HS sweetheart cheated on me

>>17966094
Leave her. Who fucking cares about the baby, its probably not even yours

The thing that bothers me the most is that I had no idea. She's a conservative girl that got me going to church so you can see how this is a surprise to me.

>>17966094
Tell her next time to bring that up before lying at the altar to her next husband, and begin the divorce process by immediately securing all the finances you're entitled to, and whatever else you can get your hands on.

It's not about her anymore. It's about you, and your child.

>>17966108
My parents got divorced and I couldn't do this to him. I'm 99% sure he's mine

>>17966112
Im working and going to school. I'm not sure I'll be able to keep him if we got divorced. She's not working, but she is going to school

>>17966094
>i find your art has too much pornographic content
>now i feel insecure
>the obvious next thing to do is post on craigslist and fuck a guy multiple times or strip for someone on the internet.

You've gone full cuck at 20 my friend.

>Your anger
justified

>Your embarrasement
This is completely normal, don't even dare think you might be wrong

>depressed
You will stay like this until you brainwash yourself or grow too close to that potential son of yours.
Cheating happens again and again. When people say leave her , they actually give you advice to do your hardest to get out of there and into a healthy relationship.

>>17966137
Yeah I'm trying to come to terms that I may have to leave her. It's damn hard to think logically in these situations.

I guess a question I have though is, how does porn and having a relationship work. Are most girls this crazy about it or do you think my wife just wanted a reason?

>>17966094
be assured that she has done way more than she has admitted to. i would get a paternity test asap if i were you. collect evidence of her wrongdoings, and start hiding your assets. contact a lawyer and covertly prepare for divorce. if you do not leave her, your life will devolve into constant suffering, as she will do nothing but walk on you and treat you like a bitch.

>>17966162
>Are most girls this crazy about it or do you think my wife just wanted a reason?
You shouldn't have had it, but if she didn't talk to you about it, she just wanted a reason.

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Real talk is the wife bipolar or borderline? This shit is insane and it's sad you're even thinking of staying around.

>>17966119
A divorced but happy father is much better than an unhappy marriage. Just because your parents still failed to get their shit together it doesn't mean staying together is a good idea.

>>17966188
Yeah I was worried she wanted a reason because I'm her first boyfriend and all that. I'm pretty sure she feels like shes missing out on that normie girl party life.

>>17966209
She's got anxiety and low self esteem. It hasn't always been a problem, but it is there.

The thing that sucks about splitting is that she would end up going back to Hawaii where her family is and I would never see my son if he is mine.

>>17966164
Do you know if there is a way to get a paternity test without her knowing? I just don't want anymore drama.

>>17966239
wait til shes not home, take yourself and the kid to the hospital and ask them to do the test. im sure hospital staff see this fairly regularly. its just a mouth swab, not sure how long results take.

>>17966162
I am married and 22 aswell and it was never an issue despite her being very unsure about watching porn herself.
I guess it's completely normal in general to respect what your partner does and like unless it's completely violating the trust, porn doesn't do that.

she probably saw you go for hentai and was questioning if you are really that pathetic (in her eyes) and instinctively marked you down as a beta.

>>17966135
If you can prove she cheated on you then youll win the kid.
So long as she has no dirt on you and you can pass a drug test.
Contact a family law attourney and get started. Dont waste your life feeling like this all the time. Drop her. You deserve better. Porn and cheating are not equal.

I've been with my HS sweetheart since forever too and I honestly think when people in this sort of situations cheat it's an irrepearable fuckup. You're probably are eachother's firsts, pretty much grew up together.. And she finds some porn and starts revenge-slutting around?

Based on her actions she either sounds psycho, or like she wasn't in it for a while already. Nonetheless, I don't see how you can fix this, trust-wise, unless you two really put your balls on the table and get counseling. The fact that she got so freaky about something like her man watching porn really shows there's been some lack in communication.

>>17966162

It can be rather upsetting for women who seem to think that masturbation is out of the question in a relationship. But a normal response on finding your husband's porn stash in a case like that is yelling WTF IS THIS followed by an insecure or angry rant, not vindictively slutting around without telling (making a real relationship offense)

>>17966209
>A divorced but happy father is much better than an unhappy marriage.
This, holy shit OP. I grew up in a family where the mother and father stopped loving each other a long time ago and had pretty much stopped liking each other by the time I was in middle school and being around a toxic home like that fucked me and my sister over. Probably my brother too.

>>17966119
Mate the only thing worse than having divorced parents, is having parents who hate each other but dont break up. Its fuckin horrible.

>>17966188
Right on point

Imagine the custody hearing
>"She cheated on me!"
>"Well he has naked cartoon women on his computer"
>"That settles it, I'm granting custody to the mother"
Seriously, it's 2017. Why the fuck do you idiots still save fucking images to jack off to? It made sense in the 90s when downloading was slow as shit but you're just being retarded and expecting to get away with it. I'd advise you to not reproduce but I think I've already missed the plane on that one.

>>17967008

This anon knows. Child is just going to grow up in a toxic environment and at some point is going to have to choose between parents.

>>17966094
OP, I feel genuinely bad for you. This is a situation where there really is no right answer. But I think the most important piece of information you need to find out is this: is the baby yours? I think once, you find out then you will have a better idea of how you want to resolve this situation. You might possibly want to seek legal consultation about your wife's infidelity.

How old is your son

Getting married so young is your problem. You're needy and insecure now you don't even have the balls to face her and make her apologize and make ammends, she want's a father the she shouldn't have cheated, there where flaws in the relationship? SHIT what is communication for?

So she cheated you for ... porn... my friend she has cheated before that, you just catch her this time and she had to made up a stupid excuse cause she was too nervous to loose the only guy who can put up with her shit

I'm a woman and I have social anxiety and all the shit you want and apparently should be condescending for but you don't hurt the people you love no matter the excuse

Fuck her by the ass

>>17966094
Ya, its extremely telling that she confessed this after an argument.

She wasn't interested in coming clean she just want to hurt you in anger.

Leave her ass.

So you used pictures to get off without cheating, she used pictures as an excuse to find flesh to actually cheat on you? Yeah? Think again, it's a lie, it makes absolutely no sense, at worst porn only means "she won't let me fuck her enough".

Be honest, how was your sex life before the shitstorm? Was she willing to comply to your lust or a "not today"er? She stripped for omeglefags, did she strip for you? Son test is mandatory, obviously.

> Son test is mandatory

>>17966162
>Are most girls this crazy about it?
Varies.
Porn is negotiable.
Infidelity is not.

>>17966119
its better to have parents that love/respect eachother than to grow up seeing that one of your parents dont respect the other and is a pos. divorce her dude.

That's a bullshut excuse if I've ever seen one

>>17966119
Do a dna test ffs.

>>17966094

Leave her, handle the baby situations, sort out visitation and whatever. Don't have to go into detail to your friends and family if you don't want to, just say things were not working. You're still very young, not worth staying with this miserable person, maybe if you were in your 40's with a few more kids but not at this age, not now.

>>17967802
This.

And raise the kid with another woman. A woman worthy of calling a mother.