Bro code

If she wanted to be with you, she would break up. Until that happens, stay the fuck away. If it ever happens, stay the fuck away for a while anyway.

If you want to keep the "bro code", the pure act of accepting her into your apartment is dangerous, you should come off with an excuse and avoid that. Or if you want to fuck her just do it, at least be honest about your intentions.

>My bro knows about this as well and seems okay with it

how do you know this? Can you get more information on how he feels about this?

They could have an open relationship. Monogamy ain't the only thing out there op.

in any case, get out of this "bro code" mentality. The situation has to do with honesty between consenting adults, not some secret no-girls-allowed club

>>17863697
Both her and my bro are okay with it. When I have friends over and there's a girl there, she always sleeps in my bed. Guys the the couch/mattress, I get my kingsize bed, and any girlfriends my mates have brought along share the bed with me.
So it's nothing big or serious or anything.

Also, she suggested coming to my house and sleeping over on Valentine's Day during a dinner party with my bro right there. She seemed super excited and I was sort of weirded out by this sudden suggestion, but my bro just looked at me like, "sure".
I love my bro, but he knows I'm a beta virgin so I doubt he thinks I have any intention on doing anything untoward,

Then again, fuck man, if the opportunity presents itself I don't know if I can stop myself. Like I said, 6 years dry.

And saying she can't come over is basically admitting to her and my bro that something COULD happen.

>>17863685
Long term plan was, if she did break up with him for me, I'd wait a couple of months before doing anything really.
I mean, even if this ever got off the ground, meeting up with friends is going to be awkward forever. We meet up a lot, there's like 9 of us and we meet up once a month. If there's suddenly a switch in girlfriends, shit's gonna be awkward.
Fuck I hate this situation.

>>17863736
It's not an open relationship as far as I know. Bro did jokingly tell me I could have her once he's done with her but that's always been his weird sense of humour.

And bro code or not, it's not gonna feel good to get with my bro's girlfriend, no matter what. We see each other so much. How the fuck is that gonna go when we all show up and I bring her along with me and he shows up alone. He's dicked her senseless, and now I'm doing it. It's just too weird.

Again though, maybe I should have a long talk with her when she visits. It's obvious something is going on between us, best to talk about it and see what we feel.

>>17863685


Nah, she's just using her current boyfriend as a beta supporter. she uses him for comfort, back massages, friendship, etc.

A lot of girls do this. I have a similar situation.

>Be me
>Start hanging out with two guys I went to High School with
>One guy named Paul is dating a girl, been dating her for a few years.
>Paul is a beta SJW.
>She is conservative. Likes Trump, virgin, etc.
>She is constantly staring at me, smiling, sitting close to me on the couch, laughing at everything I say, asking me questions about myself.
>She never talks to her bf when I'm around, completely ignores him.
>She has an amazing body. Always wearing yoga pants, perfect ass, cute face.
>Have to constantly stop myself from flirting with her, because he bf is always around. When she's giving me attention, he stares at me with a vicious gaze.

I could never do that to him, bro. Even though the girl may seem amazing, the guilt of hurting your friend would ruin the relationship you create with her. Bros before hoes.


But honestly....having her cheat on him with me and let me be her first is one of my fantasies. But I'd lose both friends, for sure, and I wouldn't gain anything in the process. Never date a girl who is cheating with you. If she does it with you, she'll likely do it to you as well.

>>17863772
>Never date a girl who is cheating with you. If she does it with you, she'll likely do it to you as well.
That's what I'm feeling.
Also, all your greentext applies to me. She seems so much more interested in me than in him and it hurts me, and him, I can see it.

Then again, if there's chemistry, why not give it a try?

You need to go out and socialize more with people/girls bro. She's the only girl you see on a sort of regular basis so you're dumping all of your longing to be with a gurl on her.

Also you're right that if she's with a guy and she's already looking for more dick(speaks mountains about her character) , she will definitely do the same to you.

>>17863800

This. The fact that you haven't gotten laid in years doesn't make it OK for you to do anything with your friend's gf. It will never be okay.

Also you're fucking delusional if you think this sleepover is going to end innocently. You only want it to happen because the idea of fucking her excites you, let's be honest

>>17863800
Oh I socialise, I'm just never great at getting to "that point", you know. This girl isn't the only girl I see regularly. I see and meet up with girls all the time, I was just so shocked that after so many years, it's THIS girl that I get feelings for. I haven't had feelings for a girl like this in years.

>You only want it to happen because the idea of fucking her excites you, let's be honest
Can't deny that.
Fuck.

