I need help. I have been in a relationship with a great girl

I'd tell her. Your girlfriend seems not likely to fly off the handle about this and it seems like she'd understand. You're in a better position than most.

It seems that at its core you guys care about each other but are sexually mismatched, considering the fact that she admitted to do the same and was reluctant to consider it cheating.

I'd say the realistic worst-case scenario here is that you two have a mutual break-up and remain on at least semi-good terms.

>>17900034
Why even risk the break up
Just stop and don't tell her
You didn't stick your dick in them

>>17900067

Because there's clearly intimacy issues that he sought an outlet for. He's having difficulty quitting and it appears that quitting really isn't solving the problem. If the relationship is broken somehow, then it needs to be fixed.

>>17900034
>I'd tell her. Your girlfriend seems not likely to fly off the handle about this and it seems like she'd understand. You're in a better position than most.
>It seems that at its core you guys care about each other but are sexually mismatched, considering the fact that she admitted to do the same and was reluctant to consider it cheating.
>I'd say the realistic worst-case scenario here is that you two have a mutual break-up and remain on at least semi-good terms.

Well we both met on YikYak, and before we met we both talked to people online a lot. She actually frequented dirtykikpals and etc. I think that that's just what we are used to and prefer to do that to get off. There's also the possibility that she never stopped and I am completely fine with that.

I don't think she would get super angry, but there is always that chance. Telling her might be the end of the relationship, I am 100% certain that I don't want that.

I wouldn't even consider telling her if I didn't feel guilty about it. Basically the only way I can get caught is if she gets on my phone and downloads whisper and guesses my pin code, then looks at my chats. And there still aren't even timestamps on those.

>>17900080

>intimacy issues


>>17900085
>>17899986

FOR GODS SAKE EITHER FUCK YOUR GIRLFRIEND OR BREAK UP

>>17900104
The first year she was scared to have normal sex. I've just quit trying to push it on her.

We've done a shit ton of oral and other stuff.

>>17900085

Confessing is the best option.

How about you guys do that with each other? If you guys are used to dirty chat and pictures online so much that it makes it difficult to try something else, starting by setting the same thing up between you two could be a step in the right direction.

>>17900161
The girls I mess with online I have absolutely no respect for. It's not really the kind of thing I want to do with my girlfriend.

>>17900125

that's nowhere near the same, like I said

FUCK YOUR GF OR BREAK UP YOU FUCKING IDIOT

here are some possible outcomes

>you fuck, intimacy issues solved, everyone happy
>you dont want to fuck, everything continues
>she doesn't want to fuck, you break up everyone better off

>>17900179

Then make it different. Be cheeky, flirt. You care about her, so I'm sure that just trying another platform doesn't make that change.

>>17900187
>>>17900179 (You)
>Then make it different. Be cheeky, flirt. You care about her, so I'm sure that just trying another platform doesn't make that change.

I do that all the time. We aren't disfunctional or anything. We get along great. I only get the urge when she's not around and I'm bored. I don't think I'm missing anything from her. I think it's just how I am and I'm going to want to do it regardless of who I'm with.

I've just always seen stuff you do online seperated as stuff you do in real life. If that makes any sense.

>>17900201

Well, I mean do that online with her while being sexual, I don't know.

The only thing that makes it different is that it's not physical or personal. It's... hollow, in a way. You are /actually/ doing something wrong because these women are doing something for you specifically, not just putting their photos or videos online for anyone to see. And clearly I don't need to explain the particulars of this being wrong because that's why you're here.

You really only have a few options, but the best is to tell her and confront the issues between you two. It's not making you happy to do this and a reason you're doing this is that you two aren't having penetrative sex, so the only chance of fixing anything is confronting the problem.

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