How to properly break up with a nice person

>>17960801
It's better to just be straight up honest with her and basically say what you just said here. If you're not compatible then you're not compatible. There's zero sense in worrying about "adding to someone's problems." It'd be problematic and selfish if you didn't tell her what you're thinking. Yeah she'll be hurt and probably really depressed for a while but it's better in the long run man.

Just be honest and don't try to keep her as a friend.
Your relationship is well all over after this.

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Is she Christian? If so, tell her it's not good to be 'unequally yoked'.

>>17960870
That's the stupidest thing ever. Just be honest with her OP if you have any respect for her.

Question about the honesty: I haven't cheated on her, but I am probably going to be dating someone else in the very immediate future. There is no way she'll find out (has no mutual friends) and I feel like I shouldn't even tell her that. Is that the right thing to do?

Also just like...whats the right level of kindness? Do I just ask for my books back? Give her a hug and tell her goodbye? Offer to be there to help if she needs it platonically?

>>17960892
You don't need to mention you're going to be in a relationship with someone else pretty soon. That's none of her business and doesn't really help the situation.

Be kind but firm in sharing you're incompatibility and stuff. If you feel like hugging her is the right thing to do, go for it. Personally, I think it's pretty shitty and sends mixed signals. And, for your sanity and hers, break off all contact with her for a time in order for her to heal. Maybe you both could eventually be decent friends down the road but, offering to "be there for her platonically" is bad. It'll keep her thinking she's got a chance to get back with you again.

>>17960892
Yes, all you have to say is that you think that your personalities and viewpoints are too different for anything other than friends. Just don't get pushy with the "let's just be pals" bit, because that'll come across like rubbing salt in the wound.

>>17960876

You clearly don't know what that means

Interesting read. I'm in a similar situation. I've been FwB with this one girl but now she has started to have feelings for me. She's just not relationship material, I don't want to get serious with her. So I need to break up with her unless I can convince her to just stay FwB.