Had Sex with Woman I'm Dating...

>>17920808
We're meeting at her place tomorrow to talk about it, because she broke the news via message and it's hard to talk about it via message.

What should I say to patch things up where she'll come around to giving us another shot?

>>17920808
I could really use the help, guys.

>>17920829
Please

This is really confusing; it might be possible that she was abused in the past. Tell her how much you like her, how much you enjoyed being with her (sexually and as a person), how good it was for you -- women also worry about coming up short sexually.

Hope someone has a more thorough answer than me for you, anon.

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>>17920808
Its common for a chick to be up and down. I think your only option OP is sit down and say, ah, what the hell happened? Then you will know. God Speed OP.

>>17920843
She was used by one of her first bfs as basically a sex toy. She's weary of being used just for sex, and the rest of her ignored. After the first time we did it, I mentioned how I really like her for who she is, but it didn't seem to make an impression.

She said I'll be her best friend, and that the sex made her realize there were major differences between us. I'm afraid she sees me as another pig now.

>>17920846
See above. She is up and down a lot, and has a lot of depressive issues, but I really fucking care about her, and we both know we're perfect together. When we started dating, she mentioned how much better she felt about everything in her life. Now sex somehow changed it. I have a hard time buying that as the reason.

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>>17920868
Allrighty, you need to tell this chick it meant something to you, and you are happy to ease things back and just hang out with her. They give a little smile and say I still reserve the right to think your hot. See what she does.

>>17920879
I hope she'll be receptive to me saying how much she matters and how I still really think we should give us a try...just dialing it back, as you said.

My experience is that women love with their head and not their heart, and I'm worried she's decided to not bother giving the idea of us another try merely because she decided it pretty quickly.

Follow her petition, be her friend, her best friend if you want. That would mean no sex nor kisses, but apart from that, things wouldnt change muchn if you think of it. Maybe shes scared that you will use her, like she was before, so go ahead and prove that you care for her, maybe she wants to take it very slowly to see if you are the one, and after so many bad experiences, I wouldnt blame her. Prove that you are down for whatever it takes to be with her.

Sometimes all you need is being there for that person, and when she really sees that, is when she will acept you as a bf/partner.

>>17920918
Thanks for responding. Most of that sounds like realistically my best shot. I'm still going to try to salvage things today, but if that doesn't work (knocking on wood), I'll definitely offer to stay there for her and prove myself that way.

I think she thinks she knows that I'm out to use her because of how heady things got, and me getting as hands-y as I did was my fault and my mistake alone...I fucked up, and I'm going to tell her that, but I'm going to say I don't have to be like that, that that isn't necessarily who I am...but I believe she thinks that now. I've got to have the chance to show her otherwise.

I had the same fucking issue...

I tried to stay friend with her, and she enjoyed my company but sadly it hurts so much for me, seeing her.

Should I keep staying near her? I feel she still likes me but I'm scared as fuck of being miserable and I'm planning of cutting contact. Am I a douche?