I just got a gf and I just can't help but ask her about

Why did you ask for so much detail when you know it's gonna upset you?

People like to have sex. Male and Female. Realize this, realize you don't own your partner, and move on.

your jealous because your gf has fucked other people before

why is past sexual intimacy a big deal for you

and you deal with it by resolving what makes you feel it in the first place
and if you can't figure that out then you learn to cope

>>17904860
What does ownership have to do with anything? He's being repulsed, not possessive.

>>17904889
He is being possessive because he's disgusted that she's had previous sexual partners. He wants to be her only one. That is trying to own some part of her life, wanting to be her only sexual partner.

>>17904901
Alright.

>>17904848
>I ask her to go into detail about every sex act she performed
That's clearly your fetish.

Women don't get this, OP. Never take advice regarding this from women.

Truth is, sadly, they are kinda right, the only way to deal with it it's to deal with it, there's no other way, besides, virgins are overrated. Just go with it, HOWEVER, as a man you should ask yourself "how many is it too much?". Every man has his limits for me, a woman my age with over 5 partners it's starting to be a turn off, and over 10 is a no-no. Think about it.

Nonetheless asking about every detail is not normal, that's insecurity.

>>17904848
I'm on a similar boat. I seriously just end it. I can't cope so best I can do it weed out these the girls I'm not interested in quickly.

>>17904926
wowww you guys are interesting

you'd ditch a relationship because you feel you can't deal with your gf having a sexual past
must be some funky wiring up there

>>17904938
women that fuck a lot of men are bad news, anon this is an objective, true, non-bullshit FACT.

You have to be a cuck to get pissed by 3-4 partners but anything over 8 + one night stands for a young woman is a red flag

>>17904938
I would, but it's not like people don't ditch relationships for less. This is something that seriously makes me upset.

>>17904947
8+ is diff tho
that would be a different deal entirely
these guys seem like it's any past that gets them going

>>17904954
why does your partner having a sexual past get you upset
you know it's a rational thing so what do you think it causing such an adverse emotional reaction

>>17904947
If it is a fact then let's see some statistics. Personally I feel like a girl being a virgin into her adult life is a bigger red flag. Any girl I've known who is over 18 and a virgin has been a fucking nut. Other reasons I wouldn't date a virgin...

>boring in bed
>insecure
>more likely to want to try sex with other guys

But like I said any girl I've known who is a virgin is crazy. Two of my exes and four other girls who I can think of right off the bat

>>17904969
I don't like thinking about my gf being intimate with other men. Is it that hard to process? And no I'm not able to ignore it.

>>17904974
so you're having intrusive thoughts about your girlfriend being with other men as long as you know that she has been
and that upsets you because you can't stomach the fact you
aren't special?

no reason to rain on your parade as i'm sure you know
but that's fucking dumdum
you can choose to not take your relationship as it is because of your emotions
but those are some fucked up priorities you got there

obvy there's something more under the surface you gotta confront
but you do you
sailing in a sea of virgins will keep you afloat but the boat won't get stronger

>>17904990
It's not about being special, knowing she's fucked others repulses me. You're making this out to be way more complicated than it is. If you had to watch you gf fuck her ex on video you wouldn't say this. Only difference is I don't just ignore things. Regardless, this is a pointless argument and OP should just do what makes him happy.

>>17905002
if your mind is playing scenarios like that in your head then you have a
m e n t a l p r o b l e m
and should confront your current gf and do some soul searching as to why

unless you mean your gf is a c t u a l l y has porn of herself
in which case that sounds like it's not your cup of tea

>>17904910
>Women don't get this, OP. Never take advice regarding this from women.
Pretty much, their go to 90% of the time is
>lol who cares get over it you loser

you asked a 9/10 about previous experiences. What the fuck did you expect? That she was going to wait her whole life for you? You brought this on yourself faggot. Leave if you can't handle it. This will be the case with most women if not 100x worse.

>>17904848
whoa that's not your gf lol
and i doubt she's actually 9/10

Baby back bitch nigga can't handle that his boo was getting fucked raw by a dick that's possibly better than his.

Grow a set, faggot. Numbers are irrelevant.

>>17905132
If numbers were irrelevant, zero people would have problems with them.

Apparently, they're relevant.

I understand this feeling, OP. I also understand people giving you shit for it, because sex is normal and in 99% of circumstances people are going to have a sexual past.

I've really struggled with feelings about jealousy and shit like that regarding people's sexual history, but there is really nothing you can do about it other than try your best to logically accept the situation. It's normal for them to have been with someone (you've probably been with someone too?). Assuming she really likes you and isn't a bitch, then she's with you and wants to be with you, and that should be enough to make you feel at peace.

>>17904990
its because who they are is a person who racks up more sexual partners than average, and being that, most people like being cheated on.