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>>17918330
This will only end badly.
Divorce her now.

I dunno man... bringing a 3rd person into a relationship is almost never good.

She threw a fit because you wouldn't let her have an open marriage? Um, I would end that shit.
As much as it would fucking hurt after 8 years, she wants to meet new people and have fun. If you are up for that... great. Even tho I am like 98% sure this will end bad.

>>17918330
The marriage is done, end it now.

Realistically though, what you are looking for as a third is so rare in the threesome community that they are literally called "unicorns." The only readily available third is another man who wants to cuck you. Food for thought.

>>17918330
> /b/tards
wrong board.

How about you get the board right first, newfag?

> She wanted an open marriage and shit

Unless you're okay with being a cuck, it's over.
Maybe not tomorrow or in a year, but once that one is out of the bag, there is no stopping the inevitable.

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>>17918369
I copied and pasted here for a better advice, I forgot the edit. Thanks

OP, I'm in my relationship for the same time as you now, and had 3 threesomes, currently working on the 4th

I think your wife is frustrated because you allowed her to experiment at first and then clipped her wings when she was about to get to the best part. You practically blue balled her.

However, she saying she wants to leave you for that or want an open relationship is a big red flag, no matter what. You have to find out why she said that, if it was just out of spite to provoke you or if she wants that just to fuck new people.

Threesomes are great when you have everything sorted out between you and your partner and your relationship is standing strong and everything is good. I wouldn't recommend doing it immediatly because it clearly isn't the righ time for you both. It has the potential to lead to tons of unnecessary drama afterwards.

If you have any questions about it feel free to ask, I love talking about that shit lol

>>17918359
Had three on tinder already, they're not THAT rare

RIP OP's marriage. Good thing you didn't have kids

>>17918405
She is frustrated because I blue ball her. That's true. But there are also those red flags. She swears up and down I'm her o my one and stuff. I did sobbed like a fucking baby when she wanted to move on. I asked her if she feels sorry for my ass and the divorced would be too messy. She's also needs me to finish up school. I'm way too insecure right now

>>17918330
If you end up having a 3some you need to remember this advice:
DO NOT show that you're enjoying the other girl more. Spend more attention directed at your wife and see the other girl as secondary. Don't kiss the other girl. Don't make love to the other girl. If you fail to do this she will get jealous and feel inferior and it'll fuck your relationship up. This is risky because you may very well enjoy the other woman's body more and you might not be able to hide it.

DO NOT use a friend or a stranger on Craigslist. Use an escort.
An escort isn't going to try to cause a rift in your relationship. A friend will try to get invetween you two and want more even if you didn't enjoy it. A Craigslist random can end up doing the same thing. Get a burner phone to contact an escort with and toss it after the deed is done, you'll never see her again.

>>17918330
This will end so badly, you need to divorce. With time, everything is going to be worst

>>17918417
I'm driving rn but keep bumping so that I can reply in a few mins

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OK. look, you're in the right here.

If your marriage is going to survive kinky sex with another person, YOUR MARRIAGE needs to be the priority, not your wife's interest in being a part-time dyke. Priorities need to be identified and drawn, and here's a suggestion.
1). Marriage must never be compromised or weakened.
2). Each person must be 100% in agreement with plans, details AND LIMITS to experimentation.
3). NO SOLO EXPERIENCES. EVER. See #1 for my reasoning.
4). If at any time one spouse gets uncomfortable, everything stops immediately, no complaints, recriminations or argument.

Look, if you're going to do this, understand that it WILL expose your marriage to vulnerabilities. Any time your spouse no longer becomes the sole recipient of your sexual energy, regardless of either one's consent or desires, it places the marriage in the backseat for the duration of the time you exercise that sexual desire. Some marriages survive it. Some do not. Proceed with caution.

Look, after 8 years, you should have kids if you want your marriage to continue to grow and flourish, too. My boys are teens. My wife and I are closer and more in love through raising them together.

Ultimately, no open marriage survives. Oh, there are people who like each other who stay married, but the dynamic of a lasting, loving marriage can't coexist with split allegiances, and when your allegiances gravitate towards satisfying your own desires rather than your spouses in conjunction with yours, that exposes your marriage again to discord. It really does need more of your attention than that. Of course exceptions exist, but most people fail miserably at having an open marriage, despite the best of intentions going in.


Be ready to be the 3rd wheel, too, man. You're going to be an afterthought. I did plenty of that before I was married. You have to be ready to entertain yourself, use the orifices they're not using at the time. It's fun, but can be a bit odd.

