Messed Up Big Time...

Just honestly tell her what happened.

>>17871068
Telling her probably is the right thing to do. I feel so overwhelming guilty about it. I just don't know how she'll take it and if she'll want to stay together afterwards. Blah
Thanks for the advice

>>17871099
No problem. If she doesn't approve and you really think she's worthwhile maybe consider a lifestyle change. Tell her it won't happen again, and actually don't let it happen again, and she will probably be fine. She might even appreciate the honesty, because if you can come clean with something like this it will show that there's not much you'd ever try to hide from her.

>>17871103
Definitely. We have been dating for almost 2 years and I have always been loyal to her. This was just one big mistake that we can hopefully get past. Maybe she will be sympathetic instead angry.

Perhaps a lifestyle change would be best. I don't even feel good anymore when I party, I've just been doing it for so long that I just go through the motions. It's hard because all my friends party pretty hard and I'm a musician who plays a lot of parties lol. Anyway, I guess I need to learn to have a good time without getting destroyed.

You can either hide it and internalize it, which depending how good at it you are means you'll be carrying guilt around or not

Or

You tell her the truth and she will do one of two things
1) She's a reasonable person and agrees you got super fucked up and the state you woke up blacked out in isn't your fault
or
2) She'll blame you for getting into that situation because "even if you're blacked out that;s still you!"

>>17871193

>OP is male and ends up in a non-consensual sexual act while drunk
>omg OP so irresponsible

>OP is female and the same thing happens
>omg OP that's so terrible call the police and it was definitely not your fault and you're a strong independent woman and men these days are terrible and...

The meme that drunk sex is rape needs to die.

He >>17871280 is right.
Tell her you were raped.