Trouble while trying to have sex

Also I'm using condoms. So it goes like this
>I get hard
>I put on a condom
>Lose the super hard erection and do more kissing and shit to make it harder
>Try to put it in
>Fail
>Repeat

Might it have anything to do with positioning?
We do foreplay lying in the bed, blood flows in my penis and it gets hard. Then I kneel on the bed and get her closer to put it in and soon I lose it. Can it be because I shift positions and blood flows differently?
Really I'm just making up excuses, but what if?

Also I have no problems while getting a handjob. Then it always stay hard.

>>17881075
Look, don't fap for a week before you're going to have sex, invest in expensive, thin condoms and really, truly realise your girlfriend isn't judging you and loves you and wants you, so you don't need the performance nerves.

>>17881085
If I don't fap for 3-4 days - I just ejaculate in my sleep. So I actually tried to stay fapless for 3 days before my 5 time and was hoping it would be really nice and finally work again. And it didn't

>>17881085
Also, does SHE giving me a handjob count as fapping?
And no, I'm not nervous because I don't last long. We both discussed it and we're fine, we agree that I'll get better. But when I even fail to get it in... That's another reason I get nervous now

>>17881091
Then don't fap for a little while before you meet her, 2 or so days. Then you're desperate to ejaculate and you stay hard whatever the circumstances. And no, hand jobs probably don't count.

Also, let her guide you to getting it in. Is she a virgin too?

>>17881103
No, she had a boyfriend before for 2 years and they used to have sex just fine.

>>17881107
Then she knows where to go, and you won't hurt her (my first time really hurt, and it was my bfs first time too who had these issues. It was awkward all round).

You're probably subconsciously worried about being compared to the last boyfriend sexually, but remember; she chose you. She wants you. She wouldn't be your girlfriend otherwise.

>>17881095

Is she making you cum? That could easily be the issue. There's a weird expectation that the penis should do what it's told, the penis does what it fucking wants though.
Some people can, the majority don't just get hard straight away after cumming.

Also about the condoms, from personal experience it's quite easy to start a cycle that leaves you flaccid. A condom doesn't feel like anything if you're fully erect, the moment you go to anything other than diamond hard it can bunch up around the tip, causing less sensation which in turns causes you to go softer etc etc.
That's me at least.

>>17881146
Yes she is making me cum

>>17881197
Not the one you're answering to but, after I fap, I can't get hard for 20 minutes and usually not as hard as the first one. So don't ask her for a hand job and see where it goes.

All of this used to happen to me too OP

Now im fine and sex is great and my hf was very supportive and understanding. Protip: to raise the threshold of supportive and understanding lick her pussy

>>17881465
But how did you overcome this? Did you just keep trying and wasted a lot of condoms until one day you finally started to put it in constantly?

>>17881107
Cuck

>>17881075
obvious troll.
but TRY HAVING SEX WITH THE LIGHTS ON S SO YOU CAN SEE WHeRE YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR DICK && VISUAL STIMULATOION