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I'm scared to talk to my boyfriend

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Whenever I feel like talking to my boyfriend, a voice in my head goes "He's busy. He's talking to his friends. He's playing a game. Don't bother him or he'll dump you". This means that he has to initiate conversation all the time, or else we never hang out or talk.
I don't think it's normal. How do I make it go away?
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It isn't normal to think those thoughts all of the time. Do you think so little of yourself?
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Sounds like a self esteem thing. You see no worth in yourself, so you automatically assume you are being a bother.
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Do girls do this to guys they like...? Because this girl never texts me but initiates conversation with me in person a lot.
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>>17904379
I understand OP. I'm a guy but I was afraid to talk to my friends throughout childhoodl and am still wary of doing so with acquaintances I absolutely know like my company.

It boils down to confidence and perception.

As far as perception goes, I think you construct an image in your mind of your boyfriend angry or annoyed after you call him. Instead, if you want to talk to him, imagine your happiest moment with him, smiling or laughing with him. This will get you in the mental state of believing "he desires and enjoys my company." You will also be less afraid of making him mad by being annoying/boring on the phone - if you imagine him in a great mood, you won't imagine him exasperated or impatient on the phone and get anxious about messing up.

To build confidence, you must grow comfortable talking to him through regular exposure - give yourself a quota: say 'I will call / text him AT LEAST every couple of days, even if it's just to tell him I love him or say something nice.'

Finally, don't be scared to call him if YOU need emotional support or feel lonely. As a guy in a relationship, I for one enjoy helping my gf feel good, and it's actually quite flattering to know she trusts me enough to talk to me.

Best of luck.
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>>17904379
I wish my girlfriend was more like you.
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>>17904379
find some guy that doesn't make you feel like this
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