guys... my bf is into all the questionable stuff. how do i deal?

>shemales
>pegging
>femdom

>questionable
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Yeah, he's bi, a sissy, or just really fucked up addicted to kinky porn, and needs to keep upping the shock value to get off, I would say.

Poop and snuff is probably next. Might want to tell him it's gross and he needs to stop making you feel like a dude.

>>17923501
yeah, i get that a lot of guys are into these...
and i don't really mind. but it is all he can get off to anymore. that's why i'm starting to be concerned.

If you honestly don't think you can be in a relationship like this, break up with him. Save everyone the trouble.

If you think you can, you should recognize that fetishes don't explicitly denote personality. He is probably still very much the person you know. Chances are he just never thought you'd go for those fetishes and he's just excited. Talk with him and ask him to tone it down

>>17923491

Well pretty much, if you don't support him exploring his fetishes and sexuality then the relationship probably wont work out in the long run.

All you can really do is just tell him how you feel.

Personally, those fetishes are pretty tame and you really shouldn't worry. My gf is open to anything and everything in bed and that does nothing but help our relationship. If his fetishes are a problem or too much for you, you may need to find just somebody that is more similar to you sexually.

>>17923491
Well lets ignore >>17923501 and get to the good stuff!
Say nothing just go on like normal but in meantime search the internet for the biggest and thickest strap-on you can find and the worst lube to go with it once you have those in enter sexy time tie him up blind fold him call him a little bitch to get ready, then fuck the ever loving shit outta him.
Trust me he'll never ask for stupid shit like that ever again.

>>17923506
i don't think it's gross. i just don't want it to become the only thing he can get pff to. i dunno... i just wish we could fuck without calling each other names for once

>>17923512
i know that. i love him all the same. do you think his excitement will wear off with time? i mean, i like that stuff too. but if it was only about me, i'd switch it up from time to time

>>17923519
Yeah, probably. Hopefully at some point he goes back to being a gracious lover. Personally, I'm kind of the same...I'm a normie by 4chan standards but I want a chick to peg me. I'd probably be a bit too excited at first if I got a significant other to indulge in it and not treat me like a fag or a freak.

You really just gotta talk to him

>>17923519

If you both are serious and really do love eachother, then this is something you both can easily discuss and come to a compromise with.

I treat my girl like a dirty fucking slut sometimes, and other times I'm sensual and passionate. There has to be a balance.

>>17923529
and what do i tell him?
i fear he will never let me in on his deepest sexual fantasies if i cut him off now. and i don't want to stop exploring this side of his sexuality. i'm just a bit overwhelmed that it is the only thing anymore.

>>17923553
i guess so. i just don't want him to back away and close up again.

but come on... we just had sex and he actually took his phone whilst fucking me and started tonwatch tranny porn. then he got too exhausted and called it off. i went to the bathroom to brush my teeth and when i came back he was jacking it to some lesbian pegging porn. i'd lie if i'd say it doesn't bug me atleast a tiny bit

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>>17923519
OK, so explain that to him, not to us.

Look, fetish porn like shemale porn is pretty well accepted now. Not my thing but it is what it is, seems like a unique class of porn. Pegging and femdom porn are niche markets for BDSM people, and while BDSM can be done in a healthy manner, it can only be done so in balance... elsewise, the BDSM enthusiast who can no longer be stimulated by traditional sex roles WILL seek out increasingly daring or extreme practices, seeking out dopamine stimulation, which is a process that can very much suffer from attenuation through habituation. People who don't strictly control, compartmentalize or meter out their BDSM fantasies tend to spiral deeper into the lifestyle until burnout, which does not bode well for returning to normative sexual behavior.
I was a little dismissive earlier, but I hope this helps.

Honestly, it's OK for you NOT to share in his fantasies to the scale and scope that he does. In fact, it may be healthy for him to focus somewhat on YOUR pleasure for a while, remind him that good sex is a 2-way street.
How you do that is up to you, but I recommend not being ashamed about it, and simply saying that you respect and are OK with his fantasies, but they're more than you find desirable, and you're starting to feel a bit left out. This, and language like this, should keep him from getting defensive.

Talking about this stuff is important.

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Just tell him everything you've told us in this thread. Also, can we see your boobies?

>>17923602
thanks for this.
it's true. i actually suddenly felt like he was trying to get some of the femdom-aspects into our life outside of the bedroom. i really don't like that. i am happy to explore any fetishes with him, but i don't want it to have any effect on our relationship...
i guess he's just high on sex and needs more, more, more!

i will talk to him about this. i'll tell himm that inlove being experimentative with him but that i need some balance again.

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>>17923626
Answer me >>17923618 bitch

>>17923636
dude... this isn't /b/

>>17923652
That's why it was formed as a question rather than a demand.

If you have a strap on and you're sxy, post pics with it on pls.

>>17923657
how polite.

i am and i have, but you will lose your boner long before i would ever post a pic of me. so go to google and fap there

>>17923664
I don't have a boner and I don't want to fap, I am just curious how a grill on 4chan /adv/ whose boyfriend wants her to be a man looks. I wouldn't fap but I'd probably keep the pic desu.

>>17923670
i don't think he wants me to look like a man. guess he wouldn't mind if i had a "feminine penis", but that's about it.
nothing a strapon couldn't partially fix.

i look very feminine actually. oh well

>>17923595
Tell him you want to learn every single sexual fantasy of his and you're glad to indulge but at times you feel ignored

>>17923678
Damn, could have turned a regular bread into a bretty gud thread.

Good luck.

>>17923491
Here's a novel idea: Communicate.

I honestly don't get it what it is with people coming here with issues they should mention to their partner. Actually, I do get it, because you're probably afraid of coming on to strongly. Of being awkward, or of insulting him.

So just be a little tactful about it. Because chances are something like 99% that he's not aware that you feel this way. He probably thinks he's a lucky guy that his girlfriend is so cool with his fetishes.

You're simply not being assertive enough with your own wishes. His fetishes have very little to do with that. If he were into American football, and would pass up sex for watching the game, we'd be having a near-identical thread. Except you wouldn't call football a red flag, despite it being all about sweaty men pounding each other for an hour and a half, or however long handegg matches last.