Oh, I forgot to mention, she hinted that she might stay over for the entire week in February. She's in town for the whole week. We'll basically be living together for a whole week. Sure, she's got college stuff, and I've got classes and work, but still. This is a weird thing to do right, from her perspective? Unless she really want my dick that bad. So confused.

She's dying for your dick OP, but you've got to be a man and deny her

"Look, I know you're into me, and I find you attractive, but nothing can ever happen between us."

>>17863886
My conscience says yes but my dick says no.
I know you're right though.
It's been six years, but I should see this spark as a sign that love can still happen. Just not with her. Not with my bro's girl.


[spoiler]Unless she offers to suck my dick, then fuck it man, come on.[/spoiler]

>>17863886

This

Bros first.

>>17863654
There's millions of other girls out there you could fuck who are probably more compatible and less ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN to never have a real relationship with. You have other options.

I can pretty much tell you how it's going to go down. If she does in fact really like you to the point of banging you randomly (doubtful, most guys misinterpret common courtesy for attraction), it will probably ruin the relationship between all three of you, even if any of you pretend to be ok with it, it's forever going to be a stain on the relationship. Whoever the girl stays with, the other guy will have to go and will stop being part of the lives of the couple. This kind of love triangle is almost impossible to sustain in any form.

OP your story is as old as time, you'd think after seeing it happen constantly throughout history we would learn.

>>17863901
I feel you.
So what do I do? She's sleeping with me for a full week. Tell her to fuck off? That it doesn't work like this?

>>17863949
From the getgo, before ANY sexual tension even BEGINS to happen, you need to have this talk with her >>17863886

>>17863975
Listen man, I KNOW it's the right thing to do. But have you ever been without action for six years? This girl, who is completely my type might just start coming on to me. I'm afraid I might not have the strength. I'm afraid I'll brush it off as a "one-time-thing".
I'm a terrible friend.
But I'm also terribly lonely and this attention is so fucking flattering.

>>17863992
i know how it feels,

just deal with it, you risk losing a friend of many years over sex, if a relationship would ever arise from it it would be shit and awkward because of the situation you described and one of you would most likely break it off, leaving YOU hurt and without a bro aswell.

take an L and dont get involved/ thread

Thing is, I confided in two friends (one male, one female) who don't know my bro and his girl and they both said go for it. They know me, they know I always put others before myself and they fucking urged me to see how things go and take my chances.
I'm in this situation where I either have to listen to my moral intuition, my close friends' advice, my penis, or /adv/. I am completely torn.

>>17863992
All of those excuses mean jack shit. You are the sum of your actions. Either do the right thing or don't. You're either a shitty friend or you're not. That's really all there is to it.

>>17864002
see
>>17864003

there's no way to rationalize this. I know you're looking for something, anything to validate your decision to fuck your friend over, but the fact is there is nothing that will ever make that okay.

Deep down, I know you're right.
I knew it before making this thread.

I just had a little spark of happiness in my depressing life and fantasized about it. I'll meet other girls eventually. It' not worth ruining a years-old friendship over.

Now that that's settled, how do I deal with the girl of my dreams coming over on Valentine's Day and sharing my bed? Kick her out? Have a long talk? Call me bro and tell him she's a hoe?

>>17864021
Have a Frank discussion with both of them

>>17863654

>this girl is amazing
>she wants to cheat on her bf with you
>maybe we can talk about it when she comes over
>when she comes over
>when she
>WHEN

Not if. I feel bad for your buddy, trash like you deserves the worst OP. I can't wait to see your ass here in 5 months rationalizing how their break up was totally justified but she's been acting weird around one of your buddies lately and you can't help but feel worries.

>>17863759

>any girls sleep in my bed, even if they're with someone

Ignore what I said above. Pure autisim tier OP.

>>17864278
It's just a thing we do in our group man. I don't want to wake up next to a bro, shit's awkward. So girls get first dibs on my bed.
What's autistic about sharing a bed with a mate's girl without having sex?

We're just an odd group of friends

>>17863654
ugh, youre a fucking idiot.

1. you will ruin your friendship. i fucked my friends girlfriend once, it was a highly destructive decision in my life. not worth it.
2. never date anyone who breaks up with someone for you. those are the type that cheat, the type that get bored easily and move from person to person. youre a fucktard if you think youre special. youre not. its not going to end well for you.

>>17864746
>What's autistic about sharing a bed with a mate's girl without having sex?
>We're just an odd group of friends
lol yeah, thats what i thought about my group of friends. then i ended up fucking my friends girl, my other friend tried fucking two of our girls (but failed), and another friend fucked my other friends girl.

shit like that just leads to trouble. its inappropriate.