>>17918330
You are falling victim to several classic 'male' problems.
As a woman in an open marriage I can tell you a lot of what is probably going through her head.
1: she thinks you don't trust her.
and she's right. You don't trust her to come back to you, or you wouldn't feel so threatened.
2: You will never have a vagina or know exactly how it feels to have those sensations. being with someone of the same sex is an amazing experience, because they're more in-tune to what feels good for you.
3: forcing yourself into her fantasy shows you insecurity, and cuts down on her potential dating pool. It limits her to women who are also willing to fuck you, and are most likely 'cowgirls' trying to steal you, with no real interest in her.
4: when she suggested divorce it wasn't because you wouldn't 'let' her fuck another woman. It's because you think you 'let' her do anything. She owns her sexuality. She can give it to whomever she damn well pleases. But she chose to trust you with her fantasies and include you in the discussion because she cares. The fact that she was willing to include you to calm you insecurities means that you matter to her, but she also values her autonomy.
tl;dr
You're being insecure, and THAT is going to drive her away faster than any fantasy fulfillment ever would.

>>17918455
This has been a big topic in the conversation, to not like it too much. She asked me not to make love to her, to not touch her and look at her like I do to her. She says she's madly in love with me and if I'm not comfortable with it, we won't go through it. I don't want her to resent me for it. We have a Snapchat group with our "friend" we we exchange sexy material. That has spiced things up a ton for us and my wife is going through a sexual revolution. She open about sex and her desires, we are even doing anal. I'm still talking to her about it

>>17918455
10 years, 3 kids, open marriage for the whole time.
Looks like you have this idea that a marriage exists for it's own sake and is it's own entity that needs protecting.

I happen to think marriage is a tool to help people be happier, better versions of themselves. And once it no longer does that, then trying to 'fix' it often causes more damage than good. And this is coming from someone a decade into marriage with my first love.
If my husband told me 'look, we want different things in life' or 'I want to move in with my girlfriend Nancy', I'd be sad, sure. But because I love him, I want him to be the happiest he can be, and if that path doesn't include me, so be it.

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>>17918464

You sound nice. Did you marry another woman, or a cuck fetishist?

A married person does NOT 'give it to whomever she damn well pleases.' That isn't what marriage is. That might be what YOUR marriage is, and it's a disgusting example of degenerate, selfish hypergamous behavior, but it is emphatically not correct and not the norm and not marriage.

>>17918476
Pay attention to this post. Both parties need to have transcended insecurity. They literally must think "I want [them] to be the happiest [they] can be, and if that path doesn't include me, so be it." for the open relationship/threesome to work. I hope you're both at that level.

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>>17918464
Jesus christ..
Why even get married in the first place, if the concept of having your cake and eating it too is so deeply ingrained in you? What's the point?

>>17918504
We are. But I'm concerned of those "red flags", which I'm addressing

She is willing to call it off if I'm not cool with it. She doesn't want to destroy our marriage. She likes the idea of it

>>17918531
She must "like the idea" of your happiness regardless of her being in the picture more than she "likes the idea" of your marriage for this to work. The same must be true for you.

Here's the thing that a lot of people seem to ASSUME about marriage: that it's ONE thing. It's really not.
Some people think that once you're married, you never watch porn again because 'you shouldn't want to see anyone else if you're really in love'.
Some people combine bank accounts. Some don't.
Some people let their spouse go through their phone and emails, some still value each other's privacy
Some get married because they want to raise children together, some never get married, but stay together for 15 years anyway without the contract.
That's all marriage is. A short-cut contract for having legal responsibility for each other. Whatever else you ascribe to it is extra baggage and you should make sure you have the same expectations as you partner before going into it.
My husband is quite happy raising kids with me, and having fantastic sex, while he also goes on weekend retreats with his girlfriend and I go to the movies and fuck my girlfriend.

Say what you want, we're pretty damn happy with our arrangement. And that's what matters to us.

>>17918417
>>17918451

So, here I am.

She wanting to make those moves, like I said, is a red flag because now you'll never know if her initial intentios with her plans were to move you to an open marriage, or if she did so just as retaliation for you blueballing her

Don't listen to the open married guys itt since they seem more concerned to make you accept her lust and repress your bad feelings about it then with your relationship. There are all sorts of arrangements between a vanilla couple and an full open marriage, and all of them need full consent of both parts for them to work. Both have to be fully happy with the arrangement.

I'd consider myself in the 1/10, maybe 2/10 from vanilla couple in this scale. Me and my gf talked through the threesome fantasy for 6 years, with a lot of arguing on the way, before we ever really tried to have one. You and your wife seem to be in different points of that scale. She's a bit further down the road then you, and you have to find out why she's so ahead of you. She wants to sleep around with girls (guys too?), while you're willing to try a casual threesome, which would be like just adding a third person to a vanilla couple every once in a while.

I could walk you through the steps to having a successful threesome with a girl if you wish, because I walked that path, but you don't want to add anyone into a relationship in turmoil. First you have to find out where you two stand, to later add someone to an already steady and healthy relationship. Doing anything against either of you wills just to "save" the marriage would be the first wrong step to ending it.

>>17918797
What's your Kik?

>>17918838
>>17918838
I don't have one, it's not common in my country
What else do you have? I can set up a disposable email to trade contacts. I have whatsapp and snapchat but I'm not with my mobile before the night today