cheating or not

You should discuss with your partner. Honesty is key here. and keeping it a secret isn't honest.

I can tell you're somewhat confused and in the throes of temptation. it is as if it has taken away your better judgement. the choice is obvious at this point. if you decide to cheat, it is obvious what will happen. if you decide to work on this and be honest about it and make the right decision, that's good.

I'm jealous, and in a way disappointed. you have a golden relationship with your current partner, and you already know that it would be wrong to decide otherwise. yet you still consider. In my opinion, you don't need advice, as the answer is obvious. yet again this is so ridiculous that I consider it may be fabrication but it's also possible this is real. doesn't matter to me. If I suspect sliding board filler I will always sage.

>>17956776
Thank you for your answer, it really matters to me. This is no fabrication, this is the very real situation I'm in, and by that I don't mean to victimize myself, I'm quite at the opposite of the spectrum in this...

The throes of temptation, exactly.
Telling my partner would be devastating for the good relation she has with her cousin, she would hate her forever and this would reflect on a part of the family too. No harm is done, telling would surely. Not mentionning things would never be the same again between any of us.
And writing this I realize I'm writing my own answer... When taken with distance, all of this seems so ridiculous indeed... why in the world would I do that?
But still I'm just a man and the temptation keeps coming back , however wrong and surrealistic the idea may be.
How do I fight this? Or should I do what I feel and let everything crumble around me, because maybe this is the real me and this is the actual life I'm done for? All my life I've been fighting this temptation in order not to cheat... With age I'm letting more and more go of the role model I thought I was supposed to project. I should have live a life of freedom but I did not, partly because of myself.
Now that I have something without price in my life, the temptation is the most hard to fight. Irony or just me to blame?

What can I do?

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me and told me. As a result she actually left me, because she wanted to stay with the other guy.

I know you "just" want to fuck another girl, but trust me. When I found out it hurt so fucking much to know the person you commited so much, and actually loved betrayed you. Think about it anon. You are a guy and so I am, I know the desire to fuck another girl, but to actually act on it is another whole fucking story.
Don't do it. For the sake of her and for the sake of your relationship. You will just destroy so much for having an orgasm which lust 4-5 seconds. It's not worth it

>>17956760
>>17956827
We don't live in times of polygamy anymore. If you decide to cheat, then you are not made for a relationship and you don't deserve your partner. If you stay loyal, you will get it back and experience real love. It's your pick, but you have to make a final decision, your girlfriend deserves it.

Thank you all

I've been cheated on by my boyfriend and it sucked. I cried my eyes out everyday for 6 months easily and still sometimes cry about it 2+ years later, though not often.

If having lots of partners is a necessity for you, either be a bachelor or find a girl into polygamy. You can try talking to your GF about it, but odds are she won't be into it and get hurt. Be prepared for your relationship to end of you try it.

Fuck the hot cousin because your gf is just going to age like a disgusting prune. Gross!

Move far away from the cousin if you want the relationship to continue. Otherwise you will definitely do something stupid.

I'm in the exact same position. My girlfriend is perfect for me, but every mildly attractive girl I pass I want to fuck into the next dimension. Beyond this, I'm not an overly sexual person.

>>17956760

Don't talk about it, deal with temptation by not acting on it and staying faithful.

We all find people attractive even when committed. We all want, also, to be the only person our significant other thinks of forever, but that's just hardly possible.What's important is what you do, not what you think

>I feel like I could have her and still love my partner the same. Maybe I'm wrong,
Of course you're fucking wrong. There is a 0% chance that cheating with another girl won't blow up in your face and fuck you over royally. No matter how hard you try to make it secret or whatever it won't work.

Understand the severe consequences of cheating. If she finds out you cheated on her, it will create trust issues in every person she dates after you. Because if she can't trust somebody she didn't suspect at all and loved very much for 4 years, how the fuck can she trust anybody else? That trust issue may make it hard for her to ever develop a relationship as close as the one she had with you.

And that is why cheating is so unbelievably horrible and why I get so angry hearing that somebody even considers doing it. It is like hearing a robber asking if it's ok to hold an old lady at gun point just so he can get 50 dollars to go by some crack. It's that degenerate and immoral. It spreads a cancer of distrust in the people who become a victim to it.

Don't fucking cheat on anyone. Ever.