>>17863654
You are a bitch nigga. No length of dry spell would make stabbing your oldest/best friend in the back.
If you want his girl properly challenge him.
You see your enemies coming. Its your fake friends you have to watch out for.

Op, before she comes, you need to rub it until it becomes too numb for you to even feel it when you take a piss.

>>17863772
>being friends with a beta sjw
just fuck the girl already

>>17864785
Wouldn't it be better if he makes her cum BEFORE he rubs himself too numb to even feel his dick?

Think I'll have a frank discussion with him. Asking him if he really feels comfortable with her coming over. Telling him about her flirting with me, and how it makes him feel.

God I hope he gives me the OK and says he was sick of her anyway. I wanna plough that barely legal puss so bad. Anyway, probs not gonna happen.

>>17863654
>best bros with the guy for 8 years
>some level of trust built up over 8 years
>wants to throw it all away, betraying brofriend for some slut who jumps onto the next best cock she finds
>seriously considering it

kill yourself, you fucking degenerate. You're scum and I'd never want to be friends with a person like you

>>17864809
what this bro says..

if you want the lay that bad get yourself on an internet dating site. shits easy but rubber up because there are hella skanks out there

>>17863654
Just my opinion, and this is what I would do. I wouldn't fuck with that at any time. A bros girl is a bros girl at all times. I would never do that. That being said, depending on yourself as long as your bro is okay with it, or as long as your honest with him then it should be fine.

So if I text him asking him if he's really okay with his gf staying over at my place, won't that just make me look like I have bad intentions? That the thought did cross my mind?
Not mentioning it at all might make him think nothing of it.

I sort of want to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to go about it.

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I am a virgin. All i want in life is represented in sex. I think about sex basically all day everyday. But all that said, i would never ever even go near flirting with a bro's girl, even if she stripped naked and jumped on my eager ass dick.


Brohood is something else, OP. It goes to the very core of who you are as a man. Needless to say, also know it affects how you and every other dude sees you.

Go ahead and talk to your bro - its the best thing you can do. It'd be weird to ask, but if he somehow offers permission, then lucky day. If not, then hold to his decision, and feel good knowing that pretty much every man on the planet respects you for it if they knew.


Bros before hos.

>>17865013
Text him something like "bro, we need to talk. Alone" and if he asks why, answer " you know why". Just be frank, he's a bro, hell understand.
Or if the sleepover is still far, wait until the opportunity comes.

>>17865062
>tfw he shows up naked

>>17863654
Remember this: miss awesome is planning to fuck he bf's best friend behind his back. If you can tell yourself she wouldn't do the same if you got together you are deluded.

OP, you don't want no chick who can jump out of a relationship and into a new one. They aren't shit. Tell your bro, keep a friendship that is tried and true. You don't get many of them, they are much more valuable than pussy.

>>17863654
Maybe tell your bro like, "hey, idk if you've notice but she's been coming on to me. And you said it's okay if she sleeps with me in my bed while she's in town so maybe tell her that she cant. Or break up with her for being a flirty? Idk man, you're my bro so I wouldn't smash while you guys are dating unless you guys have an open relationship hahaha m8 :)"

>>17864002
There is a difference between safeguarding your interests and fucking over a friend.

Texted him, asking him what he thinks. Told him I'd feel uncomfortable if it were my girlfriend who went off to sleep in someone else's bed and offered to tell her I couldn't make it.

Now I wait.

>>17865154

Good man, you're not an awful person for weighing the options. You did the right thing by telling your bro. Even if it all ends up a shitstorm, you did the right thing.

>>17863654
Walk away

>>17865156
It seemed the right thing to do. I was rather drunk yesterday and lust took over common sense.
We should discuss this. It really isn't normal for someone's gf to want to spend the night with someone else, even if no fucking is implied. And I'm sure he'd noticed her flirting as well, so it'll be good to clear the air a bit.

>>17865166
I feel uncomfortable around other bro's gfs in general
I'm not sure how to act with them - for when I deal with women I usually brush them off, make fun of them, or mess around with them

but then there's this watchful eye behind me, making sure everything I do is okay
it's a difficult situation and I don't blame you

>>17865177
In general I've always gotten along with all my bro's girlfriends. And flirting is sort of part of the deal, but jokingly, obviously. But this girl is different. She tries to get me alone from time to time and keeps complimenting me and comparing me to my bro.

He just texted me back that he has no problem with it at all and he trusts me 100%.

Guess I'm gonna have a long talk with her about her intentions when she comes round. And make it absolutely clear nothing can happen. I can't do that to a bro man, especially once he says he trusts me so much.

