So I just turned 22 I'm in my final year of university, am not in a relationship and I've realised I have no idea What I want to do with my life.
I feel lost and alone .
The only thing I know for certain is I don't want to work in my families business
I have no intentions of becoming a NEET.
Anyone else been Here?
>>17930422
Many people. They just tell you go to school, get a degree, then get a career.
What is your degree? What is your family's business, and why do you resent it?
>>17930461
Commercial music, so I've gained some basic skills in business and marketing.
And my family run a few small deli/greengrocers and I've been doing it since 14, and I can't stand it. Its been fine as a part-time/Summer job but, I want a job where i can just go home and have it be a separate part of my life instead of having all these expectations and obligations on me because i'm one of the family.
Imagine how bad you would feel if you were 23 and not going to uni lol
>>17930491
Well, I'd start working toward a career with that degree, sounds pretty fun. Have you done anything related on campus? Worked with theater department, and such? That's a good way to get things going.
>>17930509
Not really just with how this years worked out I've not had time like working on a dissertation and a creative project have taken up a lot of my time. That might be an idea though. Doing work actually helps people sounds genuinely rewarding, maybe working with a youth group or something sounds kind of appealing to me.
I nearly went for a PhD was offered by my boss.
Got a short term Jon as a mechanic for trucks. Realised I enjoy it more as working with my hands is relaxing and I still have to think. Eg wiring n electrical systems. So now at nearly 30 I'm retraining.
My advice is truely Think about what you enjoy and turn that into a job
>>17930422
Welcome to the club. Life is a constant barrage of "Well... What the fuck now, then?" and then you do something, and sometimes it's alright, and most of the time it's wrong. Buck up, boyo. you're in for a bumpy ride. Just remember that negativity is fleeting, and to never drink when you're depressed, or drink caffeine or do coke when you're having an anxiety attack.
Pack your shit, grab your savings and move to a different country/state (depending where you're from really). Find a job, any job, to keep you going and meet new people. Volunteer in your free time and socialise as much as you can. If it works out, good. If not, you know that you can always go back home.
>>17930886
Totally agreed with this, preparing to do it. Moved back home after I graduated. I thought it'd be chill but it fucking blows.
>>17930422
I've been in your situation too.
What you should understand is that this is the first time in your life where you have to make things happen. For example, going to college was planned out for you by guidance counselors, teachers, and parents. You were guaranteed to at least be attending school.
When you graduate the world doesn't care whether you're employed or not. If you're bored and lonely, you have to get up and fix that. You can't just expect people to walk in your dorm and invite you somewhere.
>>17930964
Yeah, I did this 4 years ago and never looked back. Can't imagine myself moving back to my home country. Plus, moving to a new country again is my back up plan if this place gets boring or if me and my bf break up. Having an exciting plan B is what keeps my anxiety at bay, especially when my brain is feeding me all these thoughts like "what if he leaves you? What if you lose your friends?" etc. Not sure if it's a healthy coping mechanism per se, but it sure isn't a bad one.