I feel kind of down..
I'm a mid 20s guy, and like most guys, I like talking to cute girls. Now, I don't have sex with them or date them. I just like to talk to them. Friends. I've made a few great friends with females, but we could be talking a lot and everything. Some I've gotten quite close with, but then they get boyfriends and everything dies off. I still have contact with them, but it's very distant now. It makes me feel pretty down desu... I'm glad they are enjoying their relationships, but it sucks that they don't want to talk much anymore.
Why is this so hard
Some work like that, some don't.
They may come back if they break up, but don't really count on it. I used to talk to this girl a lot (even at night, when messenger was still a thing) but then she got a bf and everything changed, then she went to one boy to another and I barely have the chance to see her.
My advice would be to let them just be and just look for one girl who doesnt only think about his boyfriend, or you can always try to get one for yourself.
>>17916749
>My advice would be to let them just be and just look for one girl who doesnt only think about his boyfriend
it's just hard. Even this one girl who promised me our friendship wouldn't change after she got a boyfriend, that stayed true for a few months. But now we talk maybe once every few weeks :/
>or you can just try to find one for yourself
Well that's not going to happen
>>17916760
I know it's hard, nobody said it was going to be easy, but it's not as simple as that.
I wish everything was as easy as making a single promise, but time changes people, sometimes slowly, sometimes not.
The worst thing you can do is giving up, try to focus on whatever you want to do, then women will come after that.
It may be hard, it WILL be painful, but you can do it, you can either man up or continue suffering.
And by telling you to man up I don't want to offend you or something like that, it's just that its easier to realize things kinda work like that.
Hope this helps you.
>>17916785
I am focusing on myself. Just people need friends right?
>>17916791
Well of course, friends are an important part of people's lives, In my opinion.
>>17916798
That's what the issue is...
>>17916478
It's not your fault my friend. Real, great, durable friendship are extremely rare. Getting close and spending a good time is not enough. You need a lot of luck and a real spark that make it look like this friendship really is unique, special, and maybe not very well described by the word "friendship".
Anyway, I think you should persevere. Also, I guess you're already doing that, but I'll still say it in case: take care of these friendships you developped even if these girls are not as available as before for you. Maybe it's just a down time. Friendships are often like cycles: for some time you become distant with each other, and then, one day, you start talking again and everything is great just as before.
That's why I would advice to develop several friends and to never reject someone you have built something with.
>>17916847
I'm not rejecting any of my female friends. Nothing bad between us ever happened. And I'm here if they want to talk again. It just makes me sad because this has happened with 5 friends