When is it all too much in a relationship?

Well we can't answer that in a way that's helpful to you until you tell us what's going on

>>17955440
What information would be helpful?

>>17955427
There is one other thing a relationship needs to work; forgiveness. If you find that your cannot let certain things go, for the sake of your relationship and your mental/emotional health, reevaluate your partnership and where you see it going.

>>17955445
What's going on in your relationship, for starters

>>17955449
I've got no problem with forgiveness, for some reason she likes bringing shit she's done in the past up whenever we get into a fight or even a regular debate so old wounds are brought back up and I get angry over things I chose to ignore because I wanted to pick my battles in the past.
>>17955452
^

>>17955458
Maybe that's a sign you shouldn't ignore things that make you mad or bitter then

>>17955458
Sounds like she can't forgive you, then and uses that as emotional blackmail during difficult moments. She may not be mature enough to handle the communication aspect of a relationship

>>17955459
I mean upon self reflection, I was mad or bitter about them for petty reasons and weren't worth making a whole argument about. We'll be having a small argument, and she'll chuck out a snarky little comment like "you were okay with x, but not y?" When I've quite literally sat her down and explained that I dont like something but am letting it go for the sake of peace. She chucks these little jabs in all the time and it slips right under my skin, thankfully as time went on these kind of conflicts became less and less frequent and I've told her to stop doing it but she always says her anger got the best of her.

>>17955460
I genuinely don't have anything outright for her to forgive, havent cheated, havent lied etc. if theres something, itd be small and based off some bullshit that she pulled

>>17955469
If you truly did recognise that they were petty things, then they wouldn't bother you now.

>>17955478
>its not the things themselves that bother me, or if they do they dont bother me enough to blow up over, its the fact that she turns it into little attacks when Im over here trying to be the peacemonger

>>17955483
didnt mean to greentext that

>>17955483
Then talk to her about it, my god

>>17955487
I have mate, like I said in
>>17955469