How are you supposed to be confident when you know there are

>>17890587
There are always going people who are much better at you, no matter who you are.

The key about confidence is being content with YOUR achievements and who you are, everything else doesn't matter. There are enough confident idiots doing deadend jobs and the likes. Looking at other people is what insecurity fags do it.

>>17890587
no one is better than me. They are all imitators. I'm an OG.

>>17890587
You're the best at living your life.

>>17890620

You don't know that. I know for a fact that I make bad decisions on a regular basis, and despite this knowledge of my flaws I will continue to make bad decisions. Someone else could definitely live my life better.

>>17890877
There are more people that are x1000 worse than you then better then you.

>>17890923

So? Knowing I edge out a bunch of halfwits doesn't give me confidence.

>>17890948
You sound like a whiny fucker.

Just get your act together:
>Lift
>Eat Healthy
>Focus on reading, studying, improving your career

This will give you confidence.

>>17890955

I am a whiny fucker. On the internet though, not in real life. I don't want to annoy my friends, co-workers or family. Here I can just complain.

And I know what I need to do to improve, I just can't be bothered to do it.

>>17890955
>Lift

Fuck your fitness cult.

>Eat healthy

Fuck your holistic cult.

>Focus on improving your career

Fuck your wage slavery cult.

You don't even follow your own cookie cutter self-help blogspot advice, it's so endlessly regurgitated whenever ANYONE is depressed at the slightest. Just browse this board for a fortnight.

What if: Not everyone on Earth wants to live like you?

>>17890587
>How are you supposed to be confident when you know there are people x1000 better than you?
You can't really be better than someone else in every category. Specialise in a handful of qualities you are good at, and attract partners who are seeking those qualities.
For example the people who are more good looking, smarter and happier probably spend way less time on 4ch than you. There are women who actually prefer channers to normies. Obviously the pool of women that can be attracted to you is smaller the less mainstream your qualities are. Meaning you get turned down more often.
At the end of the day it's a numbers game.

>>17890979
>Just browse this board for a fortnight.
It's the first time I'm here.

But let me answer to your 'cult' answers:

>Fitness cult
With doing fitness, you'll get and feel stronger. You will be able to walk around, lift things, do stuff easier. So when something comes up, you'll be confident that you can physically do it.

>Holistic cult
With eating healthy, you can improve your look. Getting below 15% bodyfat will make you look better. When you look better, people will talk to you differently, all your intercourse with people will improve. If you know that you look good, you'll be more confident.

>Slavery cult
If you have money, increase in position (climb the ladder) oder even make your own business. You're confidence will increase, since you already proved that you can do some things. You wll not have to worry about money and can get anything you want.

Combine all three and you'll feel invincible.

>Not everyone on Earth wants to live like you
The question here was how to increase your confidence. That's how you do it, no matter how 'culty' it sounds for you.
"So you want to stay fat, weak and poor" would be a troll answer like yours.

>>17891010
OP here. Last guy is some other channer.
I do agree with your suggestions, but they sound just too basic where to I am actually following them. I just can't get the confidence because everyone just seem better at everything than me.

>>17891010
I mean, how am I ever gonna get that asian qt3.14 when I feel like a looser at everything.

>>17891027
>>17891033

Okay, I'll tell you my story now:
3 years ago, my GF of that time broke up with me. At that time, I was 130 KG heavy, on brick of failing my studies. My confidence was at the lowest point of my life, even thought about just killing myself.

I decided to just do these basic things. For the next two years, I dropped 35 KG by eating right and lifting. I focused on my studies and finished my degree with exceptional grades and landed a 84 k job.

I started to slowly feel like a normal person, then a great person. My confidence was rising with each step.

Dating was hard in the beginning, because I was to fat, got rejected about 19 of 20 times. However, the more by bf% shrunk (at the beginning about 35-40%) my rate increased. Today I'm at 12-13% bf, getting a girls number has become easy, sometimes they even ask me (which started at about 16-17%).

3 years ago, I was constantly browsing 4chan and get fatter each day and fail shit. Having no chance with women.

Today, just by doing these basic things, I have a 100k job, a nice car and started saving money for a house. Additionally, I currently 2 fuck buddys.

It was horrible in the beginning, but today I'm a different man.

If you want any tips on the 3 things, let me know. If you don't believe any thing I'm writing, look for a different way, maybe you'll find what fits you best, which is different from what helped me.

>>17891010
>It's the first time I'm here.

It's pretty obvious.

Confidence comes from within, not from endlessly cuntpasted bullshit self-help truisms or half-assed justifications of those bullshit self-help truisms.

>>17891049

Well, luckilly, I'm not in the same situation as you were. I'm not overweight or skinny for that matter. I would say I'm more in between. I did start going to the gym like a month so that's on the way. I try to eat healthy but I also eat a lot of junk. Which also leads me to the point of having shit pizza skin. I also have very thin hair (I do believe It's gonna start thinning in a few years).

Currently I'm in education but I'm on the brink of fucking it up. I can't find work because the area I live in has quite a few jobs and you need connections.

I also dream of learning to play an instrument and create music, but I'm just a lazy fuck.

But even when I am doing these things, I see people, who are more successful and better than me at those things. I just want to be at least above average at everything. I believe that would help me in becoming confident..

>>17891049
You changed from an 80k job to a 100k job within after one year?

>17891010
I have a feet problem which has deteriorated in recent years and so I feel that
>walking around, lifting things, doing stuff
has become harder. This is one of the things that undermine my confidence. How is lifting supposed to help that? It may also partly stem from my insecurity about my knees though which often makes me walk and generally move in a tense way, and when you're tense you always do things more awkardly and less efficiently. I already have an ottermode type body though from doing various sports in the past.

