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My boyfriend has told me he prefers bigger boobs. I don't have that.

I have such a problem with it it's killing me. Literally killing me.

Some context: He has paid a lot of girls on myfreecam, often with huge tits, to make a show for him and also chat with him and keep him company.
I can't stand him being around girls with big boobs, it's like a knife in my stomach, I can't stand him preferring them over me. He will never look at me the way he would look at one of those girls.
This is becoming an obsession and I can't stop. Please fucking help, this is killing the relationship.
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I think you should dump him

Especially because of the cam thing I can't believe he lets you know he does that
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>>17907994
guys always say they have a type, but all in all, when they find someone they truly like, it all goes out the window.

I prefer girls who are pretty skinny, with brown, wavy/curly hair, yet I'm in love with a girl who's athletic with strawberry blonde hair.

Think nothing of it. He still loves you just the way you are.
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>>17907996
I made him stop. But that doesn't really do much does it -- telling him to stop.

He also kept nudes of his exes without me knowing.
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>>17907999
Are you being honest? Do you still have your preferences?

I'm also strawberry blonde btw so I'm happy to hear that hueue
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>>17908000
>also kept nudes of his exes without me knowing
Would have dropped him right then and there
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Op again,

I'm just so confused. Are we better off ending it and finding someone who fits our preferences/who will love us the most? Or is this how most relationships are?
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>>17908003
yes, I'm being honest. It's something I didn't really find out about myself, and others in general, until pretty recently. I had always stuck with my type of girl, and it was starting to go nowhere. when I finally opened up to other types of girls, I realized that their personality and other features won me over, not just their looks (though I must say she is very pretty :^)).

don't beat yourself up over it! you're awesome! don't forget that. and if push somehow comes to shove and you feel like you need to get rid of your boyfriend, remember that you're still awesome!
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>>17908016
I really don't want to get rid of him:/
But seeing yourself in the mirror every day knowing you're not the best you could've been for him crushes you after enough time. I'm at a point now where I'm exhausted (we've been together for about 2-3 years) and I'm kinda going insane.
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>>17908000
How tf does this even happen?
Do you have respect for yourself?
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>>17908024
I know this might not be something you want to hear right now, but you may just be over thinking it. Guys like tits. I like tits. what can I say?

Big bewbs are sexy. but guess what. The "oh so imperfect" girl I just described doesn't have big bimbo tits either. It's something she's even been audibly self conscious about at times.

Yet I still love her. She means the world to me. you might have to just trust him. Relationships are built on trust, but if it really bothers you, try and just talk to him about how you feel. not in a threatening kind of tone, but as someone who loves him, and understands that even if it doesn't seem like it, he loves you back. even if he doesn't want to love you back for what ever reason, talking to his as if you think he still does could really be moving to him. Maybe he feels like YOU don't love him, or aren't giving him enough attention is certain aspects, regardless if you actually aren't or not.
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>>17908004
>>17908030
Oh come on guys dont give me the feminazi answers.. :/ People make mistakes.
I found out, he agreed it was stepping out of line and he hasn't done any of it the last year. I trust he won't do it again, but I can't get the idea of him enjoying bigger boobs out of my head.
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>>17908008
You're better off dumping him. You will find someone who loves and resoects you for who you are, because he clearly doesn't. Break up with him. You're hurting from this relationship; you deserve better, and there is better out there waiting for you.

Of course you won't find someone again right away, but please know that you can and will find someone that loves every bit of you, who respects and loves every inch of you. There are guys out there that won't care about the size of your boobs because in the end, they'll love you for who you are. Your current boyfriend clearly doesn't, because he wouldn't have been doing things like talking to camgirls and keeping old nudes if he did respect and love you the way you deserve to be.

Take a chance to find happiness for yourself, because it's out there. Break up with him.
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>>17908040
This isn't feminazi shit. Porn would be one thing. Actual people in his life is quite another. Dump his ass.
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>>17908024
>>17908036
another thing to add to this.

