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Lose contact with them dude it sounds hard because it's your friend but he's not if he's doing shit like that, as for the girl just ignore her and don't go back

>>17883190

This is difficult since they're both pretty firmly embedded in my social circle. Plus fwiw she initiated the whole thing, and we were never in a relationship by any stretch of the imagination. We were just hanging out platonically because I'm a pussy.

Like, is there a way to be okay with this situation? Idk. Fuck.

>>17883208
I know it's hard man but you can either

Try and find someone who makes you forget about them
Or slowly overtime you will get used to it

>>17883177
what the fuck lmao i am so sorry for you but its time to gtfo

asap

>>17883388

I did try. After I found out she they fucked, she sent me a message or two so I told her to stop talking to me. That lasted like 2 or 3 weeks. I'm not sure if she's trying to like, manipulate me into being just friends or something, but every time we get drunk she'll like put herself near me and try to talk and she even interrupted a conversation I had with this girl the other night >:/ Idk if that was me just being paranoid or what but it's not the first time.

She said she didn't know I was into her. Which feels like a lie, but I'll never actually know. I mean I hurt her before too, so it's not like it's totally one sided but... I don't know. This whole thing is fucked up man.

>>17883177
Dude I'm in the same situation right now, except I'm the friend. One of my close friends has liked this girl since day 1 and I know for a dact that he won't ever make a move and she doesn't really show anything towards him, which is why, I went for her. I know how it must feel, but I asked my friend if he was okay with me going for it and he said I should just go ahead

>>17883177
Fap to porn while drunk alone, better than sex with a whore

>>17883400

See, my friend didn't ask. He just started hitting on her in front of me hardcore. I ended up talking to her most of the night and he seemed pretty bummed, then she hit him up after she left my house. I was like, well shit. Thing is, this girl used to be *really* into me. Like she basically threw herself at me and I never did anything because I was fucking around being a dumbass. Like this has been going on for a year. I'm not that mad at my friend for it, he apologized and basically I was like I don't think it's happening with me and her, so like...

Idk man. It just hurts a lot on this side of things. I was really into her. A lot. I don't know why I couldn't make a move, I get mad at myself a lot for it. I'm not even a virgin.

>>17883401

I did.

>>17883416
Asking seems like the right thing to do. It's a dick move the guy didn't ask at all. I'd say trying to just get over her and try to stay friends with both of them, or at least the girl, since the guy didn't ask or make sure you weren't hurt, but he did apologize. You should do it only if it doesn't make you feel bad. I'd say it's all your fault really. If she did like you, you should've done something about it. I understand you found it hard, but she couldn't wait for you forever, seems like she just moved on after hopelessly falling for you. Make sure you do something about it next time, and don't blow it.

>>17883449

Yeah this pretty much sums up my thoughts on the matter. I'm trying to find a way to be okay with it when they're around, but I'm not so sure I'll be able to do that. At least not until I find a new squeeze or something. Like I'm picturing them making out in front of me and I don't know if I can handle that right now.

Like they're always at all the parties and shit my friends have. They're pretty integral to my social circle. I can't just not be around them, otherwise I'd just be isolating myself. This sucks.

>>17883177
My ex cheated on me with my roommate and they are together now. I still can't truely get over it. I actually grew the will to apologize for all my salty behavior because I knew acting like an ass won't makes things how it used to be. I became more spiritual and put myself in that, though before hand I was totally going plot revenge in some muderious form or other. What I'm trying to say is, it can go to your head if you're the type with a easy temper. Regardless it is good to find an outlet to move on, if it's a girl or something else.

lol move on and get high with a new bitch. i mean, at least they aren't fucking in front of you. jesus, this site makes me wonder what would happen if a lot of you cucks actually experienced real probelms.

>>17883530

Thanks. Glad my situation wasn't that extreme. I've been making music and reading this book "Failing Forward" and shit to try to change my attitude and focus on other shit, but as soon as I wake up it's like the first thing in my mind, and when I lay down to go to bed, same thing. It's pretty easy for me to get worked up over it if I'm not feeling 100%/ I guess it just needs time or something.

>>17883569

Idk mang, it's like my pride or something. Like I got "beaten" or something and I take it all personal. I like the girl a lot, but someone told me I liked the idea of getting with her more than I liked her. Idk I'm kinda fucked up anyway socially and this year has been a huge change. I never really had much practice with this sort of thing. I was too busy doing heroin and my only sexual encounters were through that. Aka I'm kind of a noob at this.

>>17883572
Time will help, but as long as you associate with them their will always be those moments were you hear them together or they both pop into your brain. It's no different than getting over any other girl, you just have to realize that your friendship will lead to mental association to this ordeal. You can always replace it, or just form different bonds with them. I live with my problem so I can't escape it, however I think it's best to look at it like a regular guys bad break up even if that wasn't the circumstance. They probably won't last that long and you'll think back and laugh about how you competed over a dumb woman. At least that's how I hope to view my own future. Though if she's getting in your way of moving on then I'd call her own on it and tell her fuck off.

>>17883581
take this is as a learning experience anyways then. if she's willing to move on to your "friend" and you have to deal with their bullshit, just move on from their bullshit and do your own thing. haha. don't worry, i've been in this kind of situation before. come down to my state and you'll experience shit that's even worse. haha. i'm still not over a dude who chose a bitch with false teeth, looks like a grandma, in her mid 30's only, etc...

Grow the fuck up and get a better social circle.

You suck and your "friends" suck. This is your problem. Address both and this shit gets better. No, neither are easy, but that's the truth of life: you need to earn the things that make you happy.

>>17883603

Thanks man. It's like getting advice from someone who's been in this situation, but worse.

>>17883622

Learning hurts lol.

>>17883627

Yeah I don't know what the fuck I'm gonna do. Like he came and apologized and I was like "it's fine" and he was like "No, it's not fine." blah blah. My social circle is really fucked up, no doubt about that, though. That advice is probably real shit what I should do, but I don't know. I need to keep developing my social skills and learn how to connect with people and be more open and shit I guess. I usually push people away. Feel like I have a long way to go.

>>17883416
>. Thing is, this girl used to be *really* into me. Like she basically threw herself at me and I never did anything because I was fucking around being a dumbass

well what do you expect? her time is precious and she is not going to wait for you. she has until 30 to fuck around until she no longer has the option to date quality guys or try to get the genes from alphas. after 30 she needs to lower her standards way down or be alone forever.

>>17883683

I'm pretty sure she just likes to fuck and she's not thinking about being 30. Lol.