Is it bad if I only show empathy at random or when I feel like it towards strangers or fictional characters?
>>17903095
not really. i mean it has its downsides like anything.
It's weird, don't know about bad.
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>>17903108
Yeah there are times where I feel forced to care about someone and something and I can't do it
You sound a little bit like me. I'm much more comfortable being warm and genuine with a stranger than an acquaintance. I think the lack of ties with strangers takes away my fear of being judged or taken advantage of. Caring about fictional characters in your head is kinda like practice for real life to me but it's no substitute for the real thing.
>>17903095
Being able to "switch" your empathy on and off is actually very useful and a quality looked for in most, if not all, emotionally-draining jobs; i.e. a homicide investigator, for example. You, obviously, witness a lot of occurrences that revolve around death and in general, the concept of loss. Being able to turn your empathy off while performing duties is what would keep you with a cool, level-headed demeanor instead of having emotions affect you and overall, result in not being able to go through with your tasks at ease. This is coming from another who has control in regards to feeling empathy as well - never served as bothersome to me though. I take this ability and use it to my advantage.
Empathy isn't shown, it's felt. It's part of every human being and we use it for various things with animals, objects, music and plenty more
>>17903739
>part of every human being
Are those whom cannot be able to feel empathy due to a disorder (autism, personality disorder, etc.) not considered "human" in your eyes, then? Because people without empathy or any sort of emotional range do exist, you know.
>>17903749
>those whom cannot be able to feel empathy due to a disorder (autism, personality disorder, etc.)
All of those people feel empathy, though people with downs, aspergers etc tend to read social cues incorrectly. Hence why most people with social disability enjoy music; they feel the same emotional response and empathetic cues everyone else does, but without the added pressure and constraint they normally have.
>Because people without empathy or any sort of emotional range do exist, you know.
No, they don't. Or rather, they're ultra rare and the few documented cases we've had are usually the result of traumatic brain injury.
Empathy isn't a feeling, it's a skill. If you lack it, you're autistic or some other subset of emotionally retarded.
>>17903095
It'll probably impact personal and romantic relationships at some point.
>>17903823
It hasn't negatively affected it yet. I approach my relationships systematically, it usually won't fail