You have something that no big tittied bitch he stares at has. Love for him. Feelings for him other than sexual desire. He hasn't just dumped you for sex with balloon tits #1124225, so he must have another reason to stay, and that reason is that he loves you.
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>>17908036
Yes I get it. I think it was the way he said "preferred" not just enjoyed. I mean, I can enjoy watching big boobs as well but I obviously dont wish he had them. But yes it's comforting to hear your point of view, thank you.
>>17908041
:/ it's just so hard. We've been a long distance relationship the whole time, and we just now started talking about moving in together. I thought maybe that would improve the situation. I don't know.
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>>17908055
Yes I know.. But desu wouldn't you be disappointed if your girlfriend chatted with guys with bigger dicks or told you she preferred hairier guys (whatever quality of yourself you can't change)? It just hurts that you can't be perfect for the person you love more than anyone.
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>>17908063
at first, yes I think I'd probably get hung up about it. But in the end, I know she loves me, and wouldn't just leave me for some BBC. as long as she isn't some whore who just so happened to fall in love with me, which I know my girlfriend isn't.
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I love big wonderful tits. Married a girl with modest b-cups. Life is good anyway.

Will I always kind of wish her rack was larger? Yes. Is it as big a deal as you think it is? Probably not.
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>>17908079
Thanks for your input. I know logically that he loves me but my brain just keeps putting thoughts in my (and his :p) head.. Like him talking shit about me behind my back.

It's also kind of embarrassing to be proud of my tits for him when we both know he prefers them bigger you know? It's bad for both of us.

Anyway thanks man, a guy's honest interpretation is worth gold to me. Can I ask one more thing: what should I think when a big chested young girl crosses our way? My instant thought is that he looks at her and fantasizes about her being his.
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>>17908088
This is kinda what I'm scared about. :/ Did you ever seriously consider hooking up with a big chested girl behind her back? Do you like her boobs more than anyone else's? :/
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>>17908063

I wouldn't give a shit if she said that as long as at the end of the day, she was with me.

Until the end of time, my friends are going to know that I prefer redheads, and that I absolutely can't stand fat cow tits. But would I date a blonde? In a heartbeat. And I'd be very happy with it.

Men look at porn for a little variety from time to time, especially if you're in an LDR and not able to meet his sexual needs at every whim. I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself here.
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>>17908089
>My instant thought is that he looks at her and fantasizes about her being his.

Yeah he probably does, unfortunately we're kind of just wired that way but it's way more in an animalistic "I want to impregnate that" than a "I want to set aside my fulfilling relationship for that", so it doesn't really go anywhere.
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>>17908094
Fuck:/ That hurts. He would never look at me that way if I was a stranger.
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>>17908095
And now you know how guys who arnt 6'1 with a good face and shoulders feel.
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>>17908092
:/ Its just a very basic need for me to feel like his best women, that I can offer him what he'd want most in the world. Fuck it hurts I can't do that.
Thanks for the comment man, it helps to get some perspective on this because I'm going crazy not being able to talk about this with anyone. I'm extremely embarrassed
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>>17908095
Then I guess it's a good thing you're not. If he's so obsessed with big tits, why is he still with you? He obviously still likes you for you. Dudes just happen to have fantasies, but it's nothing the average person can't control about themselves. If this is truly just a mental thing like you say it is, maybe a psychiatrist could benefit you (not trying to be a dick about it, I'm honest about this) as this may stem from something like anxiety or trust issues.
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>>17908099
Okk.. So guys can compare right? Maybe I can tell that analogy to my boyfriend to help him understand :/
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>>17908103
I'm fine with fantasies as I have them myself. The issue I have is that this is not just a fantasy, I'm pretty certain he would prefer me having bigger boobs (prefer is the word he used after all). If he just said "I love big boobs" I wouldn't have a problem.

Yes I have heavily considered a psychiatrist or someone to talk to as I don't want to talk with my family/friends about this. I need someone desperately to put some perspective on this for me. I don't want to be naive, but I don't want to blow it up unnecessarily either. :/
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This sounds literally identical to dudes who complain about height, anon. It's just something you have to get over at some point. Everyone has their "I wish I was X".
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>>17908114
I still don't think you should think too much about what he's saying. The way he worded it doesn't seem that much worse, just a little abrupt is all. I have a feeling he just didn't know any better.
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>>17907994
>Some context: He has paid a lot of girls on myfreecam, often with huge tits, to make a show for him and also chat with him and keep him company.
THIS is why you should dump him. Preference for big boobs is a thing. Watching porn with huge breasted women is a thing. But this is unacceptable in any relationship.

