GF is very jealous and need help to stop. If i just talk to another

>>17916199

She's massively insecure and you're too insecure to realize how toxic it is for you.

>>17916204
We genuinely really love each other.

Anyway to make her more secure?

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>>17916204

This. Nothing good can come of this behavior.

Op, if you actually like this girl, talk about this, gently but firmly. Let her know your boundaries, and enforce them. It's NOT cool for you to be walking on eggshells, especially if you're doing what you can to comfort her in her insecurity.

Comfort her, kid, don't enable her and encourage her. Let her know she's important, that she's secure, and that you WILL stay in touch with other people who are also important to her.

Expect a fuss. Be kind, be sympathetic, and DO NOT CAVE on your boundaries. She'll respect that, after she sees that she can't emotionally manipulate you. It'll take a big fuss, than one or two little ones, and she'll settle in. They always do.

>>17916230
Dammit, 'Important to her' is supposed to read 'important to you."

>>17916230
>>17916238
I got what you meant and thank you for the advice.
Ill actually do this this weekend when i see her face to face.

If anyones done this before, any help or tips on what she will say so i can prepare some arguments would be welcome. Was going to do it this weekend but didnt want to fight on New Year

>>17916251

Just speak from your feelings. For example

"It makes me feel like this when you do this."

It's not okay for her to be so controlling, it makes you unhappy and she needs to be more trusting.

>>17916274
I recognised the difference between trust and jealousy and she says she trusts me. But i feel if she did she would get upset or mad at me. Not like ignore.

Anyway, thank you anons or anon, the advice was well appreciated