>With eating healthy, you can improve your look. Getting below 15% bodyfat will make you look better. When you look better, people will talk to you differently, all your intercourse with people will improve. If you know that you look good, you'll be more confident.
I'm pretty sure I'm either below or around 15% body fat and my face is defined, so I'm pretty sure I'm around the best I can be. I know I'm pretty attractive (though I still have insecurities about my face occassionally) but really it doesn't just magically cause people to "talk to you differently". It won't help you if you're insecure or generally give off a 'weird' vibe for a variety of reasons - poor social skills, mental issues etc. I'm working on that and I know I need to improve my personality/confidence/social skills to enjoy better relations with people.

>If you have money, increase in position (climb the ladder) oder even make your own business. You're confidence will increase, since you already proved that you can do some things. You wll not have to worry about money and can get anything you want.
This is what I want to do. I'm currently doing my last year in university but I'm anxious to start my career. I already have some savings and don't really need money but it's just not the same as having a job!

Not OP here

>>17891070
>Confidence comes from within
Yes, you have to believe that you're great, because the only person you can't lie to is yourself. If you see for yourself what you can achieve, you'll believe it -> be more confident.

>>17891071
Going to the gym is a start. Keep doing it, it will take time until you see it. And like you said, you're at a better starting position than me.
I applied to a lot of places too, mable you should try for a paid intership first in your area or go to one of these agents at university who help with that. Don't be afraid to ask around if somebody knows something and try for it. You'll find something.

About the music, I would wait until I've sorted out the job thing first.
And meanwhile, try to look more at all the little things you did better in the last few weeks/months. You'll see more and more with time.

>>17891074
Okay, it's now 1.5 years, I got promoted after a year and then changed the company 3 weeks ago. The highest bump I got was form changing the company (it's IT-Consulting business). I undersold myself when I started out.

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>>17890587

Because true confidence isn't comparative. You don't need to develop a superiority complex to be secure in yourself. That goes beyond confidence and wanders into the territory of narcissism.

All these anons saying "go to gym" or "make more money" have some pretty basic, cookie-cutter advice that may boost your self-image a little bit but they will do absolutely nothing for insecurity. Its just putting a new coat of paint on a house with a shitty foundation.

You first must find out where all of this comes from. An insecure guy who feels demoralized in comparison to the rest of the world is identical to an insecure guy who feels demoralized in comparison to the rest of the world who also goes to the gym. Its a little deeper than that.

Before you start throwing quick fixes at a problem you don't understand you should perhaps seek therapy or do a little introspection and find out exactly why you believe that the failure of other people around you is the key to your success.

Stop comparing your life to others. Nobody is better than you, we're all equal. People are given different life circumstances that suit them. Study stoicism.

Stop worrying about "they." Focus on becoming the strongest version of yourself. Confidence comes from ignoring the fact you stated in your OP. There may be taller, stronger, richer, men, but that shouldn't phase you. Not every confident male has these traits, they've just learned to not give a fuck.

Not giving a fuck is confidence.

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>>17891136

Interesting approach. I always feel the need to be "better" than everyone else which in reality just brings me down. This gave me foor for thought

it sounds like you don't have any real skills, sorry but you have to ACCEPT THE REALITY.

if you can't do anything productive with your life, but you think you're the shit, your body and mind are on two different levels.

if you can't cook yourself a decent meal, but you think you deserve everything, what the fuck is that?

do productive shit that set you apart from most people. get a sick job, a good degree, a nice body, whatever it is. your confidence will come with that when you achieve something that most people don't.

well you can tell a woman that she doesn't have to have kids with you... that she can have children with someone better than you, and you will be a beta provider.

I'm definitely not having my own kids. I will go this route. It shouldn't be too hard to find a woman, and the pressure is off me to try and prove my genetic worth as a human being.

>>17891148
That's what I DON'T want to be. I just need something to make me and her feel that my genes are worth of something. Being just a provider is the death of manhood as we see it.

>>17891160
Having your own children means your offspring will be similar to you. That could be a good thing or a bad thing. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter whether the children you bring into this world share your dna, it only matters that they are genetically fit and can help civilization move forward.

I'm going the beta provider route, because my siblings have serious mental problems and I do not want to be stuck raising children with these kinds of mental issues.

>>17891089
this was for
>>17891010

I fucked up quotes

>>17890587
No matter what you do, there either is now, or will be in the future, someone better than you, that's just part of the human condition, honestly.

You can be confident in the abilities you do have, and you can continue trying to improve them best you can, you can try to be the best at what you do, even if you think it's impossible, it's worth a try. Who knows, some day you might find that you ARE the best one for quite some time.

>>17890979
>fuck your holistic cult

Holistic living =/= eating healthy. I eat superbly healthy and I hate holistic bullshit. Being conscious of your macros and buying a Himalayan salt lamp are activities that live in entirely different camps.

>>17890981
>There are women who actually prefer channers to normies.

Why would you even lie about that stuff ?

Let's be honest here.

Women/Girls like men with a lot of money, confidence and status.

If you have these 3 things in your life you will get women.

>>17890975
Then shut the fuck up you annoying cuck.

>>17891049
>work out 4 days a week
>run minimum 10 miles as a stress reiever per week
>make good grades in college while holding down internship

But I can't eat fucking healthy I get anxiety attacks trying to plan out healthy meals and get swamped with the 10^99999 different pieces of info on the internet

Plz help get my diet together because I want to lose body fat