>>17967106
>She says it could make us more loving towards each other
Lol

Just don't. What your girlfriend told you is, "I like what you provide me but I don't want to be tied to you", which is very rude. Any so-called benefits are justifications for her shitty idea.

I think you're concerns are legitimate, and that's mature of you to recognize that jealously could be an issue for you.

I don't know you, or you're girlfriend, but opening a relationship is the beginning of the the end. The fact that she's already voiced discontent means returning to some previous state in your relationship is unrealistic.

I think it's a nice way of saying, we should figure out how to get distance without forcing anyone to be sleazy about it.

just to note, I don't know shit about relationships, and have never knowingly been in an open relationship.

I've seen it work for other people, but I imagine it's more complicated if you already have expectations built around someone.

I'm sorry dude, just try to make it as not painful as possible.

>>17967106
>I too am not totally happy with the way things are and have my desires to be with other people.

Your relationship is already dead at this point if both of you are thinking this way.

I'm not big on open relationships, but it seems like the only thing that might salvage things.

If it fails, your relationship was already on its way out, so it's not like you lost anything. At least if you try it might satisfy you both.

Unlike the others in this thread, I'm going to tell you that open relationships can work. They can. They aren't a death sentence if everyone involved is into the idea and on the same page regarding expectations.

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>>17967106
>My girlfriend proposed an open relationship to me yesterday.

enjoy kissing fresh cum from her mouth and licking fresh cum from her pussy after she gets back from her second fuckbuddy.

>>17967145
I don't think that's rude. I also don't want to be "tied" to her. Even without an open relationship, we were gladly never "tied" to each other like that.

>>17967152
>I don't know you, or you're girlfriend, but opening a relationship is the beginning of the the end. The fact that she's already voiced discontent means returning to some previous state in your relationship is unrealistic.

Yes, this part is getting into me. The moment she said it, I knew there was no turning back. And also, I said to her too that I feel like being with other people. If we decide not to open the relationship, which is totally possible, we would have to figure out a completely new way to transform our situation.

Thanks for posting.

>>17967156
>Your relationship is already dead at this point
>so it's not like you lost anything
I think that's way too harsh. We love each other, we live together and are very good for each other in a lot of ways. There is a lot that I would be losing if we were to break up because of it and she would lose a lot too. Our discontent is mostly a desire to do different things, not to get hooked in our mundane everyday life, which seems to be dragging a bit for us lately.

I hope you are right about open relationships working...

I can't understand this. I absolutely adore my bf of 5+ years and I could never even entertain the thought of being with another man. Not the richest, fittest, slimmest or tallest man I ever dated, but certainly the most kindhearted, warmest and most intelligent. He's my hero and the man I want to raise a family with. I've never cheated and do not intend do. My lovely father raised me better than that.

I really can't reconcile feelings like this with wanting other people. Hate to say it but maybe you and your girl aren't right for each other. I've never seen open or polyamorous relationships work.

All the best to you anyway, OP. Hope it works out.

>>17967125
>She doesn't have anyone in mind
Bullshit. Women are notorious for having men on the backburner. Since she proposed this, I have no doubt in my mind that she does, as well. She's just not telling you.

>>17967106
Do what you want, but just go into this with the foreknowledge that she'll be able to get miles upon miles of cock and you'll have to step twice as fast and work twice as hard to land even a single extra vagina

>>17967322
Never been betrayed or destroyed someones trust.

Everything that can be made can come undone.
It's not even hard, just say one thing you can't take back.

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>>17967182
>We love each other, we live together and are very good for each other in a lot of ways.

>I too am not totally happy with the way things are and have my desires to be with other people.

So basically you two want an open relationship because it'd be too hard to move out on your own so instead you'll just openly cheat with other people until the relationship inevitably falls apart/your girlfriend finds someone new to move in with and leaves you behind.

Have fun OP.

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>>17967106
>She says it could make us more loving towards each other
I can't believe you that would believe this HHAAHAHAHHAHAHAA

>>17967106
It's over, she just wants to cheat without the guilt. I guarantee she thinks you wont find anyone, so she can have a free pass to fuck who she wants.

>>17967322
I understand your position. I think every person feels in a particular way towards relationships (not to mention that changes over time as well)

It's worth saying, neither of us would cheat on each other, we trust each other that much. That's precisely why we are bringing this possibility to the table. We have desires, we wouldn't cheat on each other, so we are negotiating. There is a difference between wanting other people and cheating on each other.

I don't believe in "being right for each other", not in a definite sense anyway. I don't know if we are going to be together forever or break up this very year, both are possible.

Thanks for the good wishes, anon.

>>17967131
>>17967356
One thing we talked about is how this cannot become a competition or else we would have major problems. I don't know if it is possible not to be a competition, this is one of my doubts. I don't fear "losing" in this game at all, I fear it becoming a game in the first place.

>>17967399
>>17967448
That maybe so that we are over. I don't know.
It's not cheating if it is open, though.

Also, you fags are projecting a lot of low self-esteem on me lol

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>>17968582
Them fucking do it. You have shot down the majority of things everyone said. Your just looking for confirmation to do it. Just do it. You seem to have made up your mind already

>>17968582

If you guys are serious about sexual exploration here go see professionals, none of this open relationship crap. Go see an escort together, have a three person discussion with them, and then decide from there.

My suggestion is to have a three way with a shemale escort, that way there's really no jealousy involved. The point is whatever you guys do, you should do together, play an active role in each other's sex life.

>>17967106

Open relationships work well if and only if both parties are happy with the relationship.

I wouldn't go for it because as you said, you're not 100% sure. Too have an open relationship both of you have to be 110% if not it will not work at all.

Then I also is not very fond about open relationships. Might work for some but I think it really hard to maintain in the long run and eventually the relation will break.

My advice is either you try to fix your relationship alone or you break-up. Involving another person/s will only make it even more complicated.

Tell her to give your current state of relationship one more try and start cheating on her.

You guys are going for an open relationship for all the wrong reasons. Don't do it because you're not totally happy with the way things are. That's actually the worst reason to consider it

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>you open the relationship
>she starts sleeping with other guys
>she starts getting more romantic and going out on dates with them
>she catches feels for one
>he falls in love with her
>he asks her to be exclusive
>she leaves you for him
>tfw you are Anthony Burch

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>This is OP right now

>>17969977
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