>I can't stand him being around girls with big boobs, it's like a knife in my stomach, I can't stand him preferring them over me. He will never look at me the way he would look at one of those girls.
Look. I personally like big boobs too. But if I loved a woman whose breasts aren't as big... Sure, maybe I won't look at you like I look at them. But also keep in mind that I would look at you like nobody else does, and that I would look at you like I look nobody else. Something that's exclusive to the relationship.

Get my gist?
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>>17908101
I underatand completely, anon. I've had times when I feel like I'm not good enough for girls that I've liked. It's a hard thing to get over. Wishing I could give you a big hug right now, because you seem like you need it. That and nobody really cared enough to give me a hug when I needed it.
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>>17908126
Yeah I get it.. So your partner dying for your body is kind of like a bonus for most people?

I miss that feeling, and to be honest I'm really scared that that will make me weakwilled in the future. Shouldn't everyone be with someone who adores your body??
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>>17908119
>>17908123
You guys are probably right, thank you
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>>17908134
Could really need a shoulder to cry on too. Wish I could give you a hug back anon, you're a really nice guy.
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>>17908142
Don't we all. And you're great as well!
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>>17908135
>So your partner dying for your body is kind of like a bonus for most people?
>Shouldn't everyone be with someone who adores your body??
There's a difference between "your body turns me on a lot" and "OMFG YOUR BODY IS PERFECT". The former is a requirement for a relationship, and the latter is a bonus.

Because a relationship has a component of lust where you find your partner sexy, but it's also about the emotional connection and intimacy. If you want to have a partner with a perfect body and disregard the rest you will never be happy.

That said, your bf is being a dumbass for doing what he does.
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>>17908145
I get it guess. Doing what? What do you mean
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>>17907994
I fucking hate men
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>>17908146
>Some context: He has paid a lot of girls on myfreecam, often with huge tits, to make a show for him and also chat with him and keep him company.
This. This shit is unacceptable.

>>17908147
t. feminazi
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>>17908147
O
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>>17908040
At this point, you're a troll, right?
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>>17908147
Why are you on a male dominated site that actively espouses misogynist views then?
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>>17908179
>why do feminists want to be dominated by men

Women don't know what they want until after youve stripped them naked and are holding them down in bed against their token and coy resistance while plunging your cock deep into their quivering and soaking wet pussy.
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>>17908193
What?
Did you even read what I wrote?

If you're genuinely so stupid you don't understand that 'male dominated' means something different to "dominated by a man', you should go and read some basic books for English syntax. Go Dog Go and The Hungry Caterpillar would be a good place to start.
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>>17908204
You sound like you've got the hysteria desu
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>>17908216
'The hysteria?
Look, you're kind of stupid. It's not even clever bait. Go and brush up a bit.
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If he is not willing to be man enough to give up porn, I don't see how you expect this relationship to go anywhere at all.
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>>17908238
If the bait isn't clever but you're still taking it, what does that say about you?
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>>17907994

Your boyfriend is degenerate, and you should dump him and find an actual man
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>>17907994
Yeah I made the mistake of telling my girlfriend this.

She ain't flat. Just normal sized perky.
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OP you have to understand men from a biological point of view. A man can in general cum 3 or 4 times a day, and he can do so for ~50 years reliably from when they're 12. We have the ability, and get pleasure from, the ability to make ONE THOUSAND FOUR HUNDRED FIFTY SIX children within the space of a year because of genetic programming pre-historic women selected because of very high mortality rates. Its going to take a hundred thousand years before we get that out of our genetic code and even then females might still select for it because reasons. Your man will ALWAYS desire other women in addition to you, and if he says otherwise he is FUCKIN LYIN.

I personally prefer medium sized tits, I think huge tits age poorly and just get in the way while small tits give me nothing to grab onto, however I love all tits equally. It simply doesn't matter to me, I like titty oooo ooo ahh ahh fuck fuck. That is the little voice in the back of my head as a man.
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>>17908676
Also your boyfriend should stop watching porn, for his own mental health not for you. He can still fap but he has to do it with you in the room, trust he'll be way more wanting to fuck you and bitch you'd better be grateful.
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Just wanted to pop in and say that I love breasts. Bouncy bouncy breasts.
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yeah, but for every guy like your bf, there's a hundred guys like me who don't care or make you feel insecure.

so, let him know.
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>>17907999
>guys always say they have a type, but all in all, when they find someone they truly like, it all goes out the window.