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>>17865217
She gon get the dick

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>>17865234
>im really c-cold anon, can we cuddle till I get warm

>going back and forth in your head
>8 year bro
>6 years no ho
>8 year bro
>6 years no ho

>she backs that ass up while cuddling

Pic related

>>17865256
Damn it Frodo!
Cuddling isn't cheating, is it?

Actually, getting a random boner is gonna be a big problem for me, especially after so long.
Guess I'm gonna have to wank myself dry before she visits.

I'm sort of paranoid that I opened the floodgates by even texting him now. If I did nothing, he'd think nothing of it. Now though, he either thinks I'm being a complete bro and looking out for him, asking him what he thinks about the situation, or he thinks I texted him because I think something might happen. Am I thinking too much?
I'm seeing them for New Year's Eve, gonna have to test the waters a bit, see if things've changed.

>>17865356
Just be normal fuckhead

You're thinking about this too much

>>17865371
I tend to do that. Thanks for grounding me.

Anyway, any advice on how to talk to this girl when she visits? I'm gonna have to make it clear nothing can happen, even though we both want it to, and women can be dangerous. Especially to a man who hasn't had sex in six years

>>17863759
You have been dry for 6 years or are you a virgin decide

>>17865391
dont shave down there in the months leading up

Then the days before shave a swastika with your pubes

You can't possibly get laid

>>17863992
>have you ever been without action for six years?

A whole six years?

You should realise you just drew the ire of every single fucking virgin on here with that statement. I would think if you hang out here you know how many of us there are.

>>17865421
Ah sorry, didn't mean to do that. Like I said in the OP, it's my first time asking for advice on here, I'm not really familiar with the regulars here.

Also, no offense, but all this advice I'm getting in this thread about getting with this girl is coming from virgins?

>>17865068
Kek underrated comment

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>>17865456
>all this advice I'm getting in this thread about getting with this girl is coming from virgins?

Welcome to /adv/, enjoy your stay!

>>17865068
Just read this, that's both hilarious and a horrible image.

>>17863654
>letting a slut come between you and your friend
>not telling your friend she said all these things
>considering hooking up with your friends gf (at all)

You are a terrible friend. I don't think you should even consider yourself a 'friend' if a piece of pussy can turn you this easily.
Weak pathetic piece of shit.

>>17863759
>. Guys the the couch/mattress, I get my kingsize bed, and any girlfriends my mates have brought along share the bed with me.
thats really fucked up.

>>17865510
word

>>17863992
Weak pathetic fuck, the fact you see hooking up with his girlfriend as an option means you're not his friend. Why are you pretending to be his friend? Have you ever experienced what a solid friendship actually is?

I hope you're a troll.

>>17865578
How so? It's my house, so I get the bed. There's not enough mattresses/couches to fit everyone, so usually someone has to share my bed. I'd rather it be a girl than a bro. Is that so weird? I don't like waking up, turning around and seeing my best bud next to me.
I guess it's also kinda sexist or whatever, but I feel that if they bring a girl, they should get the bed, not my shitty couch or mattress. But I ain't giving up my bed to someone else, so it's me and a girl.

Wait, maybe I should mention I live in a studio, one-room apartment. We're all in the same room. It's not like I tell my guy friends to sleep in the living room on a sofa while I take one of their girlfriends with me into the master bedroom or anything.

>>17865602
>not ever experiencing the glory of waking up facing your bro at the same time he opens his eyes, welcoming him to the day with a smile :)

>>17865587
Hey man, I was drunk as fuck yesterday when I posted that. I regret it now. If you read the rest of the thread you'll see I texted my bro and asked what he thought of it. And I'm not gonna do anything with her. Bros before ho's, always.
And he is a solid bro, we've been through a lot of shit together and I wouldn't give him up for some puss. Even if that puss happens to be just about everything I want in a woman.

>>17865606
I'm starting to get the idea y'all either gay or virgins.
Joking aside, I have shared my bed with a bro before, I just prefer to sleep alone, or if needs must and there's no room, I'll take a girl. It's not like I smell her hair while everyone sleeps or anything.

>>17865602
>Not sharing morning woods with your bro

At least sleeping all together in the same room makes it less weird

>>17865421
>>17865456
>>17865477
>>17865612

kek I hope all these posts claiming anons are virgins aren't OP samefagging
that's just pathetic
but kinda makes sense.

>>17865615
Yeah, I think I should've clarified that earlier. I thought it was weird how everyone thought the sleeping arrangements were fucked up. If I lived in a four-bedroom apartment that'd be super weird yeah, but it's just one, spacious room so we're all in there.
I wouldn't just take a bro's gf with me to my own bedroom and close the door as my bro sleeps on the couch, that's hella weird.

