Where can I meet positive , kind people ? Trying to fix my shit

>>17957563
>I try to remind myself to let it go but it's just so pervasive I don't even know how to deal with it.
And why do you let other people affect you? We can't control how other people think or are as human beings.

The best way to deal with it is changing ourself and our attitude towards negativity, judgment, and ego. You may say It’s not
that easy. I won’t argue with you. Being reactive is way, way easier. It’s easy to lose your cool. That doesn’t take any control. And it’s easy to whine and complain. Without question, though, being proactive is the higher road.

Is there pure negativity around you or you just see only negativity?

>>17957607

It's not even what people think or say, it's just like this terrible energy they give off that makes me feel sick to my stomach.
I can maintain my cool in an interaction but when I'm stuck in a classroom or even at home and someone is exuding this kind of energy it makes me feel like I want to vomit or I'm getting stabbed in the heart or something.

>>17957618
I can relate. I used to get so physically ill from other's negative emotions and I'd feel so so saddened. I've learned that I need to take a mental step back and breathe. I need to actively look for the positive in people and situations. I feel a lot freer now and less upset by other's emotions. I encourage you to research emotional regulation.

Do you mean online? If real life the people you meet on a night out are usually nice (the people you meet because everyone knows everyone, not totally random strangers), and people who are on the same side as you, like at work, or experts in the same field, can be friends. Also, any meetup where the purpose is to enjoy something.

The "general public" online isn't nice at all. You will have to visit smaller sites and get into friendship groups. No matter what you will run into morons online. It doesn't matter if you're on Twitter, a debate group or a GNU kernel programming mailing list, they will be there.

>>17957658
>I encourage you to research emotional regulation.

thanks anon, started reading on wikipedia and it seems interesting. Reminds me of what I've been reading in 'crucial conversations'.

>>17957679

online , and in real life too. it seems so hard to find kind people anywhere.

>>17957563
I feel like some cities are just all around toxic. Every person in em is sick and just farting out bad vibes.

You just gotta get out of there. Also the little secret is that most people our age are depressed. Okay, maybe not most but much more than usual.

>>17958450
you're probably right. I'm in Toronto and it can be pretty awful but I don't have much to compare to. what are the nicest cities you've been to ?

>>17957563

I know that feeling. I am quite sensitive and successful at work and I cannot swallow the jealousy around me.

>>17959911

I feel that clearly my boss and coworkers expected less from me. It is awful.

I have discovered that going around other people during lunchtime and boast a bit about my work helps me with my self steem. I have to disconnect emotionally from my colleagues and in the long run, find another job.

>>17957563
I don't think anyone past the age of 12 is positive... Buy someone you know lunch? That might coax a smile.

>>17959966

it's not even that I want them to be positive for me - I literally just don't want to have to feel like shit because the people around me are radiating death.

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>>17957563
>Where can I meet positive , kind people ?
Involved in nature. Go to the park, camping, community garden...