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How to deal with thoughts of cheating? 2016-12-15 08:38:11 Post No. 17858813
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So I'm a female and have been in a relationship for a year and a couple of months now. So during the summer I basically stayed at bfs house all summer and during that time we rarely had sex, like maybe once a week, if that. and well that wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't such a sexually charged person. Anyway during that time it bought up a lot of feelings like insecurities and feelings of yearning for sex, even if that meant other men. Of course I never cheated during that time and I have not to this day. The feelings of insecurity have basically vanished since I thought the typical shit like "I must be so ugly that's why he doesn't want sex."
Anyway, my real problem now is that I am on winter break and I fear the same situation will arise again where we basically never have sex and even now I have these feelings of going after others to fulfill my desires and I feel really shitty for feeling this way. What should I do about this? I love him dearly so I don't think I could ever go through with cheating but the thoughts are still there. Also,overall, at least from my point of view our sex life is pretty great when I am not basically living with him.
Side note: it also doesn't help that during that summer I would leave for a few hours to find out that he was masturbating even though we hadn't had sex for days despite me trying to initiate it. Which of course I have nothing against masturbating but it kinda hurts because it makes me wonder whats wrong with me or our relationship that he would chose that. So I am also worried that this situation will arise again and then my insecurities will come rushing back which kind of fuels those thoughts of cheating further because I have the stupid thought of "lol I must be pretty and blah blah blah if other people have sex with me"
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How often do you try to initiate sex and how often does it fail/succeed? You could also just talk to him about it. Tell him you have a high sex drive and you would enjoy having sex more often than you do now.
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ur bf is a loser. since u like losers ur in luck, theres plenty of those
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>>17858907
This... talk to him first. If he doesn't respond, then he isn't the right guy for you. Also how obvious is your sexual initiation? Is he a dumb dumb and not able to pick up on it? If you would like to talk more in depth about it kik me dallasz71man
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>>17858813
This is one of the worst things I've read OP. I'm not trying to get you to sabotage your life, but your boyfriend isn't acting like a man. Anyone who would choose jerking off to porn over fucking a healthy young pussy has some serious character issues.
I say give him up and focus on what you want. Most guys have a high sex drive so it shouldn't be hard to find someone like that.
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I give you the same advice I give guys who come here saying their gfs have low sex drives: if you can't fix it, just break up. It's impossible to have a long term relationship with unfulfilled sex urges, as your desire to cheat already shows.
Also, kudos for not cheating even though you feel like. It's an easy, cheap way out for your problem but very ass-holish move
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I think you really need to talk to him first and if you cant maybe he just isnt the guy for you. I firmly believe a couple should be able to talk about anything.
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