>>17865631
Yeah that's what most people thought including me

>>17865628
That's not all me. Like I said, I'm new to this board. Never been in a thread before. Without trolling, could you tell me if this board is indeed mostly virgins? I'm seriously not trolling, I just marvel at the fact that there's a board people go to for what I assume is sex/relationship advice and it's just mostly virgins replying.

>>17863654
http://www.brocode.org/the-code/

See articles 49, 118, and 128.

In short, absolutely not. The one loophole here would be to ask your bro if he is a cuck, and if he is, you're in the clear, as cucks are never bros, and so the bro code does not apply.

Stinson out.

>>17865645
Nah there's a decent mix

>>17865661
Thanks for being honest. I didn't want to sound like a dick. I know how it's like to be a virgin, having been one for quite a long fucking time. But I hardly need advice on this matter from people who have never been in a relationship.

>>17865652
Oh wait, article 1. Always article 1.

>>17865667
I think they mostly stick to their kv threads but have no idea

>>17865675
What's kv mean? Wait, let me guess, kissless virgin?

>>17865695
k00l vagabond

>>17865702
Dang it, so close.

Anyway, I love chatting like this, but this is the advice board.
I'm still worried about how to approach this girl once she visits, and how I'm gonna have the big talk about why we can't do anything. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

>>17865709
Just set your boundaries and don't act in a leading way. You don't necessarily have an awkward talk like that or she might just say wtf are you talking about I was being kind you're a creep etc

>>17865721
So basically just hang out like friends and if she starts making a move, make it clear to her. Sounds good to me.

>>17865746
Yeah that's how I'd do and I think you should avoid her staying for a complete week otherwise you may end up doing something stupid. Just make up some excuse

Mate trust me friendship is rare do you know what im saying? Dont throw it all away

>>17865824
So is pussy in my case. But I feel you bro. I'm not doing anything with this girl.

I think the big thing here is that this is the first time in years that I felt like this for a girl. It just happens to be my bro's gf, so that sucks and is never gonna happen.
I'm really picky with girls, and also have a hard time establishing a connection or anything. I mostly meet girls through friends of friends, at house parties and such. But this girl made me understand the expression of having butterflies in your stomach. It really feels like that. But I just gotta move on and meet new girls and hope I feel the same way for some other girl one day.

It just sucks that this feeling of attraction is so, so rare for me. So when it happens I get so happy. But it can't happen, and I know that. So I wait. Again.

>>17865791
Yeah, I'm gonna have to think up something for that. Like, I'm true to my bro, 100%, I realise that now. But having her over for 6 nights? That is undeniably gonna lead to sex, no matter your morals. It's human attraction.

>>17865848
Youre a good guy bro, another special girl will come your way dont worry

>>17863654
The "bro code" is only brought up by beta males.

If you fuck her, you lose your friend.
If she is telling you how she wishes her boyfriend was like you, she is being shitty to your friend.
If she is offering to spend time with you and sleep with you, then she is a shitty girlfriend.

Ask yourself this:
Is it worth losing your friend to fuck his girlfriend? and if she does that and leaves him, do you date one another? if so, will you trust her not to do the same to you?

She sounds pretty shitty to be honest.

>>17866048
I completely agree with your points anon.
It's hard to tell the full story through the medium of 4chan, but trust me, it's really not like that. She's not some dick-jumping whore.

Put yourself in her position. You meet a guy, befriend him, hang out, eventually you start a relationship. Then you get to meet his friends. After a while you find a certain connection with one of his friends. You get along great. You love the same stuff, you talk about the same things, share the same opinions, humour and interests, and you think he's attractive. What do you do now? Stay with your boyfriend? Sure, that's sensible. But you do wonder what life would be like with this friend of his, who you get along with so well and who you find so attractive.
It's just unfortunate that it can't happen. But being in a relationship and meeting someone who is more compatible and who you see a better future with doesn't make you a terrible person.

Then again, like you said, I ain't losing my bro. I'm not doing anything. I just feel like people shouldn't hate on this girl just for finding someone attractive/interesting even though she's in a relationship. It happens to all of us. There's not ONE person out there for you.

Dude, if there's pussy available, take it. I mean, you might feel like shit, but if you and that girl keep it between yourselves, there's no problem. One-time sex is awesome. Just make sure not to sperg out when you see each other again later with your bro there

How sure are you even of her affection of you?
How well do you value your friendship with your friend?

I mean, I know the feeling of having no sex for a long time, but I can understand that six years could drive a man to do stupid things