How to cure oneitis?

You're holding yourself back. You're still in love with her because you're an idiot. It's clearly not meant to be and she was smart enough to accept that and move on.

You deserve happiness and you're too stupid to let yourself have it.

There is so much more to this great, gorgeous girl that you've just meant who wants to fuck you other than the fact that you have a lot in common. You don't know if you share the same feelings towards her because you're not letting yourself find out. This really is self sabotage.

Stop being a dickhead, stop obsessing over somebody who isn't relevant to you or your life and please see this girl as a human being.

You're choosing to be an idiot and it's making you sad. Get to know her. If you really want to be the weirdo who obsesses over that one ex he had years ago for the rest of his short, pathetic, meaningless life then please tell her because she really sounds like a wonderful girl who deserves better. You know, as a human being with thoughts and feelings and memories and a unique personality that you don't know and appreciate.

Stop being like this. If you can't stop, seek professional help before you ruin your own life.

Cut her out completely

>>17887565
This

And the only cure to it is moving on. If you're not willing to, you're stuck, but by your own option

>>17887559

I don't feel like I'm obesessing. Like I said, I understand why she left. It makes sense. I know we will never get back together. I completely understand that. I don't cry over her anymore. Just, I can't feel anything for other girls.

>>17887565

Yeah that's not going to happen. we don't talk everyday. not even every week or month. But I do enjoy talking to her. She's been a important friend to me. She enjoys talking to me too. If I just cut contact with her completely she would feel hurt.

>>17887461
Can you elaborate on the different life paths you took? It's relevant if the issue is stemming from insecurity related to your different life choices.

>>17887788

Careers, really. Our career paths geographically are taking us to different places.

>>17887797
I don't know then. I would honestly give some consideration to what >>17887584 suggests. It's not an easy decision, but putting distance between you and her would definitely make it easier to feel things for other people.

At the end of the day though, it's fine to remain single. Make sure that wanting to not have "oneitis" is coming from a personal place and not from expectations imposed on you by others. If going through life single with her as a friend generates the most value for you, then that's just how it is.

>>17887827
>but putting distance between you and her would definitely make it easier to feel things for other people.

There is already physically distance tho by several thousand miles. And we only talk maybe once a month. But I'm not going to completely cut contact by blocking her. Because I believe that would be a mean thing to do. It would hurt her feelings as well as mine.

But thanks for a honest answer