Seconding this.
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>>17908500

no, moron, a degenerate would be a man who is constantly berating her for something she has no control over: for not being in possession of the type of breasts she says.

>>17908679
this only works if she is capable of meeting his sexual needs on a regular basis, otherwise it'll just breed resentment.

OP if he's not trying to make you feel bad for not being his 'type,' and he doesn't disrespect you in other ways, you have a good guy. But you have to decide for yourself if you're going to be able to have confidence that what you are bringing to the relationship is desirable, or you will always feel betrayed.
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The more you make it taboo, the more he'll enjoy it.

Make your tit size taboo and make big tits boring.
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>>17908003
>Are you being honest? Do you still have your preferences?
Different anon. I tend to prefer thicker, taller brunettes. I currently have a thing for a short blonde gal. I mean yeah, I'm still going to pursue that first type of gal for wank material but that's not really a concern when you're with a woman you care about.

I mean, there are probably traits you like that he doesn't have right? Most women tend to have a thing for sculpted bodies, chizzled jaws, etc. But in the real world they're usually happy with a guy who treats them right.
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Even if your breasts are not the big massive ones that he likes, if he still loves you, he still loves your breasts.

I love all breasts. But it's my girlfriend's whose are the only one's I want
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>>17908913
Yes i wank to all kinds of stuff too that he doesn't have, but that doesn't mean I'd prefer it if he was different, which is the impression I get from him.
Preferring big boobs is also very constant and measurable, and it's easy to observe in other girls.
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>>17907994
wish that r9k dude who always posts about how his life is worthless because he doesnt have an above average dick could see this thread kek
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>>17908931
Right? That's how I always feel whenever I see a woman being insecure on this board because the men who are insecure here think they're the only hopeless ones.
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>>17908004
Oh screw you, you have the right to keep someone's nudes IF they were sent to YOU personally by the person which is naked in the picture. In the end of it all, they were meant for you and you only, therefore leaving you with the right to keep them without showing them to anyone else. IMO it's kind of his fault he let you know that he keeps nudes of his exes.
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>>17907994
Sounds like an ultra watered down version of a couple where the woman gets beat---- she hates it but she loves him so much she won't leave him. Oh he'll change.
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>>17908998
Lol. You're retarded.
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>literally killing me
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>>17907999
Trips don't lie. I have a huge thing for redheads, but all my girlfriends have been blonde or brunettes.
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>>17908000
>He also kept nudes of his exes without me knowing.
i do that, it's not a big deal

i don't look at them, but it's nice to have them just in case
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The camgirl thing would be a real dealbreaker for me. It's not like he's just looking for random porn, he's interacting with camgirls -- talking to, making specific requests, and spending time with them. Even if it is online it counts, and to me that's a real breach of trust.

You said you "made" him stop. Hopefully that's the case, but it based on what you've said I wouldn't bet on him actually stopping dealing with camgirls. But who knows!

That said, a man can have a preference for different size tits, ass, or whatever and still find his significant other attractive. Someone liking big tits doesn't mean they don't find smaller tits attractive, the same goes for any other body part or facial feature. And women's preferences aren't set in stone either.

Hell, I like chunkier guys with a lot of facial hair but ended up marrying a skinny man without facial hair and find him pretty much perfect. Despite the disparity between what he looks like and my "ideal" I absolutely can't get enough of him.

I guess the point is attraction isn't something as simple as "this person finds X attractive" because it's not like someone automatically dislikes features that aren't the ones they find ideal.

But seriously fuck that guy and his camgirl shit.
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>>17908676
>Your man will ALWAYS desire other women in addition to you, and if he says otherwise he is FUCKIN LYIN.

This isn't true always. When I've been legitimately in love (or the cynical word "infatuated") I never wanted anyone else. Dick could not get hard without trying for anyone else.

OP guys love big tits. The bad thing about big tits is they always sag and tend to go flat. The great thing about small tits is that when you get a girl preggo she has the chance of getting bigger tits, without the sagging. I always choose ass, hips and face over tits.

Also, if we're not horny, we don't fantasize about women.
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